
70 | The Motherwhelm with Claire | Matrescence, Birth Trauma & the Hidden World of Motherhood
In this episode of The Motherwhelm, I sit down with Claire, mother of two, singer-songwriter, filmmaker, and creator of the documentary Matrescence: The Hidden World of Motherhood, to talk about what really happens to women when they become mothers. Claire shares how years of working with children left her believing she was well prepared for motherhood, only to discover that nothing had prepared her for the enormity of the transition itself. We talk about her traumatic first birth, breastfeeding difficulties, the loss of autonomy she experienced within maternity care, becoming a mother again during COVID and the years of pushing through until her body eventually forced her to stop. It was through songwriting that Claire began making sense of what she had experienced — eventually discovering the word matrescence, and with it an entirely new way of understanding herself. Our conversation explores maternal ambivalence, identity, postpartum depletion, the cultural pressure for mothers to “do it all”, community and the village, pleasure and sexuality after motherhood, creativity, and what it means to find your voice again after becoming a mother. We also talk about Claire’s forthcoming documentary, Matrescence: The Hidden World of Motherhood, and her hope that giving women language for this enormous transition might help them feel less alone. Topics discussed: matrescence, maternal identity, expectations of motherhood, maternal archetypes, self-sacrificing motherhood, feminism, the mental load, birth trauma, autonomy in birth, caesarean birth, breastfeeding difficulties, postpartum depletion, maternal mental health, maternal ambivalence, motherhood during COVID, burnout, creativity, songwriting, finding your voice, mothers’ groups, community, the village, sexuality after motherhood, the erotic mother, pleasure, desire, being touched out, body connection, separation, co-parenting, boundaries, people-pleasing, perimenopause, becoming, and Matrescence: The Hidden World of Motherhood.