Why Every Non-Duality Speaker Is Lying (w/Kat van Oudheusden)
True lies such as self-help is hopeless, "selfless leadership" is anything but, and spiritual bypass IS THE WHOLE POINT 🔥 The innocent, impersonal simplicity of THIS. Kat Van Oudheusden's books, free Zoom meetings, and more here. Why Kat’s personal story and “how I woke up” don’t make sense anymore, and the relief when story stops mattering Why seekers cling to the story of what Kat did, and what it’s like being a female voice in the male-dominated radical non-duality space The two extremes: “no one here, nothing to do” versus “we’re all love and a higher version of me,” and why they meet in a circle How self-inquiry can use the selfing mechanism to short-circuit itself Natural inquiry versus “artificial” inquiry from YouTube teachers, and life disillusioning beliefs one at a time Why everyone sees this in their own sequence, and how the mind turns whatever happened just before into the teaching Kat’s six aspects of no self and the essential inquiries in her book Seeing No Self Testing inquiries with more than 100 people over three years, mostly by WhatsApp Inquiry as a framework without a fixed path, process, or recipe Zubin’s early intellectual understanding, the energetic knot, and the belief that things always work out for the best If there is no doer, does “stop seeking” even make sense, and how radical non-duality and inquiry compare Zubin’s fossil record of contradictory expressions, from stages of enlightenment to “there is nothing to do” “We’re all liars”: no one can speak the truth about non-duality, and 8 billion versions are equally true or untrue Why judging another version of non-duality means you don’t understand it “I am no one” as another form of selfing, and freedom when it’s all seen as impersonal COVID, “alt-middle,” and how all positions were seen as impersonal Irreversible seeing versus the lived experience, which can still be contracted, egoic, and selfing A body that isn’t owned, being 50 and 53, parenting, and playing roles without believing in them The non-dual identity, and the relief when the camera turned off Why all of it is useful nonsense, and how Rupert Spira’s and Tony Parsons’s messages each landed Inquiry as breadcrumbs, direct recognition, and the seeking mechanism going into overdrive Why the spiritual world is full of ego, $10,000 retreats, and the myth of progress in being human Donald Hoffman’s nightly meditation, and Zubin’s spontaneous inquiry into materialism versus consciousness “We’re all end-stage seekers,” and the seahorse analogy for belief in a separate self The pretend game of separation, TED talks, and years working in university systems Why nobody wants what impersonal offers, and the non-duality police versus the personal religion crowd in the comments Morality, the separate soul that needs saving, and “sinners in the hands of an angry God” Zubin’s unworthiness reactor, and being grateful that nothing solved it Never having mystical experiences, and why that makes it doubtless Non-duality as the next lingo, and posting insight on social media AI-generated clips of soundbites, and doing meetings anyway The recursive loop of confusion, and “my thoughts are also just this” The end of hope, and impersonal hope The descriptive versus prescriptive fallacy, and practicing non-attachment Why it’s all innocent, and Kat’s book title joke “Isness” Romantic music, the hero’s journey, and not taking any of it seriously Servant leadership as selfless leadership, and why a self trying to be a servant leader is the worst kind Zubin’s wife as an example of effortless servant leadership Momentary glimpses, and “where did the moment go?” Shadow work and internal family systems, and why digging through the trash only finds more trash Looking where the self is not, rather than into more of it Spiritual bypass: “you have to bypass,” and why accusing others of bypassing is the least spiritual thing to do Kat’s name, growing up in Thailand, and plans for a part two Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
