
31. People Pleasing, Self-Belief & How to Actually Change Your Patterns | Aisling Kennedy
Why do we keep repeating patterns we know aren’t serving us - even when we’re completely aware we’re doing it? In this episode of The Wellness Script, host & Pharmacist Lauren O'Reilly is joined by Ireland's only Self-Belief and People Pleasing Coach, Aisling Kennedy for a conversation about people pleasing, self-belief, confidence, self-trust and the patterns that quietly influence how we make decisions and show up in our lives. Aisling shares her own journey from seeking external validation and struggling with people pleasing to changing the way she approached her career, relationships and sense of self. Together, Lauren and Aisling explore why simply knowing that you people please, overthink or self-sabotage often isn’t enough - and what you can actually do next. They discuss the difference between confidence, self-worth and self-belief; why we can mistake fitting in for belonging; how journaling and voice notes can help us process our thoughts; and Aisling’s practical 4 Rs framework — Rewire, Repeat, Reward and Reflect — for creating lasting behavioural change. They also explore manifestation, the stories we repeatedly tell ourselves, boundaries, fear of other people’s opinions and why small acts of doing things differently can gradually build evidence that you can trust yourself. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking “I know I do this… but how do I actually stop?”, this episode is for you. The Wellness Script Season 4 is proudly sponsored by Elave Skincare - iconic Irish skincare, made in Ireland since 1934 and created with sensitive skin in mind. EXCLUSIVE LISTENER OFFER: Use code WELLNESS for 20% off at the elaveskincare.com In this episode, Lauren and Aisling discuss: What people pleasing actually looks like - beyond simply saying yes when you want to say no Why seeking external validation can become such a powerful behavioural pattern The difference between confidence, self-belief, self-worth and self-trust Why confidence is often a skill rather than something you either “have” or don’t How people pleasing can influence our careers, relationships, friendships and everyday decisions Why becoming aware of a pattern is only the beginning How our fear of the worst-case scenario can keep us stuck Aisling’s 4 Rs framework: Rewire, Repeat, Reward and Reflect Why small repeated actions can help us build evidence that we can handle difficult things The importance of rewarding effort — not just perfect outcomes How reflection can replace shame with learning Journaling, voice notes and other ways to process your thoughts EFT tapping and how Aisling incorporates it into her work Manifestation, mindset and becoming more aware of the opportunities around us Why “fitting in” and genuinely belonging aren’t the same thing Learning to make decisions based on what you want rather than what you think other people expect Handling opinions from friends, family and the people closest to us Practical ways to begin building greater self-belief this week Connect with Aisling: Aisling also shares her 7-day self-belief challenge, available through her Instagram, designed around small practical steps including journaling, questioning your patterns and EFT tapping. Check it out on Aisling's Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/coachaislingkennedy/ Connect with The Wellness Script: Follow The Wellness Script and subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss an episode. https://www.instagram.com/wellnessscriptpod/ Follow Lauren: https://www.instagram.com/itslaurenoreilly/ The Wellness Script is for educational and informational purposes only and does not replace personalised medical or mental health advice from an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.