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Oversharing

Betches Media

Oversharing from Betches Media is all about the challenges we face in all kinds of relationships; from friendships to family, long term partnerships or even dealing with the customer service rep that makes you want to scream into a pillow. Betches co-founder and relationship enthusiast Jordana Abraham has teamed up with her big sister, licensed clinical therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein, to answer your questions and try to get to the bottom of the things that bother us most. Think of Jordana and Dr. Naomi as your BFF and your therapist, sitting side-by-side at the brunch table trying to help you get through your problems. Each week they’re responding to listener emails, tackling difficult ethical questions, playing games, and so much more. Because sometimes we really need advice from people with no skin in the game. And let’s face it, your friends can’t stand to hear that story one more time.

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#250
Tuesday · 1 hr 17 min
Why Did My Entire Friend Group Drop Me?
This week on Oversharing, Dr. Naomi is getting a crash course in Texas homecoming culture as her family navigates their first season of elaborate “mums,” homecoming proposals, and all the teenage social dynamics that come with them. Then, a listener grieving the loss of her lifelong friend group wonders how to forgive herself and start over socially in her 30s, while a granddaughter who lost her mom finds herself unexpectedly promoted to “daughter” and questions how much responsibility she owes her aging grandmother. An Intention comes from a newly divorced listener learning who she is when she’s not being a wife, mom, employee, or looking for another relationship. In Triggered, a mother-in-law offers $20K toward a house, only to call her son “presumptuous” when he follows up on the offer. Finally, a listener receives the terrifying words “lymphoma suspected” in her medical results but hears nothing from her doctor for days. Can someone please fix the way medical results are delivered? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
September 15 · 1 hr 13 min
Why Does My Fiancé Give Me The Ick?
This week Jordana and Dr. Naomi are tackling what happens when trust, attraction, and even your career suddenly feel a little shaky. First, an oversharing husband... that's right, a male listener, is trying to rebuild his marriage after financial betrayal and infidelity and wonders how long it takes to earn back trust. Then, a Betchisist with an otherwise amazing fiancé has one problem she can’t seem to shake: his deeply cringey dance moves are giving her the ick just in time for their wedding. An Intention seeker is struggling with post-wedding regret and asks how to forgive herself after enforcing her child-free wedding rule in a way she regretted. In Triggered, a listener questions whether a friend’s questionable use of the “service dog” loophole says something bigger about her character, and how much our friends’ moral choices should affect the way we see them. Finally, a new mom returns from maternity leave only to discover the men she trained may have taken over her responsibilities. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#248
September 8 · 1 hr 3 min
Why Am I Freaking Out About My Timeline?
This week on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi are asking: how much of our anxiety is actually ours, and how much did we inherit from our parents? They unpack how parents can unintentionally pass down their own fears about marriage, babies, and timelines—and why sometimes caring too much makes your kids stop telling you things. Then, a listener is dreading the return of a former friend who has overstayed more than just her welcome, but is the real problem the friend or the group chat that bonded over complaining about her? A Betchesist has a dirty little secret: she lets her dog sleep in the bed whenever her fiancé is out of town, despite his strict no-pets-on-the-furniture rule. Next, a newly single 27-year-old is spiraling over starting from scratch while everyone around her seems to be getting married, buying houses, and having babies. In Triggered, a new mom wonders whether she was justified in losing it when her husband immediately ignored the baby sleep schedule she spent months perfecting. Finally, when did turning 34 require a $200 weeknight celebration, and are you allowed to just RSVP no? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
September 1 · 51 min
Can My Pregnancy News Hurt My Best Friend?
This week on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi are clearing out their algorithms, and maybe a little mental clutter along the way. They start with a listener struggling with mom rage, parental burnout, and the guilt of hitting her limit, and discuss why lowering the bar can sometimes be the healthiest thing you can do. Then, a newly pregnant Betchisist wonders how to share pregnancy news with a best friend struggling with infertility without expecting her to fake an excited reaction. An Intention tackles acne insecurity, self-acceptance, and the anxiety around starting Accutane, especially when a scary treatment could finally bring some much-needed relief. In Triggered, a listener with combined finances in her marriage wants to know why her husband gets all the credit when their money picks up the dinner bill. Finally, Jordana and Dr. Naomi debate a surprisingly complicated question: Is volunteering still a good deed if you’re only doing it for your résumé? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
August 25 · 1 hr 8 min
Why Does It Feel Like My Dad Replaced Me?
This week on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi are talking about the complicated art of showing up for the people you love, without completely draining yourself in the process. Jordana opens up about the exhaustion of parenting two babies, and the resentment that can creep in when free time is scarce. Then, an Oversharer wonders how much grace she should continue giving a grieving friend when their friendship has long felt one-sided, prompting a conversation about lowering expectations without necessarily ending a friendship. Next, they weigh in on a six-months-pregnant Betchisist whose husband wants to stay out clubbing solo on their Ibiza babymoon, and whether her anxiety is really about his safety, or what his night out means for their relationship. Dr. Naomi offers an intention for a mom struggling with back-to-school anxiety and explains how learning to trust your kids can help them learn to trust themselves. Finally, the Triggered's: one listener’s dad replaces the dog he gave her with the exact same breed, a scenario that feels a little too familiar, while another wonders if her future in-laws are crossing a boundary by vacationing in Hawaii at the same time as her honeymoon. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
August 18 · 1 hr 6 min
Is My Friend A Compulsive Liar?
This week Jordana and Dr. Naomi are asking an important question: when everyone online claims to know the “right” way to do things, how do you learn to trust yourself? They unpack how social media thrives on activating our anxieties and why the most confident advice isn’t always the best advice. Then, an Oversharer gets an unexpected pre-wedding reality check when her parents remind her that it’s never too late to back out, but was there something they weren’t telling her? A Betchisist catches her friend in an elaborate lie involving a family emergency, a secret beach trip, and an AI-generated photo excuse that absolutely does not hold up under questioning. Dr. Naomi offers an intention for anyone stuck in the uncomfortable in-between after leaving something that wasn’t working but before finding what comes next. In Triggered, a mother-in-law learns that “all good” might not be the best response when you’ve completely ignored the baby’s nap schedule. And why an unsolicited financial advisor introduction may be one of the rare occasions when ghosting is fully encouraged. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#244
August 11 · 59 min
Did Our Couples Therapist Just Tell Us Not To Get Married?
Dr. Naomi returns from vacation with a story that proves parenting never really takes a day off. After an unexpected family emergency leaves their kids suddenly without adult supervision, Jordana and Dr. Naomi unpack what it means to rely on your village. Then they help an Oversharer navigate whether she should skip a friend's wedding, or keep living her life, when it falls in the middle of IVF treatment. They also weigh in on a Betchisist’s marriage strained by secrecy around marijuana use and ask whether the real issue is the habit or what's underneath it. The intention this week goes to a listener who wants to stop cringing at old photos of herself and embrace every version of the body that carried her through life. Plus, in Triggered, they debate whether one rogue couples therapist deserves to lose their license and whether comparing someone's baby to an alien from Men in Black is ever, under any circumstances, acceptable. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#243
August 5 · 57 min
How Do I Ask Friends For Help?
This week, Jordana and Dr. Naomi help an Oversharer navigate the impossible question of how to ask for support after a breast cancer diagnosis without feeling like a burden, and discuss whether a shared "help registry" might actually make it easier for friends to show up. A Betchisist struggling through IVF opens up about resentment, guilt, and feeling like the emotional and physical burden of infertility isn't being shared equally, leading to an honest conversation about what support from a partner really looks like. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#243
August 4 · 1 hr 8 min
How Do I Ask Friends For Help?
This week, Jordana and Dr. Naomi kick things off by debating whether Dr. Naomi crossed the line from resourceful to completely unhinged after sending an Uber driver to retrieve her husband's allegedly stolen AirPods. Then they help an Oversharer navigate the impossible question of how to ask for support after a breast cancer diagnosis without feeling like a burden, and discuss whether a shared "help registry" might actually make it easier for friends to show up. A Betchisist struggling through IVF opens up about resentment, guilt, and feeling like the emotional and physical burden of infertility isn't being shared equally, leading to an honest conversation about what support from a partner really looks like. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#242
July 28 · 1 hr 11 min
Is It Real Or Is It The Hormones?
If you've ever wondered whether your emotions are trying to tell you something or just trying to start a fight, then listen up. This week, Jordana and Dr. Naomi dive into the surprising ways hormones can shape our relationships, from motherhood and perimenopause to the emotional rollercoaster of PMS. They help an Oversharer navigate the complicated mix of grief and relief after a miscarriage and unpack whether the voices behind fear should be used as guidance. Then they tend to a Betchesist who's struggling to understand why her long-term boyfriend won't share his location and ask themselves: Have we turned ourselves into Big Brother? This week's Triggered sparks a debate over whether public speakerphone conversations are ever acceptable and whether a surprise three-week visit from the in-laws is thoughtful or completely boundary-crossing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#241
July 21 · 1 hr 7 min
Why Didn't My Friends Show Up to My Father's Funeral?
This week, Jordana shares what happened when she stepped outside her comfort zone and joined a neighborhood mahjong group, leading to a conversation with Dr. Naomi about first impressions, social anxiety, and why growth usually feels awkward at first. Then, a grieving Oversharer wonders how to move forward after friends failed to show up following her father's death, while this week’s Betchicist questions whether setting boundaries with a friend means judging her dating choices. Dr. Naomi also helps an overwhelmed Intention seeker who is juggling wedding planning while settling her late father's estate. Then we dive into family triggers, from an absent uncle who keeps avoiding his nieces to sisters clashing over vacation planning, reminding us that assumptions often create more distance than honest conversations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#240
July 14 · 1 hr 3 min
Do I Have to Choose Between Motherhood and My Career?
Jordana and Dr. Naomi kick things off with a conversation about the impossible choices many women feel forced to make between career and motherhood, and why the real problem isn't "girlboss vs. tradwife" but the lack of policies that allow parents to build balanced lives. This week's Overshare asks whether planning for a future family means turning down career opportunities today, while a Betchesist grapples with feeling like a fraud after being diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes despite dedicating her career to public health. An Intention helps an emailer survive painfully forced workplace icebreakers without losing her mind. Finally, two Triggered listeners ask whether they're overreacting to workplace favoritism and a chaotic maternity leave process that leaves one eight months pregnant with no approved leave plan. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#239
July 7 · 1 hr 17 min
Am I Improving My Health Or Feeding My Anxiety?
Jordana and Dr. Naomi kick things off by reflecting on birthdays, aging, and the surprising grief that can come with realizing adulthood may not look as financially comfortable as you once imagined. They explore how accepting lifestyle expectations can shape everything from dating to happiness, and why comparison is often the thief of contentment. This week's Betchesist seeks advice on navigating the fine line between improving her health and becoming consumed by health anxiety after an autoimmune diagnosis. An Overshare about a dog sitter who took "make yourself at home" a little too literally sparks an unexpected debate about boundaries and communication, while this week's intention reminds us: some blessings I have, and some blessings I don't. Lastly, we're triggered by an expectant mom feeling overlooked by her in-laws and a dental hygienist who offers some wildly unsolicited medical advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#238
June 30 · 1 hr 7 min
How Do I Help My Adult Daughter Be More Independent?
This week on Oversharing, Jordana spirals over a very relatable parenting dilemma: did Ronnie the dog have the time of his life at daycare, or is he secretly devastated and unable to tell her? Then, Dr. Naomi and Jordana help an emailer navigate her 19-year-old daughter’s fear of driving and the fine line between support and enabling. This week’s Betchesist writes in after discovering her entire branch of the family was left off a cousin’s wedding guest list, sparking a conversation about family loyalty, boundaries, and wedding politics. Dr. Naomi’s Intention is for a mom struggling with baby monitor obsession. Plus, two Triggered emailers weigh in on couples who put friends on speakerphone without warning and a husband who insists on using the bathroom closest to his wife’s home office. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#237
June 23 · 1 hr 17 min
Is My Husband Emotionally Ready To Buy A House With Me?
Jordana and Dr. Naomi kick things off by catching up about Naomi’s visit with Jordana’s twins and the humbling reality that babies don’t always warm up to eager aunts right away. They discuss the emotional pull of reconnecting with old friends, whether New York is calling Naomi back, and Jordana’s surprisingly complicated reaction to the Knicks’ championship win. Then they jump into listener complaints, starting with house-hunting tensions between newlyweds. A Betchesist shares her very real experience of gender disappointment during pregnancy. We set an intention this week that the feeling arising from grief is not always a call to action. Lastly, our brave Triggered listener seeks solace from her mother-in-law, whose wrath is so strong that the baby won’t even look at her. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#236
June 16 · 1 hr 9 min
How Do I Communicate My Boundaries With My In Laws?
To kick things off, Dr. Naomi and Jordana get into why keeping your space tidy is starting to feel less like a chore and more like a form of self-care—especially for busy parents. Then, they hear from a listener struggling to navigate boundaries with her in-laws… whom she’s somehow already seeing multiple times a week. This week’s Betchicist also dives into in-law dynamics, but from a different angle: a listener whose husband feels uncomfortable with her breastfeeding in front of her family. Later, they respond to a voicemail from a beginner tennis player who’s having trouble maintaining her composure in a competitive league. To wrap things up, they unpack two triggering scenarios: a “I knew it!”-style therapist who then avoids engaging with the listener’s trauma, and a neighbor whose connection to a listener’s father might be crossing a line. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#235
June 9 · 1 hr 22 min
The Difference Between Setting Boundaries and Avoiding Accountability
This week on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi unpack why it can feel more upsetting when someone quietly backs out of a commitment than when they simply say no. A listener writes in after a friend offers to dog-sit, only to seemingly retract the offer without actually owning the change of heart. The hosts discuss the difference between setting boundaries and avoiding discomfort, why indirect communication can feel so invalidating, and how a little honesty can go a long way in preserving trust. Plus, they share advice for navigating disappointment when expectations don't match reality. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#234
June 2 · 1 hr 16 min
Can I Maintain A Friendship With My Boss?
Jordana spirals over posting her kids on social media, and Dr. Naomi talks her off the ledge while shamelessly lobbying for more niece content. After surviving law school together, one Betch is struggling not to resent the fact that her partner works fewer hours, makes way more money, and somehow still has time to relax. Another listener is convinced she’s torched her relationship with her boss after reacting less-than-gracefully to a workplace screw-up. Looking to break her phone-call phobia, one woman asks the hosts for the verbal equivalent of being thrown into the deep end. A boudoir shoot meant to celebrate a hard-earned glow-up takes a nosedive when the makeup artist decides honesty is the best—and most brutal—policy. And finally, a Betch who spent months crafting the perfect baby name is seeing red after a friend lands suspiciously close to her masterpiece. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#233
May 26 · 1 hr 25 min
How Can I Handle My House Buying Dread?
Dr. Naomi got a Mother’s Day gift that left her feeling like her family didn’t understand her and she shares her disappointment while Jordana reveals that she forgot a friends birthday and is concerned she came off as a bad friend. A recent bride reveals that one of her bridesmaids got too drunk to enjoy the wedding and she is feeling like it might be time to sunset this friendship. Seeking advice for how to handle a neighborhood situation, a woman writes in about a dog owner that lets their pet run loose in the playground and wonders if she is being a “Karen” for wanting to shut the situation down before something happens. After purchasing a home, a Betch is feeling buyer’s remorse and can’t stop worrying that she has made a grave error in her decision. Finally, a woman shares that her Doctor recently commented on her face structure and she is feeling triggered that she brought up things that weren’t of concern. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
#232
May 19 · 1 hr 26 min
Is My Jealousy Obvious?
Jordana is discovering that motherhood hits a little different when the night nurse clocks out and suddenly the tiny screaming roommates are fully her problem. During an extra hot hike a listener has a panic attack that has left her dreading her happy place and Dr. Naomi breaks down how episodes like these can lead to phobias. A Betch wrestles with the modern mom dilemma of when you see another parent posting objectively unsafe nonsense online and Jordana and Dr. Naomi give their take on how best (or not) to butt in with your two cents. Another listener wonders if her jealousy is as obvious to other people as it is in her own brain, and whether it’s quietly nuking her ability to form meaningful relationships. A woman politely tells a guy she’s not feeling a romantic connection after a date, only for him to respond with the emotional maturity of a dropped Xbox controller. And finally, one exhausted mom tries to figure out how to explain to her partner that an iPad for the kids slash “access to mommy’s nighttime Netflix” is not, in fact, a Mother’s Day gift. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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