When an Avoidant Realizes You've Given Up, They Do THIS
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Welcome to today's episode! In this video, I walk you through the six stages of panic that build inside an avoidant when you finally give up on the relationship. As a former avoidant, I explain what happens on their end at each stage, from the first triggers during the relationship, through your emotional cut and the breakup, to the moment they realize you are truly not coming back. I also share the three ways they tend to react, and what you can do at each point: stand up for your needs, cut the connection cleanly, and use the space to grow into a more secure version of yourself.
► Links and Resources:
Deactivation Strategies Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fi-wUf36e9k&t=1s
How to Respond When an Avoidant Comes Back Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mcmxaTqp6QY&t=1070s
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► Episode Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction
01:08 Stage 0: During the Relationship
05:58 Stage 1: Before You Give Up
09:08 Stage 2: The Emotional Cut
11:08 Stage 3: The Breakup
12:24 Stage 4: After the Breakup
14:31 Stage 5: They Test the Waters
15:39 Stage 6: They Realize You Gave Up
16:41 Three Ways They React
18:58 Your Opportunity to Grow
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► Hi, my name is Robert! I make videos about how to build stable, secure relationships without losing yourself or waiting forever for the “perfect” partner. :)
► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.
I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.
