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Emma | Psychology of Desire

The Erotic Realm is the world's leading Erotic Psychology podcast, exploring the psychology of desire, kink, intimacy and erotic identity through conversations with kinksters, researchers, educators and experts.

Hosted by Emma, Sexologist and founder of Psychology of Desire, each episode explores the erotic realm of an individual one on one with a deep dive into their erotic psychology.

Join Emma and discover what your desires might be trying to teach you.

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S2 · E139
Tuesday · 1 hr 4 min
#139 The Sassy Switch: Dominance, Submission, Gender & Kink Confidence with Sassy
What happens when discovering your dominant side completely changes the way you understand your submissive one? In this episode of I'm joined by Sassy—Bethany Burgoyne—to explore switch psychology, dominance, submission, kink confidence and the freedom to let our erotic identities change. We explore: The psychology of being a BDSM switch. Moving from submissive to dominant without losing submission. How dominance transformed Sassy's kink confidence. Sadism, sensual dominance and using power as an expression of care. Body confidence, gender expression and being a non-binary woman in kink. Shame, permission and communicating kink to new or vanilla partners. Queer kink communities, safeguarding and what they reveal about human desire. Why BDSM can be joyful, playful and full of laughter. Research article: BDSM Role Fluidity: A Mixed-Methods Approach to Investigating Switches Within Dominant/Submissive Binaries. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E138
October 2 · 47 min
#138 What Your Doctor Wants You to Know About Sex: STIs, PrEP & Queer Sexual Health with Dr Leigh Barlow
What does a sexual-health doctor want you to know about sex? In this episode I'm joined by Dr Leigh Barlow to explore the things your doctor really wants you to understand about sex, STIs, PrEP and sexual health. We explore: Who should get STI tests, how often, and what testing involves. The biggest STI myths people still believe. What PrEP is and how HIV prevention is changing the psychology of safer sex. What LGBTQIA+ people still encounter in healthcare — and what genuinely affirming care looks like. Why bringing pleasure into sexual-health conversations may actually help us look after ourselves better. Research article: What is the added value of incorporating pleasure in sexual health interventions? A systematic review and meta-analysis. This episode is proudly sponsored by Stigma Health. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E137
September 29 · 53 min
#137 Can You Keep Desire Alive? Female Desire, Sex & Long-Term Relationships with Caroline Hood
Does desire really die in long-term relationships — or are we misunderstanding what happens to it? In this episode I'm joined by sex therapist and clinical social worker Caroline Hood to explore female desire, sex and intimacy in long-term relationships. We explore: Why sexual desire can change in long-term relationships without disappearing. Whether “low desire” can actually be a logical response to stress, caregiving, resentment and exhaustion. The biggest myths we've inherited about female desire and spontaneous desire. What responsive desire gets right — and where we've become too rigid with the concept. How couples can cultivate eroticism, intimacy and desire when life never seems to calm down. Research article: Maintaining Sexual Desire in Long-Term Relationships: A Systematic Review and Conceptual Model This episode is proudly sponsored by Magic Motion. Grab 10% off their toys here using code EMMA10. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E136
September 26 · 1 hr 22 min
#136 When Your Master Dies: MJ's Girl on Love, Loss & 21-Years of M/s Relationship
What happens to your identity as a slave when the Master you've belonged to for 21 years dies? In this episode I'm joined by Kim — MJ's Girl, who shares the story of her 21-year Master/slave relationship with Master Joe, and what happened to love, submission and identity after his death. We explore: What 21 years in a Master/slave relationship taught Kim about love and submission. The difference between being a slave and a submissive. Why this fiercely independent woman chose to give one particular man her submission. The psychology of collaring, ownership and erotic identity. What happens to a slave identity after the death of a Master. How continuing bonds may help us understand carrying a BDSM relationship forward through grief. Research article: Internalized versus externalized continuing bonds: Relations to grief, trauma, attachment, openness to experience, and posttraumatic growth. This episode is proudly sponsored by Stigma Health. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E135
September 18 · 1 hr 9 min
#135 The Psychology of Ownership: Total Power Exchange, Erotic Identity & the Desire to Own with RednBlack
What happens when the kink you're having is no longer the kink you actually want? In this episode I'm joined by RednBlack to explore the psychology of ownership, Total Power Exchange, sadism and erotic identity. After years within kink, Red experienced a moment that changed the direction of her erotic life: driving home from a fetish event and realising that pickup play was leaving her feeling empty. That realisation forced a different question — what did she actually desire? We explore: The psychology of ownership and Total Power Exchange (TPE). Why kinky experiences can still leave us feeling erotically unfulfilled. Red's journey through dominance, sadism and deeper power exchange. Leather culture, identity and the history and meaning carried through coloured hankies. The tension between being an academic and openly kinky. Why different people can be drawn to BDSM for very different psychological reasons. Research article: The Psychology of Kink: A Cross-Sectional Survey Study Investigating the Roles of Sensation Seeking and Coping Style in BDSM-Related Interests. This episode is proudly sponsored by Stigma Health. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E134
September 15 · 1 hr 24 min
#134 The Psychology of Male Dominance: Justin on Power, Masculinity & Submission
Can a man learn to be Dominant — or is dominance something you either have or you don't? In this episode I'm joined by Justin, founder of The Dominance Academy, to explore the psychology of male dominance, masculinity and consensual power exchange. We explore: Whether male dominance can be learned. The difference between embodying dominance and performing it. Justin's four pillars of a Dominant man: self-containment, earned authority, erotic mastery and relational leadership. Why authority must be earned before someone can responsibly hold another person's submission. The difference between consensual dominance and men who simply want control over women. How BDSM and Dominant/submissive relationships can become pathways for personal transformation. Research article: To Know Thyself: A Qualitative Exploration of Motivating Factors for BDSM and Kink Participants Who Hold Dominant Identities. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E133
September 11 · 1 hr 1 min
#133 The Psychology of Mismatched Desire: The Kink Consultant Amanda Dames on Sex & Relationships
What happens when you love each other — but you don't want the same things sexually? In this episode I'm joined by Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant, to explore the psychology of mismatched desire, sexual compatibility and kink in relationships. We explore: What mismatched sexual desire looks like inside relationships. Why telling our partner what we really want can feel extraordinarily vulnerable. Whether an apparent “low desire” partner might simply not be having the kind of sex that activates their desire. What BDSM and kink can teach conventional couples about negotiating desire, boundaries and consent. The surprisingly complicated question: is sex actually a need? Research article: Strategies for Mitigating Sexual Desire Discrepancy in Relationships This episode is proudly sponsored by Stigma Health. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E132
September 8 · 49 min
#132 Kink & Neurodivergence: BDSM, Mental Health & Consent with Auntie Vice
What's missing when the standard rules of kink assume everybody's brain works the same way? In this episode Auntie Vice returns to explore the intersection of BDSM, neurodivergence and mental health — and her new book, Kinky & Complicated. So much BDSM advice assumes that we can identify exactly what we want, clearly communicate our boundaries and recognise when something changes. But what happens when the way we process sensation, emotion, desire or communication works differently — or changes over time? We explore: How neurodivergence can shape BDSM, kink and desire. Why BDSM's explicit rules and negotiations may work particularly well for some neurodivergent people. Consent and communication when someone's capacity or mental state changes. The impact of medication and menopause on neurodivergence, sexuality and kink. Why BDSM can be psychologically beneficial without being therapy. The complicated distinction between consensual BDSM pain and self-injury. Research article: A Preliminary Investigation into Intersections of Sexual Communication in Bondage, Domination, Sadomasochism and Disability. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E131
September 4 · 56 min
#131 What Your Sexual Fantasies Reveal About You: Cat Savard on Kink, CNC & Desire
What do your sexual fantasies reveal about you? In this episode I'm joined by Cat Savard, founder of Good Ember, to explore the psychology and data behind our sexual fantasies. Link to Survey data here: https://www.goodember.com/pages/surveys We explore: What our sexual fantasies and kinks might reveal about us. What Cat's Good Ember data is revealing about people's fantasies. The psychology of consensual non-consent (CNC). Why people can fantasise about experiences they don't literally want to happen. Sexual communication and why sharing fantasies with a partner can feel so vulnerable. How couples can become more curious about each other erotically. Research article: The Role of Sexual Communication in Couples' Sexual Outcomes: A Dyadic Path Analysis. This episode is proudly sponsored by Stigma Health. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E130
September 1 · 1 hr 49 min
#130 Owning Your Kink: Living Authentically, Cults & Consent with Rain DeGrey
What happens when you stop hiding your kink and decide to fully own who you are? In this episode Rain DeGrey takes us from coming out of the kink closet and finding herself at Kink.com just three weeks later, through her evolution into sexuality education and her belief that helping people overcome shame and "own their awesome" is what she was put here to do. We explore: Coming out of the kink closet and owning your erotic identity. Why strap-ons became one of her specialist areas. Rain's experience of being in a cult — and why she left. What supporting people through their final moments of life taught her about living. Sexual shame and where we learn to judge our desires. What two decades of exploring kink have taught Rain about pleasure and authenticity. Why accepting our erotic selves can become part of living a more meaningful life. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E129
August 28 · 1 hr 4 min
#129 Desire and Your Body: Judith Swack on Shame, Trauma & Sexuality
What happens when there is a disconnect between what your mind and your body wants? In this episode I explore with Judith Swack, creator of Healing from the Body Level Up (HBLU), about sexual shame, trauma, desire and what she describes as experiencing sex from the body's point of view. We explore: Sexual shame and its impact on desire. The conflict between consciously wanting something and not feeling safe enough to want it. What Judith describes as a phobia of sexual desire. How religious and cultural messages can become attached to sexuality. A live tapping demonstration during the episode. How Judith works with unconscious patterns around sex. The relationship between the mind, body and erotic desire. Research article: Sexual Satisfaction, Sexual Attitudes, and Shame in Relation to Religiosity. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E128
August 25 · 54 min
#128 Why Financial Domination Turns People On: Money, Power & Kink with Harley
Why can giving someone your money become an act of erotic surrender? In this episode I'm joined by Harley to explore the psychology of financial domination — better known as findom — and the complex relationship between money, power, submission and desire. We explore: The psychology of financial domination and findom. Why financial domination can feel "primal". Service submission and the psychology of giving. The difference between lifestyle findom and commercial erotic labour. Why financial domination isn't necessarily reducible to sexual arousal. Negotiating boundaries within financial power exchange. The difference between financial domination and financial exploitation. Research article: Findommes, Cybermediated Sex Work, and Rinsing. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E127
August 21 · 1 hr
#127 The Psychology of Pony Play: Rapidash on Transformation, Submission & Pony Space
What happens when you don't just want to pretend to be a pony but you want to psychologically become one? In this episode I'm joined by Desmond, known in the kink community as Rapidash, for our first exploration into the psychology of pony play and human animal roleplay. We explore: What pony play actually is and why people are drawn to it. Why pony play isn't primarily sexual for Desmond. How latex, masks, bridles and tack facilitate psychological transformation. Service, devotion and the relationship between a pony and handler. The importance of community in transforming a private fantasy into an embodied identity. Whether entering pony space represents escaping yourself — or becoming more fully yourself. Research article: The Psychology of Puppy Play: A Phenomenological Investigation. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E126
August 18 · 57 min
#126 365 Days of Orgasms: Pleasure, Desire & the Psychology of Orgasm with Annette Benedetti
What happens when you commit to having an orgasm every single day for an entire year? In this episode we explore Annette's 365 Days of Orgasms journey — what began as an unusual personal experiment and evolved into a much deeper exploration of pleasure, desire, embodiment and sexuality. We explore: The psychology behind 365 consecutive days of orgasms. What women may misunderstand about their own arousal and pleasure. The relationship between orgasm, desire and sexual satisfaction. How self-pleasure can affect partnered sex. The role of embodiment, presence and psychological safety in pleasure. Whether everyone could benefit from developing a regular pleasure practice. Why the greatest sexual experiences may involve much more than orgasm. Research article: Building Blocks Toward Optimal Sexuality: Constructing a Conceptual Model. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E125
August 14 · 59 min
#125 Erotic Jealousy, Non-Monogamy & Your Passport 2 Pleasure with Ally Iseman
Can jealousy become erotic—and can we have both security and novelty in our relationships? I'm joined by Ally Iseman from Passport to Pleasure, a certified relationship coach, non-monogamy educator, pleasure advocate and speaker whose work explores how we can create more intentional relationships and more expansive erotic lives. We explore: Erotic jealousy and what happens when jealousy itself becomes part of desire. Consensual non-monogamy and how to know whether you're ready to explore it. How to talk to a monogamous partner about opening a relationship. The tension between security and erotic novelty. The mistakes people commonly make when opening relationships. Symbiosexuality—the emerging concept of attraction to the energy and dynamic between people in an existing relationship. Why designing relationships consciously may require us to question the scripts we've inherited about love. Research article: The fewer the merrier?: Assessing stigma surrounding consensually non-monogamous romantic relationships. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E124
August 11 · 1 hr 2 min
#124 The Psychology of Sacred Kink: BDSM, Spirituality & Ritual with Melissa M. Wilcox
What if some BDSM experiences aren't simply erotic—but sacred? In this episode I explore with scholar Melissa M. Wilcox about the fascinating intersection of BDSM, spirituality, religion, ritual and sexuality. We explore: Ritual, surrender and meaning within BDSM. The historical relationship between religion, pain and self-flagellation. What makes an experience feel sacred. Melissa's research process for Devotions. Feminist Wicca, LGBTQ+ Christianity and Melissa's academic journey. Why human beings create rituals in the first place. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E123
August 7 · 1 hr 21 min
#123 The Good Boy: Submission, Tantra & Latex with The Queensman
What if submission wasn't about weakness...but about finally feeling safe enough to be vulnerable? In this episode I sit down with The Queensman—a passionate submissive, service sub, tantra practitioner, latex fetishist, and the first Good Boy to appear on the podcast. We explore: What it means to identify as a Good Boy. Mommy Domme/little dynamics and unconditional love. Why service submission isn't about being a pushover. Hidden desires, shame, and self-acceptance. How tantra transformed his BDSM journey. Latex, caning, and his favourite kinks. Advice for anyone afraid to explore their desires. Research article: Sexual diversity in the United States: Results from a nationally representative probability sample of adult women and men. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E122
August 4 · 46 min
#122 The Art of Shibari: Marie Sauvage on Ritual, Presence, & Erotic Art
What if Shibari wasn't simply about rope—but about learning a new way to communicate? In this episode I chat with internationally recognised Shibari artist Marie Sauvage to explore the psychology of presence, embodiment, ritual, and the artistic language of Japanese rope bondage. We explore: How Shibari became Marie's artistic language. Why rope is about communication, not just restraint. Presence, embodiment, and interoceptive awareness. The role of trust in Japanese rope bondage. Why Marie sees performances as rituals rather than demonstrations. A feminine perspective on contemporary Shibari. Research article: Interoceptive Awareness Skills for Emotion Regulation: Theory and Approach of Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT). Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E121
July 31 · 58 min
#121 The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Jim Benson on Masculinity, Tantra & Erotic Confidence
Can men experience multiple orgasms - and if so, why aren't more people talking about it? In this episode I speak with men's sexuality coach Jim Benson to explore the psychology of masculine desire, tantra, erotic confidence, and the surprising science behind the multi-orgasmic man. We explore: What it means to become a multi-orgasmic man. The difference between orgasm and ejaculation. How tantra transforms male sexuality. Overcoming sexual shame and performance anxiety. Awakening the "sexual animal within". Why presence creates better sex. Research article: Male multiple orgasms: a descriptive study. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
S2 · E120
July 28 · 1 hr
#120 Healing Your Erotic Self: Big Bear Hug on Trauma, Boundaries & Belonging
What happens when healing from trauma changes the way you understand your desires? In this episode I chat with with Big_Bear_Hug to explore the psychology of trauma, boundaries, erotic identity, and the lifelong process of becoming ourselves. We explore: The relationship between trauma and desire. Learning healthy boundaries inside and outside kink. Navigating triggers within BDSM spaces. Finding a kink-aware therapist. Becoming a "Desire Fulfilment Entity". Belonging beyond labels. Research article: Questioning Gender and Sexual Identity in the Context of Self-Concept Clarity, Sense of Coherence and Value System. Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here. Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here. ProDx Health at home STI testing here. Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here. Kiiroo here. Luxus here. Lovense here. Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here. Desire supplement here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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