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Yesterday · 19 min
Stop Trying to Be Confident (Do This Instead)
Watch the full Confidence episode on the Solved podcast: https://mrk.mn/confidence Performance builds confidence far more than confidence builds performance. Mark shares the four sources of self-efficacy, the power of starting with the smallest possible action, and stories from his years as a dating coach, when clients paid thousands only to learn that all they needed to do was say hello. Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 The Self-Esteem Movement Backfire 00:00:36 The Four Sources of Self-Efficacy 00:00:55 Mastery Experiences: The Foundation of Confidence 00:01:29 Learning from Others: The Relatability Factor 00:02:50 The Personal Growth Industry and Relatability 00:04:34 Verbal Persuasion and Credible Sources 00:07:04 The Action-First Loop: Reversing the Confidence Formula 00:07:59 Performance Shapes Confidence 3X Stronger 00:08:56 The Age Split: Kids vs Adults 00:09:50 Breaking the Catch-22: Minimum Viable Action 00:11:56 The Blogging Origin Story: Starting with Low Stakes 00:13:47 The Music School Counterexample 00:14:33 Just Beyond Your Comfort Zone 00:15:22 The Professional Wingman Era 00:16:35 Say Hello to Ten People: The Mall Exercise 00:18:48 You Have to Be Bad to Get Good ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #Confidence #SelfImprovement #Motivation #Psychology #MarkManson #SolvedPodcast
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Sunday · 11 min
Why Chasing More Never Made Me Happy
Watch the full Commitment episode on the Solved podcast: https://mrk.mn/tc7phn0t. I spent years traveling the world, dating whoever I wanted, working from a laptop anywhere on earth. It slowly made me miserable, and I want to tell you exactly why. In this one I get honest about the ADHD, the avoidant attachment, and the diminishing returns of chasing novelty on every front at once. The thing that pulled me out wasn't another adventure. It was noticing I'd rather drink beers with my old friends than raft through Indonesia. Narrowing down saved me. Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Aesthetic Life and Its Allure 00:00:31 The Wikipedia Rabbit Hole: High Openness to Experience 00:01:09 The Commitment Phobe Lifestyle: Building Around Avoidance 00:02:16 The Inflection Point: When Diminishing Returns Kicked In 00:05:06 The Three to Six Month Dip: Why Nomads Never Stay 00:05:26 The Women I Left Behind: Recognizing What Was Lost 00:05:56 The Promise That Changed Everything: Meeting His Wife 00:06:18 The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: The Antidote to Aesthetic Hell 00:06:35 A Premonition of Our Culture: The 10th Anniversary Edition 00:09:19 The Soft Skills Nobody Teaches: Community, Roots, and Rituals 00:11:00 Conclusion: Resources for Working on Commitment ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #MarkManson #Solved #DigitalNomad #Commitment #SubtleArt #SelfImprovement #Relationships
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Thursday · 9 min
Why Kierkegaard Said Anxiety Is Actually Freedom
Watch the full Commitment episode on the Solved podcast: https://mrk.mn/tc7phn0t. Your anxiety might not be fear. It might be freedom. Kierkegaard popularized the word anxiety, and his definition still hits harder than anything in a modern self help book: the dizziness of too much freedom. Every option you leave open is one you feel guilty for not taking. Drew and I unpack why standing at the edge feels worse than jumping, and why committing to something is a lot like diving into a cold pool. The dread is all before the leap. Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Kierkegaard's Revolutionary Definition of Anxiety 00:00:51 The Cliff Metaphor: Standing on the Edge of Possibility 00:01:23 Anxiety as Spiritual Depth: The Connection Between Freedom and Potential 00:02:01 The Cold Pool Metaphor: Commitment as the Antidote to Anxiety 00:02:42 Anxiety vs Fear: Why There's No Object to Dread 00:04:13 The Digital Nomad Problem: When Optionality Becomes Torture 00:04:57 The Optionality Trap: Why More Choices Made Everything Worse 00:06:23 The Evolution of Digital Nomadism: From Radical to Fashionable to Backlash 00:07:52 Commitment as a Skill: Learning to Stick With Your Choices 00:08:35 Conclusion: Resources for Working on Commitment ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #MarkManson #Solved #Anxiety #Kierkegaard #Freedom #MentalHealth #Philosophy
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September 15 · 11 min
Why Smart People Confuse Luck With Skill
Watch the full Luck episode on the Solved podcast: go.markmanson.net/h0g98i67 If you want the entire luck framework in one place, this is the clip. I tie it all together: the three types of luck, the two traps that keep people stuck (thinking it's all luck, or thinking you earned every bit of it), and why the longer you live, the more your decisions outweigh whatever you were born into. Heaven luck, earth luck, human luck, all of it, clean and practical. Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Why We Avoid Thinking About Luck 00:00:48 The Legibility Problem: How Much Control Do We Really Have? 00:01:21 The Just World Hypothesis and Two Dangerous Traps 00:02:07 The Sansai Framework: Heaven, Earth, and Human Luck 00:02:42 The Poker Analogy: Cards, Tables, and Choices 00:03:09 Heaven Luck: The Burden and Blessing of Circumstance 00:04:59 Gratitude as the Key to Heaven Luck 00:05:35 Earth Luck: High-Leverage Environmental Decisions 00:07:25 Skills That Expand Earth Luck: Social Intelligence and Open-Mindedness 00:08:21 Human Luck: Making Better Decisions Under Uncertainty 00:10:05 The Accountability System: Making Implicit Decisions Explicit ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #Luck #DecisionMaking #Mindset #SelfImprovement #Success #MarkManson #SolvedPodcast
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September 15 · 11 min
Why Smart People Confuse Luck With Skill
Watch the full Luck episode on the Solved podcast: go.markmanson.net/h0g98i67 If you want the entire luck framework in one place, this is the clip. I tie it all together: the three types of luck, the two traps that keep people stuck (thinking it's all luck, or thinking you earned every bit of it), and why the longer you live, the more your decisions outweigh whatever you were born into. Heaven luck, earth luck, human luck, all of it, clean and practical. Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Why We Ignore Luck 00:00:48 The Legibility Problem: How Much Control Do We Really Have? 00:01:21 The Just World Hypothesis: Our Brain's Natural Bias 00:01:41 Two Traps: Fatalism vs Self-Serving Delusion 00:02:08 The Sansai Framework: Heaven, Earth, and Human Luck 00:02:42 The Poker Analogy: Cards, Tables, and Choices 00:03:09 Heaven Luck: The Guilt and Responsibility Paradox 00:04:59 Gratitude as the Solution to Heaven Luck 00:05:35 Earth Luck: Increasing Your Surface Area for Serendipity 00:07:25 Skills That Expand Earth Luck: Social Skills and Open-Mindedness 00:08:21 Human Luck: Making Better Probabilistic Decisions 00:09:40 Making Intuition Explicit: The Accountability Method ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #Luck #DecisionMaking #Mindset #SelfImprovement #Success #MarkManson #SolvedPodcast
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September 13 · 11 min
The Philosopher Who Predicted Instagram in 1846
Watch the full Commitment episode on the Solved podcast: https://mrk.mn/tc7phn0t. A philosopher in 1846 predicted your Instagram feed. After a tabloid roasted him for months, Kierkegaard wrote some of the sharpest criticism of media ever put on paper. He named the thing that happens when everyone is connected to everyone: leveling, the quiet pressure to never stand out. Drew and I get into why the 19th century looked more like today than the 20th did, and why young people now barely dance, drink, or ask each other out. He called his shot 180 years early. Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Kierkegaard's Battle with the Press 00:01:02 The Personal Attacks: When Intellectual Debate Turns Ugly 00:01:52 Turning Pain into Philosophy: The Present Age 00:02:26 The Accountability Problem: Anonymous Opinions Without Consequences 00:03:09 The Phantom of Public Opinion 00:03:56 The Journalist's Trick: Manufacturing Consensus 00:04:40 The Infamous Quote: Prostitute vs Journalist 00:05:09 Leveling: How Media Destroys Individuality 00:06:27 The Commitment Problem: All Talk, No Walk 00:07:08 Social Media: Kierkegaard's Nightmare on Steroids 00:08:18 The Internet's Broken Promise 00:09:25 The Death of Dancing: Modern Examples of Leveling 00:10:26 The Global Homogenization: When Everywhere Becomes Nowhere ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #MarkManson #Solved #Kierkegaard #SocialMedia #Philosophy #Culture #Commitment
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September 10 · 10 min
Why Nobody Feels Like a Real Adult Anymore
Watch the full Commitment episode on the Solved podcast: https://mrk.mn/tc7phn0t. Why does nobody feel like a real adult anymore? For most of history, cultures had rites of passage that moved you from one identity into the next. We deleted the ritual but kept the awkward in-between phase, and now people get stuck there into their thirties. Drew and I walk through liminality, emerging adulthood, and Zygmunt Bauman's idea that commitment itself became an economic liability. By the end you'll understand why "30 is the new 20" is less of a joke than it sounds. Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Lost Rituals of Adulthood 00:00:37 The Three Stages of Rites of Passage 00:01:41 The Liminal Phase: Stuck in Between 00:02:09 Extended Adolescence: The 20-Year Teenager 00:03:09 Emerging Adulthood: A New Life Stage 00:03:52 The Numbers Don't Lie: Marriage, College, and Childbirth 00:04:42 The Economic Side: Complexity Requires Time 00:05:26 The Paradox of Choice: Too Many Life Paths 00:05:58 Liquid Modernity: When Commitment Becomes a Liability 00:07:38 The Loss of Trust and the Portfolio Career ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #MarkManson #Solved #Commitment #EmergingAdulthood #Adulthood #Psychology #Philosophy
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September 8 · 9 min
How Your Brain Tricks You Into Avoiding Decisions
Watch the full Commitment episode on the Solved podcast: https://mrk.mn/tc7phn0t. Most people think they're keeping their options open. What they're actually doing is running from a decision. In this one, Drew and I break down Kierkegaard's three stages of life and a brilliant follow-up from Walter Kaufmann, who mapped the ten sneaky ways we avoid commitment. He called it decidophobia. Drew shares the "practical" career choice that was really avoidance in disguise, and we get into why every escape hatch you build is a version of what Sartre called living in bad faith. Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Problem of Being Adrift 00:00:08 Kierkegaard's Three Stages of Life 00:00:45 The Religious Stage Isn't About Religion 00:01:12 Decidophobia: The Fear of Making Decisions 00:01:46 Drifting: Two Ways to Avoid Commitment 00:02:36 Marriage as an Escape from Decision-Making 00:03:16 Religion and the Outsourcing of Decisions 00:04:12 Stacking the Deck: Setting Yourself Up to Fail 00:04:39 Not Every Decision Deserves Full Commitment 00:05:21 The Power of Perceived Agency and Choice 00:06:09 Decidophobia in Disguise: A Personal Story 00:07:40 Bad Faith: Sartre's Take on Avoiding Responsibility 00:08:45 Outro: Full Episode and Resources ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #MarkManson #Solved #Kierkegaard #Commitment #Decidophobia #Philosophy #SelfImprovement
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September 3 · 13 min
The 4 Habits Of Extremely Lucky People
Watch the full Luck episode on the Solved podcast: go.markmanson.net/h0g98i67 After a decade of research, Richard Wiseman found that lucky people share four specific habits. None of them are mystical, and every one of them can be learned. In this clip Drew and I walk through all four, and I get honest about which ones I actually live and which one took me years to figure out. Plus the true story of the networking dinner nobody wanted to go to that ended up changing our whole team. Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Four Principles of Earth Luck 00:00:13 Principle 1: Maximizing Opportunities When They Appear 00:01:38 Principle 2: Trusting Your Gut Instinct 00:03:00 Napoleon's Foundation: Reading and Rapid Decision-Making 00:03:43 Principle 3: Expecting Good Things to Happen 00:04:13 Principle 4: Transforming Bad Luck Into Good Luck 00:04:34 Personal Reflections: Which Principle Drives Your Luck? 00:05:42 The Steph Story: A Real-World Example of Manufactured Luck 00:08:07 Mark's Origin Story: Spotting the Future of Media 00:10:40 Surface Area and Presence: The New York Experiment ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #Luck #Habits #SelfImprovement #Success #PersonalGrowth #MarkManson #SolvedPodcast
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September 1 · 14 min
How Napoleon Manufactured His Own Luck
Watch the full Luck episode on the Solved podcast: go.markmanson.net/h0g98i67 Napoleon was the poorest, smallest, most bullied kid at his academy, and he became maybe the most statistically improbable commander in history. I read the whole biography this year and could not stop thinking about him. In this one I get into how he manufactured his own luck: obsessing over high-leverage skills before anyone else did, crossing the Alps when every strategist said it was impossible, and eating dinner with his foot soldiers. It looks like luck from the outside. It wasn't. Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Bullied Boy Who Became Emperor 00:01:43 The Early Signs of Genius: Artillery and Strategic Positioning 00:02:49 The Voracious Reader: Building Compounded Knowledge 00:03:51 Revolutionary Advantage: Understanding Both Sides of History 00:04:56 Spotting High Leverage Opportunities: The Pattern of Success 00:06:24 Crossing the Alps: The Impossible Made Possible 00:08:00 Manufacturing Luck Through Earth Luck Mastery 00:08:46 The Campfire General: Building Loyalty Through Connection 00:10:38 The Statistical Impossibility: Napoleon's Battle Record 00:12:30 Are You Lucky? The Question Behind the Question ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #Luck #Leadership #Discipline #Success #MarkManson #SolvedPodcast
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August 30 · 10 min
Confidence Comes From Evidence, Not Your Thoughts
Watch the full Confidence episode on the Solved podcast: https://mrk.mn/confidence Confidence is built, not felt. Mark and Drew unpack Bandura's famous snake-phobia experiment, how "guided mastery" cured lifelong fears in a single afternoon, and why that same principle proves confidence is domain-specific and built from real evidence. Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 The Classic Snake Phobia Experiment 00:00:47 The Severity of Real Phobias 00:01:27 Guided Mastery: The Simple Intervention 00:02:30 The Birth of Exposure Therapy 00:02:51 The Unexpected Confidence Transfer 00:03:45 Act First, Believe Second 00:04:57 Domain-Specific Confidence 00:05:57 Self-Determination Theory and Competence 00:06:40 The Peel Paradox: Getting the Wrong Lesson 00:07:36 Self-Efficacy: The Three Key Features 00:09:16 Building Confidence from Adolescence Forward ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #Confidence #SelfEfficacy #Bandura #Psychology #SelfImprovement #MarkManson #SolvedPodcast
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August 27 · 10 min
The Career Bet That Pays 1000x More
Watch the full Luck episode on the Solved podcast: go.markmanson.net/h0g98i67 Some games are rigged in your favor before you play a single hand. A lucky dentist is barely better off than an unlucky one. A lucky musician is a millionaire. In this clip Drew and I break down power laws and why the game you choose, the industry, the career, the city, matters more than how hard you grind inside it. I use my own book as the case study, because the numbers there genuinely messed with my head. Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Earth Luck and the Poker Table Analogy 00:00:54 Power Laws: Why Some Tables Have Bigger Pots 00:01:22 The Dentist vs The Entrepreneur: Flat Success Curves 00:02:25 Asymmetric Returns: When 1% Better Means 100x More 00:03:10 The Publishing Power Law: 20,000x Returns on 2x Quality 00:04:02 The Music Industry Game: 999 Fail, 1 Wins Big 00:04:45 Lucky Musicians vs Lucky Dentists: Context Matters 00:05:34 Napoleon's Strategy: Positioning for Power Law Moments 00:06:53 Historical Power Law Windows: Computing and Social Media 00:07:50 Zuckerberg's Repeated Bets: Building Until One Hits 00:08:55 Surfing the Waves: AI and the Next Big Opportunity 00:09:46 Asymmetric Bets: Minimal Downside, Massive Upside ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #Luck #CareerAdvice #Entrepreneurship #Luck #Mindset #MarkManson #SolvedPodcast
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August 25 · 16 min
You Can't Change Your Luck. Do This Instead
Watch the full Luck episode on the Solved podcast: go.markmanson.net/h0g98i67 Drew grew up in a small town in the middle of nowhere and spent years convincedheI got dealt a bad hand. He was wrong, and it took him a long time to see it. In this one we get into why the internet quietly makes almost everyone feel less fortunate than they are, how gratitude is really about widening your frame of reference, and the mental traps that keep you from reading your own luck straight. Including the guy who was born on third base and thinks he hit a triple. Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Small Town Luck Paradox 00:01:18 Frame of Reference: The Hidden Cost of the Internet 00:02:26 The Depression Era Lesson: We Didn't Know We Were Poor 00:02:46 Why We Can't Interpret Heaven Luck Correctly 00:03:08 Actor-Observer Bias: Why You're Unlucky But They're Irresponsible 00:05:11 Gratitude as Frame Expansion: The Cosmic Lottery 00:09:12 The Attentional Scope Effect: How Gratitude Creates Luck 00:11:31 Two Ways to Screw Up Heaven Luck 00:13:00 The Moral Duty of Fortune: Buffett and Compassion 00:15:33 The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy of Perceived Luck ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #Luck #Mindset #Perspective #SelfImprovement #Psychology #MarkManson #SolvedPodcast
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August 23 · 8 min
Your Life Is A Game Of Poker. Here's How To Win
Watch the full Luck episode on the Solved podcast: go.markmanson.net/h0g98i67 People burn a lot of energy fighting over whether success is luck or skill. Wrong fight. In this one I break down the framework that reorganized how I think about all of it: San Sai, an ancient Chinese model that splits luck into three kinds. The luck you're born with, the environment you put yourself in, and the way you play your hand. Two of the three you can actually work on. If life is poker, this is the difference between the cards, the table, and how you play them. Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 Luck Is Perception: The Newspaper Experiment 00:01:15 The Coffee Shop Test: Money and Connections 00:01:47 Luck as a Learnable Skill 00:02:15 Why Poker Matters: Risk and Decision-Making 00:02:57 Seeing Yourself Lucky Creates Lucky Outcomes 00:03:43 The Resistance to Thinking About Luck 00:04:24 Effort, Output, and the Fairness Instinct 00:04:58 The Birth Lottery and Social Justice 00:05:49 The Self-Worth Problem: Why Am I Unlucky? 00:06:47 The Just World Hypothesis ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #Luck #Success #Mindset #Psychology #SelfImprovement #MarkManson #SolvedPodcast
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August 20 · 8 min
How Lucky Are You Really?
Watch the full Luck episode on the Solved podcast: go.markmanson.net/h0g98i67 Two babies are born on the same day, one in Norway, one in Sierra Leone, and one of them will live 21 years longer. Neither picked a thing. This is the luck everyone fixates on, and it's also the luck you're worst at interpreting. In this clip I run the actual numbers, get into the philosopher's thought experiment that reframes the whole thing (the veil of ignorance), and tell the story of a pastor in Sierra Leone who stumbled onto a $10 million diamond. Because luck is always relative. Lucky compared to what? Good luck, bad luck, who knows? Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 The Birth Lottery: Norway vs Sierra Leone 00:01:44 What Do We Do With This Information? 00:02:25 The Veil of Ignorance: John Rawls' Thought Experiment 00:03:44 The Pastor and the Diamond: When Luck Defies Circumstances 00:04:35 Luck Is Always Relative 00:05:42 The Chinese Farmer and the Horse: A Timeless Fable 00:07:34 Choosing Your Frame of Reference ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #Philosophy #Perspective #Mindset
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August 18 · 9 min
Why Lucky People Find More Money
Watch the full Luck episode on the Solved podcast: go.markmanson.net/h0g98i67 Why do two people walk into the same coffee shop and one spots the cash on the floor while the other walks right past it? Richard Wiseman ran the studies, and the results are wild. Lucky people literally see more of what's in front of them. In this clip Drew and I get into how luck behaves like a skill you can train, and why we get so squirmy the second someone suggests our success came down to luck instead of genius. Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: Why the West Struggles with Luck 00:01:06 Ancient Greece and Rome: Luck as Fickle Fortune 00:01:30 Boethius and the Wheel of Fortune 00:02:06 Medieval Christianity: Everything as God's Will 00:02:35 Machiavelli's River: The Renaissance Breakthrough 00:03:14 The Enlightenment: Probability and Risk Assessment 00:04:13 The Tension Between Fate and Agency 00:04:52 Sansai: The Ancient Chinese Framework for Luck 00:05:34 Heaven Luck: The Birth Lottery You Cannot Control 00:06:08 Earth Luck: The Systems and Environments You Choose 00:07:39 Human Luck: Your Decisions and Adaptability 00:07:58 The Poker Analogy: Cards, Tables, and Skill 00:08:29 The Most Important Decision: Choosing Your Table ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠
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August 16 · 20 min
Myers-Briggs Is a Horoscope for Smart People
Watch the full Change episode on the Solved podcast: https://mrk.mn/change You've probably taken the Myers-Briggs test, put your type in a LinkedIn bio, or had a boss organize your team around it. In this clip, Drew and I get into why that four-letter label is closer to a horoscope than a science. I tell the real story of where MBTI came from: not a lab, but a mother-daughter pair working from a dining room table during World War II, building on Jung's ideas even though Jung himself warned against boxing people into types. We get into the numbers that should give you pause, like the fact that a third to half of people get a different result when they retake the test weeks later, and why it predicts almost none of the things the Big Five actually predicts. Then we get to the part that matters: why slapping a label on yourself isn't harmless fun. Labels become self-fulfilling, they turn into a responsibility shield, and an inaccurate one can have you fighting your own nature for years. Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 The Paradox of Self-Awareness 00:02:45 The Origins of Myers-Briggs 00:06:11 How MBTI Became a Corporate Phenomenon 00:09:34 The Scientific Problems with MBTI 00:12:15 Why We're So Drawn to Personality Tests 00:13:07 The Barnum Effect and Confirmation Bias 00:14:43 Why Inaccurate Labels Are Dangerous 00:16:43 The False Sense of Certainty 00:17:48 When Labels Can Be Useful 00:19:34 Traits vs Adaptations: The Crucial Distinction ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #MyersBriggs #MBTI #PersonalityTest #Psychology #Pseudoscience #SelfAwareness #PersonalityTypes #BarnumEffect #Astrology #SelfImprovement #MarkManson #SOLVEDPodcast
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August 13 · 18 min
Why Positive Thinking Ruins Your Life
Watch the full Confidence episode on the Solved podcast: https://mrk.mn/confidence Do affirmations actually work? Mark and Drew go through the research on affirmations, vision boards, and power posing, why most of it failed to replicate, and how affirmations can actually make people with low self-esteem feel worse. Plus the WOOP method that makes visualization genuinely useful. Chapters ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #Affirmations #PowerPosing #Visualization #Confidence #Psychology #MarkManson #SolvedPodcast
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August 12 · 15 min
The Anxious Preacher Who Invented Modern Confidence
Watch the full Confidence episode on the Solved podcast:https://mrk.mn/confidence Nearly every piece of confidence advice we have inherited traces back to one anxious 1940s preacher, Norman Vincent Peale, and his book The Power of Positive Thinking. Mark and Drew break down the "feel fallacy," the mistaken belief that you have to feel confident before you can perform, and the surprising fact that the term "con man" comes from "confidence man." Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 The Origins of Modern Confidence Advice 00:00:45 The Birth of Positive Thinking 00:01:42 From Personal Hack to Global Phenomenon 00:03:03 The Peel Fallacy Explained 00:03:33 Why the Fallacy Persists 00:04:36 The Problem with One-Size-Fits-All Solutions 00:05:57 Early Critics and the Confidence Man 00:07:49 The Cult of Positive Thinking 00:10:00 From Heresy to Mainstream Culture 00:11:01 The Millennial Backlash and Modern Cynicism 00:13:27 Personal Rituals vs Universal Solutions ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #Confidence #SelfHelp #Psychology #PositiveThinking #MarkManson #SolvedPodcast
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August 9 · 11 min
How to Actually Change Your Life
Watch the full Change episode on the Solved podcast: https://mrk.mn/change Most people who try to change themselves are working on the wrong layer, and that's why they keep failing. In this clip, Drew and I lay out the framework that runs through the entire Change episode: the self operates on three layers at once. Your personality traits are the base, your natural set point, and they barely move. On top of that sit your adaptations, the identities and habits you build to work with your traits and your environment. And at the surface is your behavior, which you can change tomorrow. The mistake almost everyone makes comes down to two errors: treating a trait like a behavior ("I'll be an extrovert starting Monday") or treating a behavior like a trait ("I never go to the gym, I guess I'm lazy"). I get into how I built a whole "party guy" identity in college to work around being introverted, why Allport, Mischel, and even Freud were each partly right, and why real change always starts at the top, with behavior, and works its way down. Chapters Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction: The Three Layers of Self 00:00:29 Layer One: Personality Traits as Your Natural Set Point 00:00:45 Layer Two: Building Adaptations Around Your Personality 00:01:52 Layer Three: Behavior as the Expression of Identity 00:02:25 Bottom-Up vs Top-Down: Two Perspectives on Change 00:03:41 The Two Fundamental Errors of Change 00:05:35 Accepting Your Traits and Aligning Your Adaptations 00:07:26 Why Everyone Was Right: Integrating Personality Theories 00:09:17 Roadmap for Change: Which Layers Can Actually Shift 00:10:03 The One Way to Change Your Life Overnight ⇨ Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://go.markmanson.net/msub25ez ⇨ Get clarity on what actually matters. Try Purpose, Mark's AI mentor app that learns your patterns, challenges your blind spots, and helps you take action. Get started at https://go.markmanson.net/8owt1jc4 FOLLOW MARK Mark's IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson⁠ Solved IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/solvedpodcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/markmanson⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/⁠ #HowToChange #BehaviorChange #Habits #Psychology #SelfAwareness #ChangeYourLife #Personality #PersonalDevelopment #MarkManson #SOLVEDPodcast #SelfImprovement #PersonalGrowth
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