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The Kam Perspective

Kam

The Kam Perspective is about understanding people, relationships, faith, purpose, and yourself in a way that actually makes sense.

I’m Kam, and every episode takes a problem people usually overcomplicate and breaks it down into something clear, practical, and usable.

No empty motivation.

No pretending life is simple.

Just honest conversations, uncomfortable truths, better ways to think, communicate, grow, and live…

and the occasional yap sessions🙃

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October 26 · 10 min
why you need to die
Hey kids this is a “why you need to die (psychologically)” video. And before anybody gets concerned, no, I'm not talking about physically dying :)I think one of the strangest things about being human is how easily we become attached to the person we think we are. We spend years building stories about ourselves, convincing ourselves that certain behaviors, fears, insecurities, and habits are simply part of our personalities.And sometimes we become so busy protecting that identity that we forget we're allowed to change it.So I hope this video helps you understand the relationship between your identity, your ego, the stories you've told yourself, and why growing into someone new sometimes requires letting an older version of yourself go.Because not everything you've been is something you're obligated to remain.You can appreciate who you were, take responsibility for who you are, and deliberately build who you're becoming.You don't always find yourself. Sometimes, you have to outgrow yourself.Feel free to leave a comment because I love to talk! Also taking suggestions for future videos :)Go to https://nor3mak.com/ if you'd like to work through something more personally with me!
October 20 · 8 min
How to Bully Your Bully
Hey kids this is a “how to bully your bully” video. I think one of the most important things you should know how to do in life is stand up for yourself. And unfortunately, a lot of people never really learn how.Some of us have gotten so used to being disrespected that we've learned to laugh at things that hurt us, stay quiet when someone embarrasses us, or constantly change ourselves hoping that people will finally treat us better.And the worst part is that sometimes we're more worried about making things uncomfortable than the person who made us uncomfortable in the first place.So I hope this video teaches you how to respond when someone tries to humiliate you, how to make disrespect uncomfortable, why you should stop trying to earn the approval of people who mistreat you, and when it's time to get someone else involved.Because standing up for yourself doesn't mean becoming cruel. It means understanding that someone else's approval is not the price you have to pay for your dignity.And please remember, you don't have to look confident to stand up for yourself. Sometimes confidence is what you get after repeatedly surviving the discomfort of doing it.Your voice can shake. You can be scared. You can even freeze and come back to the conversation later.Just don't forget that you're allowed to stand up for yourself.
October 8 · 9 min
How To Figure Out What You Actually Want In Life
Hey kids this is a “how to figure out what you actually want in life” video. I think a lot of people feel lost not because their lives are necessarily terrible, but because they have absolutely no idea what they're trying to build. And when you don't know what you want, every decision feels confusing, every path feels wrong, and everybody else's life starts looking better than yours. So I wanted to make something practical. Not another video telling you to find your purpose, follow your passion, or magically figure everything out. I want you to actually open your notes app and work through three exercises with me. We're going to figure out what you DON'T want, what the lives you're jealous of might reveal about your own desires, and how to test a direction in the real world instead of spending years imagining what your life could look like. Because I don't think you need to have the next twenty years figured out. You need enough clarity to make your next decision a little better. Direction first. Certainty later. Feel free to leave a comment because I love to talk! I'd actually love to hear what you wrote down and what you're going to try next. Also taking suggestions for future “how to” videos! Go to https://nor3mak.com/ if you'd like to work through something more personally with me :)
October 3 · 8 min
I sincerely hope you learn this before you die
Hey kids this is a video about materialism, external validation, and the difference between building a life you genuinely want versus building one that looks impressive to other people. I think a lot of us assume materialism is just wanting expensive things. But sometimes it’s much quieter than that yk? It’s needing the money, body, relationship, job, followers, or lifestyle to prove that your life matters. And the scary part is that you can become extremely successful at building a life you don’t actually enjoy. So I hope this video makes you question what you’re chasing, what comparison is doing to your identity, and whether the things you want would still matter to you if nobody else could see them. Want money. Look good. Fall in love. Build things. Achieve things.J ust make sure underneath all of that there is still a person you actually know, a person you respect, and a life you would still want even if nobody was watching. Feel free to leave a comment because I love to talk! Also taking suggestions for future videos. Go to https://nor3mak.com/ if you’d like to work through something more personally with me :)
September 20 · 11 min
How to stand up for yourself
Hey kids this is a “how to stand up for yourself” video. I think some of us have gotten so good at keeping the peace that somebody can completely disrespect us… and somehow WE become worried about making the situation uncomfortable. Sometimes it should be uncomfortable. Standing up for yourself doesn’t mean becoming aggressive, having the perfect comeback, or suddenly becoming fearless. Sometimes your voice shakes. Sometimes you freeze. Sometimes you don’t know what you wanted to say until three hours later. You can still come back and say it. So I hope this video gives you an actual framework for those moments: speak when something crosses a line, hold your position when someone pushes back, turn repeated problems into boundaries, and actually follow through when those boundaries are crossed. Because confidence isn’t always what allows you to stand up for yourself. Sometimes confidence is what you build after repeatedly surviving the discomfort of doing it. Feel free to leave a comment because I love to talk! Also taking suggestions for future “how to” videos. Go to https://nor3mak.com/ if you want help working through something more personally with me :)
September 14 · 11 min
How to Argue With Anyone
Hey kids. This is a “how to argue with anyone” video. I think a lot of people assume a good argument is just having the better point, but you can be completely right and communicate it so badly that nobody wants to hear you.So I hope this video gives you actual tools for difficult conversations: understand what the other person is really saying, separate behavior from identity, present your point in a way that can actually be received, and know what you’re trying to resolve before the conversation turns into a fight about everything.Because good arguments are not just emotionally mature. They’re structured.The goal isn’t to make somebody lose. It’s to understand their point, make yours clear, and leave with something actually resolved.Feel free to leave a comment because I love to talk! Also taking suggestions for future “how to” videos. Go to https://nor3mak.com/ if you want help working through something more personally with me :)
August 29 · 17 min
How to be a Good Partner
Hey kids this is a “how to be a good partner” video. (Back in college so I've been busy. also sorry the audio is a bit butchered but only at the start!) I think everybody wants a healthy, understanding, loving partner, but not enough people stop to ask whether they know how to be one too. Being a good partner is not just “don’t cheat,” “communicate,” and “be nice.” It’s learning the person in front of you, sacrificing without abandoning yourself, repairing the things you break, and protecting the relationship from your own ego when conflict gets hard .So I hope this video helps you love people in a way that actually reaches them instead of only loving them in the way that feels natural to you. Because good relationships are not built by two perfect people. They’re built by two people who keep learning each other, adjusting, repairing, and choosing not to destroy the person they’re supposed to solve problems with. Everybody wants a good partner. Make sure the person you choose gets one too. Feel free to leave a comment because I love to talk! Also taking suggestions for future “how to” videos. Would love suggestions! Go to https://nor3mak.com/ if you'd like to work through something more personally with me one-on-one
August 13 · 14 min
How to choose a good partner
Hey kids this is a “how to choose a good partner” video. I think a lot of people date backwards. We meet someone, feel chemistry, get attached, imagine a future together… and THEN start asking whether we’re actually compatible.And by that point, we reallyyyy want the answer to be yes.So I hope this video helps you slow that process down. Figure out what you actually need before someone shows up, separate chemistry from compatibility, observe who they really are over time, and then decide whether the person in front of you actually fits the life you’re trying to build.Because liking someone is not the same thing as being compatible with them. And feeling something quickly does not mean you have to choose quickly.Fall in love. Love is beautiful. Just don’t let attachment make the decision before observation finishes.Feel free to leave a comment because I love to talk! Also taking suggestions for future “how to” videos. Would love suggestions! Go to https://nor3mak.com/ for amazing advice with me :)
August 8 · 7 min
How to be Vulnerable
Hey kids this is a “how to be vulnerable” video. I think a lot of people want deeper relationships without realizing how much of themselves they’ve learned to hide.You make a joke. Say “I’m fine.” Change the subject. Hint at what you need instead of asking for it. And sometimes that isn’t because you don’t know how to communicate. Somewhere along the way, being honest stopped feeling safe.So I hope this video helps you understand what vulnerability actually looks like: helping people understand the story behind what you feel, asking directly for what you need, and then doing the scary part—giving them the opportunity to respond.Because vulnerability isn’t telling everybody everything. It’s allowing the right people to actually know you.Feel free to leave a comment because I love to talk! Also taking suggestions for future “how to” videos. Would love to hear them! Go to https://nor3mak.com/ if you’d like to work through something with me one-on-one :)
August 1 · 6 min
How to Stand Up to Your Parents
Hey kids this is a “how to stand up to your parents” video. I think one of the hardest transitions into adulthood is realizing that loving your parents and living your own life are not mutually exclusive.A lot of us become adults everywhere except around our parents. We overexplain, panic, change our minds, or ask for permission when what we’re really looking for is approval. The problem isn’t that we don’t know what we want. It’s that disappointing the people who raised us can feel terrifying.So I hope this video gives you a practical framework for making your own decisions, communicating them with respect, and setting boundaries without becoming disrespectful. Because standing up to your parents isn’t about winning an argument. It’s about learning to respect them without surrendering your adulthood.Feel free to leave a comment because I love to talk! Also taking suggestions for future “how to” videos. I’d love to hear them! Go to https://nor3mak.com/ if you’d like to work through these conversations with me one-on-one :)
July 28 · 9 min
How to Mind Your Business
Hey kids this is a “how to mind your business” video. I think one of the most overlooked signs of emotional maturity is realizing that not every thought, opinion, or emotional reaction deserves to become someone else’s problem.A lot of people mistake personal discomfort for moral responsibility. They see someone wearing something they wouldn’t wear, believing something they don’t believe, or living differently than they would—and suddenly feel the need to correct them. (boo!)But disagreement is not the same as harm.So I hope this video helps you recognize the difference between preference and principle, understand why certain harmless choices trigger such strong reactions, and learn the three questions I ask before deciding whether something is actually my business.Because maturity isn’t agreeing with everything you see. It’s learning that you can dislike something without needing it to stop existing.Feel free to leave a comment because I love to talk! Also taking suggestions for future “how to” videos. I’d love to hear them! Go to https://nor3mak.com/ if you’d like to work through situations like this one-on-one :)

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