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The Christie Hoffman Show

Christie Hoffman - @christie.heals

You're not crazy, life is weird! My life had to completely fall apart before I realized how much of it was built around me staying small. 


If you’re in that weird place where you’re questioning everything and trying to understand yourself, you're in the right place! 


Every episode feels like a voice note from your friend — helping you look differently at what you’ve been through and get excited about what's coming next!!


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  • Yesterday · 58 min

    #28 - The Truth will Set You Free: Healing vs. Finances, Money is just energy, Leave at the first DARVO

    I had hundreds of thousands of followers, and I was quietly about to lose my house. This week, I’m sharing how divorce, grief, burnout, and rebuilding my life brought me here, and what happened when I finally told you the truth. We’re talking about the shame of needing help, learning to receive love, and the hard conversations that change your life! Here's the video where I finally told the truth! (and the follow up) Join the Patreon <--- We're having major discussions in here, everyday! ❤️ Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

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  • October 20 · 49 min

    #27 - You Don't Have to Go Home for the Holidays (And You're Not a Bad Person)

    We're talking about what happens when family traditions start feeling more like torture obligations, and why you're allowed to make different choices this year. (Even if someone accuses you of tearing the family apart - you're not!!!) I'm sharing some of my own holiday horror stories, what it was like finally spending Thanksgiving without all the chaos, and some practical ways to handle the guilt trips, manipulation, and inevitable family drama. And whether you decide to skip the holidays entirely or show up for 90 minutes with your own getaway car, I want you to remember something: You can trust yourself to decide who gets access to you. The pain is a portal, cutie pie. Let's go through it. ❤️ CONNECT WITH ME 💜 Join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/ChristieHoffman ✨ Book Time With Me: https://tinyurl.com/3undmryx 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christie.heals/ 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@christie.heals ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@christie.hoffman Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

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  • October 13 · 1 hr 5 min

    #26 - Birth Order, Toxic Family Roles and why you're going to be JUST FINE

    Does your birth order help explain who you became—or did the role you were assigned in your family shape you even more? Let's break down the common patterns of firstborns, middle children, youngest children, and only children, then layering in the dysfunctional family roles of the golden child, scapegoat, and invisible child. I also share my own family's story, how those childhood roles followed us into adulthood, and what it took for me to finally break free of the expectations placed on me. Because the role your family gave you doesn't have to define who you are today. ❤️ Videos mentioned in this episode: Golden Child Enabled / Lazy Golden Child Scapegoat / Black Sheep Child Invisible Child The RECLAIM Method Click here - Learn how to recognize unhealthy relationship patterns, set boundaries, rebuild your confidence, and stop abandoning yourself to keep the peace. You're not crazy, you're not alone, and you are very divinely protected. Follow me on Instagram, Tiktok and YouTube, for more videos! I love you, bye!!! ❤️ @christie.heals Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

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  • October 7 · 54 min

    #25 - Attachment Styles, Self Forgiveness, and Why the Boomers Are so Unhealed

    Does your attachment style explain why you keep ending up in the same relationship patterns? Let's break down secure, anxious, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant attachment—and how childhood experiences can shape the way we handle closeness, conflict, rejection, and intimacy as adults. I share how my own attachment patterns changed after divorce, why healing can make dating feel even more confusing at first, and what it can look like to stop repeating the same emotional cycles. T hen we answers listener questions on self-forgiveness, narcissistic parents, dreams, and why some people from our past still have such a strong hold on us. Books mentioned in this episode: Attached — Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel S. F. Heller, M.A. The Body Keeps the Score — Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving — Pete Walker Ryan Holiday / Stoicism resources Map of Human Consciousness episode The RECLAIM Method Click here - Learn how to recognize unhealthy relationship patterns, set boundaries, rebuild your confidence, and stop abandoning yourself to keep the peace. You're not crazy, you're not alone, and you are very divinely protected. Follow me on Instagram, Tiktok and YouTube, for more videos! I love you, bye!!! ❤️ @christie.heals Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

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  • September 30 · 1 hr 8 min

    #24 - If They Hate Your Boundaries, Let Them Go: Finding your voice, Alien Dreams, and Ghosting

    Boundaries are an act of love. You're not being cruel, you're saying what YOU need for the relationship to continue. Don't ever let anyyyyyyone tell you that you're not allowed to send boundaries. You're finding your voice - And you're allowed to use it!! ❤️ Things I Mentioned 👇 (Quiz) Trauma Response Assessment - I built this, send me feedback! (Book) The Book of Boundaries - EXCELLENT read!! (Book) The Wheels of Life - Chakras, spiritual awakenings (don't do audio book, there's too many diagrams and cool images) (Video) Foot Stomping Video metaphor for DARVO Don't forget, dreams that we remember are MESSAGES. It was a metaphor from your higher self. Decode it with AI, get a dream interpretation book. If you want to apply my advice to your real life, you'd love my quick course on how to stop getting manipulated. You won't come out of it the same person! Make sure to follow me on TT and Instagram! @christie.heals I love you, Byeeeee! Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

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  • September 24 · 1 hr 4 min

    #23 - Meditation & Manifestation

    Hi Cutie Pie! I love you. Here's some things I mentioned: My Eagle Spirit Guide (Soul Contract Video) My favorite Joe Dispenza Meditations Tuning into new potentials Morning / Evening meditations (shorter meditations for every day) Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

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  • September 16 · 1 hr 14 min

    #22 - Why is it so hard to feel happy? Breaking no contact, Finding peace and fighting with in laws

    Why is happiness so hard to find, even when life looks good on paper? Let's explore how our brains are wired to scan for danger and chase the next milestone, causing us to still feel empty. I personally think happiness can't exist unless there's peace, first. The problem is... peace comes from setting boundaries, leaving unhealthy relationships, and quitting the job you hate. Finding your peace will make many people upset. You have to go to WAR to create peace (but it's worth it!). I answer listener ?'s about no contact, guilt, dating, and difficult in-laws. (Here's the course I mentioned!) LOVE YOU, bye! @christie.heals Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

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  • August 26 · 55 min

    # 19 - Map of Human Consciousness, Dolly Parton and Taking your Phone in the Bathroom

    Hey, ya little cutie pie!! Here's some stuff I mentioned: The Map of Human Consciousness TABLE (not chart. heheh) MOHC Book Power Vs Force DON'T YOU DARE LET ANYONE DULL YOUR SHINE. Don't you let anyone make you think you don't have value, you're not loveable, or that you are responsible for their happiness at the cost of YOUR sanity. no. We done wit dat. I love you, you're not crazy, you're GOOD. @christie.heals Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

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  • August 20 · 1 hr 5 min

    # 18 - Trauma Responses (Fight, Flight, Fawn, Freeze)

    Have you ever needed a nap after an argument? Started shaking because you felt misunderstood? Suddenly become obsessed with fixing everything, keeping everyone happy, or getting the hell out of there? Congrats, your trauma response was activated. 🥴 In this episode, we’re breaking down fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—what they actually are, why they happen, what they can look like in everyday life. Most importantly, we’re talking about why these responses don’t mean there’s something wrong with you. Your body is communicating—not malfunctioning. Here's the Breathwork I mentioned, Joe Dispenza's meditations, along with the book Complex PTSD if you really want to go deeper into your childhood healing. ❤️ You are not alone, I love you, always! @christie.heals Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

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  • August 12 · 1 hr 10 min

    #17 - Physical reactions to arguments, raising kids in dysfunction, and psychedelics

    Hey! It's another week of answering your questions! You asked some good ones: - How do you let go of hope that your narcissistic parents will change? - How do I reach out to my estranged daughter? - How are my kids after seeing toxic behavior from my extended family? - When / How do you recognize in your body its time to set boundaries? - How to deal with angry daughter that keeps grandkids away? - Is it normal for your parents to lose interest as you age? - Why can't parents show they care about how their child feels? - What was the straw that broke your back to no longer tolerate the intolerable? - How to start dating after 9 years of a break? - What psychadelics have you tried? Thank you for taking the poll in my stories, I LOVE answering your questions. More on instagram @christie.heals and you can take my course on manipulation here! Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

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  • August 5 · 44 min

    #16 - Answering all of your questions ❤️ (Parent Guilt, Red flags in friendships, Astrology, Human Design, DARVO, Divorce

    Thanks everyone for your questions, I'll answer more in the next episode! If you want help with boundaries, resonding to DARVO, and dealing with difficult people, you're going to love the quick course I made you. It's not your job to change people. Focus all that energy on what you can control, and watch your life completeky transform! You're doing great, You're very loved. You are NEVER alone. Love, Christie @christie.heals Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

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  • July 29 · 32 min

    #15 - FOUR things to transform your life fast + the sleepover that just won't end

    If you feel stuck like you were meant for more, I was too. I was miserable, I felt like I was floundering. Here's exactly how I got unstuck. 1. Follow your whimsy 2. Stop hanging out with losers 3. Envision your future (free Joe Dispenza meditation) 4. Meet your Shadow self (I used this journal) Is it easy? No. Is it worth it? YESSSSSSSS. Do it for the plot, baby. You're doing great!!! I love you, Check out the course! ❤️ BYE! @christie.heals Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

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  • July 23 · 29 min

    #14 - DARVO and How to Respond to Losers

    Ever apologized for something you didn't do? You got DARVO'd by an unhealed goof ball. DARVO stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. aka: some people are so scared of taking accuntability they'd rather make you feel like the problem than say sorry. That's some victim mentality ish. ⭐ You're not crazy. Here's a cheat sheet. ⭐ 👉 And here's the Manipulation course I love you, I don't want you to feel unlvable my immature adults who can't self-regulate. You're safe with me always. I believe you, and I believe IN you! Love you, bye @christie.heals Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

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  • July 9 · 52 min

    #12 - Sibling Betrayal, Marriage Pancakes, and 3 Headed Fanged Babies

    Hey! Sibling betrayal is messy stuff. I've been there, and I want you to know you're not crazy. Here's some stuff I mentioned... Make sure I have your email! Stop asking people WHY they did what they did to you I think there was a 3rd, I have to listen back or send me a DM! Keep going, I love you! BYE! @christie.heals Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

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  • July 2 · 1 hr 4 min

    #11 - Viral Chaos, ADHD is a Gift, & How to Stop Feeling Guilty After No Contact

    Hi ya little cutie....How ya healin? Here's some stuff I mentioned: (DM me if the links don't work) FREE manipulation guide + teaser to my course Mother / Daughter Dance off Book Reccomendations Spittin' truth while curling my hair Black Sheep = GOAT We go all oevr the place in this episode, maybe one day I'll have a producer and we cna add chapter markers. Until then.... just jump around until you find a part you needed to hear, or listen to the whole thing while folding laundry / running errands! I LOVE YOU - You will be ok. I promise!! WHatever happened to you, I BELIEVE you. You didn't deserve it. You are not crazy, you are not the problem. You are the one who *noticed and named* the problem. That makes you a cycle breaker. and you should be dang proud. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOUR SON, CHARLOTTE! (not my daughter, my fav listener!) GO TO BED DRINK SOME WATER GO BE THE GOAT love you, baiyeee @christie.heals Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

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  • June 6 · 47 min

    #9 - Trauma bonds, choosing your hard, being the main character of your movie

    Oh, HEYY! Here's some things I talked about. Wig video where toxic mom stomps on my foot Video on my abusive marriage Trauma bonds are very common for people who experienced an abusive childhood. It's a strong emotional attachment to someone who abuses you sometimes, followed by some good times. It's like you can't quit the stuff. It's addictive. You're not weak if this has happened to you, it's a testimant to your empathy. Follow me for more, @christie.heals on TikTok and Instagram! Send Me Fan Mail! Support the show

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