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Doing Life with Ken and Tabatha

Ken Claytor and Tabatha Claytor

Hey, what’s up fam. We’re Ken and Tabatha, and we’re so glad you found our YouTube page. We always pray, “God, let the people who need this channel find this channel.” So, if you’re here, you’re an answer to prayer.

We have one major goal. We want to help you grow in love with God and grow in love with the people God has placed in your life. The way we do that is simple. We take what we’ve learned and we share it. We’ve been married for 26 years, and we always jokingly say it’s been the best 24 years of our lives. The first two years were pretty bad. We had all the classic problems: silent treatments, weaponized sex, a lack of communication skills, financial pressures, and more. But we learned tools and principles from God’s Word that helped us turn our marriage around. Now we’re happy to say we’re best friends.

That’s why people ask us all the time, “Do you have a special anointing for marriage?” And our answer is always the same. No, we just have tools. This channel is our way of paying those tools forward to you, because we really believe that with the right tools, there’s no marriage and no relationship that can’t get better.

This is primarily a marriage and relationships channel, but it’s not just that. It’s also a personal growth channel, because we believe when you get better, the marriage gets better. So, get ready to have some fun. We’re going to talk about our highs, our lows, and everything in between. Honestly, you’ll probably learn more from our mess-ups than you will from our mountaintop moments.

Enjoy the journey, and share this with somebody, because we believe sharing is caring, and caring is sharing.

New episodes every Thursday at 3PM EST.

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  • Yesterday · 34 min

    How Married Couples Can Reignite Desire With A Sex Vacation

    Send us Fan Mail A lot of couples do not stop loving each other, they just stop investing in intimacy. We are Ken and Tabatha Claytor, and we are putting language to a practical reset that has helped us through real seasons: a sex vacation. Think of it as an intentional getaway for married couples where the main goal is reconnecting emotionally, romantically, physically, and sexually, not just squeezing in another date night between errands. We talk about why sex in marriage is not a “nice to have,” but a major thread that keeps you from drifting into roommate mode. Tabatha shares how shame, trauma, and harmful experiences can distort your view of sex, and how renewing your mind with a biblical perspective transforms it into something holy, safe, and mutually fulfilling. We also get real about changing bodies and changing seasons, from postpartum recovery to cancer treatment, hysterectomy realities, menopause, low libido, and the importance of honest communication and medical support when you need it. Then we get practical. We discuss selfless sex, finding your sexual rhythm as a couple, and why intimacy cannot be reduced to a performance. We also bring in research on sexual satisfaction, relationship satisfaction, stress reduction, and emotional connection. Finally, we walk through how to plan a great sex vacation: choosing the right environment, preparing ahead, removing pressure, slowing down, breaking routine, talking about what you like, and having fun again. If this helps you, share it with a married couple, subscribe for more conversations on Christian marriage and intimacy, and leave a review so more couples can find the show. 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • October 29 · 31 min

    How A Tiny Argument Almost Ruined Our Vacation

    Send us Fan Mail A beachside dinner in Turks and Caicos should be easy romance, right? Ours nearly got derailed by one small moment, a napkin, a stuffy nose, and a reaction that hit way deeper than the actual “issue.” We’re Ken and Tabatha Claytor, married for 27 years, and we’re telling the unfiltered story of how a minor disagreement escalated into an almost-vacation-ruining fight, plus what it taught us about marriage communication. We get honest about the real conflict underneath the surface: the pain of feeling judged, the frustration of feeling controlled, and the way “helpful” correction can land like disrespect when tone and timing are off. We talk social etiquette and public embarrassment, but we also talk about something bigger: how couples start collecting evidence, replaying old moments, and turning small idiosyncrasies into joy-stealers. If you’ve ever argued over something that sounds ridiculous afterward, this conversation will feel familiar. Then we shift into practical marriage advice you can use immediately. We share the questions and habits that help with conflict resolution in marriage: don’t sweat the small stuff, check your timing, honor the person while addressing the issue, learn to receive correction, apologize quickly, and protect the relationship more than your position. We also share why it’s okay to agree to disagree and still choose each other with real love. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review so more couples can find the show. What’s a “small thing” that’s been stealing your peace lately? 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • October 22 · 39 min

    When You Get Better Your Marriage Gets Better

    Send us Fan Mail Marriage advice is everywhere, but most of it avoids the hard truth: you can’t “fix” a relationship you refuse to grow inside of. After 27 years together, we’ve learned that the turning point isn’t a perfect partner or a perfect season, it’s a better you. We talk candidly about the early years that nearly broke us, including depression and anxiety, emotional pain, selfish choices, and the long process of rebuilding trust and friendship. From there, we get extremely practical about what actually improves a marriage. We dig into why trying to change your spouse backfires, how labels can become identity and quietly cap your future, and why personal growth is not optional if you want a healthy relationship. We also laugh our way through real-life tension at home, because sometimes the biggest fights start with the smallest triggers: tone, feeling judged, and the daily mess that becomes a bigger symbol of not feeling seen. We ground the conversation in Christian marriage principles like humility, forgiveness, and choosing love as an act of will, not just a feeling. You’ll hear why “keep short accounts” matters, how communication beats the silent treatment, why expectations must be said out loud, and how date nights and emotional connection feed real intimacy. We also talk about protecting friendship, navigating outside relationships, and the role of attraction and adoration over the long haul. If you want a better marriage, take this as your invitation to start where you actually have power: yourself. Subscribe, share this with a married friend, and leave a review with the habit you’re choosing to change first. 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • October 8 · 34 min

    Beware of the Rage Bait | Why Anger Is Controlling So Many People

    Send us Fan Mail Rage bait is not an accident, it’s a strategy. We’re living in a moment where anger gets rewarded, fear gets monetized, and the loudest reactions rise to the top of your feed. Ken and Tabatha Claytor dig into why so many of us feel emotionally “on” all the time and how that constant stimulation shapes our mindset, relationships, and even our spiritual sensitivity. If you’ve ever felt your blood pressure rise while watching the news, scrolling social media, or reading the comments, you’ll recognize the pattern fast. We talk about what rage bait actually is, how algorithms favor outrage over encouragement, and why people can feel pressured to publicly react to every cultural flashpoint. Ken shares a personal story about being judged for not posting while on sabbatical, and we unpack the hidden expectation that leaders, pastors, and everyday people must “use their voice” on demand. Along the way, we look at the real cost of living triggered: lost peace, increased division, negativity becoming normal, and anger slowly turning into an identity. Then we get practical and biblical. We walk through scriptures like James 1:19, Proverbs 14:29, and Ephesians 4:31, and we contrast righteous anger motivated by love with unrighteous anger that spirals into hate, ego, and harm. You’ll also hear seven concrete practices to break free from anger culture: guard what feeds your mind, limit outrage consumption, slow down emotionally, stop constant online arguing, stay rooted in scripture, protect your peace, and keep your heart tender. If this helped you, subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next, share it with a friend who’s feeling worn down, and leave a review to help more people find the show. What’s one boundary you need to set this week to protect your peace? 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • October 1 · 39 min

    Godly Prosperity vs. Ungodly Prosperity - Understanding the Purpose of Prosperity

    Send us Fan Mail Prosperity can sound like a scam word until you separate what’s biblical from what’s flesh. We’re not interested in hype or debates. We want God’s heart, because blessing, increase, provision, stewardship, and generosity are all over the Bible, and we don’t want people throwing out truth just because they’ve seen it abused. We talk through godly prosperity versus ungodly prosperity with real stories from our lives. Tabitha shares what it was like growing up poor and why staying poor isn’t “godly.” We also take you into our early marriage years when our combined income was tiny, debt was heavy, and scarcity thinking showed up everywhere. That pressure can break a marriage, but it can also expose what needs to change, including mindset, priorities, and habits. Then we go to Scripture and define prosperity the right way: not just money, but a successful journey, a healthy soul, and a life that works. We unpack key passages like Deuteronomy 8:18, Psalm 35:27, Proverbs 11:25, and 2 Corinthians 8:9, plus the misunderstood “camel through the eye of a needle” text using basic biblical hermeneutics and context. Our bottom line is simple: money is a tool, generosity is the aim, and prosperity should always have purpose. If you’ve ever felt guilt about wanting more, or you’ve been trapped in a poverty mindset, this will challenge you and build your faith. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs a healthier view of Christian finances, and leave a review to help more people find the show. 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • September 24 · 39 min

    Good Sex Starts With Good Communication

    Send us Fan Mail Sex gets awkward fast when nobody feels safe enough to tell the truth and that silence can slowly turn lovers into roommates. We’re Ken and Tabatha Claytor, married 27 years, and we’re putting language to what so many couples experience but rarely say out loud: good sex in marriage is built on good communication, emotional connection, and mutual care. We walk through how we learned to talk about sex with honesty and respect, including the simple “on a scale of 1 to 10” check-in we use in our regular family meetings. That one question helps us move from guessing and assuming to listening and serving. We also share a faith-based view of intimacy that replaces shame with freedom, drawing a clear line between culture’s confusion and a Christian marriage rooted in covenant love, safety, and joy. Then we get personal about seasons that change the bedroom, especially menopause after a hysterectomy connected to estrogen-related breast cancer. We talk about vaginal dryness, lubrication, shifting sensation, performance pressure, and what it looks like to create a new normal without blame. You’ll also hear the communication traps that quietly kill desire, plus why guarding your eyes from porn and unrealistic media expectations protects passion at home. If you want deeper intimacy, stronger trust, and a healthier sex life, listen now, share this with a friend, and subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next. After you listen, will you leave a review and tell us what conversation you want to have with your spouse this week? 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • September 17 · 39 min

    Let Him Lead. A Call to Godly Wives.

    Send us Fan Mail “Let him lead” can sound like a fight waiting to happen, especially if you’ve seen leadership used as control or heard submission preached like silence. We take a different route. From the jump, we talk about real marriage pain, the slow buildup of offense, and why we refuse to settle for a bad relationship. After 27 years together, we’ve learned that the marriage doesn’t change because one person “wins” a debate. It changes when we get healthier, more honest, and more aligned with God. We dig into biblical marriage roles with clarity: a husband’s leadership is servant leadership, modeled after Christ, marked by sacrifice, protection, responsibility, and deep listening. A wife’s submission is not weakness, not losing your personality, and never tolerating abuse. It’s a willing posture of trust, honor, and partnership within God’s design. We also talk to strong, independent women who lead at work but feel burned out leading at home, and to couples stuck bumping heads on every decision, from small daily choices to life-shaping calls. You’ll hear practical language for better communication, why public honor strengthens a marriage, how tone can heal or harm, and why prayer changes the atmosphere. We share what it looks like to trust God while your spouse grows and how to create emotional safety so your home becomes a place of strength, not stress. We also mention our book Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, built from our wins, our wounds, and the tools that helped us rebuild. If this speaks to you, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review so more couples can find the conversation. What part do you play when it comes to unity at home? 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • September 10 · 37 min

    How to Stop Bumping Heads With Others

    Send us Fan Mail The conflict is not always about the conflict. Sometimes it is pride trying to stay in control, old wounds looking for a target, or a tone that makes people stop hearing your idea and start bracing for impact. If you keep “bumping heads” with your spouse, coworkers, family, or leaders, we are getting honest about the patterns that create repeated relational tension and the habits that can finally break it. We start with the hardest question to ask: what part do I play? From there, we talk through how strong personalities can still build a peaceful, fun, and connected marriage when we practice humility, tenderness, and mutual submission. We also unpack a Christian marriage view of leadership that looks like servant leadership: listening well, honoring your spouse, carrying responsibility, and making decisions without ego. Then we get practical about communication and conflict resolution. Romans 12:18 challenges us to do what depends on us to live at peace, and James 1:19 gives a daily playbook: quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to get angry. We share the tools that actually de-escalate tension, like probing questions, asking permission to share your side, using “I feel” language, and owning your tone with a real apology. We also address workplace conflict and church culture: how assumptions, secondhand stories, unclear roles, and misalignment can turn good people into constant friction, and what wise leaders do to stop contention before it spreads. If you want to be the thermostat who makes every room healthier, press play, then share this with someone you do life with. Subscribe, leave a review, and send this to a friend who needs peace in their relationships. 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • September 3 · 22 min

    How Resentment Slowly Destroys a Marriage

    Send us Fan Mail Resentment doesn’t usually sound like yelling. It sounds like “I’m fine,” feels like distance on the couch, and shows up as keeping score in your head. Ken and Tabatha Claytor get real about how resentment slowly destroys a marriage, not through one huge betrayal, but through small disappointments that never get processed and eventually turn into emotional coldness. We talk through personal stories from our own 27-year marriage, including seasons where resentment hid behind silent treatment, avoidance, and even “weaponizing” intimacy. Then we break down the most common triggers we see in marriages everywhere: finances, sex, time demands from work or ministry, and unmet expectations about leadership and support. If you’ve ever felt yourself withdrawing, struggling to make eye contact, or feeling repulsed by touch, we help you name what’s happening and why it matters. You’ll also get a clear, practical roadmap for how to overcome resentment in a relationship: acknowledge it honestly, stop rehearsing the offense, address issues early, communicate with truth and softness, forgive repeatedly, replace criticism with appreciation, rebuild emotional connection on purpose, pray together, and get counseling or mentorship before things get worse. We ground it all in Scripture, including 1 Corinthians 13:5, “love keeps no record of wrongs,” and we close with a guided prayer to renounce resentment and recommit to your covenant. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs hope for their marriage, and leave a review so more couples can find the tools to heal and rebuild. 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • August 27 · 38 min

    Understanding the Fear of the Lord

    Send us Fan Mail Casual faith sounds harmless until it starts reshaping your conscience. We sit down and talk honestly about the fear of the Lord and why it is not panic, paranoia, or an angry-God mindset. For us, it’s reverence, awe, and a real awareness of God’s holiness that shows up most in private, when nobody is watching and no one is clapping for you. We get practical about what that reverence produces: integrity, quick obedience, humility, and strong guardrails that keep your marriage, your mind, and your leadership from drifting. We share personal stories about early church “reverence moments,” the difference between religious fear and mature holiness, and why Proverbs says the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. If you’ve ever wondered how good people slowly slide into compromise, we name the small steps that lead there and the safeguards that stop it early. Then we go to the passages many people skip. We talk about Uzzah touching the ark, Ananias and Sapphira lying about an offering, and what those stories reveal about treating God’s presence as holy instead of common. We also address the online culture of tearing down pastors and churches, the warning in Korah’s rebellion, and what Scripture actually means by blasphemy. We close with a clear list of ways to grow in the fear of the Lord through Scripture, worship, repentance, community, and remembering who God is. Subscribe for new conversations every Thursday, share this with a friend who needs a reset, and leave a review so more people can find the show. What part of this message challenged you most? 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • August 20 · 28 min

    Why Are So Many Good Marriages Quietly Falling Apart?

    Send us Fan Mail A marriage can be stable on paper and still feel strangely far apart at home. We’re talking about the slow drift: the subtle, gradual disconnect that happens when life gets loud, schedules take over, and the relationship starts running on autopilot. If you’ve ever thought, “Nothing is technically wrong, but something feels off,” this conversation is your wake-up call and your roadmap back. We get personal about what drift looked like in our own marriage after 27 years, including how stress, travel, shifting health seasons, and changing intimacy needs can create distance without either person meaning to. We break down why couples often hide these struggles, how assumptions spiral when communication goes quiet, and why “good enough” is one of the most dangerous places a relationship can live. We also talk about honoring each other’s different workloads without belittling, because respect fuels emotional safety. Then we go practical with marriage advice you can use immediately: weekly family meetings with a real agenda, date nights that bring fun back, affection that isn’t only about sex, and honest conversations that repair small hurts before they harden into walls. We also share why faith matters here: when we put God back at the center, we regain perspective, grace, and the power to pivot through every season together. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with a couple you love, and leave a review so more marriages can stop the drift. 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • August 13 · 34 min

    The Most Common Lies Satan Uses — And How to Break Free

    Send us Fan Mail The most dangerous prisons don’t have bars, they have beliefs. Ken and Tabatha Claytor go straight at the core of spiritual warfare: the lies that shape how we see ourselves, how we see God, and what we think is possible. We talk about deliverance in a way that’s both biblical and practical, not just a moment in a corner somewhere, but the everyday freedom that happens when you replace deception with truth. We unpack why you can accept Christ and still feel bound, and why deliverance can be both an event and a process. Tabitha shares personal examples of identity lies that kept her living small, from feeling like a mistake to believing certain opportunities “weren’t for people like me.” Ken challenges a common spiritual trap too: treating God’s forgiveness like permission to keep sinning, instead of pairing confession with repentance and real change. Along the way we explain how Satan’s subtle strategy works, why “Did God really say?” still wrecks people today, and how wrong beliefs create wrong outcomes in mental health, healing, finances, and relationships. Then we get very specific. We name ten common lies like “you’re not enough,” “God forgot you,” “you’ll never change,” “your past defines you,” and “you’re alone,” and we counter each one with Scripture, identity in Christ, and real declarations you can speak out loud. We also pray to renounce lies, uproot strongholds, and open our hearts to the truth of God’s Word. If you need hope for your marriage, your mind, your body, or your future, this conversation is a reset. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs freedom, and leave a review so more people can find the truth that makes us free. 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • August 6 · 37 min

    Your Sons & Daughters Will Prophesy

    Send us Fan Mail Your words are doing more than describing your life. They’re shaping it. Ken and Tabatha Claytor dig into the Scripture “your sons and your daughters shall prophesy” and make a bold case that prophecy isn’t reserved for a select few with a title. It’s a Spirit-empowered way for everyday believers to speak God’s truth with faith, authority, and love, whether you’re navigating marriage stress, parenting worries, a hard workplace, or a health report you didn’t want. We unpack the difference between the office of a prophet and the gift of prophecy, then walk through what prophecy looks like in the New Testament: strengthening, encouragement, and comfort. You’ll hear why the written Word of God must anchor every prophetic word, how to test what people say “God told me,” and why accountability in the local church keeps the prophetic from getting weird or harmful. We also break down foretelling versus forthtelling, including the powerful Ezekiel 37 picture of speaking life into dry bones. Tabatha shares a personal testimony of freedom after years of depression, including the practical steps that helped her rebuild: studying healing and identity scriptures, declaring God’s promises daily, and learning to resist oppressive spiritual attack with confidence. We close with five clear ways to grow in prophetic sensitivity: stay rooted in Scripture, pray consistently, remove constant noise, stay humble, and test every word. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review. What’s one promise you’re ready to start speaking over your life today? 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • July 30 · 34 min

    How To Love Your Spouse When You Do Not Like Them

    Send us Fan Mail What do you do when you still love your spouse, but you honestly do not like them right now? We go straight into the real-life stuff couples actually fight about: lights left on, shoes where they “shouldn’t” be, house rules, and that moment when a simple reminder suddenly sounds like disrespect. We laugh, but we also get serious about how tiny irritations can grow into contempt when we turn a habit into a verdict on someone’s character. From there, we unpack a marriage truth that saves relationships: love and like are different. When people say they have “fallen out of love,” we believe the fastest path back is often rebuilding like. We talk about intentional ways to do that in a long-term marriage, like choosing shared activities again, creating new experiences like you did while dating, and changing the inner narrative you repeat about your spouse. Instead of building a case against them all day, we practice building a case for them, which changes how we show up at home. We also ground everything in Christian marriage principles, including agape love from 1 Corinthians 13: love as a choice, love as a commitment, love that forgives, keeps no record of wrong, and believes the best. We share practical relationship advice you can use immediately: get curious instead of frustrated, name unmet needs, close emotional distance with small conversations, seek counseling or pastoral support without shame, and pray honestly for God to soften your heart. If you want faith-based marriage help that stays practical, this one is for you. Subscribe for more, share this with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review so more couples can find the support. 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • July 23 · 48 min

    Five Practical Ways To Care For Your Husband With Faith And Respect

    Send us Fan Mail What if the next breakthrough in your marriage is something simple you can do this week at home, not a huge speech or a dramatic reset? We sit down for a Valentine’s week conversation that gets practical fast, sharing five real-world ways a wife can care for her husband in a way that changes the atmosphere of the whole house. We start with honor, because respect is not fluff, it is fuel. From how you greet each other to the tiny “family culture” moments like dinner routines and even the last piece of cake, we talk about how honor communicates value and helps a man feel safe, seen, and welcomed at home. We also address a common tension: when home management turns into control. We share why family meetings matter, how to get buy-in on rules, and why a husband’s need to decompress is not rejection, it is often how he resets to lead and love well. Then we lean into service, including Tabatha’s “Ken’s night” idea, and how serving each other builds momentum instead of scorekeeping. We also talk candidly about intimacy, why “enjoy sex often” is a relationship principle, and why many husbands feel deeply loved when a wife initiates sometimes. We close with a truth that gets missed in so many marriage conversations: caring for yourself is caring for your marriage, because your health, confidence, and emotional stability affect the entire home. If this helps you, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review so more couples can find these marriage and relationship tools. 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • July 16 · 47 min

    The Number One Thing Wives Need

    Send us Fan Mail What if the biggest breakthrough in your marriage is waiting on the other side of real leadership at home? Ken and Tabatha Claytor sit down for a direct, honest conversation aimed at husbands, future husbands, and anyone who wants a healthier Christian marriage. We talk to the man who’s doing his best and also to the man who’s stuck, tired, isolated, or never had a model for what faithful, strong, tender love even looks like. We unpack why men need other men, why isolation quietly sabotages families, and how fatherhood and spiritual covering shape identity. Then we tackle the hot topic with clarity: biblical headship is responsibility, not control. It is not about value or power. It is about carrying the weight, listening well, choosing humility, and creating a home atmosphere that feels safe. We also challenge the “I pay the bills, I don’t cheat” mindset and explain why a wife still may not feel seen, honored, desired, or emotionally secure. You’ll hear practical marriage advice for men you can apply today: how to be emotionally present, protect her heart, serve in simple ways, pursue her again, and lead spiritually without turning it into performative religion. We close with a list of ten concrete ways to love your wife like Christ loves the church, plus a prayer for men to pick up their crown and lead with integrity. If this helps you, subscribe, share it with a man you care about, and leave a review so more families can find it. 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • July 9 · 47 min

    God’s Design For Sex

    Send us Fan Mail Most couples don’t break because they stop loving each other. They break because they stop feeling connected, and one of the fastest places that disconnection shows up is sexual intimacy. We go straight at the uncomfortable question many married Christians whisper but rarely say out loud: why does sex in marriage so often drift into frustration, avoidance, pressure, or a roommate vibe? We unpack God’s design for sex with clarity and zero shame: yes, it’s for procreation, but it’s also for intimacy and real enjoyment. Tabitha shares how misconceptions, sexual trauma, and body insecurity can train your mind and body to shut down, and what it looks like to heal and renew your thinking so sex becomes safe, holy, and life-giving again. We also talk about how seasons like babies, stress, menopause, cancer recovery, and hormones affect libido, and when it’s wise to get medical help instead of suffering in silence. Then we get practical about communication, feedback, and learning each other’s needs without ego or judgment. We explain why talking outside the bedroom matters, how emotional intimacy fuels physical intimacy, and how to stop using sex as a weapon. If you want a healthier Christian marriage, stronger connection, and a sex life that reflects covenant instead of conflict, this conversation gives you a roadmap. Subscribe, share this with a married friend, and leave a review so more couples can find help. What’s one change you could make this week to fight for intimacy? 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • July 2 · 40 min

    How to Fight for Your Marriage Together

    Send us Fan Mail What if the tension in your home isn’t proof you married the wrong person, but proof you’re fighting the wrong enemy? We get real about spiritual warfare in marriage, and we start with a mindset shift that can change everything: it’s not husband versus wife, it’s two people standing together against division, bitterness, and deception. We open up about our own early years, including the ugly patterns that too many couples normalize: resentment, the silent treatment, manipulation, withholding intimacy, flirting, and the slow drift into emotional distance. We talk about why covenant matters, why “divorce is an option” quietly erodes trust, and how spiritual maturity shapes emotional maturity. We also share why marriage mentoring, counseling, and becoming a lifelong learner isn’t extra credit, it’s how you build a marriage that lasts through storms. Then we break down the enemy’s most common tactics and what to do about them: division through distraction and busyness, bitterness and unforgiveness that becomes a foothold, temptation and sexual immorality as a lure, spiritual apathy that cools your fire, and miscommunication that creates confusion. We get practical about streamlining life with kids, creating a safe space for honest feelings, and fighting for unity without pretending pain isn’t real. We also touch on isolation and generational patterns, because what runs in a family doesn’t have to run your future. If this helps you, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review so more couples can find these tools. What was your biggest takeaway? 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • June 25 · 29 min

    How To Save A Marriage With Better Thoughts

    Send us Fan Mail A marriage can look fine on the outside while quietly getting torn down from the inside by one habit: a critical inner dialogue. We get honest about what happens when you replay a moment, assume the worst, and start building a case against the person you love. If you’ve ever thought “What did they mean by that?” and felt the rabbit hole open up, this conversation gives you a better way forward. We talk about what it means to defend your spouse to yourself and why that kind of mental discipline is a form of maturity. We share how fault finding chips away at respect, emotional safety, and physical intimacy, and why attraction struggles often start long before the bedroom, in the thoughts you repeatedly feed. You’ll hear our real-life rhythm of praying for each other, why we don’t force a “pray together” routine, and how daily intercession shifts your heart from irritation to empathy. We also lay out practical steps you can use immediately: catch the thought, replace irritation with interpretation, separate behavior from identity, practice daily gratitude, stop comparing, and communicate instead of stewing. Along the way, we anchor it with scriptures about love covering offenses and choosing what to focus on. If you want Christian marriage advice that’s both spiritual and practical, this will help you build a healthier mindset and a stronger relationship. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review. What’s one critical thought you’re ready to replace today? 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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  • June 18 · 27 min

    Why Keeping A List Of Wrongs Kills Intimacy And How To Let It Go

    Send us Fan Mail Keeping a mental list of your spouse’s mistakes feels like self-protection, but it quietly turns your home into a courtroom. When every argument pulls out old receipts, intimacy dies, progress feels impossible, and “I forgive you” starts sounding like a trap. We get honest about what list keeping really is: mentally recording mistakes, replaying past failures, storing hurt for future fights, and measuring your spouse by who they used to be instead of who they are becoming. We also dig into the deeper reason the list won’t go away: the original wound never healed. That’s why some couples describe a betrayal from five or ten years ago like it happened last week. We connect the dots between unforgiveness, negativity, and confirmation bias, and we challenge the habit of fault finding that makes you look for proof rather than pursue peace. Along the way, we ground the conversation in 1 Corinthians 13 and the idea that love keeps no record of wrongs, while still acknowledging a crucial truth: love and trust are not the same thing, and wise boundaries can coexist with real forgiveness. You’ll walk away with practical steps to drop the list for good: forgive fully, stop rehearsing the offense, replace accusation with communication, separate patterns from moments, give credit for change, and ask God to heal the first hurt that started the scorekeeping. If you want a healthier marriage, a stronger emotional connection, and a future that isn’t chained to the past, press play and do this with us. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more couples can find the help. 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...

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