
It's Never About the Dishes: A Therapist's Guide to Helping Your Partner Open Up with Dr. Linda Baker
Guest: Dr. Linda Baker, PsyD, licensed clinical psychologist and founder of Unstuck Therapy in Denver, specializing in men's issues and LGBTQ+ care. So many partners want the person they love to open up, but don't know how to ask without it feeling like pressure. In this episode, Dr. Linda Baker explains why so many men learn to shut feelings down, what's really happening when a partner goes quiet, and what actually helps someone feel safe enough to open the door. What You'll Learn: Why baby boys are handled differently from infancy, and how that early experience shapes emotional shutdown later in life Why not opening up doesn't mean not feeling How to tell the difference between a partner protecting himself and one who simply processes internally A simple script for asking for space without leaving your partner feeling shut out Why it's never really about the dishes, and how to name the emotional load without it turning into blame What to do (and avoid) when your partner does open up, even a little How a parent's unprocessed history can show up in how they respond to their own kids Why defensiveness is a flag, not a dead end, and how to work with it Resources & Links: Dr. Linda Baker / Unstuck Therapy: unstucktherapy.com Unstuck Therapy on Instagram: @unstucktherapydenver Book mentioned: The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by Bell Hooks Instagram pages to check out: @Jimmy_on_Relationships @Alessandro_frosali @Drjondabach Integrated Behavioral Health website: integratedbhs.com Book a consult call with Integrated Behavioral Health: Schedule here Sign up for the Integrated Behavioral Health newsletter: Sign up here Legal Disclaimer: While this podcast may provide information that is educational in nature, it is not intended to be a health care service, psychotherapy, or the practice of psychology. This podcast’s main purpose is to provide educational insights for all stages of child and family development. We will not provide diagnoses or specific recommendations for your family. At no point is a therapeutic relationship established by way of your unilateral participation by listening to these episodes, and we cannot provide advice or privileges associated with a therapeutic relationship. We recommend that anyone who is seeking a therapeutic relationship reach out to Integrated Behavioral Health at info@integratedbhs.com to begin the interview process of becoming a client or receiving a referral. If at any point in your listening or engaging with the content of this podcast, you experience an emergency, please immediately call 911 or go to your local emergency room.
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