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The Self Love Project

Megan

Welcome to The Self Love Project — the podcast that helps you quiet your inner critic, rewrite your self-talk, and finally feel like your own biggest supporter.
Every week, host Megan Lawther (mindset coach, podcast host, and self-love cheerleader) shares relatable stories, mindset shifts, and soulful encouragement to help you feel better, love deeper, and stop self-sabotaging the life you actually want.
Expect real talk, a little humor, and the kind of reminders that feel like a warm hug and a motivational slap on the same day.
New episodes drop every Saturday morning (MDT) — so whether you're folding laundry or taking a walk, consider this your weekly permission slip to choose yourself.

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S1 · E77
Saturday · 16 min
How to Actually Be Your Own Best Friend (The Real Test of Self Love)
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan returns to one of the ideas at the very heart of the podcast: becoming your own best friend. But this conversation goes beyond positive affirmations and saying nice things to yourself — it's about becoming someone you can actually rely on when you're overwhelmed, struggling, making mistakes, or simply not feeling like your favorite version of yourself. She explores the difference between your inner critic and your inner best friend — from remembering context on hard days and refusing to turn mistakes into character flaws, to being willing to lovingly call yourself out when you're avoiding something, making excuses, or need to take accountability. Because being in your own corner doesn't mean letting yourself get away with everything; it means learning how to be honest with yourself without being cruel. This episode shifts the focus away from self-love as constant approval and toward building a relationship with yourself that includes compassion, honesty, encouragement, accountability, and a whole lot more celebration. Megan explores why we're often incredibly quick to notice everything we do wrong while barely acknowledging our courage, growth, effort, and the small wins nobody else sees. If your inner voice tends to get loudest when you've screwed up and mysteriously disappears when you've done something worth celebrating, this conversation will help you become someone you actually want beside you when life gets hard — someone who can comfort you, challenge you, hype you up, tell you the truth, and most importantly, stay in your corner through all of it. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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S1 · E76
September 12 · 15 min
Closure Without All the Answers: The Case Closed Check
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores our obsession with closure — and the belief that somewhere out there is one missing explanation, apology, conversation, or piece of information that will finally allow us to move on. She unpacks how the search for answers can become another way of staying attached to the very thing we're trying to heal from. From replaying conversations and rereading messages to checking social media and endlessly asking "why," Megan explores the important difference between actually processing an experience and simply rehearsing the same pain over and over again. This episode shifts the focus away from needing someone or something outside of you to provide the perfect ending and toward recognizing when you already know enough. Megan explores why information doesn't always bring peace, how our brains fill unanswered questions with painful stories of their own, and why sometimes closure isn't something you receive — it's something you decide. If you've been waiting for an explanation, apology, validation, certainty, or one final conversation before you feel like you're allowed to move forward, this conversation will help you stop reopening the case, make peace with what you may never know, and reclaim your ability to keep living without having every missing piece. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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September 5 · 17 min
The Perfectionism That Makes You Quit And The Secret to Actually Staying Consistent
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan takes a closer look at perfectionism — and why it doesn’t always look like colour-coded planners, flawless work, and refusing to make mistakes. Sometimes, perfectionism looks like procrastination, endless tweaking, waiting until you feel completely ready, or keeping something safely inside the realm of “potential” where nobody can judge it yet. She explores an often-overlooked side of perfectionism: what happens after something goes well. When your best workout becomes the standard for every workout, your most productive day becomes the new expectation, or one great piece of work suddenly feels like something you have to recreate every single time, success can quickly turn from evidence of what you're capable of into pressure you have to live up to. This episode shifts the focus away from perfect performance and toward something far more sustainable: learning how to have average days and keep going. Megan unpacks why consistency isn't about maintaining an unbroken streak, how all-or-nothing thinking turns small interruptions into long disappearances, and why building room for imperfect versions of your habits might actually make you more consistent. If you've ever procrastinated because something wasn't ready enough, put enormous pressure on yourself to repeat a past success, or missed a few days and somehow resurfaced six weeks later wondering what the hell happened, this conversation will help you rethink perfectionism, redefine consistency, and remember that your best is evidence of what's possible — not the minimum requirement for being allowed to continue. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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S1 · E74
August 29 · 14 min
The "I Should Be Further Along" Feeling
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores the anxiety of feeling behind in life — especially when it seems like everyone around you is hitting milestones while you're wondering why your own life doesn't look the way you thought it would by now. She unpacks the invisible timelines we carry for relationships, careers, money, family, success, and adulthood — and how easily an unmet expectation can turn into the belief that we're somehow failing. Megan explores the grief that can exist between the life you imagined and the life you're actually living, while making space for the complicated truth that you can be genuinely happy for someone else and still feel sadness about something you deeply want for yourself. This episode shifts the focus away from somebody else's milestones and toward questioning the timeline itself. Megan explores why starting over isn't the same as falling behind, how easily we mistake "not yet" for "never," and why some of the most meaningful progress in our lives is the kind that never comes with an announcement, title, ring, paycheck, or house key. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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S1 · E73
August 22 · 16 min
Trusting Again: When the Past Shows Up in New People
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores what happens when someone gives you a very legitimate reason not to trust them — and your brain decides that perhaps no human being should ever be trusted again. She dives into the complicated aftermath of betrayal and why learning to trust again isn't simply about convincing yourself that a new person is different. Because underneath the fear of being hurt again is often an even deeper question: Can I trust myself if it happens again? This episode shifts the focus away from blind trust and toward something far more sustainable: allowing trust to be built through consistency, evidence, boundaries, and repair. Megan explores how past experiences can influence the way we interpret new relationships, why trust doesn't have to be all-or-nothing, and how to tell the difference between paying attention and making new people pay old debts. If you've been hurt, lied to, betrayed, or blindsided and now find yourself questioning people's intentions, bracing for history to repeat itself, or doubting your own judgment, this conversation will help you build a wiser version of trust — one that allows you to stay open without being blind, vulnerable without abandoning yourself, and confident that whatever another person chooses to do, you can trust yourself to handle what comes next. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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S1 · E72
August 15 · 19 min
The Myth of Maximum Productivity: Working With Your Capacity
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores why so many of us expect ourselves to perform at 100% every single day—and why that expectation leaves us feeling like we're constantly falling behind. Instead of trying to force the same level of productivity regardless of your energy, stress, or mental capacity, Megan introduces the idea of creating your own personal operating manual. Through humor, relatable stories, and four surprisingly practical (and unapologetically named) strategies, she shares a more compassionate way to navigate the different versions of yourself that show up from day to day. This episode shifts the focus away from pushing harder and toward working with your capacity instead of fighting against it. Megan explores how to recognize the early signs of overwhelm, stop turning low-energy days into character judgments, and build simple systems that make life feel lighter—even when you're not operating at your best. If you've ever called yourself lazy for needing a break, felt guilty for not getting enough done, or wondered why some days brushing your teeth feels like an Olympic event while other days you can conquer the world, this conversation will help you replace self-criticism with self-awareness, adjust your expectations without giving up on yourself, and learn how to support the version of you that shows up each day. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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S1 · E71
August 8 · 18 min
The Two Lists Everyone Needs: The Bucket List & F*ck It List
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan invites you to rethink what it means to "finish the year strong." Instead of chasing bigger goals, squeezing in more productivity, or trying to reinvent yourself before December 31st, she offers a different challenge: create more life. Through humor, relatable stories, and two simple but powerful lists, Megan explores how much of our time and energy gets spent worrying about things that don't deserve it—and how freeing up even a little of that mental space can make room for more adventure, connection, spontaneity, and joy. This episode shifts the focus away from accomplishing more and toward experiencing more. Megan shares why anticipation matters, how waiting for the perfect invitation often keeps us stuck, and why becoming the person who creates opportunities instead of waiting for them can completely change the way the rest of your year feels. If you've caught yourself saying, "I can't believe the year's almost over," or you've been waiting for life to become more exciting on its own, this conversation will inspire you to give fewer f*cks where fewer f*cks are deserved, make memories on purpose, and start intentionally filling the months ahead with experiences you'll actually remember. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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S1 · E70
August 1 · 19 min
The Stories Your Brain Loves to Tell: The Fine Art of Not Making It Mean Everything
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores why our brains are so quick to turn one disappointing moment into a sweeping conclusion about who we are, what our future holds, and what everyone else must be thinking. From unanswered texts and awkward conversations to missed workouts, rejection, and disappointing results, she unpacks the stories our minds automatically create—and why those stories often cause far more suffering than the original event itself. Megan shares practical tools for separating facts from assumptions, questioning the meaning we attach to difficult moments, and recognizing that our brains are not always reliable narrators. This episode shifts the focus away from believing every thought we have and toward responding to what actually happened instead of the catastrophic story our minds create. Through humor, relatable examples, and simple questions you can ask yourself in the moment, Megan offers a new way to interrupt spirals before they become full-blown identity crises. If you've ever convinced yourself that one mistake means you're failing, one rejection means you're not enough, or one unanswered text means someone secretly hates you, this conversation will help you challenge the stories your brain tells, separate events from meaning, and stop letting one hard moment become a verdict on your entire life. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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S1 · E69
July 25 · 17 min
You're More Confident Than You Think: How To Find It And Grow It
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan challenges one of the biggest myths about confidence—that some people simply have it, while everyone else is left trying to figure it out. She explores why confidence isn't a personality trait but a skill that's built differently across every area of our lives. Through hilarious stories, relatable examples, and practical strategies, Megan explains why you're probably far more confident than you give yourself credit for, how your inner critic quietly sabotages your confidence by dismissing your wins, and why collecting evidence—not waiting to feel ready—is what creates lasting self-belief. This episode shifts the focus away from chasing confidence and toward understanding how it's actually built. Megan unpacks the roles of repetition, self-trust, comparison, and celebration, while sharing simple ways to transfer confidence from one area of your life into another and stop letting fear of judgment make your decisions. If you've ever felt like everyone else seems more confident than you, or you've been waiting until you feel "ready enough" before going after something you want, this conversation will remind you that confidence isn't something you're missing—it's something you've already built before, and you know exactly how to build it again. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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S1 · E68
July 18 · 18 min
The Five Best Things I've Done for My Health: Simple Ways To Feel Better
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan steps away from her usual mindset conversations to share five simple habits that have had the biggest impact on how she feels—physically, mentally, and emotionally. From improving gut health and prioritizing protein to supporting your circadian rhythm, walking more, and intentionally creating moments of joy each day, Megan walks through the everyday practices that have helped her feel healthier, more energized, and more like herself than she has in years. Rather than focusing on perfection or complicated wellness routines, this episode is all about sustainable habits that fit into real life. Megan shares the science behind why these practices matter, along with personal stories about the noticeable changes she's experienced—from more stable energy and better digestion to improved mood, sleep, and overall wellbeing. If you've been looking for realistic ways to feel better in your body, boost your energy, and support your health without overcomplicating it, this conversation will leave you with practical ideas you can start using right away—and a reminder that feeling good is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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S1 · E67
July 11 · 14 min
How To Start Hearing Your Intuition When Your Brain Is Talking Over It
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores one of the most overlooked relationships we have—the relationship with our own intuition. She unpacks why so many of us struggle to hear our inner knowing beneath the constant noise of overthinking, fear, logic, and wishful thinking. Through personal stories, relatable examples, and practical tools, Megan explores the difference between the quiet voice of intuition and the loud voice of the anxious mind, why we so often ignore what we already know deep down, and how to begin rebuilding trust in ourselves again. This episode shifts the focus away from endlessly analyzing every decision and toward learning to recognize the calm, steady wisdom that's been with you all along. Megan shares simple ways to strengthen your intuition, tune into your body's signals, and distinguish genuine knowing from fear-based thinking. If you've ever found yourself saying, "I knew it all along," after ignoring your gut feeling, this conversation will help you reconnect with your intuition, quiet the mental noise, and start trusting the part of yourself that's been trying to guide you all along. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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S1 · E66
July 4 · 13 min
Summer of Self-Love: Stop Talking Yourself Out of Your Life
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores the habit so many of us have of talking ourselves out of the very experiences that would make our lives feel fuller, richer, and more alive. She dives into the way our brains instinctively generate excuses, worst-case scenarios, and endless "what ifs" the moment something feels unfamiliar or uncomfortable. From trying a new hobby to wearing the outfit, attending the event alone, or simply saying yes to something different, Megan unpacks why our desire to stay safe so often comes at the expense of actually living. This episode shifts the focus away from waiting to feel ready and toward something much more powerful: collecting evidence that you're capable of doing hard, awkward, and exciting things. Through personal stories, humor, and practical encouragement, Megan explores how confidence isn't something you think your way into—it's something you build one brave "yes" at a time. If you've been waiting for the right moment, the perfect amount of confidence, or a version of yourself that's less scared before you start living more fully, this conversation will inspire you to stop letting fear make your decisions, say yes a little sooner, and start collecting stories instead of excuses. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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S1 · E65
June 27 · 18 min
You're Not Indecisive: How to Make a Decision and Move On
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores why making decisions can feel so incredibly hard — and why so many of us spend months, years, or even decades sitting in indecision, waiting for certainty that never comes. She dives into the fear of making the "wrong" choice, the difference between a hard decision and a wrong decision, and the subtle ways we avoid fully committing by making what she calls "fake decisions" — decisions with one foot already out the door. This episode unpacks decision fatigue, perfectionism, overthinking, and our deep desire for guarantees before we're willing to move forward. Megan shares practical ways to make decisions more confidently, stop agonizing over low-stakes choices, and finally close the escape hatches that keep us stuck in limbo. If you've been delaying a decision, waiting for a sign, or feeling paralyzed by the fear of getting it wrong, this conversation will help you trust yourself more deeply, let go of the need for certainty, and remember that you don't need a crystal ball to move forward. You just need the courage to decide — and the willingness to trust yourself with whatever comes next. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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S1 · E64
June 20 · 15 min
How to Move Forward: The Myth of Having It All Figured Out And Why You're Still Stuck
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores the pressure so many of us put on ourselves to have life figured out before we take action — and how that need for certainty often keeps us stuck exactly where we are. Using the metaphor of a road trip, she unpacks the difference between needing a full roadmap and simply having a direction. Megan dives into the trap of waiting for perfect clarity, the fear of making the wrong choice, and why so many of us spend years sitting in the metaphorical driveway thinking about where we want to go instead of actually moving. This episode shifts the focus away from finding the perfect destination and toward something much more useful: identifying what feels missing right now and taking one small step toward more of it. Through personal stories and practical reflections, Megan explores why clarity is often something we discover through action, not before it. If you've been feeling stuck, unsure of your next chapter, overwhelmed by options, or waiting for a sign before you begin, this conversation will help you stop chasing certainty, trust yourself a little more, and remember that the next turn often reveals itself only after you start driving. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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S1 · E63
June 13 · 20 min
Netflix, Wine, and Avoidance: The Feeling Beneath the Distraction
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores the subtle, everyday ways we numb ourselves — not just through the obvious things, but through the socially acceptable escapes so many of us lean on without even realizing it. Using a painfully relatable Saturday night “trifecta” of Netflix, wine, and snacks, she dives into the difference between genuinely relaxing and quietly trying to escape your own life for a few hours. Megan unpacks the many forms numbing can take — binge watching, scrolling, emotional eating, staying busy, shopping, drinking, and more — and the deeper feelings often sitting underneath them. This episode shifts the conversation away from shame and toward awareness, compassion, and honesty. Instead of framing numbing as failure, Megan explores why our brains reach for relief so automatically, how emotional avoidance disconnects us from ourselves over time, and why learning to sit with discomfort is one of the deepest forms of self love. If you’ve ever caught yourself reaching for your phone, the snacks, another episode, or literally anything to avoid what you were feeling, this conversation will help you understand the difference between rest and escape, reconnect with your own inner world, and build a healthier relationship with discomfort instead of automatically running from it. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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S1 · E62
June 6 · 15 min
The Legacy You’re Already Leaving: The People Who Change Our Lives & How Love Lives On
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores the idea of legacy — not the grand, history-book version we often imagine, but the quiet, everyday legacy we are all leaving behind through the way we love, heal, show up, and make people feel. She dives into the pressure many of us feel to do something “big” with our lives, and how chasing a massive idea of impact can sometimes make the small moments we’re living right now feel insignificant. Megan unpacks the truth that legacy is not reserved for famous people, massive platforms, or world-changing achievements — it’s built in ordinary moments, ordinary relationships, and the ripple effects we leave in other people. This episode explores the power of modeling self love, healing generational patterns, and becoming someone who makes others feel seen, safe, encouraged, and valued simply through the way you exist in their life. Through a deeply personal story about her grandmother, Megan reflects on the kind of love that changes someone forever — the kind that doesn’t make headlines, but significantly shapes who we become. If you’ve ever questioned whether your small actions matter, felt pressure to make a bigger impact, or wondered what kind of mark you’re leaving on the people around you, this conversation will remind you that legacy is not built in giant moments. It’s built in the everyday ways we love people well. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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S1 · E61
May 30 · 19 min
The Friendship Audit: How to Fill Your Cup and Let Go of Draining Relationships
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores the friendships that fill us, the ones that drain us, and the quiet guilt that can come with realizing not every friendship is meant to last forever. She dives into the difference between reciprocal, energizing friendships and relationships that leave you feeling heavy, exhausted, or less like yourself — while also unpacking the complicated middle ground of friendships that aren’t necessarily “bad,” but no longer fully align with who you’re becoming. This episode explores the impact our relationships have on our mindset, energy, growth, and self worth, along with the difficult but important truth that being intentional about who you spend your time with is not selfish — it’s self love. If you’ve been noticing shifts in your friendships, feeling drained by certain dynamics, or struggling with guilt around creating distance, this conversation will help you reflect more honestly on the people in your life, protect your energy without shame, and invest more deeply in the relationships that truly fill your cup. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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S1 · E60
May 23 · 12 min
Validating Your Feelings: Why We Feel Guilty for Struggling
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores the quiet habit so many of us have of comparing our pain to the pain of others — and how quickly we dismiss our own struggles the moment someone else has it “worse.” She dives into the invisible hierarchy of suffering many of us operate with, where our feelings only seem valid if they’re serious enough, dramatic enough, or painful enough to earn permission to exist. Megan unpacks the guilt that comes with struggling during someone else’s harder season, the pressure to always “hold it together,” and the way self-abandonment can disguise itself as gratitude or perspective. This episode shifts the focus away from minimizing your emotions and toward something far more compassionate: allowing your hard seasons to matter simply because they are hard for you. If you’ve been downplaying your struggles, telling yourself you should be more grateful, or feeling guilty for not being okay, this conversation will remind you that pain is not a competition — and your feelings do not need to be the worst in the room to be real. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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S1 · E59
May 16 · 15 min
Why Emotions Are Your Body’s Best Friend
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores the pressure so many of us feel to hold it together — and why constantly suppressing our emotions often creates more heaviness, not less. Using a painfully relatable “everything keeps going wrong” kind of day, she dives into the way we fight our feelings, bottle things up, and convince ourselves that crying means we’re weak, dramatic, or falling apart. This episode shifts the focus away from emotional suppression and toward something far more healing: allowing yourself to actually feel what’s there instead of carrying it indefinitely. If you’ve been holding back tears, pushing through overwhelm, or feeling ashamed of how deeply you feel, this conversation will remind you that emotions are not something to fear or fix. Feeling your feelings is not weakness — it’s part of being human. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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S1 · E58
May 9 · 16 min
Rewire Your Brain for Good: Daily Practices for Self-Love
In this episode of The Self Love Project, Megan explores the powerful role perception plays in shaping our daily experience — and how the evidence we collect throughout the day quietly becomes the story we believe about our lives. Using a simple but relatable “oats explosion” moment as the catalyst, Megan dives into the way our brains are constantly scanning for proof of whatever we’ve already decided is true. Whether it’s “today is hard,” “nothing is going right,” or “I’m struggling,” the brain gets to work building a case to support it. This episode unpacks the brain’s natural negativity bias, the way our internal filter shapes what we notice, and how easy it is to unintentionally train ourselves to look for what’s wrong. Megan also explores the connection between the evidence we collect about our days and the evidence we collect about ourselves — and how shifting that filter can begin to change both our mindset and our self-worth. Rather than promoting toxic positivity or pretending hard things don’t exist, this conversation is about making sure the hard things aren’t the only things getting through the filter. It’s about learning to notice the good that exists alongside the difficult, and understanding how small shifts in perception can create a completely different experience of being alive. If you’ve been feeling stuck in heaviness, frustration, or like your brain automatically focuses on everything going wrong, this episode will help you understand why that happens, how to interrupt the cycle, and how to begin training yourself to look for evidence of something better. Follow me on Instagram: @meganelisalawther Send me an email: Megan@theselfloveproject.ca
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