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New episodes every month. Life advice that doesn’t suck by a 3x #1 NYT bestselling author. I’ve spent two decades calling out everything wrong with the self-help world: the bad science, the guru nonsense, and the advice that preys on people's insecurities. This podcast is my no-BS, research-backed answer to all of it.

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Jan 8, 2025 · 42 min
Breaking the Monoculture, the Rise of “Premium Mediocre”, and Choosing Your Suck
Ever feel like culture’s splitting into countless micro-worlds where everyone’s just vibing to their own thing? In this episode, I introduce my theory on the "Jazzification of Everything." Drew and I dive into how our subcultures of music, entertainment, and even personal obsessions have evolved into these aging communities, totally detached from the cultural monocultures of the past. Whether it’s metal fans in their forties or electronic music lovers growing older with their favorite DJs, we explore how the media landscape and algorithms have encouraged us to stick to what we know—and why this shift could be both a gift and a curse. We also dig into why “premium mediocre” is taking over our consumer habits, and whether or not that’s actually a bad thing. We discuss how these tiny, exclusive-seeming trends might be fooling us, offering superficial luxuries instead of anything truly valuable. We cap it off with a big question about whether chasing after anything is worth it, or if we’re just dooming ourselves to disappointment. Give it a listen. Enjoy. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 The Jazzification of Everything: A Cultural Theory 00:00:25 Metal Shows, Electronic Music, and Middle-Aged Audiences 00:01:43 When Jazz Was Cool: The Birth of Subcultures 00:03:40 The Death of Monoculture and Cultural Balkanization 00:10:00 The Phone Problem: Recording vs. Experiencing Concerts 00:17:24 Digital Pacifiers and Avoiding Discomfort 00:21:07 Premium Mediocre: The Concept Explained 00:26:19 Why Everything Feels Like a Lie: Millennial Cynicism 00:28:29 Premium Mediocre Politics, Media, and Modern Life 00:30:25 The Maya Millennial and Aspirational Consumption 00:31:29 WeWork and the Premium Mediocre Business Model 00:33:45 The Innovation Problem: Solving Fake Problems 00:35:56 Choosing Your Suck: Why Chase Anything at All? 00:37:29 The Masochist Question: What Pain Do You Enjoy? 00:39:13 Over-Indexing on Meaning: The New Trap ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson Theme Song: Icarus Lives by @Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
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Jan 1, 2025 · 52 min
How to Set Goals and Create Healthy Habits in 2025
In this special New Year's episode of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck podcast, we dive into the perennial challenge of making meaningful changes in our lives. Rather than falling into the typical "new year, new you" trap that leads most people to abandon their resolutions by February, Drew and I explore a different approach to personal transformation. We share our own struggles with perfectionism, control, and finding purpose. We also dig into some research about how evolution may have shaped our sense of purpose, the science of habit formation, and offer practical strategies for making lasting changes. Whether you're setting goals for the new year or just trying to build better habits, this episode will help you approach personal growth with more wisdom and less pressure in 2025. Enjoy. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: New Year, New You... Again 00:02:18 Last Year's Resolutions: How Did We Do? 00:03:39 The Fuck of the Year: Drew's Battle with Perfectionism 00:06:24 Making Abstract Goals Concrete: The Action Plan 00:11:52 Mark's Fuck of the Year: Letting Go of Control 00:14:58 The Terror of Transformation: Loss Aversion and Career Evolution 00:17:43 Team Safe Words and Delegation Struggles 00:20:17 Brilliant or Bullshit: Evolution Gave Us Purpose 00:26:26 The Status Paradox and Religious Communities 00:33:09 Purpose Isn't Always Pleasant: The Ethics Question 00:34:30 The Verdict: Small Improvements Beat Big Dreams 00:36:46 Listener Question: Why Are Bad Habits So Easy? 00:39:41 The Habit Loop: Modifying Cues and Adding Friction 00:43:42 Treating Symptoms vs. Root Causes: The Emotional Triggers 00:47:57 The Comfort Zone Problem and Meta Emotions 00:51:40 Outro: Wisdom of the Week Fail ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson Theme Song: Icarus Lives by @Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
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Dec 18, 2024 · 50 min
No Regrets, The Case Against Empathy, and Is AI Coming for Us All?
This week, we dive headfirst into the messy, uncomfortable topic of regret. From the aches and grays that come with hitting a new decade to the deeper realizations about relationships, selfish mistakes, and missed opportunities, we unpack how regret shapes who we are. And there's a twist: what if regret isn’t something to fear or avoid? What if it’s a tool for growth? I share my own stories of taking people for granted, self-destructive habits, and the lessons I’ve learned about self-forgiveness and choosing your regrets wisely. We also tackle some fascinating questions about whether empathy is actually good for society. Is it always a good thing, or can it sometimes lead us astray? To round things off, we share our thoughts on AI and its impact on creativity and human connection. Enjoy. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Welcome to 40: Turning Points and Reflection 00:02:10 The Regret Conversation: Looking Back on Life at 40 00:03:15 Identity and Experience: Why Mark Doesn't Do Regret 00:04:48 The Five Regrets of the Dying and What They Reveal 00:07:42 Taking People for Granted: Drew's Biggest Regret 00:09:11 The Disrespect Factor: When Young Mark Was a Dick 00:11:44 Health Regrets and Ignoring Your Own Advice 00:15:45 Self-Forgiveness and Moving Forward from Regret 00:18:20 Brilliant or Bullshit: Is Empathy Overrated? 00:19:23 The Rise of Empathy in Gen Z and What It Means 00:22:14 When Empathy Blinds You: The Spotlight Effect 00:25:50 The George Floyd Effect: When Empathy Backfires 00:27:45 Cognitive vs. Emotional Empathy and Effective Altruism 00:33:02 How Netflix Manipulates Your Empathy for Serial Killers 00:37:15 Empathy's Proper Place: Small, Local, and Personal 00:38:43 AI and Creativity: What's the New Scarcity? 00:41:10 The Two Internets: Machine Internet vs. Human Internet 00:42:58 Why Magnus Carlsen Matters More Than Chess Software 00:44:39 Reddit, Live Events, and the Return to Human Connection 00:48:23 Using AI as a Tool, Not a Replacement 00:49:51 Wisdom of the Week: Regret for Wasted Time ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson Theme Song: Icarus Lives by @Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
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Dec 11, 2024 · 44 min
How to Get Lucky in Life and Take Smarter Risks
Today, we dive into the fascinating world of luck, risk, and how they shape our lives. We explore the delicate balance between playing it safe and taking chances, and why understanding this balance is crucial for personal growth. If you've ever wondered whether you're too cautious or not cautious enough, then strap in for this one. We dig into the psychology of luck, examining how our perceptions influence our outcomes, and why taking calculated risks can lead to outsized returns. We also tackle the tough question of how to cope with life's inevitable hardships. Hopefully this gives you a fresh perspective on risk-taking and a new appreciation for the role of chance in your life. Enjoy. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 The Tesla Disaster and the Doghouse 00:02:22 The Fuck of the Week: How Lucky Are You? 00:03:17 Luck Is Just Risk Management 00:05:21 The Four Ways to Create Your Own Luck 00:10:30 Counterfactual Thinking: It Could Always Be Worse 00:13:56 The Natural Fail Rate of Life 00:15:21 Poker and Thinking in Probabilities 00:17:44 Are We All Chicken Shits? The Risk Aversion Crisis 00:21:37 The Equilibrium of Risk: Fewer Risk-Takers, Bigger Rewards 00:24:54 How Mark Analyzes Risk: The Analytical and Qualitative Sides 00:27:25 The Most Important Question: What Do You Gain If You Fail? 00:30:04 Asymmetric Risk: When the Upside Crushes the Downside 00:32:23 Taking At-Bats: Why You Need to Try 100 Times 00:34:13 How Do You Accept That Life Will Always Hurt? 00:35:06 The Fail Rate of Being Human 00:40:10 The Two Arrows of Pain: Event vs. Meaning 00:41:38 Why Do Good Things Happen to Bad People? ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson Theme Song: Icarus Lives by @Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
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Dec 4, 2024 · 43 min
Advice To Avoid, The Dark Side of Therapy, and Taking Your Own Medicine
You ever notice how some people can’t stand being told what to do—even when the advice is good? Yeah, that’s me. In this episode, Drew and I dig into why so many of us rebel against advice, why others chase it like their life depends on it, and whether all that “actionable advice” we’re constantly fed is actually helping anyone. Spoiler: I’m not a fan of cookie-cutter solutions, and I’ve got some opinions about the self-help industry’s obsession with telling people exactly what to do. We also get into the bigger picture—how advice often misses the mark when it’s not tailored to someone’s unique situation, and how therapy culture might be trying to replace something deeper that’s missing in our lives. I’ll share why I don’t give rigid life hacks, the trouble with universal solutions, and the surprising reason why most breakthroughs aren’t about the advice at all. If you’re tired of “do this, don’t do that” advice, this one’s for you. Enjoy. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Compulsive Contrarian 00:02:30 The Problem with Actionable Advice 00:04:09 Why One-Size-Fits-All Advice Fails 00:06:44 Bad to Okay vs. Good to Great 00:09:05 All Advice Is Autobiographical 00:13:16 The Boring Truth About What Actually Works 00:16:50 Self-Help as Entertainment and Hobby 00:20:12 Therapy vs. Therapy Culture 00:24:26 Why Therapy Doesn't Scale 00:29:05 The New Morality of Self-Fulfillment 00:31:55 The Pendulum: Self-Indulgence to Self-Denial 00:35:46 Taking Your Own Medicine 00:39:30 The Materialism Trap 00:41:53 Wisdom of the Week: Advice Like Snow ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson Theme Song: Icarus Lives by @Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
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Nov 20, 2024 · 1 hr 1 min
How to Stop Living for Other People (ft. Ben Nemtin)
Have you ever felt like there’s more to life than the daily grind, like your dreams are buried under all the obligations and expectations life throws at you? In this episode, we sit down with The Buried Life co-founder and New York Times bestselling author, Ben Nemtin, to explore why so many of us feel disconnected from our true purpose—and how to reclaim it. For Ben, it all started as a group of friends chasing wild bucket-list dreams and helping strangers achieve their dreams too. In the process, they discovered what it means to give yourself permission to dream and then make those dreams a reality. We dive deep into the psychology of fear, the power of accountability, and the surprising benefits of doing what you love—not just for yourself, but for everyone around you. We discuss why most people regret not living authentically, how to overcome the social and emotional barriers holding you back, and practical strategies for rediscovering your dreams, even if they’ve been buried for years. If you’re looking for inspiration to take that first small step toward a life that feels truly yours, this episode will get you there. Enjoy. Ben’s Stuff: The Bucket List Journal by Ben Nemtin: https://www.amazon.com/Bucket-List-Journal-Achieve-Fulfilling/dp/B09VX2LMY2 The Buried Life (TV Show): https://www.bennemtin.com/tv-show/ The Buried Life (Poem): https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/43585/the-buried-life Ben’s Website: https://www.bennemtin.comBen’s TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H6Y7mfxEaco Follow Ben: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bennemtin https://www.instagram.com/bennemtin https://twitter.com/BenNemtin https://www.facebook.com/Nemtin/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5l2kfhEEEXLm2HlRXRVzbw CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Buried Life Origin Story 00:03:17 The Two-Week Road Trip That Changed Everything 00:07:40 The Ripple Effect: When Doing What You Love Inspires Others 00:09:18 The Biggest Human Regret: Not Living Authentically 00:12:09 From Crazy MTV Stunts to Playing Basketball with Obama 00:18:53 Purpose Isn't One Thing: Following Feelings Over Logic 00:21:25 The Authentic Self Is a Moving Target 00:23:03 Recycling Careers and Relationships: Learning From Uncle Bill 00:25:40 Why Do We Feel So Buried? The Death Perspective 00:30:01 Depression and Living Out of Alignment 00:31:51 Happiness Is Moving Toward Your Potential 00:33:19 Step One: Write Down Your Dreams in 10 Life Categories 00:36:08 The Power of Accountability: How Ben Survived Depression 00:38:13 Building Accountability: Share, Ask for Help, Find Your Buddy 00:40:54 Getting Unstuck: Action Creates Inspiration, Not the Other Way Around 00:45:38 Fear Is Your Friend: Delineating Fear From Risk 00:47:50 The TEDx Talk That Failed (But Changed Everything) 00:48:26 Leveraging Emotion: Turning Pro and Following Your Internal Compass 00:50:56 When You Don't Know What You Want: Start With Experiments 00:52:57 The Ripple Effect of a Failed Clothing Line 00:55:55 The Homeless Shelter Story: The First Time They Helped Someone 00:57:37 The Bucket List Journal: A Roadmap to Your Authentic Life ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson Theme Song: Icarus Lives by @Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
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Nov 13, 2024 · 45 min
The 4 Stages of Life, Psychological Richness, and How Much Is Enough?
Life has a way of just kind of happening to you. And while exactly what happens is unique to each of us, we all seem to go through very similar stages of our lives. Today, we talk about the challenges of these stages. Each stage comes with its own “crisis” that, if navigated well, can propel us to the next stage. It is this never-ending struggle where life happens. And then… Drew gets all new age and Mark just isn’t having it. And we round it out with a very simple, yet very difficult question from a listener: How much is enough? Enjoy. The Four Stages of Life by Mark Manson:https://markmanson.net/four-stages-of-life The Art of the Interesting by Lorraine Besser: https://www.amazon.com/Art-Interesting-What-Pursuit-Cultivate/dp/1538743205 CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Tolerance Paradox 00:02:46 The Four Stages of Life Framework 00:04:21 Stage One: Mimicry and the Crisis of Identity 00:06:53 Stage Two: Exploration and the Novelty Trap 00:09:47 Peter Pan Syndrome and Extended Adolescence 00:10:51 Stage Three: Commitment and Deep Meaning 00:12:59 Stage Four: Legacy and Acceptance 00:15:55 The Pain of Transition Between Stages 00:22:46 Your Relationship With Time Completely Changes 00:25:05 Brilliant or Bullshit: Psychological Richness 00:29:57 The Diversified Happiness Portfolio Theory 00:36:58 How Much Is Enough? 00:41:03 When 'Never Enough' Becomes Your Superpower 00:43:10 Wisdom of the Week: Toni Morrison on Beauty ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson Theme Song: Icarus Lives by @Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
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Nov 6, 2024 · 56 min
How to Cut Through the Bullsh*t in Modern Dating (ft. Sabrina Zohar)
Wouldn’t it be great if we dropped all the bullsh*t about modern dating? No more games. No more fake, flaky people. No more texting back and forth for weeks or even months only to find out you have zero chemistry when you meet up in person. No more f*cking bots and AI generated dating profiles… Sabrina Zohar definitely thinks we can skip all of it and get right down to the fun stuff (oh yeah, baby!). All it requires is brutal honesty with yourself and the people you’re interested in. So if you can stomach that, this episode is right up your alley. We ask Sabrina: What does your attachment style really tell you about how you should date? Are dating apps really that terrible, or can we change the way we use them to get better results? And do we have high standards, or are our expectations just too f*cking high And a whole lot more. We had a lot of fun in the studio with Sabrina. I hope you enjoy it too. About Sabrina Zohar Sabrina Zohar is the multi-faceted entrepreneur and media figure responsible for coaching hundreds of thousands of people to start doing the work to improve their dating life, their relationships with others–and more importantly: their relationships with themselves. Sabrina’s online presence shifted from talking about her sustainable clothing line, SoftWear, to sharing about her personal dating life. Sabrina’s message spread like wildfire, and the rest is history. Sabrina’s message has earned her features in NBC California live, The LA times, The Drew Barrymore show, Daily Mail, Newsweek, US Sun, Yahoo, MSN, and more. Sabrina is a multi-faceted force guiding individuals to success in the entrepreneurial space, fashion, podcasting and media, and of course, the intricate world of love and relationships. Sabrina’s website: https://www.sabrinazohar.com/ The Sabrina Zohar Show Podcast: https://www.sabrinazohar.com/podcast Follow Sabrina: https://www.tiktok.com/@sabrina.zohar https://www.instagram.com/sabrina.zohar https://www.youtube.com/@Sabrina_zohar CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Meet Sabrina Zohar 00:00:56 From Fashion to Dating Advice: Sabrina's Origin Story 00:03:27 The Biggest Surprise: People Don't Know Their Own Power 00:04:22 Fuck of the Week: Attachment Styles 00:06:04 Breaking Down the Four Attachment Styles 00:08:39 The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy of Labels 00:10:45 Two Insecure People Can Heal Together 00:12:20 The Texting Boundary That Changed Everything 00:15:00 Stop Self-Identifying With Your Trauma 00:16:12 Dating Apps: Too Many Exits, Not Enough Effort 00:17:26 The Apps Aren't the Problem, You Are 00:20:38 Brilliant or Bullshit: Are Dating Apps Dying? 00:28:03 The Facsimile of Intimacy: Digital Relationships 00:33:17 Chat GPT Is Ruining Human Connection 00:35:00 The Fragility Epidemic: Ghosting and Emotional Safetyism 00:44:24 Audience Question: When Standards Are Too High 00:48:01 Expectations vs Non-Negotiables 00:50:15 The Fear of Communicating Needs 00:53:25 Rejection Is Redirection 00:54:14 Know What You Want: The Life You're Building 00:55:19 Wrap Up and Where to Find Sabrina ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson Theme Song: Icarus Lives by @Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
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Oct 30, 2024 · 43 min
How to Get Out of a Rut, Pain and Boredom, and Knowing When to Quit
Today, we’re diving deep into the subtle difference between a healthy routine and a rut. How can you tell if your daily grind is keeping you grounded… or just grinding you down? Next, we tackle the question of boredom: Why does it feel so unbearable, and could we actually be missing out on its hidden perks? Spoiler alert—boredom might just be the key to unlocking your most creative, inspired self. Finally, we confront one of life’s biggest dilemmas: When is it time to walk away, and when should you double down? Whether it’s a project that’s going nowhere or a relationship that feels like it’s on life support, we’ll give you insights on knowing when to quit and when to stick it out. Enjoy. Brilliant or Bullshit Paper: Just think: The challenges of the disengaged mind https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4330241/ CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Am I Becoming a Boring Person? 00:01:11 When Does a Routine Become a Rut? 00:02:53 The Alcohol Factor: Craving Novelty vs. Craving Stability 00:03:41 Fear vs. Optimization: Defining the Difference 00:04:22 The Immanuel Kant Paradox: Genius in Repetition 00:07:07 The Four Stages of Life: From Mimicry to Legacy 00:09:53 Marriage Problems and the Say Yes Strategy 00:13:54 The Seasonality of Chaos: Flipping the Card Green 00:16:44 Is It Brilliant or Bullshit: The Electric Shock Study 00:18:11 Why Boredom Is Actually Painful 00:24:18 Raw Dogging Flights: The New Machismo 00:26:25 Boredom as Competitive Advantage 00:27:44 Q and A: The Rules of Quitting—When to Quit and When to Grit 00:28:54 The Momentum Test: Is Your Rock Going Uphill or Downhill? 00:31:03 The Bukowski Exception: When Outliers Break the Rules 00:31:46 Creative Pursuits vs. Professional Pursuits: Different Equations 00:33:04 The Tim Ferriss Question: Where Does Failure Teach You Most? 00:35:01 Relationships and the Rock Going Downhill 00:37:14 Hard Work Redefined: When 12 Hours Feels Easier Than 4 00:39:25 The Grammy Winner Who Never Felt Burnt Out 00:42:04 Grit Only Works in the Right Direction 00:42:34 Wisdom of the Week: Escalators and the Art of Quitting ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson Theme Song: Icarus Lives by @Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
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Oct 23, 2024 · 1 hr 3 min
How to Find Your True Path in Life (ft. Robert Greene)
What are you called to do in life? What is your life’s task? And once you figure that out, how do you pursue it? The one and only Robert Greene sat down with us on the pod to talk about all of these questions and a whole more. We discuss finding and pursuing one’s life task, the nature and causes of “Peter Pan Syndrome”, science vs timeless wisdom on life, figuring out what do in midlife after you’ve taken the wrong path, and a much more. Enjoy. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Robert Greene in the Flesh 00:00:43 The Resurgence of The 48 Laws of Power 00:05:57 The Dark Side vs. The Real Robert 00:08:11 The Theatrical Nature of Social Life 00:09:22 Finding Your Life's Task: Robert's Journey 00:12:58 Reading the Signs: Positive and Negative Feedback 00:15:10 Persistence vs. Knowing When to Pivot 00:18:00 The Pain You Enjoy: Finding Your True Work 00:21:43 Reconnecting With Your Life's Task 00:25:25 The Five Forms of Intelligence 00:29:13 Brilliant or Bullshit: Peter Pan Syndrome 00:32:00 The Problem With Positive Masculinity 00:37:33 Too Much Talking, Not Enough Acting 00:38:23 Life as a Game: Get Out and Play 00:42:25 Listener Questions: Science vs. Timeless Wisdom 00:44:06 The Problem With Big Data and Algorithms 00:51:09 Starting Over at 35: Building From What You Have 00:57:00 The Midlife Crisis: Is This It? 01:00:37 Finding the Sublime: Robert's Next Book 01:03:26 Closing Thoughts and What's Next ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson Theme Song: Icarus Lives by @Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
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Oct 16, 2024 · 38 min
Keeping the Weight Off, Rewiring Your Brain with Psychedelics, and Finding Strong Male Role Models
It's hard enough to change, but why it is so hard to maintain that change too? How might psychedelics facilitate big changes in our lives? And how can young men find healthy role models in the modern world? In this week's pod, we cover my current struggles around keeping a healthy diet and lifestyle, how psychedelics might actually scramble your brain (in a good way), and why so many young men are struggling to find a place in the world today. Enjoy. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Men's Groups and the Weight Struggle 00:01:07 The Two Levels of Failure: Emotion vs. Narrative 00:02:33 Mark's Personal Weight Journey: Five Years and 60 Pounds 00:03:43 The Training Wheels Come Off: Old Habits Creeping Back 00:05:29 Food Addiction: The One Area That Won't Quit 00:07:13 Relapses Are Part of Recovery: Brandon Novak and the Process 00:13:20 Brilliance or Bullshit: Psychedelics and Brain Rewiring 00:15:32 Neuroplasticity and the Promise of Psychedelics 00:18:12 Psychedelics as Tools: Set, Setting, and Intention Matter 00:22:04 The Dark Side: When Psychedelics Make You Believe Everything 00:24:33 Audience Question: Growing Up Without a Father Figure 00:26:01 The Male Role: Be Useful and Add Value 00:28:08 Men Are Disposable: Make Yourself Indispensable 00:29:54 The Absent Father Crisis and Its Consequences 00:33:26 Finding Role Models Online: Navigating the Manosphere 00:34:55 The Andrew Tate Test: Turn Off the Sound and Watch Their Face 00:37:26 Wisdom of the Week: The Buddha on Self-Conquest 00:37:39 Closing Thoughts and How to Reach the Show ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson Theme Song: Icarus Lives by @Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
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Oct 9, 2024 · 1 hr 1 min
How to Beat Distraction and Still Enjoy Life (ft. Nir Eyal)
Why can’t we just do the things we know we should do? It’s a simple question with a very complex answer. To help us answer it, I sat down with my old friend, Nir Eyal, a behavioral design expert and author of the best-selling book, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life. I love Nir’s approach because he doesn’t linger on the surface of the problem of distraction by hocking the latest app or hack or fancy new time management method. Instead, he dives right into the thorny emotional realities we all face in trying to lead productive, meaningful lives. In this episode, we talk about what it means to be “indistractable” and how it’s probably the most important skill of the 21st century. We also get Nir’s take on the role of social media in our lives (his views on this might surprise you). And finally, he answers that timeless question: Why don’t we just do what we know we should do? Enjoy. About Nir Eyal Nir Eyal writes, consults, and teaches about the intersection of psychology, technology, and business. Nir previously taught as a Lecturer in Marketing at the Stanford Graduate School of Business and the Hasso Plattner Institute of Design at Stanford. He is the author of two bestselling books, Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products, and Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life. His books have resonated with readers worldwide, selling over 1 million copies in over 30 languages. Nir’s book, Indistractable: http://geni.us/indistractable Nir on time boxing: https://www.nirandfar.com/timeboxing/ Nir on values: https://www.nirandfar.com/common-values/ Nir’s free schedule maker: https://www.nirandfar.com/schedule-maker/ More articles by Nir: https://www.nirandfar.com/best-articles/ CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Writing Partnership That Solved Distraction 00:02:32 What Is Indistractable? The Skill of the Century 00:05:32 Traction vs. Distraction: The Power of Intent 00:08:41 Internal Triggers: The Real Source of 90% of Distractions 00:10:24 Self-Awareness and the Path to Mastering Internal Triggers 00:12:22 Everything You Do Is About Escaping Discomfort 00:14:18 Why We Can't Sit Still: The Evolutionary Purpose of Boredom 00:16:10 The Goldilocks Zone of Pain and the Recipe for Burnout 00:18:27 Make Time for Traction: Why You Can't Call Something a Distraction 00:19:56 Time Boxing vs. To-Do Lists: The Productivity Debate 00:22:00 Brilliant or Bullshit: The Social Dilemma Documentary 00:22:58 The Social Media Debate: It's All Media, Not Just Social Media 00:29:47 The Three Psychological Nutrients Kids Are Missing 00:32:01 The Real Culprits: Standardized Testing, Hyper-Scheduling, and Lost Play 00:34:14 Video Games as Protection and the Myth of Stranger Danger 00:38:19 Legacy Media vs. New Media: Who's Really Causing Division? 00:42:37 Audience Question: How Do I Do What I Know I Should Do? 00:43:43 The Four Strategies in Action: From Internal Triggers to Pacts 00:45:06 The Right Metric of Success: Did I Work Without Distraction? 00:47:05 Mark's Struggle: Time Boxing vs. Word Count Goals 00:49:34 Be a Scientist, Not a Drill Sergeant: Flexibility in Time Boxing 00:52:14 Productivity Is Personal: Finding Your Optimal Tools 00:53:43 The Problem with Habits and Flow: Not Everything Can Be Easy 00:56:37 The 10-Minute Rule: Surfing the Urge to Distraction 00:59:03 Wisdom of the Week: The Cure for Boredom and Repeated Mistakes Follow Nir on social media: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nireyal/ https://www.youtube.com/user/nirandfar https://twitter.com/nireyal https://www.facebook.com/nirandfar/ http://instagram.com/neyal99 ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson Theme Song: Icarus Lives by @Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
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Oct 2, 2024 · 47 min
How TikTok Ruined Politics (And Your Sex Life)
How many f*cks should we give about politics? What’s driving the widening ideological gap between young men and women? And is the world truly and utterly f*cked beyond all recognition? In this episode, we talk politics without really talking politics. We cover how to stay up-to-date on current events without going insane, what history can teach us about the present, the real downside to TikTok’s invasion of—well, everything—and why there is still reason to hold out hope, even when it seems like the world is going straight to hell. Check it out. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Election Fatigue and the Fuck of the Week 00:02:08 Why the Person Matters Less Than the Party 00:05:39 The Local vs. Global Problem: Where Your Attention Should Go 00:08:17 Bad News Finds You, Good News Requires Effort 00:11:43 The Marketing Machine Behind Political Narratives 00:15:25 Brilliant or Bullshit: The Gender Political Divide 00:17:14 TikTok's For You Feed and the Psychograph Revolution 00:25:41 The Service Economy and the End of Men 00:30:33 Political Polarization as the New Bigotry 00:33:04 Q&A: Are We Numb to Tragedy? 00:35:12 Why News Makes You Less Informed 00:37:19 Read History, Not Headlines: The Pandemic Example 00:41:34 News Recommendations and Finding Apolitical Sources 00:47:04 Wisdom of the Week: Nothing Is New Under the Sun ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson Theme Song: Icarus Lives by @Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
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Sep 25, 2024 · 54 min
When to Cut Off Your Parents, Mastering Conflict, and Why a Crazy Family Can Make You a Better Person
Cutting off bad or toxic parents is all the rage in some pockets of the internet these days—but have we lowered the bar a little too much for what makes a parent “toxic”? How can we navigate and own up to the hard conversations we need to have with the people closest to us? And is there a silver lining for putting up with family members who drive us absolutely f*cking insane? Join us on today’s pod as we get a little squirmy in our chairs while we tackle these issues. Drew squashes some beefs, Mark sniffs out some of the bullshit around cutting people off, and we answer one of your questions about dealing with those crazy people you just can’t get away from: your family. Enjoy. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Art of Difficult Conversations 00:01:36 The Sibling Beef: When Shared History Divides 00:03:42 Different Childhoods Under the Same Roof 00:06:17 The Go First Principle: How to Start Hard Conversations 00:09:14 When Speaking Up Makes Things Worse 00:10:46 The Strategic Value of Picking Fights When You're Young 00:13:35 Building Trust Through Confrontation 00:14:29 Family Versus Friends: Why Stakes Change Everything 00:16:19 The Intimacy-Conflict Paradox 00:18:03 The Addiction to Confrontation 00:21:08 Brilliant or Bullshit: Cutting Off Your Parents 00:22:50 The Last Resort Standard: When to Actually Cut Contact 00:23:49 Managing Exposure: The Middle Ground Nobody Talks About 00:26:23 Concept Creep: When Everyone's a Narcissist 00:29:50 The Value of Friction: What We Lost by Living Apart 00:31:13 The Cutting Off Epidemic: Friends, Not Just Family 00:32:27 When Annoying Becomes Friendship 00:34:18 Toxic Versus a Toxic Moment 00:36:42 Reader Question: Breaking Free Without Abandoning Family 00:37:38 You Can't Save Your Family 00:46:43 The Fantasy of Being the Savior 00:40:53 When Success Makes You the Enemy 00:43:27 The Threat to Identity 00:45:03 Dealing with Familial Guilt 00:49:47 The Small Town Mentality: Don't Get Too Big 00:53:14 Wisdom of the Week: Tolstoy on Unhappy Families ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson Theme Song: Icarus Lives by @Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
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Sep 18, 2024 · 46 min
How to Be a Great Friend, Para-Social Relationships, and Why You Shouldn't Die Alone
The quality of your life often comes down to the quality of the relationships you have. That’s why we’re giving a huge f*ck about friendship this week. While the benefits of having good friends are pretty obvious, the cost of maintaining friendships is often overlooked by a lot of people. We dive into that, plus some advice on when you should and shouldn’t cut off people in your life, and how friends and romantic partners really impact our happiness. Check it out. Here’s the paper we discuss:People perceive parasocial relationships to be effective at fulfilling emotional needs CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Mark’s Halloween Costume 00:01:34 The F*ck of the Week: How to Be a Better Friend 00:20:48 Brilliant or Bullsh*t: Cutting Off Parents, Family, or Friends 00:36:01 Q&A: Can You Be Happy Without Close Friends? Romantic Partners? ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson Theme Song: Icarus Lives by @Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.
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Sep 11, 2024 · 42 min
Self-Help Junkies, Stupid Experts, and the Worst Life Advice I've Ever Heard
Are you addicted to self-improvement? Are experts really any better than the rest of us at knowing how to make positive changes in our lives? What are some common pieces of life advice that just don't seem to work? Drew and I tackle all of these questions today in our brand new, updated format for the pod. Find out why self-help can turn into pseudo-religion (and why we should bring back exorcisms), whether or not a huge mega-study by a bunch of fancy experts can tell us anything about behavioral change, and some common self-improvement tropes that just don't do it for us. Here's the study we discuss: Megastudies improve the impact of appliedbehavioural science Let us know what you think of the new show format in the comments below. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 New show format 00:03:15 The F*ck of the Week: When self-improvement turns into addiction (or a cult) 00:17:06 Brilliant or Bullshit? Do experts actually know what they're talking about? 00:31:13 Your Questions Answered: Life advice that doesn't work? ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson Theme song is "Icarus Lives" by Periphery.
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Aug 28, 2024 · 58 min
What It Really Takes to Accomplish Your Dreams (ft. Steven Pressfield)
Steven Pressfield was 52 years old when he published his first hit novel, The Legend of Bagger Vance. Prior to that, he wrote tirelessly for decades in obscurity, supporting himself with odd jobs along the way. After writing several more novels and movie scripts, he distilled all of his wisdom into The War of Art, his now-famous treatise on the grinding process of creativity. Now in his 80s, Steven looks back on his work and life with a clear-eyed view of what it truly means to make it as a creative professional. In this episode, he explains why he persisted writing for decades with little to show for it, how he compensated for his own lack of talent, why creating great art is actually a grueling war fought within the artist’s own mind, and much, much more. Enjoy. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction 00:02:13 Persisting at writing... for decades 00:06:40 The Resistance 00:14:23 Patience when facing The Resistance 00:22:12 Is The Resistance actually a good thing? 00:26:52 Turning Pro 00:32:22 How much do hard work, skill, and talent matter? 00:40:48 Does great art require suffering? 00:44:57 How Steven's military experience influences his work 00:49:52 Honoring your muse 00:56:04 What writers can learn from advertising 00:58:08 The Daily Pressfield ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson
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Aug 21, 2024 · 35 min
5 Ways to Be Self-Disciplined Without Making Yourself Miserable
We often think self-discipline requires massive action and a lot of pain and sacrifice—but the reality is a lot more boring. Today, we tackle some common misconceptions about self-discipline, arguing that real change comes from setting up your environment for success, not grinding through endless struggle. We explore the hidden dangers of romanticizing pain and why true self-discipline is more about boring consistency than epic feats of endurance. Hopefully, this episode challenges you to rethink how you approach your goals and habits. If you're ready to stop punishing yourself and start seeing real, lasting change, you won’t want to miss this. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction 00:03:11 Self-discipline is not the same as willpower 00:09:45 Self-discipline does not involve shaming yourself 00:15:39 Self-discipline is about self correction, not perfection" 00:22:16 Self-discipline is boring 00:29:18 Self-discipline involves forging new identities" ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson
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Aug 16, 2024 · 47 min
Bonus Q&A: Facing Regrets, Hustle Culture, Living with ADHD, and More
It’s bonus episode time! Today, I’m doing a Q&A with questions you’ve all submitted. We dive into how I’ve changed my mind, bad habits, regrets, dead dreams, advice to young people, meditation, and a whole lot more. CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Tackling 1,200 Unanswered Questions 00:00:29 What I've Changed My Mind About: The Prevalence Inflation Hypothesis 00:02:35 Breaking Bad Habits: The Dark Valley Between Days 5 and 25 00:05:29 Dealing With Fame and Follower Counts 00:05:58 Biggest Regrets: Health, Relationships, and Being a Dick in Your 20s 00:08:08 Positive Thinking vs. Realistic Thinking: Clearing Up the Paradox 00:10:47 Parental Emotional Immaturity and Its Massive Effects 00:12:08 Relationship Advice: Marriage Is Underrated and Dating Culture Is Getting Worse 00:15:19 Would You Change Your Books? Subtle Art and Everything Is F*cked Reflections 00:16:21 Do You Still Want to Be a Rock Star? When Old Dreams Die 00:17:09 Free Will, David Goggins, and Measuring Success After Financial Freedom 00:20:40 Why the Hair? Premature Hair Envy Explained 00:21:36 Handling Grief: Losing a Brother to Depression and Addiction 00:23:40 What Do You Think About the Universe? A Cosmic Rant 00:26:41 Sexual Experience, Relationship Readiness, and Playing the Long Game 00:29:38 Advice for Teenagers: More Face-to-Face Socializing 00:30:57 Dealing With Adversity: When to Persist and When to Give Up 00:34:06 Moving On From a 24-Year Relationship and the BetterHelp Controversy 00:37:53 Meditation, Christianity, and the Best Business Advice: Be the Goose 00:40:09 Hustle Culture: It's a Skill, Not a Lifestyle 00:43:05 Living With ADHD: Caffeine, Meditation, and Doing Two Things at Once 00:46:45 Edgelord Maximus: A Gladiator-Style Sign-Off ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson
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Aug 14, 2024 · 53 min
How To Be Successful in a World That Wasn’t Built for You (ft. Astronaut Cady Coleman)
How do you find your way in a world where even when you do everything right, the odds keep getting stacked against you? My guest today, Cady Coleman, shares how she navigated the male-dominated fields of science, the Air Force, and NASA, breaking down barriers with tenacity and grace. From her time on the International Space Station to the release of her first book, Sharing Space, Cady’s story is a powerful reminder of the importance of mission, adaptability, and the unwavering belief in one’s potential, even when the world around you says otherwise. Check it out. Cady’s Book, Sharing Space: https://www.amazon.com/Sharing-Space-Astronauts-Mission-Wonder/dp/0593494016 CHAPTERS Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction 00:01:46 Becoming an astronaut 00:05:56 Spacewalking 00:11:22 On being underestimated 00:14:28 Life's missions, big and small 00:16:19 Life on the International Space Station 00:22:18 A new way of looking at the world 00:29:41 Do astronauts feel more connected to the world? 00:32:43 How do you live in space with other people? 00:41:28 Coming back down 00:51:51 The state of the space program ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://markmanson.net/breakthrough⁩⁠⁠⁠ ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at ⁠⁠⁠⁨https://bit.ly/4w46FMH⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson
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