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Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind

Corey Shapiro

Every time you cooperate, they escalate. Every time you're fair, they take more. A podcast about one-sided divorce, for the spouse whose reasonableness is being used against them. Hosted by Corey Shapiro, NYC divorce attorney and author of Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind.

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  • 27 episodes
  • weekly
  • Avg 8 min
  • English

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  • S6 · E22
    May 28 · 7 min

    What to Say Instead of "That's Ridiculous"

    When your spouse demands 50/50 and you know it isn't really about the kids, your instinct is to push back. That instinct will cost you. Here's the move that actually works. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  • S6 · E21
    May 21 · 6 min

    Build Momentum Without Caving

    When you're dug in on the big issue and nothing's moving, the answer isn't to push harder. Find the smallest place you actually agree and start there. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  • S6 · E20
    May 14 · 8 min

    What to Say Instead of "Where Have You Been?"

    When your spouse demands 50/50 after years of barely parenting, the urge to set them straight is overwhelming. That instinct is the trap. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  • S6 · E19
    May 7 · 10 min

    Your Reaction Is Right. Your Response Cannot Be.

    The offer is outrageous. Your reaction is valid. Saying it out loud is the mistake. Here's the method that keeps you persuasive instead. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  • S6 · E18
    April 30 · 9 min

    Your Feelings Don't Matter in Divorce Court. Your Actions Do.

    This episode breaks down why acting neutral in your divorce isn't about hiding your feelings, it's about protecting your case from a system that's already forming opinions about you. Corey walks through what happens when emotions take over, why credibility matters more than truth in court, and how to stop giving the other side ammunition. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  • S6 · E17
    April 23 · 7 min

    The Secret Weapon That Makes You More Persuasive in Your Divorce

    You're not going to get what you want by pushing harder. The strategic shift shows you how to listen for what's really driving their position, so you can move them without a fight. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

  • S6 · E16
    April 16 · 5 min

    You Think Winning Changes Everything. You're Wrong.

    That custody win or perfect settlement you're fixated on may not deliver what you think it will. Before you commit to the fight, make sure you can stomach what it takes to get there. You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through. Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding. Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.

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