it's not just you

Soph and Rach

join us for honest conversation as we address ‘the things everyone feels but no one really speaks about’. we’re soph and rach, two girls who met at uni six years ago and have been inseparable ever since. whether it’s navigating your 20s, embracing the single life or having tricky conversations with friends, we’ve probably chatted about it and we want to bring YOU in on our chats. sometimes you need to know it’s not just you! potentially *too much* vulnerability and plenty of lols also included. get an extra episode a week here: patreon.com/itsnotjustyoupodcast

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S6 · E12
Friday · 27 min
'she's my bestie but i'm not hers'
have you ever realised that someone is your best friend… but you’re not theirs? maybe you’re always the one reaching out, you feel like you’re putting more into the friendship, or you’ve realised they have someone else they’d choose first. and even if no one has done anything wrong, it can still really hurt 🤕💔 can a friendship still be meaningful if it isn’t perfectly equal? if you’ve ever wondered, “am i actually as important to them as they are to me?” – this one’s for you 🫶 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S6 · E11
September 24 · 27 min
why guy friends get complicated when you're single
can guys and girls really just be friends? this week we're talking about the messy grey areas of male-female friendships. how do you have healthy boundaries? when is a friendship is getting a little too close? what about navigating guy friendships when you’re in a relationship?! you asked, so we delivered (hopefully!)... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S6 · E10
September 18 · 33 min
stop waiting for your life to begin
it can be so easy to feel like we’re waiting for the next thing to happen before life can really begin. a relationship, a career takeoff, a friendship group, a house BUT what if the life you’ve longed for is actually hidden in the life you have?! today we're talking about how to be content. rach shares a load of thoughts she's been having off the back of reading joshua luke smith's brillaint book: this is the main event. What if THIS is the main event? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S6 · E9
September 11 · 37 min
what no one tells you about your first relationship
all the things we wish we'd known before getting into your first relationship 😳 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S6 · E8
September 3 · 32 min
is catch-up culture killing our friendships?
friendship in your 20s can feel exhausting. your time is stretched, everyone's busy and having an hour coffee catch-up with a friend can actually just end up feeling draining. how do we do friendship well when we're no longer at school or uni living in proximity to our friends?! how do we balance catching-up with creating new memories!? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S6 · E7
August 28 · 36 min
how will i know when i'm ACTUALLY in love?
how do you actually know when you’re in love? is it butterflies, peace, missing them when they’re gone, sparks flying? this week, we’re asking one of the biggest questions of life: what does it feel like when you've ACTUALLY met the one 🤷‍♀️ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S6 · E6
August 21 · 31 min
if you're noticing THIS in your friendship... don't ignore it
you know when your friend says “no it’s fine” but you know it’s absolutely not fine lol. this week we’re chatting all things passive aggression in friendship. from the subtle digs to saying nothing when you’re actually very annoyed — why do we do it, and what’s the healthier way to handle conflict with our friends? lets get into it 🫣 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S6 · E5
August 14 · 37 min
i keep clashing with my best mate
what do you do when you're type a, and your best mate is type b and you see the world SO differently!? worry not, we're here to say it's not just you! 'why are they always late?' , 'why are they so stressy?'... it can be so easy to get frustrated with our friends! here's what we've learnt over the years of our type a/type b friendship. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S6 · E4
August 7 · 42 min
things every girl can relate to on their period
oh the life of a woman! having a period is a privilege (and not something we take for granted) but it can also be LONG. today we're discussing the highs & lows of our cycles in the hope of providing some *relatable content* for the girlies. disclaimer: this is NOT a scientific unpacking, just two mates humbly chatting about their own experiences of having a period. enjoy! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S6 · E3
July 31 · 28 min
if you're single look out for these green flags
get your flags out ladies – this weeks pod is a bit of fun for us all. we’re running through your biggest green flags in a guy to see which ones get the 'it's not just you' stamp of approval. from the sweet and thoughtful to the slightly rogue... we're sharing our opinions, debating your suggestions, and seeing if we'd agree with your dream boyfriend checklist ✅ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S6 · E2
July 24 · 33 min
'i really struggle with body confidence in summer'
summer is to be ENJOYED..not to be spent worrying about the way our bodies look in swimwear! how can we be confident queens on holiday? why is life about so much more than our cellulite or rolls!? confidence is a journey, but today we want to encourage you to stop analysing photos of yourself and live in the moment! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S6 · E1
July 17 · 31 min
if you're a single girl in your late 20s, this episode is for you
if you're single and wondering, "how do I actually meet someone?" this one's for you. we're chatting honestly about dating, meeting people in real life and how that can feel really hard after a long time of doing life on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S5 · E24
July 10 · 31 min
i have no idea what i wanna do when i graduate
if you've ever felt like you have no idea what you're doing with your life then we're here to say: it's not just you! in this episode we reminisce on that weird time post-uni where you have to work out who you are, a career to pursue, whether to take a break from studies or do a gap year! how do you work out what's next? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S5 · E30
July 3 · 42 min
'i want more money'
today we're talking money, money, money. we've never actually spoken about this topic on the pod before! what do we do when finances our consuming our minds!? how we can be satisfied with what we have and not always be striving for more? we're no experts so have grace as we share some thoughts! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S5 · E22
June 26 · 26 min
help! he's living in my head rent free
if you’re struggling to work out whether the guy you like is actually giving you vibes back (whilst he’s living in your head rent-free) then this is the episode for you. we know this feeling all too well. but today, we’re also here to bring a little reality check: it's hard but maybe he’s just not that into you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S5 · E21
June 19 · 39 min
my insecurity is killing my friendships
todays episode is a vulnerable one as we chat about how our insecurity could be sabotaging and costing us our friendships without even knowing it. we discuss the hidden ways that comparison, insecure thinking and self doubt can create tension and distance with the ones we love most 💔 just to say people, you're not alone if you've sometimes felt like the difficulty in your personal life can seep out and start effecting others - it's not just you 🥺 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S5 · E20
June 12 · 30 min
why does being a good friend feel like a full time job
we all say we want community. we want deep friendships and people who show up for us. but what happens when those same friendships start asking more of us than feels comfortable? in this episode we’re talking about the inconvenience of community. why do our friends' needs sometimes feel overwhelming? how do we balance boundaries with generosity? Join us for a big old chinwag! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S5 · E19
June 5 · 26 min
i'm too busy for a relationship
can someone please explain how we're supposed to work a 9-5, exercise, see friends & fam, sleep well AND find quality time to spend with our boyfs??? today we're talking about our relationships and the battle for quality time. what does it look like to prioritise your partner when there's so many things competing for your time? join us for a rambly life update on where we're at right now! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S5 · E18
May 29 · 29 min
should i argue with my bf in front of my friends?
it's not just you who feels like interacting with your partner in front of other people isn't talked about enough! are we gonna be affectionate? are we gonna argue when we're with our mates? what are we gonna do if one of us says something the other completely disagrees with!? 👀 it can sometimes feel like pretty murky waters to navigate so today we're talking all things communication! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S5 · E17
May 22 · 43 min
the full wedding debrief (rach is now a wifey) !!!
guys rach is now officially a wifey!!! 💍✨ so of course we’ve gotta debrief the wedding day with you!! in this episode we answer all your wedding-related- from how it felt walking down the aisle, to how it feels to be a wife, to what rach would do differently about the day, to trying to save money, to soph’s maid of honour speech, the list goes on! a special episode which we’re excited to share with you 🤍 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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