Lust in Translation

Natassia Miller

Lust in Translation is a show about what actually keeps desire alive. Hosted by Brazilian sexologist Natassia Miller, you'll learn smart, evidence-based insights through candid, slightly-too-honest conversations. Expect stories, expert guests, and practical scripts you can use to strengthen your confidence and connection—in and out of bed.

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S2 · E3
Friday · 53 min
"You Didn't Talk to Me All Day, Now You Want Sex?" with Couples Therapist George Faller
Why does he reach for you at night when he barely spoke to you all day? And why does your "not tonight" feel to him like the door closing? Natassia sits down with licensed marriage and family therapist George Faller, founder of the New York Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy and co-author of Brave Love, Great Sex. George is a former FDNY lieutenant who became a couples therapist after 9/11, when nobody else in the room wanted to work with the firefighter couples. He's also the first man on the podcast. Together they unpack attachment styles, the pursuer–withdrawer cycle, emotionally focused therapy, "criss-cross" couples, male desire, low libido, the mental load, repair after conflict, triggers, co-regulation, scheduling sex, and why "vulnerability" is the wrong word to use with men. They explore why so many couples swap roles between the living room and the bedroom—she pursues the conversation, he pursues the touch, and each becomes the other the moment they're rejected. From the fight that starts in less than a tenth of a second to the therapy advice George says sets men up to fail, this conversation makes the case that men's sexual pursuit isn't "just" about orgasm, that low desire is usually a relationship problem rather than a body problem, and that sex doesn't only follow love—it builds it. Whether you're the one who pulls away, the one who pushes, or a couple who's stopped having sex altogether, this episode gives you the map for seeing the cycle—and getting out of it together. ⸻ Spice things up and deepen your connection with my Wonderlust Intimacy Card Deck: 10% off with code LUST at https://wonderlust.co ⸻ Lust in Translation Podcast Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com ⁠ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ ⁠ Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠ Buy Brave Love, Great Sex by George Faller and Dr. Laurie Watson: https://amzn.to/4y05iP1 Work with George: https://georgefaller.com Follow George on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fallergeorge/
S2 · E2
September 26 · 52 min
The Same Fight, Every Time: How Couples Break the Cycle with Therapist Liliana Doyon
What's the first thing to go when a relationship starts to fall apart? Natassia sits down with Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist Liliana Doyon, LMFT, President of the New York Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy, to unpack keeping the peace, self-abandonment, the pursue-withdraw cycle, attachment styles, repair after conflict, resentment, caretaking and "emotional foreplay," and what actually happens in the room when couples get stuck in the same fight. Liliana is also a first-generation Mexican American who integrates curanderismo — cacao ceremony, sound baths, and limpias — into evidence-based couples work. They explore why "let's talk about it later" is where repair dies, why the first thing to go in a relationship is sex, and why the accommodating partner ends up unseen and unheard. Whether you're the one who pushes to talk, the one who walks away, or the one who has stopped bringing things up at all, this episode may change how you hear your partner and yourself. ⸻ Spice things up and deepen your connection with my Wonderlust Intimacy Card Deck: 10% off with code LUST at https://wonderlust.co ⸻ Lust in Translation Podcast Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com ⁠ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ ⁠ Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠ Work with Liliana Doyon: https://www.lilianadoyon.com/ Follow Liliana on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lilianadoyon/
S2 · E12
September 17 · 59 min
How to Turn Your Attachment Style Into a Secure Relationship with Gaby Balsells
Why do you love the way you love? Natassia sits down with Gaby Balsells, a Clinical Psychologist licensed in Guatemala, relationship coach, and author of Dating 101 to unpack attachment styles, secure vs. anxious vs. avoidant attachment, dating after divorce, honesty vs. transparency, shape-shifting in relationships, raw spots vs. core wounds, the three types of sex, aftercare, and what actually makes desire feel safe. Trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and a board member of the New York Center for EFT, Gaby wrote her dating book while walking through her own divorce after a ten-year relationship, and she's candid about the mistakes she made on dates that she would have flagged in her own clients. From why no one can be truly secure in dating to why sex with the wrong person can feel so good, this conversation reframes attachment not as a label you're stuck with but as a pattern you can rewire. Gaby also makes the case that dating isn't a numbers game, it's an energy game. Whether you're anxious on the apps, in a marriage that still feels stuck, or trying to understand why the same fight keeps happening, this episode will help you see the pattern underneath it. ⸻ If it takes you a while to get in the mood, your body may just need a different kind of stimulation, which is exactly why I love Aura by Mila: find out what works for you at https://heymila.co/lust. Couples who talk about sex have better sex, so I created the Wonderlust Intimacy Card Deck to make that conversation fun and easy: get 10% off with code LUST at https://wonderlust.co. ⸻ Lust in Translation Podcast Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com ⁠ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ ⁠ Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠ Work with Gaby Balsells (free 30-minute consultation): https://www.modernintimacy.com/therapist/gaby-balsells/ Follow Gaby on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabybalsells/ Read Gaby's book, Dating 101: https://amzn.to/3TeYcHY
S1 · E11
July 16 · 58 min
"You're Lucky to Be Down There": Worship, Consent and Real Desire with Sex Educator Birna Gustafsson
What if most of what we get wrong about sex — in the bedroom, the doctor's office, and the comments section — starts with asking the wrong questions? In this candid, wide-ranging episode, Natassia sits down with sex educator and public health advocate Birna Gustafsson, who teaches at Harvard Sex Week and instructs nurses and midwives in sexuality in clinical practice at the University of Iceland, to unpack consent beyond the checklist, sex and disability, desire and frequency myths, sexual communication, oral sex, enthusiasm versus technique, queer pleasure, the viral "real eater" phenomenon, and the sex ed most of us never got. From the ER case studies she teaches — the ones nursing school never prepares you for — to the sold-out BJ class and the oral pleasure workshop men refuse to attend, to the TikTok trend Playboy interviewed her about, Birna makes the case that the measure of a good sex life was never what you're doing or how often. It's how you feel about it. And that enthusiasm — real, embodied attraction to the moment — beats technique every time. Whether you're the one asking the questions (as a partner, a parent, or a practitioner) or the one who's never had the words to answer them, this conversation will change how you talk about sex. In this episode: Why "how often do you have sex?" is the wrong question — and what to ask instead The consent conversations nobody prepares you for: Alzheimer's, disability, and the patients medicine forgets The class men refuse to take, and what it says about gendered scripts Why enthusiasm beats technique — and whether it can be taught What "real eaters" are, why women are raising the bar, and how to spot the fakes Why the performance IS the experience in queer sex — and what everyone else can learn from it Follow Birna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bbirna/ Visit her website: https://birna.net Subscribe to her new platform, Explicit Studies: https://explicitstudies.substack.com ⸻ As a sexologist, I'm picky about the products I recommend, and LBDO has become one of the brands I trust both personally and professionally. On my solo nights, I reach for Rush, their air-pulse stimulator that's soft, intuitive, and elegant enough to live on your nightstand. And with my husband, we bring in Loop, LBDO's vibrating ring that adds a warm hum of pleasure for both of us. Upgrade your solo and partnered rituals at https://us.lbdo.com/discount/LUST15 and use code LUST15 at checkout for 15% off. ⸻ Lust in Translation Podcast Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com ⁠ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ ⁠ Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠
S1 · E10
July 9 · 1 hr 2 min
How to Rebuild Your Sex Life After Trauma: The 3-Step Method That Works with Dr. Holly Richmond
What happens after the healing? Therapists are trained to treat trauma. Almost none of them are trained for what survivors actually need next: a passionate, embodied, erotic life. In this episode, Natassia sits down with Dr. Holly Richmond — somatic psychotherapist, sex therapist, and author of Reclaiming Pleasure — to explore the gap nobody talks about. Holly shares her own story of a decade-long sexless marriage, the moment eroticism cracked her open, and the three-step clinical framework she's spent her career building for women who want to reclaim desire on the other side of trauma. They get into why the body expresses trauma rather than stores it (and what that means for healing), the surprising fantasies survivors often develop and why they make complete psychological sense, why safety and comfort are not the same thing — and why confusing them quietly kills desire in long-term relationships. Plus: the prescription for day sex, what self-pleasure and masturbation actually have to do with each other, and why "I don't care if I ever have sex again" is never the end of the story. This one is for anyone who has ever felt shut down, disconnected from their body, or quietly wondered if desire is gone for good. It isn't. — Rebuilding your relationship with pleasure starts with tools that feel good to reach for. Explore LBDO's beautifully designed intimacy essentials at lbdo.com — use code LUST15 for 15% off. — Dr. Holly Richmond’s website: https://drhollyrichmond.com/ Dr. Holly Richmond’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drhollyrichmond __ Lust in Translation Podcast Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com ⁠ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ ⁠ Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠
S1 · E9
June 25 · 50 min
Keeping Desire Alive Through Pregnancy, Grief & Big Life Changes with LBDO Founder Rachel Baker
We grow up believing desire is supposed to arrive on its own — instant, spontaneous, the way it looks in the movies. So when it doesn't, we quietly wonder what's wrong with us. This week, I sit down with Rachel Baker, founder of the Australian sexual wellness brand LBDO, to take that myth apart. Rachel started LBDO after a fluorescent-lit sex-shop experience left her thinking there has to be a better way — and after losing her mother and leaving a career at L'Oréal, she built it. We get into the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire (and why "I'm never in the mood" almost never means something is broken), the brakes and accelerators that quietly run your libido, and why the "I'm addicted to my vibrator" fear is a myth. We also talk honestly about libido in pregnancy and grief, how to actually talk to a partner about sex, the censorship battles facing women's pleasure online, and why the most beautiful thing you can do is stop hiding it in a drawer. Whether your desire has gone quiet or you just want to understand your body better, this one will leave you feeling a lot less alone — and a lot less broken. Explore LBDO at lbdo.com — use code LUST15 for 15% off. Chapters: 00:00 Intro 00:40 Why sex shops are built to embarrass you 01:20 The first-vibrator story that sparked a brand 03:46 Fear-based vs pleasure-based sex education 06:41 Losing her mom & building a "safe space" 07:17 How to actually talk to kids about sex 09:29 The L'Oréal insight behind LBDO 10:46 Launching a sexual wellness brand in lockdown 16:18 Who's really buying (teens to women in their 70s) 17:15 The customer review that brought Rachel to tears 18:14 Why communication is lubrication 19:17 Where does libido go in pregnancy? 20:17 Responsive vs spontaneous desire (you're not broken) 21:35 Brakes & accelerators: the dual control model 23:50 Turn-ons, turn-offs & why stress kills desire 26:20 The clitoris, anatomy & designing for pleasure 27:52 Why Rush took 3 years to design 29:09 The hotel housekeeping story 30:32 Will a suction toy desensitize you? 32:02 The "vibrator addiction" myth, debunked 33:57 Vibrator vs suction toy: the real difference 35:50 Bringing toys into a relationship 37:30 Selfridges, Bloomingdale's & pinch-me moments 39:11 The censorship war on women's pleasure 41:27 Viagra is fine, but "clitoris" gets flagged? 42:40 Keeping desire alive while working with your husband 45:33 Pregnancy, pelvic floor & getting honest 47:05 An orgasm a day: the health benefits of pleasure ⸻ Lust in Translation Podcast Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com ⁠ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ ⁠ Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠
S1 · E8
June 18 · 1 hr 3 min
How to Bring Kink Into Your Relationship with Former Pro-Domme Amanda Dames
Your desires aren't proof that something's wrong with you. They're information about a deeper emotional need, and the path to a fulfilling erotic life is understanding the feeling underneath the act, releasing the shame around it, and learning to communicate it. This week I'm joined by Amanda Dames, aka The Kink Consultant — sexologist, Somatica Certified Sex and Relationship Coach, and former NYC Dominatrix who once lived a double life: working at the Wall Street Journal by day and running sessions in a New York City dungeon by night. Amanda has spent years in the room with people's most private fantasies, and what she's learned quietly dismantles almost everything we're taught about desire. Because underneath even the most surprising kink is something deeply human: a need to be seen, to surrender, to feel wanted, to feel safe. The act is just the packaging. As Amanda puts it: no one is broken. The work was never about fixing your desire; it's about decoding the feeling underneath it, releasing the shame, and learning to say it out loud. We get into the psychology of what powerful men secretly crave, why pain can register as pleasure, how politics shapes our fantasies, and the real reason desire fades in long-term relationships. And if there's a desire you've never had the words for, or a conversation you've been too nervous to start with your partner, this episode is a map for both. Whatever you want, you're allowed to want it. Let's decode it together. In this episode: Why "no one is broken" — and where our desires actually come from The real difference between a kink and a fetish What powerful, high-achieving men are really seeking when they surrender How shame (not the kink itself) is the thing standing in your way Why desire fades in long-term love — and the "build a bridge" framework to bring it back How to name a desire you've never had words for, and bring it to your partner without the cringe Chapters 00:00 — Intro 01:00 — Realizing she was kinky at five 04:00 — Kink vs. fetish, and why no one is broken 06:30 — How "the status quo" decides what's kinky 07:30 — Cuckolding vs. hot-wifing: same act, opposite headspace 09:00 — How politics shapes our fantasies 11:00 — The double life: Wall Street Journal by day, dungeon by night 14:00 — What a dominatrix actually does (it's not what you think) 15:00 — The powerful men who had everything but one thing 18:00 — "My desire is to be punished" — why desire doesn't have to make sense 25:00 — What every client really wanted: to be seen 28:00 — Safe words, consent, and the session that still haunts her 35:00 — Losing it all in one month — and rebuilding 40:00 — Dating in line with your desires (+ the genius Hinge trick) 45:00 — Building a bridge: keeping kink alive in a marriage 47:00 — The mental load that's quietly killing your sex life 57:00 — How to bring up your kink with your partner 01:01:00 — What to understand before you live out any fantasy Work with Amanda Dames: https://www.amandadames.com/ Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ It’s really hard to feel sexy when your vagina feels off. If you’re bracing for irritation, infections, or yet another post‑sex UTI, it’s almost impossible to stay present in the bedroom. Momotaro Apotheca offers organic solutions that Natassia uses everyday to take care of her intimate health—from their soothing balm, Salve, to their UTI supplement, probiotic, and yeast infection suppository. Build your own ritual at https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust and get 20% off with code LUST. ⸻ Lust in Translation Podcast Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com ⁠ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ ⁠ Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠
S1 · E7
June 11 · 58 min
Her 20-Year Marriage Was Over. This Is How They Rebuilt It. | Juliette LaMontagne
Juliette LaMontagne did everything right — the husband, the kids, the career. Behind the scenes, her 25-year marriage was unraveling: codependency, her husband's relapse after decades of sobriety, and a separation she believed was the end. Then came an unexpected second chance, and an unconventional path back to desire. In this episode, the writer behind the serial memoir Touch Me There (now being adapted for television) shares how she rebuilt her marriage and her erotic self from the ground up: psychedelic-assisted therapy, s*xological bodywork, the Wheel of Consent, and the radical accountability that changed how she and her husband connect—in and out of the bedroom. Read Juliette's serial memoir, Touch Me There: https://juliettelamontagne.substack.com/ 00:00 – Introducing Juliette Lamontagne 01:22 – The life that looked perfect 06:23 – Marriage, addiction, and collapse 09:35 – Separation and a turning point 18:28 – Reuniting during Covid 19:32 – Discovering k-assisted therapy 23:37 – Remission versus recovery 26:35 – Releasing shame 31:11 – Psychedelic couples therapy 39:00 – Enter s*xological bodywork 44:18 – Breathwork and awakening desire 46:10 – Vulva mapping and de-armouring 51:28 – Understanding org*smic meditation 63:05 – The Wheel of Consent explained 65:04 – Relearning touch with her husband 69:00 – The power of taking and allowing 72:33 – Rebuilding erotic connection 78:52 – The all-women s*x retreat 82:49 – First experience with shibari 85:11 – Why surrender is so difficult 88:21 – The meaning behind Touch Me There 90:43 – Where to find Juliette’s work It’s really hard to feel sexy when your vagina feels off. If you’re bracing for irritation, infections, or yet another post‑sex UTI, it’s almost impossible to stay present in the bedroom. Momotaro Apotheca offers organic solutions that Natassia uses everyday to take care of her intimate health—from their soothing balm, Salve, to their UTI supplement, probiotic, and yeast infection suppository. Build your own ritual at https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust and get 20% off with code LUST. ⸻ Lust in Translation Podcast Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com ⁠ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ ⁠ Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠
S1 · E6
June 4 · 51 min
What Dating in Your 30s Actually Teaches You with Andrea Popova and Val Parker
The creators of the hit live comedy show Ask a Fuckboy pull back the curtain on modern dating, relationship psychology, and the chaotic behavior that keeps singles questioning everything. From ghosting, breadcrumbing, and love bombing to dating app burnout and the myth of “if he wanted to, he would,” the conversation blends sharp humor with surprisingly honest insights about attachment styles, communication, and finding lasting love. Andie Popova and Val Parker share the real-life dating disasters that inspired their sold-out comedy phenomenon, including outrageous stories of serial daters, shared toothbrush scandals, and the unexpected lessons they've learned from analyzing thousands of dating experiences. Whether you're navigating Hinge, recovering from a situationship, or wondering why dating feels harder than ever, this episode offers a funny, relatable, and thought-provoking look at how people connect, sabotage themselves, and ultimately find the right partner. 00:00 – Pre-show setup and dating banter 03:18 – The origin of Ask a Fuckboy Comedy Show 05:57 – Why fuckboys do what they do 07:47 – Can women be fuckboys too? 08:23 – The psychology of the chase 11:52 – Two opposite dating strategies 14:39 – Why people hate dating 17:09 – How to survive dating apps 19:57 – You can’t say the wrong thing to the right person 20:50 – The wildest Ask a Fuckboy stories 22:31 – The different types of fuckboys 24:30 – Love bombing versus real connection 25:25 – Manifesting the right partner 26:24 – Dating a self-described fuckboy 29:30 – Can a fuckboy change? 31:29 – The role of friends in dating behavior 32:50 – Hot takes: coffee dates 35:51 – FaceTime first dates 37:09 – Catfishing, height lies, and profile photos 38:22 – Aspirational dating and punching above your weight 39:47 – When a partner won't take the next step 44:00 – Marriage, commitment, and relationship timing 50:00 – Dating myths and audience questions 57:00 – Final dating lessons and closing thoughts Buy tickets to watch Ask a Fuckboy live: https://www.askafuckboy.com/ Follow them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/askafuckboy/ ⸻ It’s really hard to feel sexy when your vagina feels off. If you’re bracing for irritation, infections, or yet another post‑sex UTI, it’s almost impossible to stay present in the bedroom. Momotaro Apotheca offers organic solutions that Natassia uses everyday to take care of her intimate health—from their soothing balm, Salve, to their UTI supplement, probiotic, and yeast infection suppository. Build your own ritual at https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust and get 20% off with code LUST. ⸻ Lust in Translation Podcast Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com ⁠ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ ⁠ Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠
S1 · E5
May 28 · 59 min
Can GLP-1s Lower Your Sex Drive? Sexual Medicine Expert Jackie Giannelli Explains
Why are women's health issues often brushed off as “just part of aging”? In this eye-opening episode, Natassia sits down with board-certified family nurse practitioner, women's longevity and sexual medicine expert Jackie Giannelli to unpack the truth about perimenopause, menopause, libido, hormone replacement therapy, GLP-1 medications, hair loss, testosterone, vaginal estrogen, peptides, and sexual wellness. They explore why so many women feel dismissed when experiencing brain fog, fatigue, low desire, anxiety, and disrupted sleep and what can actually be done about it. From the controversy surrounding hormone therapy and breast cancer fears to the surprising effects of GLP-1 medications on libido and pleasure, this conversation challenges outdated medical narratives and offers practical insights for women who want to reclaim their vitality, confidence, relationships, and long-term health. If you've ever wondered whether feeling “flat” is normal, this episode may change the way you think about aging and wellness. 00:00 – Welcome and introduction 01:15 – Why women feel dismissed by healthcare 02:58 – The first signs of perimenopause 05:25 – Sleep, libido, brain fog, and hormone decline 06:25 – Normal vs. optimal hormone levels 09:41 – Medical gaslighting and menopause care 11:32 – When hormones aren't the whole story 13:05 – Testosterone therapy for women 15:03 – Understanding estrogen, progesterone, and hormone balance 17:28 – Bioidentical vs. synthetic hormones 19:19 – The Women's Health Initiative controversy 22:04 – Breast cancer fears and hormone therapy 24:52 – Feeling flat, dopamine, and SSRIs 26:10 – GLP-1 medications and sexual side effects 29:20 – Combining hormones with GLP-1 treatment 32:08 – Long-term concerns about GLP-1 medications 36:12 – Hair loss, hormones, and weight loss drugs 41:37 – Peptides explained 44:01 – The peptide regulation gray area 46:00 – PT-141, Addyi, and female libido treatments 51:16 – Why vaginal estrogen is underused 54:13 – Designing a home for intimacy and connection 57:08 – The science of music and arousal 59:00 – Closing thoughts Follow Jackie Giannelli on Instagram On this note: It’s really hard to feel sexy when your vagina feels off. If you’re bracing for irritation, infections, or yet another post‑sex UTI, it’s almost impossible to stay present in the bedroom. Momotaro Apotheca offers organic solutions that Natassia uses everyday to take care of her intimate health—from their soothing balm, Salve, to their UTI supplement, probiotic, and yeast infection suppository. Build your own ritual at https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust and get 20% off with code LUST. ⸻ Lust in Translation Podcast Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com ⁠ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ ⁠ Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠
S1 · E4
May 21 · 1 hr 2 min
What Women Fantasize About with Literary Erotica Founder Carly Pifer of Aurore
What if your “low libido” is actually a lack of imagination? In this episode, Natassia sits down with writer Carly Pifer, founder of literary erotica platform Aurore, to explore what women really want, how responsive desire styles get turned on by storytelling and why reading erotica is such an effective form of low-pressure foreplay. Carly shares the real‑life experiences that inspired her crowdsourced erotica platform—from interviewing strangers about their intimate lives in bars and going on Tinder “research dates” across Europe to rewriting painful relationships through erotic fiction and helping women feel less ashamed of what turns them on. For the past two years, Natassia has been an avid reader of Aurore’s stories and loves how it offers a playful way to sample different scenarios, learn what actually lights you up (and what doesn’t), and bring those discoveries back into your own sex life. If you’re curious, use code NATASSIA to get 10% off your subscription at readaurore.com. 00:00 – Why women connect more with erotica than porn 02:00 – Responsive desire vs spontaneous desire 04:18 – Erotica as a place you go mentally 05:25 – Writing through body image insecurities 08:16 – Turning insecurity into eroticism 09:39 – Building Aurore and crowdsourced erotica 10:30 – Why romance novels don’t work for everyone 12:02 – Feeling emotionally safe during sex 13:32 – The rise of “real eaters” 15:44 – Interviewing strangers about sex in bars 18:21 – What people secretly reveal about intimacy 20:03 – Bathroom habits and relationship comfort 22:09 – Pubic hair trends and attraction 24:34 – Tinder dates across Europe 27:12 – Why men struggle to talk about intimacy 28:55 – Two Frenchmen in Paris story 32:12 – Why sex gets better with age 33:35 – Writing erotica as emotional healing 35:01 – Men learning oral sex from lesbian stories 36:25 – What women actually want sexually 37:18 – Fantasies as clues to your deeper desires 39:16 – Using erotica to communicate with partners 41:10 – How to start talking about fantasies 43:45 – Why sexual coaching matters 44:16 – Making quickies hotter through fantasy 45:16 – Love Is Blind and relationship psychology 46:43 – The rebellious origins of Aurore 48:05 – Straight men writing erotica 50:15 – The jeans story and male desire 51:10 – Why threesomes dominate fantasies 53:09 – Female gaze, dick pics, and visual desire 55:14 – Writing erotica to heal sexual trauma 56:34 – Understanding consensual non-consent fantasies 59:10 – Rewriting trauma through fantasy 01:01:06 – A powerful body acceptance writing exercise 01:02:22 – Final thoughts and where to find Carly It’s really hard to feel sexy when your vagina feels off. If you’re bracing for irritation, infections, or yet another post‑sex UTI, it’s almost impossible to stay present in the bedroom. Momotaro Apotheca offers organic solutions that Natassia uses everyday to take care of her intimate health—from their soothing balm, Salve, to their UTI supplement, probiotic, and yeast infection suppository. Build your own ritual at https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust and get 20% off with code LUST. ⸻ Lust in Translation Podcast Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com ⁠ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ ⁠ Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠
S1 · E3
May 14 · 56 min
From Chronic Infections to Organic Solutions: Vulvovaginal Health 101 with Momotaro Apotheca Founder Lindsay Wynn
Let’s be honest: it’s really hard to feel sexy when your vagina feels off. If you’re bracing for irritation, infections, or yet another post‑sex UTI, it’s almost impossible to stay present in the bedroom. In this episode, I sit down with vulvovaginal wellness founder Lindsay Wynn of Momotaro Apotheca for what is essentially Vaginal Health 101—a crash course on UTIs, yeast infections, pH balance, the vaginal microbiome, and why so many of us were never taught how any of this actually works. We break down the basics in plain language while also talking about the emotional side—shame, anxiety, and that constant low‑grade fear that something is “wrong” with you. You’ll also hear how Lindsay’s own nightmare cycle of recurrent infections pushed her to create the products she couldn’t find: organic salves, suppositories, probiotics, and UTI‑support supplements designed to soothe symptoms, protect the microbiome, and help you feel good in—and about—your body again. Think of this as your bedside‑table guide to feeling more comfortable, more informed, and more confident the next time you get naked with someone, including yourself. Curious to learn more about Momotaro Apotheca? It’s the organic solution that actually works, and I use it everyday. From their soothing balm, Salve, to UTI Supplement, Probiotic, and Yeast Infection Suppository, they have you covered. Build your own ritual at https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust and get 20% off with code LUST. Guide to 10 vagina smells and what that means about your intimate health: https://momotaroapotheca.com/blogs/vaginal-wellness/vaginal-scents-odors 00:00 – Meet the founder & origin story 02:00 – The wilderness mistake that changed everything 04:30 – How infections spiral out of control 06:30 – The science behind vaginal health & bacteria 08:30 – Why traditional treatments don’t always work 11:30 – Discovering natural and antimicrobial solutions 14:30 – Building a wellness brand from scratch 16:00 – Daily rituals and preventative care 18:30 – Products that actually work (and why) 21:30 – Shocking gaps in sex education 24:00 – What we were never taught about our bodies 26:30 – What’s “normal” when it comes to smell & pH 29:00 – How to talk to a partner about intimacy issues 32:00 – Overcoming shame and stigma 34:00 – Gen Z, sex, and changing cultural norms 38:00 – Relationships, pleasure, and the orgasm gap 43:00 – Expanding the product line & business growth 46:00 – Supplements, probiotics, and what matters 49:00 – Holistic approach to vaginal health 52:00 – Practical tips to prevent infections 56:00 – Final thoughts on sex, health, and confidence ⸻ Lust in Translation Podcast Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com ⁠ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ ⁠ Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠
S1 · E2
May 7 · 58 min
Polyamorous Thought Leader, Hayley Folk, On What Really Happens Inside Her Open Marriage.
What does it actually look like to build a relationship outside the traditional script, and make it work? In this honest and eye-opening conversation, Hayley Folk opens up about her journey from a young, open marriage to becoming a leading voice in polyamory and modern relationships. She shares how discovering her queerness, navigating an open marriage, and ultimately redefining partnership transformed her understanding of love, desire, and personal truth. From play parties and kink exploration to therapy, communication, and emotional safety, this episode goes far beyond surface-level takes on non-monogamy. Instead, it reveals the real work behind it: vulnerability, boundaries, and radical honesty. Whether you’re curious about polyamory, questioning traditional relationship norms, or just want a more honest look at intimacy and connection, this conversation offers a powerful, human perspective on what it means to love, and live, authentically. 00:00 – Podcast intro & guest welcome 01:20 – Why polyamory is gaining attention 03:40 – Growing up queer & early relationship dynamics 06:00 – Open marriage vs polyamory explained 08:00 – Falling in love outside a marriage 10:00 – First experiences with women 12:00 – Meeting Kyle & building radical honesty 15:00 – Safety, communication & emotional openness 16:00 – One penis policy explained 18:00 – Boundaries, anxiety & early challenges 21:00 – Therapy and redefining the relationship 23:30 – First play party experience 25:30 – How confidence and boundaries evolved 27:30 – Discovering kink and impact play 30:00 – Vulnerability, trust & emotional intimacy 34:30 – Advice for attending sex parties 37:00 – Consent, safety & aftercare in kink 41:00 – Misconceptions from pop culture 42:30 – Open marriage memoir trends & gender dynamics 46:30 – Mistakes people make opening relationships 48:30 – Rules vs agreements vs boundaries 50:30 – Staying connected in long-distance marriage 52:30 – Living apart while married 54:30 – Poly vs monogamous dating dynamics 56:30 – Final thoughts & closing ⸻ Let’s be honest: it’s really hard to feel sexy when things feel off down there. Momotaro Apotheca is the organic solution that actually works, and I use it everyday. From their soothing balm, Salve, to UTI Supplement, Probiotic, and Yeast Infection Suppository, they have you covered. Build your own ritual at https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust and get 20% off with code LUST. ⸻ Hayley Folk is a sex and relationships writer and polyamorous content creator based in New York City. She specializes in writing about sex, wellness, mental health and more. Her work has appeared in New York Magazine, Refinery29, Cosmo and more. When she’s not sharing about her life as a bisexual, polyamorous woman married to a man online, you can find her writing her upcoming memoir, thrifting or on an airplane. Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepoly.pocket/ Follow her on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thepoly.pocket ⸻ Lust in Translation Podcast Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com⁠ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/⁠ Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠
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April 29 · 1 hr 2 min
Purity Culture, Marriage Struggles, and Sexual Healing with Lauren Elise Rogers
What if the beliefs you were taught about sex, purity, and relationships were never actually yours? In this episode, Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach Lauren Elise Rogers unpacks the hidden impact of purity culture and the long road back to personal agency, pleasure, and truth. She shares her story of growing up in a highly controlled religious environment, navigating a marriage shaped by repression and confusion, and ultimately reclaiming her identity and voice. Lauren takes us inside the emotional and psychological unraveling that comes with questioning everything you were taught about desire, gender roles, and partnership. From how sexual shame lives in the body to the deep rewiring required to build healthy, fulfilling relationships, this conversation is raw, honest, and deeply illuminating. Together, we explore the intersection of sexuality, faith, trauma, and healing—offering a nuanced, real-world look at what it takes to reconnect with your body, your desires, and your truth. Whether you're unpacking your upbringing, craving deeper intimacy in long-term relationships, or simply curious about how desire is shaped (and reshaped), this episode is a powerful invitation to rethink everything you thought you knew about sex and connection. 00:00 – Introduction & Lauren’s background 01:00 – Growing up in purity culture 03:00 – Ownership of the body & early conditioning 05:00 – Marriage expectations and gender roles 07:00 – Trauma, loss, and a broken marriage 08:30 – Feeling undesired & sexual confusion 10:00 – Discovering desire and self-exploration 12:00 – Shame, literature, and awakening sexuality 14:00 – What actually turns people on 16:00 – Eroticism vs long-term relationships 18:00 – Reintroducing desire in partnerships 20:00 – Role play, fantasy, and mental stimulation 21:30 – Faith vs sexuality: can they coexist? 24:00 – Rewriting harmful beliefs about sex 26:00 – Biology, pleasure, and the body 28:00 – Female desire and evolutionary dynamics 30:00 – Owning sexuality without shame 32:00 – Why sex education failed us 34:00 – Coaching clients through sexual shame 37:00 – Rewiring beliefs stored in the body 39:00 – Cultural messaging and gender roles 41:00 – Marriage, obligation, and sexual expectations 43:00 – Toys, pleasure, and removing stigma 46:00 – Expanding pleasure in real life 48:00 – Monogamy, safety, and desire 50:00 – Rethinking marriage and fulfillment 52:00 – Dating scripts and societal conditioning 53:30 – Sexual health and overall well-being 55:00 – Parenting and breaking the cycle 57:00 – Comprehensive sex education vs abstinence 59:00 – Raising confident, informed kids 01:01:00 – Final thoughts & closing ⸻ Couple's Intimacy Card Deck - https://www.wonderlust.co/intimacy-card-deck Code LUST15 for 15% off ⸻ Lauren Elise Rogers is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach, celebrated for her warm and approachable style. Her holistic and embodied approach to education and coaching is deeply rooted in her own pain-to-purpose journey. Lauren brings an empathetic and non-judgmental approach to her coaching, podcasts, and speaking engagements, offering practical tools that empower her clients and audiences to take ownership of their pleasure and grow in confidence and connection. She is known for creating shame-free spaces, where she invites individuals and couples to navigate complex topics like long-term partnerships, consensual non-monogamy, life transitions, purity culture and LGBTQIA+ issues. Follow Lauren here: instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you Lauren's website: https://sexedforyou.com/ ⸻ Lust in Translation Podcast Desire, Decoded. Subscribe to the Lust in Translation newsletter: lustintranslation.com Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/

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