Estranged & Rearranged

Candi Morris

Estranged & Rearranged is a podcast for estranged parents and grandparents who are trying to survive the heartbreak of being cut off, make sense of what happened, and figure out how to keep living when the family they loved has been turned upside down.

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S1 · E23
Yesterday · 21 min
What If Your Estranged Child Never Comes Back?
What if your estranged child never comes back? And what if they finally do… but you’re no longer sure you want the relationship back?Those are difficult questions, but they’re questions many estranged parents eventually face.In this episode of Estranged & Rearranged, Candi talks through the “what ifs” that can consume your thoughts during family estrangement: What if they never call? What if they return and leave again? What if your grandchildren forget you? What if the rest of the family slowly moves on without you? And what happens when years of estrangement change what reconciliation would even look like?Candi also explores rebuilding trust, setting boundaries if contact resumes, preserving memories for estranged grandchildren, and learning how to keep living without giving up the love you still have for your child.Because hope and healing can exist at the same time. You can love your child, miss them deeply, and still build a life that isn’t centered around waiting for the phone to ring.💬 Which “what if” gets to you the most? Share it in the comments. Someone else may be carrying the exact same question.🔗 Connect & Explore🛍️ Website & Resourceshttps://www.estrangedandrearranged.com/resources📘 Facebook Pagehttps://www.facebook.com/share/1CuD1nHeS8/👥 Join the Facebook Grouphttps://www.facebook.com/share/g/1SU79VBP4o/🎵 TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@estranged.and.rea?_r=1&_t=ZT-95tKbPyH3mA
S1 · E22
September 26 · 23 min
1. What Will They Remember? Leaving Love Behind After Family Estrangement
When family estrangement happens, it’s easy to create a detailed record of the pain. The screenshots. The emails. The unanswered messages. The holidays that felt different. The conversations we replay over and over.But what about the record of our love?In this episode of Estranged & Rearranged, Candi Morris shares a deeply personal realization about the years she has spent estranged from her son and granddaughter. She talks about the emails she has saved, the messages she has written, and the difference between documenting our hurt and preserving the love, memories, stories, and family history that existed long before estrangement.Candi also explores what happens to family history when people stop speaking. Recipes disappear. Stories get forgotten. Children and grandchildren miss the ordinary moments where family history is normally passed from one generation to another.And there’s an important distinction: preserving those memories doesn’t mean breaking no contact, sending unwanted messages, or creating an emotional bill someone else has to pay.Sometimes you can simply write it down.Save the recipe. Label the photograph. Keep the voicemail. Record the family story. Write the letter you may never send.Because pain is already a really good record keeper. Maybe love needs a little more help.In this episode:- Why painful memories can overpower the good ones- Candi’s experience documenting her estrangement- The difference between preserving love and creating an “emotional invoice”- What happens to family history during estrangement- Why you can write something without ever sending it- Preserving memories for estranged children and grandchildren- Making peace with not knowing whether reconciliation will happen💗 Join the Estranged & Rearranged communityVisit estrangedandrearranged.com for the podcast, support resources, Candi’s book, coaching information, and details about the Thursday night Zoom support meetings.If this conversation resonates with you, subscribe, share the episode, and leave a review. And in the comments, tell us one family story, recipe, tradition, or ordinary memory you never want your family to lose.You still have a life to live. Now go live it.🔗 Connect & Explore🛍️ Website & Resourceshttps://www.estrangedandrearranged.com/resources📘 Facebook Pagehttps://www.facebook.com/share/1CuD1nHeS8/👥 Join the Facebook Grouphttps://www.facebook.com/share/g/1SU79VBP4o/🎵 TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@estranged.and.rea?_r=1&_t=ZT-95tKbPyH3mA
S1 · E21
September 19 · 23 min
One Relationship Ends... Then the Whole Family Changes
When a parent and adult child become estranged, the loss rarely stays between just two people.Siblings get caught in the middle. Grandparents can lose contact with grandchildren. Holidays change. Cousins drift apart. Relatives feel pressured to choose sides. Sometimes nobody intentionally cuts anyone else off, but the family slowly reorganizes around the relationship that's gone. Candi calls this the blast radius of family estrangement.In this episode of Estranged & Rearranged, Candi explores what happens to everyone standing outside the original estrangement. She talks about kinkeeping, the difference between a healthy boundary and a loyalty test, the real costs that can accompany no contact, and why supporting someone doesn't always mean agreeing with them.She also asks a difficult question: Can one relationship end without requiring every other relationship in the family to end with it?This isn't about deciding who's right or wrong. It's about recognizing that one broken relationship can change five others, and asking whether families can keep that original estrangement from becoming the organizing principle for everyone else.💬 Join the conversation:Who else disappeared or became distant after the original estrangement? Where do you think a healthy boundary ends and a loyalty test begins?📅 Weekly Support Group: Thursdays at 7 PM CSTIf this conversation resonates with you, subscribe, share the episode, and leave a comment. It helps other people navigating family estrangement find this community.And remember: You’ve still got a life to live. Now go live it.🔗 Connect & Explore🛍️ Website & Resourceshttps://www.estrangedandrearranged.com/resources📘 Facebook Pagehttps://www.facebook.com/share/1CuD1nHeS8/👥 Join the Facebook Grouphttps://www.facebook.com/share/g/1SU79VBP4o/🎵 TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@estranged.and.rea?_r=1&_t=ZT-95tKbPyH3mA
S1 · E20
September 2 · 29 min
New to Family Estrangement? Start With These Conversations
Find an episode:https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWqJy3KEySePJaBd_zWYnvq8y2Z0dqvE8&si=hluXxduTPDmeRBTJIf you’re living through estrangement from an adult child, you probably don’t need another person telling you there’s one simple answer. You need the right conversation for where you are right now.In this episode of Estranged & Rearranged, Candi looks back at 19 conversations from the podcast and the different pieces of family estrangement they explore. From begging an adult child to respond, living with uncertainty, and losing contact with grandchildren to therapy language, no contact, narcissistic manipulation, social media, letting go, and rebuilding a life that doesn’t depend on reconciliation, there’s a lot here.Candi revisits conversations with guests including Roberta Wasserman, Christy, Lenora Scurry, Vera Knight, Peter Anderson, Katt Johnston, and Tracy Malone, along with some of the most important lessons from her solo episodes.You don’t need to binge all 19. Find the conversation that speaks to what you’re dealing with today.And remember: your child may have left, but your life didn’t.#FamilyEstrangement #EstrangedParents #AdultChildEstrangement #GrandparentEstrangement #NoContact #EstrangedAndRearranged🔗 Connect & Explore🛍️ Website & Resourceshttps://www.estrangedandrearranged.com/resources📘 Facebook Pagehttps://www.facebook.com/share/1CuD1nHeS8/👥 Join the Facebook Grouphttps://www.facebook.com/share/g/1SU79VBP4o/🎵 TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@estranged.and.rea?_r=1&_t=ZT-95tKbPyH3mA
S1 · E19
August 26 · 27 min
Your Adult Child Still Sees the Old You. But You Don’t Have to Stay There
What happens when you’ve admitted your mistakes, apologized, changed your behavior, and your adult child still sees you only as the parent you used to be?In this episode of Estranged & Rearranged, Candi talks about what she calls “the frozen house”, the painful place where an estranged parent can become permanently defined by the worst years, worst decisions, and worst moments of their past.Candi shares honestly about her own relationship with her estranged son, the mistakes she made as a mother, the things she wishes she could go back and change, and the realization that changed everything: you cannot spend the rest of your life waiting for someone else to decide whether you’re allowed to become a different person.This episode explores accountability without lifelong shame, why constantly trying to prove you’ve changed can keep you trapped, how no-contact can affect the way families learn to handle conflict, and why the people who are still in your life deserve your presence too.You can own what you did without making it the only truth about who you are.And you can leave the light on for reconciliation without spending the rest of your life sitting underneath it.🔗 Connect & Explore🛍️ Website & Resourceshttps://www.estrangedandrearranged.com/resources📘 Facebook Pagehttps://www.facebook.com/share/1CuD1nHeS8/👥 Join the Facebook Grouphttps://www.facebook.com/share/g/1SU79VBP4o/🎵 TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@estranged.and.rea?_r=1&_t=ZT-95tKbPyH3mA
S301 · E18
August 19 · 42 min
When Your Estranged Child Controls the Family Story | Should You Defend Yourself?
What happens when your adult child goes no contact, but continues telling their version of the family story?For many estranged parents, losing the relationship is only the beginning. Suddenly relatives, friends, grandchildren, and even strangers online may be hearing a version of events that you believe is exaggerated, incomplete, twisted, or simply untrue.And you're left with an impossible question:Do you defend yourself or stay silent?In this episode of Estranged & Rearranged, Candi Morris gets deeply personal about reputation, smear campaigns, family narratives, social media, and the painful reality of being cast as the villain in a story you may not even be allowed to respond to.Candi explores:• What happens when one person controls the family narrative• Why no contact can leave estranged parents unable to tell their side• How labels like "toxic," "narcissistic," and "abusive" can reshape how an entire family views someone• What grandchildren may be told about an estranged grandparent• When defending yourself can actually make the situation worse• How social media can amplify accusations and outrage• The difference between accountability and accepting accusations you believe are false• When serious claims may require documentation or professional help• How to stop living as though your character is constantly on trialCandi also opens up about something happening in her own life: people publicly discussing her past and making claims about her character.She shares the struggle between wanting to defend herself and recognizing that answering every accusation can give the people attacking you even more control over your time, attention, and peace.You can own what you truly did wrong without accepting responsibility for things you did not do.Someone else may control the story they tell about you.They do not get to decide who you become.If you're an estranged parent or grandparent struggling with judgment, rumors, accusations, or feeling like nobody wants to hear your side, this episode is for you.❤️ Like, subscribe, comment, and share this episode with another estranged parent who needs to hear it.🔗 Connect & Explore🛍️ Website & Resourceshttps://www.estrangedandrearranged.com/resources📘 Facebook Pagehttps://www.facebook.com/share/1CuD1nHeS8/👥 Join the Facebook Grouphttps://www.facebook.com/share/g/1SU79VBP4o/🎵 TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@estranged.and.rea?_r=1&_t=ZT-95tKbPyH3mA
S1 · E17
August 12 · 46 min
You Lost Your Child... Don't Lose Yourself Too | Healing After Estrangement
🛍️ Family estrangement can feel like the end of your story. But what if it became the beginning of a completely different one?In this heartfelt episode of Estranged & Rearranged, Candi Morris welcomes author, speaker, and support group moderator Vera to discuss the powerful journey behind her book The Woman Who Left Herself Behind.After facing cancer, leaving a 25-year career, and experiencing family estrangement, Vera found herself asking a question many parents eventually face:"Who am I outside of everyone else's expectations?"Together, Candi and Vera explore:• Why estrangement often reveals wounds that existed long before the relationship broke down• The concept of self-estrangement and how many parents unknowingly lose themselves while caring for everyone else• How to regulate your nervous system during overwhelming grief• Why hope and healing can exist together• The difference between changing your child and changing yourself• How reconnecting with yourself may be the most important part of healingThis conversation isn't about giving up on your child.It's about learning not to give up on yourself.Whether you're newly estranged or have been carrying this grief for years, this episode offers encouragement, compassion, and a fresh perspective on what healing can truly look like.❤️ If this episode encouraged you, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who needs hope today.🔗 Connect & Explore🛍️ Vera's Book: https://amzn.to/3UcX4EZ🛍️ Website & Resourceshttps://www.estrangedandrearranged.com/resources📘 Facebook Pagehttps://www.facebook.com/share/1CuD1nHeS8/👥 Join the Facebook Grouphttps://www.facebook.com/share/g/1SU79VBP4o/🎵 TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@estranged.and.rea?_r=1&_t=ZT-95tKbPyH3mA
S1 · E16
August 5 · 34 min
The Estrangement Machine: How Social Media & Therapy Are Changing Families
Is family estrangement becoming a social media trend?In this episode, Candi Morris explores what she calls "The Estrangement Machine" and how social media, online communities, therapy culture, and algorithms may be influencing family relationships in ways many people never stop to question.This is not an attack on therapy or mental health professionals. Instead, it's a conversation about influence, accountability, confirmation bias, and whether permanent family cutoffs are sometimes encouraged before every option has been explored.Candi discusses:How social media algorithms reinforce family narrativesThe growing use of terms like narcissist, gaslighting, and toxicWhy context matters more than viral adviceThe Wall Street Journal article questioning therapy's role in family estrangementThe importance of accountability for both parents and adult childrenWhy permanent no-contact decisions deserve careful considerationIf you've experienced family estrangement, this episode encourages thoughtful reflection rather than quick conclusions.🔗 Connect & Explore🛍️ Website & Resourceshttps://www.estrangedandrearranged.com/resources📘 Facebook Pagehttps://www.facebook.com/share/1CuD1nHeS8/👥 Join the Facebook Grouphttps://www.facebook.com/share/g/1SU79VBP4o/🎵 TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@estranged.and.rea?_r=1&_t=ZT-95tKbPyH3mA
S1 · E15
July 29 · 42 min
How Narcissists Destroy Families | Tracy Malone on Estrangement by Lies
Can a narcissistic partner slowly turn your child against you? In this powerful episode of Estranged & Rearranged, Candi Morris sits down with Tracy Malone, coach, educator, bestselling author, and one of YouTube's leading voices on narcissistic abuse and coercive control. Together they explore how manipulative partners can isolate adult children, create division within families, and contribute to family estrangement. Tracy explains the difference between healthy boundaries and coercive control, why labels matter less than behavior patterns, and the warning signs every parent should recognize. Whether you're an estranged parent, grandparent, therapist, or simply trying to understand narcissistic abuse, this conversation provides practical insight and hope. • What narcissism really is (and isn't) • Grandiose vs. covert narcissists • Why behavior patterns matter more than labels • How coercive control destroys family relationships • The public mask narcissists wear and why so many people miss the warning signs • Why loving families suddenly become divided • The role of manipulation in family estrangement • What parents can do when they recognize these patterns 🌐 Website https://narcissistabusesupport.com/ 📺 YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/TracyAMalone 🎙️ Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/podcast-narcissist-abuse-support/id1244854330?mt=2 👥 Facebook Support Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/188681268196044/ 📥 Free Estrangement Resources https://narcissistabusesupport.com/estrangement-resources/ 📚 Tracy's Books https://amzn.to/4wARUBe 🤝 ESMH Coalition https://www.esmhcoalition.org/ 🌐 Website & Resources https://www.estrangedandrearranged.com/resources 📘 Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/share/1CuD1nHeS8/ 👥 Join the Facebook Support Group https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1SU79VBP4o/ 🎵 TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@estranged.and.rea?_r=1&_t=ZT-95tKbPyH3mA 💬 Help spread the message If this conversation encouraged you, please like, subscribe, leave a comment, and share it with someone who may need it. Every share helps another family realize they are not alone. In this episode:🔗 Resources Mentioned👤 Tracy Malone🔗 Connect & Support
S1 · E14
July 22 · 20 min
Is No Contact Becoming a Shortcut? | The Truth About Conflict, Boundaries & Family Estrangement
Is going no contact always the healthiest choice, or are we losing the ability to work through difficult relationships? In this episode of Estranged & Rearranged, Candi Morris examines a growing cultural trend: more people, especially younger generations, are cutting off friends and family than ever before. Drawing from recent research and her own experience working with estranged families, Candi explores the difference between protecting yourself from genuine harm and avoiding uncomfortable conversations. This episode discusses boundaries, conflict resolution, loneliness, and why learning healthy communication skills may be more important than ever. Whether you're an estranged parent, an adult child, or someone navigating difficult family relationships, this conversation offers perspective, encouragement, and hope. 📖 When They Walk Away by Candi Morris https://estrangedandrearranged.com 📖 Rules of Estrangement by Joshua Coleman https://amzn.to/4vWkFb8 📖 When Parents Hurt by Joshua Coleman https://amzn.to/4fpU7sN 🤝 ESMH Coalition https://www.esmhcoalition.org/ 📘 Vice article referenced in this episode (about the rise of no contact among Gen Z and Millennials) 📊 Talkspace Survey (commissioned research discussed in the episode) 🌐 Website: https://estrangedandrearranged.com 📘 Join the Facebook Support Group (linked on the website) 📱 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@estranged.and.rea If this episode encouraged you, please Like, Subscribe, and Share it with someone who may need to hear this conversation. Resources MentionedConnect & Support
S1 · E13
July 15 · 52 min
Your Child Left... Your Life Didn't | A Message Every Estranged Parent Needs
What do you do when you've apologized, waited, prayed, written the letters... and nothing changes? In this deeply personal episode of Estranged & Rearranged, Candi Morris speaks directly to estranged parents and grandparents who feel trapped in the waiting. If you've spent years hoping for reconciliation while putting your own life on hold, this conversation is for you. Candi shares lessons from her own estrangement journey, practical strategies for breaking free from obsessive waiting, and encouragement to rebuild a meaningful life, whether reconciliation comes or not. This episode isn't about giving up on your child. It's about refusing to give up on yourself. • Why hope should never become a prison • The difference between accountability and lifelong guilt • How to stop replaying the past over and over • Breaking the cycle of checking social media and waiting for messages • Creating healthy boundaries around contact • Why your identity is bigger than your estrangement • A practical 7-day reset to help you move forward • Finding purpose while leaving the door open for reconciliation • Why your child's silence does not determine your worth If you're an estranged parent or grandparent wondering how to keep living while carrying this pain, this episode offers practical encouragement, honest reflection, and hope for the road ahead. In this episode:
S1 · E12
July 8 · 53 min
Can Family Estrangement Be Repaired? Therapist Roberta Wasserman Explains
Can family estrangement be healed? And what should parents do when they've apologized, owned their mistakes, and still hear nothing? In this episode of Estranged & Rearranged, Candi Morris sits down with Roberta Wasserman, LCSW-C, a licensed certified clinical social worker, certified family estrangement coach, grief educator, and author of The 12-Step Workbook: Living in the Land of Estrangement. Together, they explore one of the most misunderstood issues affecting families today. Roberta shares both her professional expertise and her personal journey, offering practical guidance for estranged parents and grandparents while emphasizing accountability, healing, grief, and hope. The conversation also addresses therapy culture, ambiguous grief, reconciliation, grandparent alienation, and why family estrangement has become an increasingly common issue across generations. • What family estrangement really is and what it isn't • Family estrangement vs. parental and grandparent alienation • The difference between grief after death and ambiguous grief after estrangement • When therapy helps families and when therapy language can cause harm • What parents should own and what they should let go of • Is reconciliation possible? • Supporting grandchildren affected by estrangement • How to begin rebuilding your own life while leaving the door open for hope • Roberta's 12-Step Workbook for estranged parents and grandparents • The mission of the ESMH Coalition If you're an estranged parent, grandparent, therapist, or someone trying to understand the growing epidemic of family estrangement, this conversation offers compassion, practical wisdom, and encouragement that healing is possible, even when reconciliation isn't guaranteed. 🤝 ESMH Coalition https://www.esmhcoalition.org/ 👤 Roberta Wasserman, LCSW-C https://www.robertawassermanlcsw-c.com/ 📖 The 12-Step Workbook: Living in the Land of Estrangement https://amzn.to/4eQfnrt 📚 Rules of Estrangement by Dr. Joshua Coleman https://amzn.to/4vWkFb8 📘 When Parents Hurt by Dr. Joshua Coleman https://amzn.to/4fpU7sN 💙 David Kessler https://grief.com 📖 Elisabeth Kübler-Ross Foundation https://www.ekrfoundation.org 🌐 Website & Resources https://www.estrangedandrearranged.com/resources 🛍️ When They Walk Away: A Healing & Reflection Book for Estranged Parents https://candicentral.etsy.com/listing/4372740625 📘 Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/share/1CuD1nHeS8/ 👥 Join the When They Walk Away Support Group https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1SU79VBP4o/ 🎵 TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@estranged.and.rea?_r=1&_t=ZT-95tKbPyH3mA 💬 Help spread the message If this conversation encouraged you, please like, subscribe, leave a comment, and share it with someone who may need it. Every share helps another parent or grandparent realize they are not alone. In this episode:🔗 Resources Mentioned in This Episode🔗 Connect & Support
July 1 · 36 min
How Do You Move Forward Without Closure? | Hope for Estranged Parents
How do you move forward when there's no ending... and no answers? For many estranged parents, the hardest part isn't just the silence. It's living with what Candi Morris calls "the indefinite sentence." There is no timeline, no explanation, no clear path to reconciliation, and no way to know if the relationship will ever be restored. In this heartfelt episode of Estranged & Rearranged, Candi explores why uncertainty can become more painful than the estrangement itself and shares practical ways to stop living in the waiting room while still leaving the door open for hope. In this episode, we discuss: • Why uncertainty hurts more than bad news • The emotional weight of the "indefinite sentence" • How holidays can intensify estrangement grief • The difference between hope and waiting • Accountability without losing yourself • Whether you should send "the letter" • When support groups help and when it's time to step back • Learning to build a meaningful life while leaving the door open for reconciliation • Five practical takeaways for estranged parents living with unanswered questions If you're an estranged parent or grandparent, this episode is a reminder that while you cannot control another person's decisions, you can choose how you live each day. Your story is not over, and your life still matters. You are not alone. 🔗 Connect & Support 🌐 Website & Resources https://www.estrangedandrearranged.com/resources 🛍️ When They Walk Away: A Healing & Reflection Book for Estranged Parents https://candicentral.etsy.com/listing/4372740625 📘 Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/share/1CuD1nHeS8/ 👥 Join the When They Walk Away Support Group https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1SU79VBP4o/ 🎵 TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@estranged.and.rea?_r=1&_t=ZT-95tKbPyH3mA 💬 Help spread the message If this episode encouraged you, please like, subscribe, leave a comment, and share it with someone who may need to hear it. Your support helps more estranged parents discover they're not alone.
S1 · E10
June 24 · 36 min
Are Therapists Fueling Family Estrangement? A Hard Look at No Contact Culture
Has therapy become a tool for healing... or a weapon in family relationships?In this thought-provoking episode of Estranged & Rearranged, Candi Morris explores the growing role therapy culture, therapy language, and social media influencers may be playing in the rise of family estrangement and no-contact relationships. Drawing from her own lived experience, decades of work in child welfare, and conversations with thousands of estranged parents, Candi examines difficult questions many families are asking.What happens when words like toxic, narcissist, gaslighting, unsafe, and boundaries become labels instead of tools for understanding? Are some therapists helping clients heal, or unintentionally reinforcing one-sided narratives that make family repair impossible?Topics discussed in this episode include:• Therapy and family estrangement• No contact culture and social media influence• Therapy speak and family conflict• Toxic family labels and accountability• Boundaries vs. punishment• Adult child estrangement• Parent-child relationships• Social media therapists and mental health content• Family reconciliation and repair• Estranged parents supportWhether you're an estranged parent, an adult child, a therapist, or someone trying to understand the growing estrangement epidemic, this conversation challenges popular narratives and encourages deeper reflection about healing, accountability, and family relationships.🔗 Connect & Explore🛍️ Website & Resourceshttps://www.estrangedandrearranged.com/resources📘 Facebook Pagehttps://www.facebook.com/share/1CuD1nHeS8/👥 Join the Facebook Grouphttps://www.facebook.com/share/g/1SU79VBP4o/🎵 TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@estranged.and.rea?_r=1&_t=ZT-95tKbPyH3mA
June 19 · 42 min
History Made: Iowa Launches Its First Women Veterans Program
History was made in Iowa as veterans, community leaders, and supporters gathered for the inaugural Iowa Women Veterans Program event in honor of Women Veterans Recognition Day. In this special episode of Still Serving Iowa Veterans, hear powerful remarks from veterans, state leaders, advocates, and organizations dedicated to ensuring women veterans receive the recognition, resources, and support they have earned. Featured speakers discuss: • The launch of the Iowa Women Veterans Program • The importance of advocacy and connection • Resources available to women veterans • Women Veterans Recognition Day in Iowa • Future opportunities for mentorship and support • Building a stronger community for the next generation of women who serve As one speaker stated, "We served. We belong. We matter." Made possible by the Iowa Veterans Foundation and our sponsors who help us share the stories of those who served.
S1 · E9
June 17 · 41 min
Why Family Estrangement Is Exploding | Kat Johnston Explains the Perfect Storm
Why does family estrangement seem to be happening everywhere? In this thought-provoking episode of Estranged & Rearranged, Candi Morris sits down with licensed social worker, content creator, and family advocate Kat Johnston to discuss the growing rise of family estrangement, no-contact culture, therapy language, mental health, and what she calls the "perfect storm" driving family division today. Kat shares insights from her clinical background, social media advocacy, and work with a growing coalition focused on preserving family relationships, improving mental health practices, and raising awareness about the long-term impact of family estrangement. • Why family estrangement is increasing • The "perfect storm" behind no-contact culture • Social media's influence on family relationships • Therapy language and family conflict • When no contact is protection versus punishment • Why accountability matters • Family resilience and emotional tolerance • Mental health and personality disorders • The future impact of estrangement on families and society Whether you're an estranged parent, estranged adult child, therapist, social worker, or someone trying to understand the growing divide in modern families, this conversation offers valuable insight and perspective. You are not alone. 🤝 ESMH Coalition Websitehttps://www.esmhcoalition.org/ 📚 Dr. Joshua Coleman https://drjoshuacoleman.com 🎵 TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@making_senseofit_w.katt 📸 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/makeitmakesense_katt 🛍️ Website & Resources https://www.estrangedandrearranged.com/resources 📘 Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/share/1CuD1nHeS8/ 👥 Join the Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1SU79VBP4o/ 🎵 TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@estranged.and.rea In This EpisodeResources Mentioned in This EpisodeFollow Kat JohnstonConnect & Support
S1 · E8
June 10 · 27 min
What Happens After Estrangement? Lenora's Journey to Healing
What do you do when you've lost contact with your child... and your grandchildren? In this heartfelt episode of Estranged & Rearranged, Candi Morris sits down with author, support group leader, and estranged mother Lenora Scurry to discuss the pain of family estrangement, the healing process, and what it truly means to let go without giving up love. Lenora shares her deeply personal story, including the childhood trauma that shaped her parenting, the heartbreak of losing contact with her only daughter and grandchildren, and the difficult journey toward accountability, self-reflection, and emotional healing. • Family estrangement and healing • The difference between accountability and self-blame • Letting go of control without letting go of love • Childhood trauma and parenting • Grief, loss, and rebuilding your life • Support for estranged parents • The importance of finding community • Life after estrangement Lenora also shares a moving poem written for estranged mothers that reminds us we are more than our heartbreak and that healing is still possible. If you're an estranged parent, grandparent, or someone struggling with family separation, this conversation offers understanding, compassion, and hope. You are not alone. Links to products mentioned in this episode. Some links in this description are affiliate links. If you purchase through them, I may earn a commission at no additional cost to you. Lenora's Book Letting Go: A Mother's Journeyhttps://amzn.to/4xfqrFK 🛍️ Resources & Shop https://www.estrangedandrearranged.com/resources 📘 Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/share/1CuD1nHeS8/ 👥 When They Walk Away Support Group https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1SU79VBP4o/ 🎵 TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@estranged.and.rea?_r=1&_t=ZT-95tKbPyH3mA
S1 · E7
June 3 · 53 min
When Is No Contact Actually Necessary? Peter Anderson Answers the Hard Questions
Welcome back to Estranged & Rearranged with Candi Morris. In this powerful conversation, Candi sits down with licensed marriage and family therapist Peter Anderson to discuss one of the most difficult topics facing families today: family estrangement. Why is estrangement becoming more common? Has social media changed the way families handle conflict? What does healthy accountability actually look like? And when, if ever, is no contact truly necessary? Peter shares his perspective as a therapist who works with families every day, offering insight into family systems, communication, conflict, forgiveness, boundaries, and the growing cultural conversation surrounding estrangement. IN THIS EPISODE: Why family estrangement appears to be increasing The role social media plays in family conflict No contact vs. healthy boundaries What accountability really means Why silence can become punishment Family healing and reconciliation The impact estrangement has on grandparents and grandchildren Communication tools that can improve relationships Grief, forgiveness, and moving forward Whether you're an estranged parent, estranged adult child, grandparent, therapist, or someone trying to understand the growing divide within families, this conversation offers thoughtful perspectives from both lived experience and clinical practice. Please note: This episode reflects personal opinions and professional perspectives intended to encourage conversation and understanding around family estrangement. CONNECT & SUPPORT Support the Podcast & Shop: https://www.estrangedandrearranged.com/store Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/share/1CuD1nHeS8/ When They Walk Away Support Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1SU79VBP4o/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@estranged.and.rea?_r=1&_t=ZT-95tKbPyH3mA RESOURCES MENTIONED Some links in this description are affiliate links. If you purchase through them, I may earn a commission at no additional cost to you. The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt (Book): https://a.co/d/0c9mrZpa The Anxious Generation (Audiobook): https://a.co/d/0c9mrZpa Not Born Yesterday (Book): https://amzn.to/4fbEIwF Not Born Yesterday (Audiobook): https://amzn.to/4dEOsOT Shadow Work Journal & Workbook: https://amzn.to/4fbEIwF
S1 · E6
May 27 · 42 min
Is "No Contact" a Healthy Boundary or a Punishment?
Are estranged parents guilty until proven innocent? In this episode of Estranged and Rearranged, host Candy Morris exposes the subtle, powerful bias in how mainstream media and social platforms cover family estrangement. While adult children are often granted immediate understanding, parents are routinely met with suspicion, leaving many hurting parents to suffer in silence. Candy dives deep into the statistics, citing a YouGov study revealing that 38% of American adults are currently estranged from a close family member. This is not a minor internet issue; it is a widespread societal crisis affecting parents, siblings, and grandparents who are cut off from their grandchildren. In this episode, we break down the double standards in the language used by the media: • For Adult Children: Words like safety, peace, boundaries, protection, and mental health. • For Estranged Parents: Words like denial, entitlement, missing reasons, and manipulation. It is time to ask the hard questions: Who gets compassion, and who gets suspicion? If you are an estranged parent or grandparent navigating this painful journey, please know that you are not alone. Visit our newly launched website at https://estrangedandrearranged.com to find resources, view Candy's book, and access support. You can also join our dedicated Facebook support group, When They Walk Away, designed specifically for estranged parents seeking a safe, non-judgmental community. Subscribe to the channel for more honest, facts-based discussions on family estrangement, healing, and moving forward. 🔗 Connect & Explore🛍️ 🛍️ Website & Resources⁠https://www.estrangedandrearranged.com/resources⁠ 📘 Facebook Pagehttps://www.facebook.com/share/1CuD1nHeS8/ 👥 Join the Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1SU79VBP4o/ 🎵 TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@estranged.and.rea?_r=1&_t=ZT-95tKbPyH3mA
S1 · E5
May 20 · 45 min
No Contact Has Become a Trend… And Families Are Paying the Price
Has “no contact” become too normal? In this emotional and unfiltered episode of Estranged & Rearranged, Candi Morris takes a hard look at the growing rise of family estrangement, no contact culture, low contact relationships, and the devastating impact these family cutoffs are having on parents, grandparents, adult children, and grandchildren. Candi discusses: Why estrangement is becoming more common The emotional toll no contact has on parents and grandparents How social media and therapy culture may be influencing family cutoffs The difference between safety and punishment Why low contact may be a healthier option for some families The hidden grief of losing grandchildren through estrangement Why accountability and reconciliation conversations matter This episode is honest, emotional, controversial at times, and deeply validating for estranged parents who feel silenced, erased, or misunderstood. You are not alone. And your story matters too. 🌐 Official Website https://www.estrangedandrearranged.com/ 🛍️ Website & Resources⁠https://www.estrangedandrearranged.com/resources⁠ 📘 Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/share/1CuD1nHeS8/ 👥 Join the Support Group When They Walk Away (Estranged Parents Support) https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1SU79VBP4o/ 🎵 TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@estranged.and.rea?_r=1&_t=ZT-95tKbPyH3mA 💬 Help spread the message Like, subscribe, comment, and share so more estranged parents know they are not fighting this battle alone. 🔗 Connect & Support

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