The Kink Perspective

The Kink Perspective looks at BDSM through psychology, not performance. It’s an honest examination of power, connection, and what really shapes relationships inside kink, without romanticizing dysfunction or avoiding hard truths.

Hosted by Chris C, trauma-specific consultant and psychotherapist with more than two decades of lifestyle experience.

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S5 · E37
Tuesday · 40 min
Season 5 Episode 37 - When Fear Starts Running the Dynamic...
On today's show, I'm talking about what happens when fear starts influencing the power inside a D/s dynamic. I look at how obedience, control, service, and responsibility can still look exactly like the roles we chose, even when the reasons underneath them begin to change. I also get into what happens when saying no, disagreeing, or changing what we need starts feeling like it could cost us the relationship. This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling. If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don’t forget to follow the show and leave a 5-star rating so others can find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now. #Psychology #Fear #Relationships
S5 · E36
September 15 · 48 min
Season 5 Episode 36 - A Life Shaped by Shame...
On today's show, I'm talking about chronic shame and what happens when it stops being about something we did and starts shaping how we see ourselves. I get into how those judgments become internalized, how they can attach themselves to desire and kink, and why feeling accepted does not always mean the shame is gone. This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling. If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don’t forget to follow the show and leave a 5-star rating so others can find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now. #Psychology #Shame #Identity
S5 · E35
September 8 · 38 min
Season 5 Episode 35 - Still Kinky, Just Seasoned...
On today's show, I'm talking about how kink changes as we age, and what happens when the roles, desires, or identities that once fit us start to shift. I’m also looking at the physical changes that come with time, and whether adapting means we are losing part of ourselves or simply becoming more honest about who we are now. This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling. If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don’t forget to follow the show and leave a 5-star rating so others can find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now. #Psychology #Aging #Time
S5 · E34
September 1 · 41 min
Season 5 Episode 34 - Race, Power, and Consent...
On today’s show, I’m talking about race play and what it actually is. I’ll look at its history, why some people are drawn to it, and how consent changes the discussion. I also want to look at what gets missed when the subject is reduced to Black and white dynamics. And finally, where personal objection ends and control over other adults begins. This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling. If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don’t forget to follow the show and leave a 5-star rating so others can find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now. #Psychology #Power #Race #Consent
S5 · E33
August 25 · 44 min
Season 5 Episode 33 - When Politics Enters the Playroom...
On today's show, I'm talking about politics and kink, and why those two worlds seem increasingly difficult to separate. I explore what happens when political beliefs begin shaping how we see one another and who we believe belongs in the community. Maybe the bigger question isn't whether kink is political, but what politics is doing to us. This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling. If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don’t forget to follow the show and leave a 5-star rating so others can find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now. #Psychology #Politics #Community
S5 · E32
August 18 · 53 min
Season 5 Episode 32 - Religion, Identity, and Belonging...
On today's show, I'm talking about what happens when criticism of religion crosses the line into contempt for the people who hold those beliefs. Together, we'll explore how that shift affects belonging within the kink community and what it says about the values we claim to hold. This isn't a debate about religion. It's a conversation about identity, acceptance, and the kind of community we're building. This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling. If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don’t forget to follow the show and leave a 5-star rating so others can find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now. #Psychology #Religion #Identity #Community
S5 · E31
August 11 · 38 min
Season 5 Episode 31 - When Desire Turns to Contempt...
On today’s show, I’m talking about what happens when attraction to someone because of their race turns into fetishizing them, and what can happen when that fantasy meets rejection. I’m looking at the psychology behind racial stereotypes, sexual expectation, entitlement, and why desire and contempt can sometimes exist in the same place. This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling. If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don’t forget to follow the show and leave a 5-star rating so others can find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now. #Psychology #Desire #Attraction #Entitlement
S5 · E30
August 4 · 48 min
Season 5 Episode 30 - When Context Disappears...
On today’s show, I’m talking about what happens when context disappears and people start responding to what they think someone represents instead of what was actually said or done. I look at how missing information turns into certainty, how labels replace the individual, and why context can matter without excusing harmful behavior. This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling. If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don’t forget to follow the show and leave a 5-star rating so others can find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now. #Psychology #Context #Control #Language
S5 · E29
July 28 · 48 min
Season 5 Episode 29 - When Consent Language Becomes Social Control...
On today’s show, I’m discussing what happens when the language of consent, safety, trauma, and boundaries stops protecting people and starts controlling the room. I explore how personal reactions can become treated as proof, why certain accusations become almost impossible to question, and how kink communities can end up enforcing a version of events before anyone has looked closely at what actually happened. This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling. If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don’t forget to follow the show and leave a 5-star rating so others can find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now. #Psychology #Consent #Control #Language
S5 · E28
July 21 · 37 min
Season 5 Episode 28 - Wanting to Own Your Past...
On today's show, I'm talking about the difference between wanting to understand someone's past and wanting that past to have belonged to you. We explore why our minds can become attached to experiences we never lived, how curiosity can quietly turn into ownership, and why real intimacy isn't about rewriting someone's history. It's about accepting that the life which shaped the person you love was never yours to possess. This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling. If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don’t forget to follow the show and leave a 5-star rating so others can find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now. #Psychology #Past #Relationships #Life
S5 · E27
July 14 · 39 min
Season 5 Episode 27 - When Pain Becomes a Sword...
On today's show, I'm talking about the moment pain stops being something we carry and starts becoming something we use against the people trying to love us. We explore how legitimate emotional wounds can quietly become shields from accountability and, in some relationships, swords against intimacy. This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling. If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don’t forget to follow the show and leave a 5-star rating so others can find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now. #Psychology #Closure #accountability
S5 · E26
July 7 · 37 min
Season 5 Episode 26 - Duty or Obligation?
On today's show, I'm talking about the psychological difference between responsibility and obligation, and why they aren't always the same thing. We'll explore how people gradually lose their sense of choice, why so many remain in situations they've outgrown, and how understanding the reasons behind our decisions can change the way we see ourselves, our relationships, and the lives we're building. This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling. If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don’t forget to follow the show and leave a 5-star rating so others can find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now. #Psychology #Duty #Obligation
S5 · E25
June 30 · 41 min
Season 5 Episode 25 - Punishment...
On today's show, I'm discussing the psychology of punishment and why stopping a behavior isn't always the same as creating lasting change. We explore operant conditioning, what punishment actually teaches, and why fear, trust, and understanding can lead people to learn very different lessons. Whether you're a parent, leader, partner, or part of a D/s relationship, this episode challenges us to ask a different question: not simply whether punishment worked, but what someone actually learned from it. This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling. If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don’t forget to follow the show and leave a 5-star rating so others can find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now. #Psychology #Punishment #OperantConditioning
S5 · E24
June 23 · 31 min
Season 5 Episode 24 - The Relationship Worked Because One Person Paid The Cost ...
Some relationships don't stay together because they're healthy. They stay together because one person is constantly managing tension, solving problems, and carrying responsibilities that were never meant to belong to them alone. In this episode, I explore what happens when that person reaches their limit, why the relationship often appears to get worse, and how stability and health are not always the same thing. This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling. If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don’t forget to follow the show and leave a 5-star rating so others can find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now. #Psychology #Codependency #EmotionalLabor
S5 · E23
June 15 · 1 hr 14 min
Season 5 Episode 23 - My Interview with Toke-n-Tease...
On today's show, I sat down with Toke-n-Tease to discuss her fourteen-year journey through the swinger lifestyle, non-monogamy, and personal growth. What began with a conversation with her husband in 2012 eventually became a path toward greater self-acceptance, confidence, and emotional honesty. We explored the realities of alternative relationships and the lessons she learned about herself along the way. Follow her on Fetlife - @Toke-n-Tease Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. What to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com Find me on Substack - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. Can find it where you purchase most of your ebooks. Print version out now! #Psychology #Identity #Marriage
S5 · E22
June 9 · 33 min
Season 5 Episode 22 - The Person They Fell For Slowly Disappears...
On today's show, I talk about why the person we fell for can slowly start disappearing inside a relationship. We explore how relationships gradually become responsible for our belonging, security, validation, and identity, often without either person realizing it's happening. Most importantly, we look at why this process feels like closeness while it's occurring and why so many people don't recognize the cost until much later. This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling. If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don’t forget to follow the show and leave a 5-star rating so others can find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now. #Psychology #Relationships #Identity
S5 · E21
June 2 · 20 min
Season 5 Episode 21 - Sex as Leverage, Not Desire...
On today’s show, I’m talking about why what feels like desire is often something else entirely. How sex stops being the goal and becomes the moment people use to figure out where they stand. And why once that shift happens, you’re no longer chasing the person, you’re chasing what it’s supposed to mean. This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling. If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind Don’t forget to follow the show and leave a 5-star rating so others can find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode? Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now. #Psychology #Relationships #Attachment
S5 · E20
May 26 · 43 min
Season 5 Episode 20 - You Knew What That Meant...
On today’s show, I discuss the strange ways people try to communicate attraction, interest, tension, and emotional vulnerability without ever fully saying what they mean directly. From jokes that are not really jokes to “just curious” questions and vague comments loaded with implication, I get into how people test, hint, and watch reactions closely while trying to avoid the risk of direct rejection, and how that ambiguity can slowly become frustrating, emotionally exhausting, and difficult to escape. This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur. Explore their collection here: ⁠⁠⁠https://nothosaur.com/⁠⁠⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack If you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠ I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most of your eBooks. Print version out now! #Psychology #Vulnerability #Communication
S5 · E19
May 19 · 42 min
Season 5 Episode 19 - What Happens After You Say It...
On today’s show, I’m talking about what happens after something vulnerable is said in a relationship. Not the buildup, not the moment itself, but the shift that comes after. How things start to feel different, how people overthink the reaction, and how distance can quietly build even when nothing has actually gone wrong. This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur. Explore their collection here: ⁠⁠https://nothosaur.com/⁠⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | SubstackIf you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠ I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most of your eBooks. Print version out now! #Psychology #Vulnerability #Exposure
S5 · E18
May 12 · 42 min
Season 5 Episode 18 - The Desire You Haven’t Told Your Partner About...
On today’s show, I am talking about the desires people keep to themselves and what actually happens emotionally when they finally try to say them out loud. I get into the fear underneath these conversations, the way people quietly test emotional safety before speaking, and how quickly shame, insecurity, and defensiveness can enter the room once vulnerability is exposed. This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur. Explore their collection here: ⁠https://nothosaur.com/⁠ Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-MindDon't forget to hit the follow button and rate my show 5 stars so others may find it. Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠ Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | SubstackIf you are looking for a therapist that is knowledgeable about the lifestyle, or just a therapist in general, please feel free to reach out through my website at ⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠ I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most of your eBooks. Print version out now! #Psychology #Desire #Shame

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