Intimacy Coordinator

SmartLess Media

Joel Kim Booster is your personal intimacy coordinator in his new series celebrating dating, love, sex, marriage, and especially messy situationships. On each episode of Intimacy Coordinator, Joel makes it comfortable for his panel of guests to share the messy, surprising stories, experiences and advice that come when people try to connect. From the euphoric highs to the cringeworthy lows, Joel wants to hear about the whole spectrum of experiences with love— from the people that put butterflies in your stomach to the moments that send blood to your privates. No matter what you can bet it will be intimate.

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#210
Yesterday · 55 min
Nightmare to Date (w/ Adam Conover, Allison Raskin, & Dewayne Perkins)
This week gets spirited as Joel Kim Booster is joined by Adam Conover (Adam Ruins Everything, Big Divorce Energy), Dewayne Perkins, (The Studio, The Blackening) and relationship coach and author, Allison Raskin (Compulsively Yours, I Do (I Think)). They confess all the ways they’ve been nightmares to date—from Allison staking out a guy's apartment behind a frat house, to Joel blaming every unanswered text on a man's "text rhythm”—before getting into a lively debate on whether or not you should d
Thursday · 11 min
BACKGROUND CHECK: Skyler Higley
It’s time to dip back into the archives for another Background Check! Skyler Higley was on Intimacy Coordinator this week, so we’re throwing back to the classic Bad Date story he told Joel and fellow guests Punkie Johnson and Josh Gondelman. Skyler finds himself in expert mode, but he’s more quickly than Higley. Enjoy this tale of Mormons, cigarettes, and Target parking lots, and don’t miss this week’s Intimacy Coordinator with Skyler, Asif Ali, and Femi Abe! Skyler Higley: @skylerhigley, He
#209
October 26 · 55 min
Ask A Gay Anything (w/ Asif Ali, Skyler Higley & Fumi Abe)
Joel Kim Booster's first all-straight panel–Asif Ali (Deli Boys, WandaVision), Skyler Higley (The Onion, After Midnight) and Fumi Abe (The Tonight Show, The Late Show)–finally get to ask the potentially career-ending questions that keep them up at night. From why gay men are so mean and what happens when the bottom finishes first, to the male loneliness crisis, the upsides of toxic masculinity, and why Spider-Man makes a better role model than Batman. Send in your own listener questions by emai
#208
October 19 · 45 min
Broad Shoulders, High Heels (w/ Monét X Change & BenDeLaCreme)
What's the most masculine thing about two of drag's most decorated queens? This week, Joel Kim Booster is joined by Monét X Change (Drag Race All Stars 4 winner, The Traitors) and BenDeLaCreme (Drag Race All Stars 3, The Jinkx & DeLa Holiday Show) to talk about all things masculinity—from GAY-ming and bar fights, to fatherly lessons involving studs. Plus the perils of hooking up in drag, mismatched sex drives in marriage, and the little known practicality of tennis balls in pools. Send in your
October 15 · 8 min
BACKGROUND CHECK: Brooks Wheelan
It’s time for another Background Check! This week, Brooks Wheelan was on Intimacy Coordinator, so we wanted to replay the classic Bad Date story he told to Joel and fellow guests Ali Kolbert and Jared Goldstein. The original description for his story was: “Brooks can overlook the scabies, but can the scabies overlook Brooks?” and that’s still all you need to know. Enjoy revisiting this Bad (question mark?) Date, and don’t miss this week’s Intimacy Coordinator with Brooks and ace stand-up (slash
#207
October 12 · 56 min
Soggy Burritos That Nobody Wants (w/ Brooks Wheelan & Katherine Blanford)
Joel puts comedy couple Brooks Wheelan and Katherine Blanford on the couch for live couples therapy, starting with the eggs Brooks ate, the all-caps text Katherine sent about it, and why laughing at that text was not the move. Subscribe to SmartLess Media on YouTube for full episodes, and follow @intimacycoordinatorshow on Instagram and TikTok for clips. Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+) · Fire Island (Hulu) · Psychosexual (Netflix) Brooks Wheelan: Along for the Ride
October 8 · 16 min
BACKGROUND CHECK: Danielle Perez
Danielle Perez was on Intimacy Coordinator this week, so it’s time for another Background Check! Join us as we revisit two hilarious and harrowing tales that Danielle told Joel and fellow guests Bonnie McFarlane and James Tom back in the Bad Dates era! First off, this man is simply too close and his lips have not been deemed ADA accessible, and in the second story her date goes full Shark Week. Catch up with Danielle’s tales from the trenches, and don’t miss this week’s Intimacy Coordinator with
#206
October 5 · 49 min
Race Play (w/ Danielle Perez, Solomon Georgio & Tien Tran)
Joel Kim Booster convenes a panel of (at least) double minorities — Danielle Perez, Solomon Georgio, and Tien Tran — to dig into how intersectional identities shape who we date, who we marry, and who keeps asking us to role-play. The panel trades the backhanded compliments they took as wins, sheepishly admits to dating white people, and unpacks the bedroom requests that went too far, from a breaking-and-entering fantasy to a "spicy Latina" audition. Plus: the fight that ended with Joel totaling
#205
September 28 · 53 min
Grindr Lies (w/ Bob the Drag Queen, Meatball & Rheeqrheeq Chainey)
Joel Kim Booster assembles three of the world's most famous liars — Bob the Drag Queen, Meatball, and Rheeqrheeq Chainey — to settle what's fair game to fib about in sex and dating. Then Bob hands over her phone, and the panel puts her Grindr profile on trial: photo by photo, verdict by verdict — is Bob catfishing America? Plus: the smoothest bad-date escapes), the official wiggle room for height and weight, and why Bob only filters for 6'6" and up. Subscribe to SmartLess Media on YouTube for f
September 24 · 10 min
BACKGROUND CHECK: Daniel Webb
We're kicking off a new series of bonus episodes where we revisit classic tales from our guests' past appearances, it's Background Check! Daniel Webb was on Intimacy Coordinator this week, so we wanted to replay his Bad Dates segment from 2024, alongside Joel, Zoë Chao, and Olivia DeLaurentis. In this clip, Daniel tells two stories, one about what it looks like when you randomly hook up with a guy who might have just won No Nut November, and another about an encounter ruined by showtunes and a p
#204
September 21 · 42 min
Living in Austin (w/ Daniel Webb, Vanessa Gonzalez & Martha Kelly)
Joel gathers three Austin-scene comics to dig into what dating (and drinking) in that city actually looks like — from bisexual bar culture and older closeted guys in the 2000s, to accidentally hooking up with conservative dates once you can't read the room anymore. Vanessa tells the story of playing hard-to-get, and Martha explains her theory on why "nice guy energy" always throws her radar off. We get into small-town-big-city dating, red flags you miss on purpose, and how a whole city's vibe ca
#203
September 14 · 52 min
New Parent Turn-Ons (w/ Natasha Leggero & Sabrina Jalees)
Joel sits down with the co-hosts of the parenting podcast Good Enough. They discuss what new turn-on has emerged in their partners since becoming parents, and it goes places. The group spirals into a full circumcision debate ("uncut energy," designer dicks, and whether Gen Alpha will be the first mostly-intact generation), then each names the four things they'd actually get out on the street for — billionaires, no war, and screen-time guilt included. Subscribe to SmartLess Media on YouTube for
#202
September 7 · 58 min
The Basics of Hate-Scrolling (w/ Yassir Lester, Chelsea Devantez, & Alaska Thunderfuck)
Joel Kim Booster brings together three guests he’s almost scared to put in the same room — writer/actor Yassir Lester, writer-director Chelsea Devantez, and Drag Race All Star Season 2 Winner, Alaska Thunderfuck — to dig into how online identity messes with real-life relationships. The icebreaker is pulled straight from Chelsea’s movie Basic: name the person you hate-scroll most. The group swaps stories on jealousy-fueled Instagram deep-dives, building an entire villain out of an ex’s social med
#201
August 31 · 58 min
Fridge Girl (w/Johnny Pemberton and Beth Stelling)
Joel is joined by Johnny Pemberton (Fallout, Superstore, Mermaid) and Beth Stelling (Girl Daddy) to dig into one of dating's messiest questions: can you actually stay friends with an ex? The trio trade stories on staying in touch with old flames, meeting a partner's exes, why proximity to your ex's new life changes everything, and how a well-timed voice (or a phone call from inside the house) can save a relationship. Send in your own listener questions by emailing us at intimacycoordinatorpo
#200
August 24 · 53 min
Sexy Clowns (w/ Natalie Palamides and Courtney Pauroso)
Two of comedy’s most fearless clowns join Joel to talk vulnerability and silliness, on stage, and in the bedroom. Beware: cringey dating stories ahead. Send in your own listener questions by emailing us at intimacycoordinatorpod@gmail.com or leave us a voicemail at ‪(213) 379-9851‬‪. Subscribe to SmartLess Media on YouTube for full episodes, and follow @intimacycoordinatorshow on Instagram and TikTok for clips. Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+), Fire Island(Hulu)
#199
August 17 · 51 min
Too Slutty To Marry? (w/ Liza Treyger, Dylan Adler, & Harry Jowsey)
This week, Joel is joined by comedians Dylan Adler and Liza Treyger, plus reality dating star Harry Jowsey, fresh off his run on Netflix’s Let’s Marry Harry. They dig into what it’s actually like to date multiple people at once—how to do it without hurting anyone, and the strange etiquette of a house full of women all trying to get ready for dates on the same schedule. Harry shares stories from filming, including the small red flags that got contestants cut and what changed being the center of t
#198
August 10 · 56 min
Big Girl Wednesday (w/ Langston Kerman, Roz Hernandez, and Jenny Zigrino)
This week, Joel and guests—Langston Kerman, Roz Hernandez, and Jenny Zigrino—come in hot with the topic of first loves, and messy but real feelings they come with. They get into hooking up on the road—from offering to fly someone out just to get ghosted, to surprise homemade lube—the cities that want them the most, Big Girl Wednesday, and the many shades of polyamory. Send in your own listener questions by emailing us at intimacycoordinatorpod@gmail.com or leave us a voicemail at ‪(213) 379-985
#197
August 3 · 51 min
The Psychic Mediates (w/ Steph Tolev, Jefferson McDonald, and Peter Antoniou)
Comedian Steph Tolev and musician-comedian Jefferson McDonald join Joel just four days after getting engaged — and they're still mid-argument when they sit down. To help sort out what's really going on, Peter Antoniou (AGT Season 16 semifinalist, Pretty Psychic Tour) comes in to read the room, call out old patterns, and dig into what makes this relationship different from all the others. They dive into coffee runs, angry dads, wedding party drama, and a very public proposal. Send in your own
#196
July 27 · 55 min
Kink (w/ Margaret Cho, Zach Noe Towers, and Gregg Araki)
Joel Kim Booster opens with a theory about Gen Z’s relationship to porn and doesn’t let up from there. Margaret Cho, Zach Noe Towers, and Gregg Araki join him to talk sexual muses, the etiquette of dating someone with the wrong politics, and a real conversation Joel had at a party about reverse racial dating discrimination. Along the way: Margaret’s Percy Jackson era, Zach’s queer-Asian solidarity bit, and Gregg previewing his new erotic thriller I Want Your Sex, out in theaters this month with
#195
July 20 · 48 min
Bi-erasure (w/ Travon Free, Ian Fidance, and Kat Bird)
Joel sits down with an all-bisexual panel — Trayvon Free, Ian Fidance, and Kat Bird — to dig into the stereotypes that follow bisexual people around (too greedy, secretly gay, just experimenting), the specific stigma bisexual men face versus bisexual women, and what it felt like to come out on their own timelines. The conversation covers dating across the gender spectrum, getting fetishized, getting razzed by other comics, and not quite fitting neatly into gay or straight spaces. Send in your o

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