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SOLVED with Mark Manson

Mark Manson

New episodes every month. Life advice that doesn’t suck by a 3x #1 NYT bestselling author. I’ve spent two decades calling out everything wrong with the self-help world: the bad science, the guru nonsense, and the advice that preys on people's insecurities. This podcast is my no-BS, research-backed answer to all of it.

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  • Aug 7, 2024 · 42 min

    6 Ways to Stop Giving a F*ck

    We all wish we gave fewer f*cks in our lives, but wanting to and doing it are two different things. If you've read my book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, then you know that not giving a f*ck doesn't mean you don't care about anything—it means deliberately choosing what you give a f*ck about and ignore the rest. In this episode, we dive into the realities of not giving f*ck, the good and the bad. We talk about why there will never be a time when you're completely free from judgement by others. Why being "normal"—whatever that means—is not something to aspire to, nor is wanting to be liked by everyone. How criticism is a part of life you can't escape—but not all criticism is created equal. And a whole lot more. Check it out. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Mark goes to Europe and previews upcoming videos 00:05:10 If you wouldn't ask them for advice, then f*ck their criticism. 00:13:20 People will judge your for whatever you do or don't do. F*ck the people, do the thing. 00:22:55 To be liked by all is to be loved by none. 00:28:44 F*ck being normal. 00:37:30 Your vanity and anxiety are both liars. 00:42:42 You must give a f*ck about something more than the adversity you face. ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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    Jul 31, 2024 · 1 hr 20 min

    It's Never Too Late to Turn Your Life Around (ft. Brandon Novak)

    Brandon Novak showed all the signs of becoming a highly successful, rebellious young man. He was a professional skateboarder in his early teens, rubbing elbows with the likes of Bucky Lasek and Tony Hawk. In his late teens and twenties, he was a regular on world-famous TV shows like Viva La Bam and Jackass. But drugs and alcohol were always lurking in the shadows for Novak, and he soon fell head-first into the dark trap of his addictions. He endured bouts of homelessness, committed every petty crime you could imagine, and even resorted to sex work to feed his addictions. The stats would suggest Brandon Novak shouldn’t be sober right now. He probably shouldn’t even be alive. But not only is he alive with 9 years of sobriety under his belt, he’s found a deep and meaningful purpose in his life, running his own rehab centers and taking care of his elderly mother. This is the hilarious and heartening story of how Brandon Novak turned it all around. And trust me, if he can do it, so can anyone else. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction 00:05:25 What is it like reliving crazy stories? 00:07:46 What's your new definition of fun? 00:22:32 Brandon's early life 00:28:22 When did drugs really become a problem? 00:34:23 Why did rehab #13 work? 00:42:57 How can people help addicts? 00:44:31 Christopher F*cking Columbus of finding rock bottom 00:46:03 The fundamental unhealthy mindsets 00:52:31 Reflection on Jackass 00:56:48 Why Jackass couldn't be made today 01:00:46 Are addicts just trying to get the love they want? 01:06:26 Brandon's treatment centers 01:12:10 What people did for Novak along the way 01:14:13 What do you give too many fucks about? 01:17:26 What do you give too few fucks about? ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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  • Jul 24, 2024 · 39 min

    The Backwards Law: How to Get More by Doing Less

    There are certain areas in life where trying harder only makes things worse. Trying to prove how likable and confident you are only makes you feel more unlikable and less confident. Trying to make someone love you only makes you feel more unlovable. The solution to this conundrum is what’s known as “The Backwards Law”. Simply put, The Backwards law states that desiring a positive experience is itself a negative experience, while accepting a negative experience is a positive experience. In this episode, Drew and I talk about five areas of life where doing less can actually reap massive benefits. Enjoy. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 The Backwards Law: When Trying Makes Things Worse 00:02:00 Three Curves: How Effort and Reward Actually Work 00:06:02 Emotions: The Anxiety About Your Anxiety 00:10:15 Freedom: Why Commitment Sets You Free 00:11:08 Depth vs. Breadth: The Two Types of Freedom 00:19:07 Happiness Requires Struggle: Why Comfort Doesn't Work 00:23:37 Love: When It Becomes Dangerous 00:29:30 Respect: The Foundation of All Healthy Relationships 00:32:43 What Respect Actually Means: Time, Attention, and Equality 00:35:40 Why Internal States Don't Follow External Rules ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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  • Jul 17, 2024 · 1 hr 28 min

    Is Social Media Really Ruining Our Lives… Or Is It Something Else? (ft. Jonathan Haidt)

    Is everything going to hell in a handcart because of smartphones and social media? In this episode, I sit down with NYU professor and bestselling author Jonathan Haidt to tackle this burning question. Dr. Haidt makes a compelling case that our addiction to these devices is wreaking havoc on society, from mental health crises to political turmoil. But is it really all the smartphone’s fault? I'm not so sure it's quite that simple, so I wanted to dive deeper into the nuances. We get into the nitty-gritty and I challenge some of Haidt’s claims, exploring questions like, why do these issues seem to hit the English-speaking world the hardest? Is this another moral panic, or is this time really different? We also discuss the differences in how smartphones affect various demographics and cultures, and why understanding these distinctions is crucial. Plus, we explore Jonathan’s practical and highly sensible recommendations for parents, educators, and policymakers. Whether you’re a skeptic or a die-hard believer, this episode will make you rethink your relationship with the technology in our pockets. Let's do this. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Is It All the Smartphone's Fault? 00:04:00 The Great Rewiring of Childhood (2010-2015) 00:08:07 Why This Isn't Just Another Moral Panic 00:20:15 The Psychological Importance of Play 00:22:54 Educational Development vs. Psychological Development 00:25:48 Why Girls and Boys Are Affected Differently 00:27:59 Politics, Religion, and Who Gets Hit Hardest 00:31:31 The Moral Foundations Theory Connection 00:40:52 Why the Anglosphere Is Suffering Most 00:45:14 The Global Destruction of Human Capital 00:59:19 From Social Networks to Attention Slot Machines 01:05:09 TikTok and the Short-Form Video Catastrophe 00:51:47 Cigarettes vs. Alcohol: What Kind of Problem Is This? 00:53:56 The Case for Warning Labels and Age Gating 01:09:45 Prescription 1: No Phones in Schools 01:12:10 Prescription 2: No Social Media Before 16 01:16:20 Prescription 3: No Smartphones Before High School 01:19:03 Prescription 4: More Outdoor Play and Independence 01:22:00 Overcoming Community Judgment and Policy Solutions 01:25:29 The Path Forward: Identity Authentication and Collective Action ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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  • Jul 10, 2024 · 43 min

    How I Lost 60 Pounds and Started Giving A F*ck About My Health

    Over the past 5 years, I’ve completely changed my relationship to my health. Prior to that, I was overweight, pre-diabetic, and having chest pains in my mid-30s. I thought maybe eating a salad once a week and going for a run every now then would take care of it. I was wrong. Since then, I’ve lost 60 pounds (~30kg). I now enjoy exercising regularly and I eat healthy and nutritious foods. My daily life is much more physically active and I get way better sleep. I’m happy with my health now—but it took a long time to get here. I’m not going to share a bunch of workout routines or complicated diets. What worked for me might not work for you. But I can share what I went through to get here in the hopes that you, too, might change how you think about your health and take it more seriously. Because at the end of the day, your health is definitely something you should give a f*ck about. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The 60-Pound Journey and Why I'm Sharing This 00:02:40 Growing Up on the Standard American Diet 00:04:04 The Metabolism Crash: Gaining 50 Pounds in My Mid-30s 00:05:12 Chest Pains and the Doctor's Warning: You're a Ticking Time Bomb 00:06:55 Phase One: The Classic Approach and the First Plateau 00:08:45 The Delusion Problem: Why I Kept Lying to Myself 00:13:03 Hiring a Coach and the Game-Changing Power of Tracking 00:17:58 The Devastating Rebound: Gaining It All Back 00:20:32 Environment Is Everything: The Move to LA 00:25:53 The Genetic Revelation: You're Metabolically 60 Years Old 00:31:07 Breaking Through Plateaus: The Role of Coaching and Perspective 00:33:40 The Privilege Problem: Let's Talk About Access and Cost 00:34:37 Genetics, Sympathy, and the Addiction Parallel 00:38:47 The Virtuous Cycle: Optimizing for Longevity in My 40s 00:40:40 The Real Takeaway: It's About Habits, Lifestyle, Biology, and Psychology ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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  • Jul 3, 2024 · 56 min

    Life-Changing Insights From Traveling To Every Country In The World (ft. Drew Binsky)

    Drew Binsky is a fearless traveler who's seen it all. From chatting with North Koreans in their homeland to dodging bombings in Somalia and volunteering in Syria in the middle of a civil war, Drew's adventures are nothing short of incredible. He's been to every country in the world, witnessing the most dangerous places and surviving a few close calls. Yet, his experiences have led him to a surprising conclusion: most people, most of the time, are good. Even in the direst circumstances, Drew finds that human resilience can prevail. In our conversation, Drew shares why he's drawn to war zones and failed states, revealing the profound lessons he's learned from them. We discuss why you should never judge a country by the news you hear about it, how the most impactful trips are often the most challenging, and where to find the friendliest people on Earth. Drew also offers his top travel tips on spontaneity, connecting with locals, and what he looks for on his travel adventures. It's a deep dive into the heart of travel and human nature that might just inspire you to see the world a little differently. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Man Who Visited Every Country 00:02:23 What's Actually Universal Across All Cultures 00:06:06 Inside North Korea: Tennis Invitations and Empty Hotels 00:09:06 How to Stay Safe in Dangerous Places 00:13:13 Syria During the War: Volunteering Among the Rubble 00:16:11 The Media Disconnect: Afghanistan, Iran, and Misunderstood Places 00:18:26 El Salvador, Brazil's Favelas, and the Safety Paradox 00:21:27 Living Abroad: The Best Education You Can Get 00:25:13 India: The Most Transformative Trip 00:27:14 The Extremes of India: Beauty and Horror on the Same Street 00:29:44 The Adrenaline Gene: Why Drew Doesn't Feel Fear 00:30:44 Mogadishu: The Most Dangerous City in the World 00:32:43 Mark's Close Call in Cartagena 00:37:21 Overrated or Underrated: Government, Culture, and War 00:43:45 The Best and Worst Thing About Every Country 00:41:18 Family Culture: The American Independence Paradox 00:47:40 The Quality of Information Crisis 00:50:39 What's Next and Finding Your Golf 00:55:56 Final Thoughts: The Value of Underserved Stories ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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  • Jun 26, 2024 · 42 min

    How to Know When to Give Up on Goals

    A lot of people treat goals like some kind of sacred self-improvement law, where the most important thing you can do is set and achieve your goals. But goals are simply tools we use to point us in the right direction. Your goals should serve you—and so you shouldn’t be a slave to some arbitrary goal you set when it’s no longer serving you. So how do you know when a goal is no longer pushing you in the right direction? In this episode, I talk about why I gave up a pretty big goal I set at the beginning of the year. I discuss what I think are the criteria you should use when deciding whether to give up on a goal or stick it out. We also discuss what we learned from the goals survey we did for podcast viewers and listeners. How many stuck with their goals and how many have moved on? What are the most effective tactics people used to stick to their goals? What are the most important lessons they learned about their goals and themselves? Check it out. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction 00:01:13 Mark's (failed) goal 00:05:11 Is Mark full of sh*t? 00:08:14 Drew's (half sucessful) goal 00:12:08 Extreme measures 00:14:08 Getting more specific with your goals 00:16:40 Survey results 00:18:55 Teachable moment: Selection bias 00:23:06 How did people stick with their goals? 00:24:49 The value of self-discovery in working towards goals 00:32:57 3 good reasons to give up on a goal 00:37:00 Bonus reason to give up a goal 00:39:34 Mark's new health goals 00:41:53 Drew's updated goals ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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  • Jun 19, 2024 · 1 hr 4 min

    How to Become Resilient and Break World Records (ft. Dean Stott)

    After a catastrophic parachuting accident ended his military career in the British special forces, Dean Stott couldn't just retire to a quiet life. Instead, he decided to shatter boundaries in entirely new fields. These days, when Dean isn't prepping to beat another world record, like a 14,000-mile bike ride in less than 100 days, he's jet-setting around the world rescuing civilians and diplomats alike from war zones. In this episode, Dean shares his unique approach to overcoming adversity, managing risk, and staying mentally tough in the most challenging situations. We explore his fascinating experiences from war-torn countries to royal security and the psychological benefits of meticulous planning and mission-driven thinking. Dean also offers a glimpse into how he balances extreme challenges with a grounded personal life. Enjoy. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Baddest Motherfucker I've Ever Met 00:03:40 Dean's Relationship to Pain and the Parachuting Incident 00:08:04 Breaking the Pan-American Highway World Record 00:12:18 Mortality, Risk, and Making Smart Decisions 00:16:18 The Canadian Embassy Evacuation and Understanding Local Cultures 00:20:01 Building Trust in Dangerous Places 00:22:17 Choosing the Harder Path and Becoming SBS 00:25:47 What the Military Teaches That Civilians Miss 00:30:53 Preparation, Perfectionism, and OCD 00:33:24 Dealing With Extremes and Training Two Up 00:37:57 The Power of Non-Judgment and Making Friends Anywhere 00:39:46 Alana: Partnership, Purpose, and Power Couple Dynamics 00:46:56 The Duty to Give Back and How to Ask for Money 00:48:03 Meeting Prince Harry and Fox Piss One 00:52:31 The Skill of Being Famous and the Burden of Duty 00:59:02 Toughest Forces on Earth and Still Got It 01:02:51 Ocean Rowing the West Coast and Taking Alana Out of Her Comfort Zone ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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  • Jun 12, 2024 · 37 min

    The Blue Dot Effect: Why Things Always Seem Worse Than They Are

    Have you ever wondered why, despite everything seemingly going well, you still feel a nagging sense of dissatisfaction? Well, you’re not alone. This is actually a fascinating psychological phenomenon I call "The Blue Dot Effect". It’s all about how our brains can trick us into seeing problems and negativity even when everything around us is getting better. Join me and Drew as we unpack this curious effect and explore how it impacts our everyday lives. From the way we perceive our personal achievements to our overall happiness, the Blue Dot Effect plays a sneaky role in shaping our mindset. Let's dig right in. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Why This Research Changes Everything 00:02:08 The Blue Dot Effect: The Original Study Explained 00:04:56 Why Your Mind Invents Problems When Life Gets Better 00:07:25 Crime, Safety, and the Paradox of Progress 00:08:46 The Media Negativity Bias and Information Overload 00:09:35 Living in New Zealand: When There's Nothing to Protest 00:11:58 The Psychological Immune System and Problem Homeostasis 00:13:51 Why We Need People Who've Seen Real Hardship 00:16:18 How the Internet Compresses the Blue Dot Effect 00:17:05 The Information Diet: Why Consuming Less News Makes You More Objective 00:19:41 Economic Perception vs Reality: Why Nobody's Happy Despite Growth 00:21:28 Personal Health and Fitness: Moving the Goalposts on Yourself 00:23:59 When Self-Improvement Becomes the Problem 00:28:36 Mental Health Diagnosis: ADHD, Trauma, and Definition Creep 00:32:17 The Value of Journaling: Creating a Reality Check Against Concept Drift 00:34:50 Reading History Instead of News: The Ultimate Perspective Shift 00:35:57 Progress Tends to Mask Itself: Dan Gilbert's Final Word ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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  • Jun 5, 2024 · 1 hr 31 min

    The Harsh Truth About Self-Discipline (ft. Rich Roll)

    I’ve often wondered if self-discipline is just a way of turning bad addictions into healthy ones. After all, addictions of all kinds are really just an attempt to numb and distract ourselves from facing uncomfortable feelings. Can’t the same be said for healthy behaviors once they reach a level of compulsion? I brought Rich Roll on the pod to discuss this idea because, well, he’s a recovered alcoholic who turned into an ultra-endurance athlete in his 40s. Rich is no stranger to reinventing himself, repeatedly leveraging his flaws into virtues. We talk about the value of pain as a catalyst for change, the idea that addiction is a spectrum that doesn’t just involve substances, terrible breakups, finding a deeper spirituality, lessons from Rich’s financial struggles, his career running a top podcast, and much, much more. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Is Self-Discipline Just Healthy Addiction? 00:04:23 The Connection Between Addiction and Ultra-Endurance 00:08:49 Pain as Teacher: Confronting Discomfort 00:21:24 What We're Most Addicted To Right Now 00:13:14 When Willingness Finally Arrives: Rich's Rock Bottom 00:29:07 Why the 12-Step Program Works After 100 Years 00:39:38 The Wedding That Nearly Destroyed Him 00:46:36 Spirituality Without Religion: Defining the Mystical Beyond 00:50:55 The Physical as Vehicle for the Spiritual 01:05:53 Seven Years of Financial Hell: Trash Cans, Repo Men, and Faith 01:15:51 Starting a Podcast in a Yurt: The Origin Story 01:22:01 The Power of Vulnerability: Why Sharing Shame Sets You Free 01:26:42 What Rich Gives Too Many, Too Few, and Just the Right Amount of Fucks About ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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  • May 29, 2024 · 43 min

    5 Ways to Hack Your Mind For Success

    The way you think about the world and your place in it can have a huge impact on your life. And yet, when it comes to evaluating the way we think, we’re rarely able to smell our own bullshit. So today, Drew and I break down five different mindsets you can adopt to live a more examined, successful life. This requires you to reject many of the mindless beliefs you’ve been force fed your entire life. Let’s do it. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Success Hack Problem 00:01:22 Find the Pain You Enjoy 00:04:14 Ass Power and the Dogs That Don't Quit 00:05:57 Mark's Cross Country Disaster: An Obliviousness Advantage 00:09:16 Focus on What You Can Control and Ignore What You Can't 00:14:09 Media Consumption, Bad Netflix Shows, and Personal Responsibility 00:16:13 Can You Choose Who You Love? 00:20:21 Turn Off the Autopilot 00:24:21 The Costanza Theorem: Do the Opposite 00:26:42 Adopt a 10X Mindset 00:30:20 10X in Relationships: Don't Run Your Love Life Like a Business 00:34:35 Focus on Fewer Things for Longer Periods of Time 00:42:31 Wrap-Up: Still Not Successful ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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  • May 22, 2024 · 1 hr 3 min

    How Modern Dating Became Such a Dumpster Fire (ft. Sadia Khan)

    Let's be honest: the modern dating landscape is a shit show. From declining marriage rates and rising infidelity to the nightmare of using dating apps—it's brutal out there. With all these supposedly "easy" ways to meet new people, why are the people who want long-term, stable relationships so fed up with the dating world? I invited dating and relationships coach Sadia Khan on the pod to discuss how the skills we use to excel in modern dating often sabotage long-term happiness. Sadia brings a refreshing, thought-provoking perspective to the conversation that will help you navigate the complexities of today's dating world. We dive into the role of self-esteem in successful relationships, the pitfalls of modern dating advice, and the skewed expectations shaped by social media, dating apps, and pornography. Enjoy. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: When Dating Advice Became a Dumpster Fire 00:04:36 Modern Dating Is Training You for Divorce 00:05:33 Social Media, Porn, and the Extrinsic Values Trap 00:10:42 Why Dating Apps Prime You for the Wrong Things 00:17:46 The Humanization Problem: When Men See Women as Vaginas 00:14:20 Why Opposite-Gender Friendships Are Essential 00:28:12 The Glory Hole Revelation and Male Impulse Slavery 00:29:47 Sexual Arousal vs. Real Life: Separating the Realms 00:22:54 When Men Get Stuck at 16: Status, Insecurity, and the 19-Year-Old Trap 00:24:16 Beauty vs. Sexual Attractiveness: The Distinction Men Miss 00:37:49 The Worst Women's Dating Advice: The Narcissism Epidemic 00:40:10 Why Women's Dating Advice Overprotects Feelings 00:41:23 The Instagram Picture Double Standard 00:43:00 The Curse of High Expectations and Unrealistic Checklists 00:45:41 Settling Isn't Failure: It's Where Intimacy Lives 00:47:18 Self-Esteem and Love: Why Low Self-Esteem Ruins Both Giving and Receiving 00:48:53 How to Know You Have Relationship Self-Esteem 00:50:22 Peace vs. Denial: Earning Stability Through Difficult Conversations 00:51:11 Boundaries: Instructions for Love, Not Ultimatums 00:56:05 Learning Each Other: The Joy of Long-Term Intimacy 00:57:15 Deprioritize Sex: The Message Young Men Need to Hear 01:00:05 Charisma, Insecurity, and the 55-Year-Old with the Escort ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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  • May 15, 2024 · 45 min

    5 Ugly Truths That Make Life Beautiful

    So many people seem to be obsessed with feeling good all the time. They’re always looking for “hacks” to an easier, happier life. But what if the easy way actually makes it harder to have a life full of meaning and purpose? Today, Drew and I take on the ugly truths that give life its beauty. Some of these might be a little hard to stomach at first. But if you see them through, you might be surprised at what’s on the other side. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Beauty Is Pain: The French Philosophy of Suffering 00:01:22 Choose Your Suffering: The Path to Meaning 00:03:42 The Columbia Protest Paradox: When You Don't Realize What You Chose 00:05:26 The Price of Being Public: Criticism, Hate, and Thick Skin 00:12:13 Post-Traumatic Growth: The Research Nobody Talks About 00:15:16 Maya Angelou's Pencil: Channeling Trauma Into Greatness 00:18:32 Evil People Don't Think They're Evil: The David Foster Wallace Insight 00:22:14 The Manosphere Trap: When Self-Help Becomes a Black Hole 00:24:21 Death Casts the Shadow: Why Mortality Gives Life Meaning 00:33:57 The Sailboat That Never Sailed: Don't Wait for Someday 00:35:48 You Do Not Exist: The Buddhist Concept of No-Self 00:39:54 I Am Avoidant vs. I Feel Avoidant: The Language That Changes Everything ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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  • May 8, 2024 · 52 min

    How to go from Boring to Extraordinary (ft. Codie Sanchez)

    In an era where “quiet quitting” and “self-care” obsessions seem to be all the rage, there’s a huge opportunity to set yourself apart from everyone else—and it’s not as hard as you might think. Codie Sanchez set herself apart by buying “boring businesses” and turning her venture into a multi-million dollar enterprise. But for Codie, it’s about so much more than the money. Her simple mantra is, “question everything”, and it has given her a unique perspective on life, relationships, and happiness, which we explore here in this week’s pod. This was a fun interview, check it out. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Best Time in History to Be a High Performer 00:04:04 Why Cody Started Writing and the Trojan Horse of Money 00:07:25 Leaving Everything on the Field: What Drives High Performers 00:09:22 The Drawbacks of Drive and Finding What's Worth Pursuing 00:13:12 From the Border to Goldman Sachs: Money as the Great Equalizer 00:15:14 Learning the Language of Money and Going Direct to People 00:17:37 Mark's Journey: Loving the Scrappy Struggle 00:20:25 The Hedonic Treadmill and Playing the Game You Love 00:21:37 When Did We Decide Work Couldn't Be Fun? 00:25:12 The Work Hours Myth and Redefining Overwork 00:26:50 The Prevalence Inflation Effect: When Mental Health Awareness Backfires 00:29:15 Why Now Is the Golden Age for Performers 00:31:02 Why Aren't There More Women in Business Leadership? 00:33:17 The Wing, Pink Rooms, and Crochet: Where Women's Business Went Wrong 00:35:23 Business Creators vs Beauty Creators: The Audience Size Gap 00:37:23 The Great Gender Divergence: When Audiences Split 00:39:56 Why Social Media Kills Nuance and What We Can Do About It 00:41:49 The Anti-Trigger Experiment: Choosing Not to Be Emotionally Hijacked 00:44:42 Picking Your Battles and Avoiding Clickbait Temptation 00:45:50 The Boring Business Cycle: From Mockery to Meme 00:47:27 Economic Hardship and the Make Money Space Boom 00:48:20 Caring What Smart People Think and the Resume of Failures 00:51:18 The Irony of Big Opportunities and Trouble Delegating ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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  • May 1, 2024 · 57 min

    (Q&A) Fear of Failure, Morning Routines, and... Manifesting?

    A week ago, we hit 2M subs on YouTube and 10M podcast downloads, and I promised a special Q&A episode of the pod—which turned out to be more fun than I expected. Jump in on this celebratory episode, where I rapid fire through some of the most interesting questions sent in by you guys. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: 10 Million Downloads and Open Q&A 00:00:49 Building a Strong Marriage: The Keys to a Healthy Relationship 00:03:25 No Book Plans and Avoiding Burnout 00:04:16 Three Big Lessons from the Last Five Years 00:06:33 Tough Love for Content Creators: Stop Comparing Yourself to LeBron 00:07:32 The Truth About Manifestation and Cognitive Biases 00:09:40 Reframing Failure: Why You Should Never Get Over Your Fear 00:10:52 Luck Is a Skill: How Activity Creates Coincidences 00:13:27 Morning Routines Are Overrated (But Nighttime Routines Aren't) 00:14:45 Is There Such a Thing as Healthy Shame? 00:16:29 Exercise and Sobriety: The 18-Month Process Nobody Shows You 00:21:25 Overcoming Envy: You Can't Cherry-Pick Someone's Life 00:22:21 Don't Fight Your Insecurities—Befriend Them 00:22:52 YouTube vs. Blogging: Why Video Requires Better Ideas 00:25:13 Differentiate Yourself: What Needs to Be Said That Nobody's Saying? 00:26:51 Social Media Addiction: It Depends on Who's Using It 00:30:33 Goals Should Serve You, Not the Other Way Around 00:32:46 Moderation in Everything, Including Moderation 00:33:36 From Mediocre Student to Music School to Finding Writing at 27 00:36:47 Stop Optimizing Your Life: Focus on What Actually Excites You 00:38:16 Bad Life Advice: The Minimalist Trap and Why Commitments Create Meaning 00:40:02 Staying Humble While Being Ambitious 00:41:39 The Social Media Trade-Off: Choose Your Suck 00:43:06 The Brutal Truth About Music Careers: Set a Deadline 00:45:59 Social Comparison Is Human: Compare Yourself to the Right People 00:47:07 Relationship Values: When Compromise Works and When It Doesn't 00:48:57 Getting Over Your Ex: Five Steps to Moving Forward 00:50:40 NoFap and Pornography: Finding Beauty in Real People 00:52:50 Witold Pilecki: The Most Badass WWII Hero You've Never Heard Of 00:53:50 Speaking Up About Injustice: Raising the Bar in the Age of Outrage 00:55:43 What Fuels My Soul and What's Next for the Podcast ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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  • Apr 24, 2024 · 50 min

    The Stoic Secrets to a Good Life (ft. Ryan Holiday)

    There’s an ancient philosophy that could actually help you give fewer f*cks, and unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve probably heard of it. Stoicism has been helping people manage their stress and anxiety for thousands of years and today, it’s more relevant than ever. @ryanholiday is the New York Times Bestselling author of multiple books on Stoicism. He believes that Stoicism is the framework that can help you be a normal person in an increasingly crazy world. Today’s episode dives into the life-altering benefits of following a philosophy that encourages you to focus on what you can control, and fuck the rest. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Why Stoicism Resonates in the Social Media Age 00:02:01 What Do You Give Too Many Fucks About? 00:03:48 Control, Anxiety, and Why Stoicism Appealed to Ryan 00:05:29 The Unexpected Success of The Obstacle Is the Way 00:09:45 How Success Changed Ryan's Relationship with Stoicism 00:12:00 What Ryan Gives Too Few Fucks About: Presence and Relationships 00:14:06 The Pandemic Reset: Taking a Year Off and Choosing Family 00:18:39 Regret, Guilt, and Grieving the Life You Could Have Had 00:17:30 Ryan's Legendary Productivity and the Cost of Optimization 00:24:13 Carrying Your Own Weight and Making Amends 00:25:55 What Most People Give Too Many Fucks About 00:29:13 Inherited Assumptions and the Adapted Child 00:31:19 Marriage, Different Definitions, and Renegotiating Meaning 00:33:28 The Nuclear Family Trap and Unreasonable Expectations 00:35:35 What Most People Give Too Few Fucks About: Other People's Suffering 00:38:53 The Implementation Problem: Theory vs. Reality 00:42:20 The Need for Chaos: Why Some People Want to Watch the World Burn 00:44:30 The Long Game: Why Moral Progress Takes Sustained Commitment 00:47:29 Closing: Right Thing Right Now and Paying It Forward ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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  • Apr 17, 2024 · 50 min

    7 Underrated Habits for a Better Life (and 7 Overrated Ones Too)

    I just heard about the “bed rotting” trend on social media and I think I need a minute. Because if the kids think staying in bed all day eating pizza and doom scrolling is a form of rejuvenation then I’m calling bullshit on self-care. Today’s episode is a fun one. Drew and I have a long list of common self-improvement practices and I’m scoring them as overrated or underrated or, “it depends.” CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Overrated vs. Underrated Game 00:01:46 Goals: Why You Should Quit More Often 00:03:40 Self-Care: The Bed Rotting Problem 00:06:46 Romance Is Overrated and Why Love Isn't Enough 00:09:55 Friendship: As Important as Smoking 15 Cigarettes a Day 00:11:26 Therapy: Finding the Right Fit Matters More Than Credentials 00:17:03 Purpose: When Everything Doesn't Need to Be Meaningful 00:19:46 Dancing and Music: The Underrated Mood Intervention 00:22:43 Politics: The Reality TV Drug Ruining Your Life 00:26:24 Journaling: Properly Rated but Not All Journals Are Equal 00:30:34 Saunas Are Underrated, Cold Plunges Are Overrated 00:35:11 Psychedelics: The Clinical vs. Optimization Divide 00:41:58 God and Religion: The Atheist's Case for Church 00:47:13 Gratitude: It Depends on Who You Are ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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  • Apr 10, 2024 · 1 hr 3 min

    How Bad Therapy Can Harm a Generation (ft. Abigail Shrier)

    If the story of humanity is about loss, privation, suffering, and resilience, why are kids having nervous breakdowns about bad grades? In today’s episode, I talked to Abigail Shrier about what parents and mental health experts are inadvertently doing to rob young people of the resilience and grit that past generations had. It’s a spicy one. Enjoy. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Mental Health Paradox 00:01:14 What Inspired Bad Therapy 00:02:25 How Schools Became Therapy Sessions 00:03:44 Why Therapy Is Different for Kids 00:05:34 Defining Bad Therapy 00:09:29 The Problem With Social-Emotional Learning 00:13:13 The Fragility Epidemic: Mental Health Days and Dysregulation 00:14:16 The Power of Suggestion: How Diagnosis Creates Illness 00:15:25 Trauma Narratives and Post-Traumatic Growth 00:17:11 The Theory of Pain Relativity 00:18:18 The Barnum Effect and Mental Health Self-Diagnosis 00:19:43 Finding the Goldilocks Zone: Acknowledging Pain Without Dwelling 00:20:49 Emotional Hypochondria: Magnifying Normal Pain 00:22:33 Feeling Good vs. Being Good 00:23:39 Parents as Amateur Therapists: The Parenting Book Problem 00:24:13 Why Kids Need Authority, Not Friends 00:26:17 The Importance of Consequences and Dependability 00:30:05 The Trauma Guru Effect: Why Parents Are Afraid to Say No 00:32:15 Threat Inflation: Overprotecting in Real Life, Underprotecting Online 00:33:24 Sending Vulnerable Adults Into the World 00:33:52 How Researching the Book Changed Abigail's Parenting 00:35:32 The Collective Action Problem and Parental Insecurity 00:36:58 The Execution Gap: High Talent, Low Follow-Through 00:38:15 The Western Phenomenon: Immigrant Perspectives 00:39:27 The Latino Immigrant Paradox and Mental Health Outcomes 00:40:25 Political Differences in Mental Health: Liberal vs. Conservative Families 00:42:19 Curated Conversations and the Loss of Authenticity 00:43:40 The Quirks That Make Us Love People 00:46:39 Setting Boundaries: When the Therapist Stands Between You 00:48:16 The Relationship Advice Paradox 00:49:05 Ugly: A Father-Daughter Story About Authentic Love 00:50:17 What Parents Can Actually Do 00:51:28 Scraped Knees and Resilience 00:52:32 The Medication Problem: When Diagnosis Becomes Demoralization 00:54:44 The ADHD Story: Learning to Manage Without Medication 00:56:32 Anxiety as Superpower: The Adaptive Value of Mental Diversity 00:58:05 Emotionally Stable Systems: The Benefits of Being Slightly Crazy 01:00:48 Your Superpower Is Also Your Weakness 01:01:36 Zero Fucks Given: Surviving Irreversible Damage Backlash ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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  • Apr 3, 2024 · 43 min

    Why It's So Hard to Make Friends as an Adult

    Making friends is hard, and unfortunately, as you get older, it gets harder. In this episode, we look at research behind friendships, plus the complicating factors people experience in making new friends as they get older. And for anyone struggling with their social lives, we share practical tips on how to meet and keep new friends. Enjoy and, good luck out there. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Mexico City Birthday Trip and Getting Robbed 00:04:20 Why Travel Builds Intimacy Faster 00:05:33 The Four Variables That Create Friendship 00:07:59 Remote Work Is Killing Workplace Friendships 00:11:16 The Partner and Kids Problem 00:13:55 When Your Friends Have Kids 00:18:50 The Friendship Paradox of Your Twenties 00:22:46 College: The Friendship Utopia We Can't Recreate 00:24:38 Be Aggressive on Hobbies and Interests 00:31:50 The Follow-Up Problem 00:34:11 Lead With Generosity 00:36:22 The Four Levels of Friendship 00:41:47 Why Friendship Matters More Than Romance 00:42:30 Final Wisdom: If You Want a Friend, Be a Friend ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson

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  • Mar 27, 2024 · 1 hr 12 min

    Founder of Eight Companies Explains: How to Take Massive Action (ft. Noah Kagan)

    Social media messes with our expectations because it convinces us that we should be doing everything, everywhere, all at once. But the reality is that we should focus on doing one or two things extremely well, in one place, consistently over a long period of time. Today on the pod, I talk to Noah Kagan, multi-millionaire and multi-business owner, about the type of consistency and habits that lead to wealth. Noah created his own wealth out of self-belief, learning from failing and being careful with what he gives a fuck about. Noah’s story is compelling as he shares how he found success over decades, by never ceasing to try. If you’re looking for some raw talk to get you motivated to go out and do cool shit, this is the episode to sink your energy into. Enjoy. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: What Don't You Give a Fuck About? 00:02:43 The Coffee Challenge: Practicing Rejection 00:03:40 Rejection Goals and Taking Action 00:15:23 Figuring Out What You Actually Want 00:18:23 The Journey to Self-Acceptance 00:19:41 Having Something to Look Forward To 00:21:08 The Quality of Your Friendships 00:23:40 Fame, Attention, and Ego 00:25:58 The Will Smith Slap and Being Human 00:32:35 The Slow Ramp Up: How Success Really Happens 00:33:41 Getting Fired From Facebook and Mint 00:44:40 The Power of Starting With One Dollar 00:38:47 Leadership, Self-Awareness, and CEO Surveys 00:51:41 Less Ambitious Goals for Longer Periods 00:55:33 YouTube, Knocking on Doors, and Asking the Right Questions 01:00:12 Mark's Failed Man-on-the-Street Video 01:01:50 The Videos Mark Is Most Proud Of 01:06:43 Hedonic Adaptation and Managing Expectations 01:10:47 Owning Your Word: The Subtle Art of Embracing Your Brand 01:12:30 Closing Thoughts: Did I Give Too Many Fucks? ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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