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Father Wounds | Forgiving My Dad Just In Time | Ep 214 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Billy Grubbs on Healing Father Wounds, Trust, and Becoming the Father He Needed | Dear Son Show On the Dear Son Show, host D Johns talks with Billy Grubbs about how maturity changes a man’s readiness for fatherhood, reflecting on how a younger, cockier version of himself lacked accountability compared to who he is now. Billy shares growing up as an Army brat across the U.S. and abroad, the instability of a broken home, attachment and trust issues, and how those patterns fueled relationship struggles, including infidelity and fear of being alone. He describes reconciling long-held animosity toward his late father after a personal development training led to a powerful phone call where his father admitted he didn’t always know what he was doing but called Billy and his brother his greatest accomplishment. They discuss vulnerability, friendship accountability, fatherhood standards, and Billy’s desire to build a healthy, authentic family legacy. 00:00 Maturity Before Fatherhood 01:18 Welcome to Dear Son 01:51 Timing and Loss 03:10 Where Billy Is From 04:12 Life as a Military Brat 08:39 Searching for Stability 10:36 Parents Divorce and Secrets 14:20 Loner Years and Gangs 18:04 Identity and Trophy Kids 19:17 Healing Talk With Dad 23:14 Vulnerability and Fatherhood 29:42 Generational Standards 30:59 Granddad Standards 31:47 Dad Hidden Struggles 32:35 Becoming Like Dad 33:40 Machismo And Vulnerability 34:58 Being The Friend 36:47 Preparing For Fatherhood 39:53 Trust And Triggers 42:28 Masks Off Authenticity 46:25 Girl Dad Perspective 54:17 What I Wish He Said 59:19 Contracting Side Talk 01:01:27 Where To Find Billy 01:01:57 Final Thanks And Outro #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonshop.store Follow Billy: https://instagram.com/bgoat04 Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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I Waited For My Dad to Die | A Father's Fight with Diabetes | Ep 213 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Rob Weaver on Caretaking, Co-Parenting, and the Words Our Sons Need to Hear | Dear Son Show On the Dear Son Show, host D Johns talks with Rob Weaver (known in Dallas as “Chi-Town Rob”) about how his upbringing shaped his identity and fatherhood. Rob shares being born in St. Louis, becoming a man in Chicago, and becoming a dad in Dallas, emphasizing the importance of village and family support. He describes his mother’s resilience—working multiple jobs and becoming a dialysis technician without a diploma—and his father Big Bill’s decline from diabetes, including Rob caring for him as a child while living with long-term anxiety about losing him. Rob reflects on missing levity in youth, learning that “real men change,” and how he now balances high expectations with letting his children be kids. He discusses co-parenting since 2018, communicating decisions to his son, teaching perseverance through basketball, and ensuring his son never has to interpret love—he says “I love you” directly. 00:00 Waiting For Dad To Die 01:33 Dear Son Show Intro 03:16 Rob Weaver Origins 04:09 Confidence And Identity 06:51 Faking It Social Capital 10:47 Parents And Upbringing 12:43 Mom Resilience And Work 15:39 Big Bill And Decline 16:45 Child Caregiver Anxiety 20:34 Late Night Porch Talks 23:18 Generational Fatherhood Lens 26:06 Fatherhood Under Pressure 27:59 Papa Versus Dad 29:22 Dad Adapts to Disability 30:24 Uncle Ralph as Mentor 31:27 Rushing Fatherhood Dreams 33:08 Missing Youthful Levity 36:32 Perfectionism and Anxiety 38:39 Co-Parenting and Kids 41:35 Basketball Life Lessons 45:49 What I Wish Dad Said 52:31 Saying I Love You 55:04 Rat Pack Reflections 01:00:03 Closing and Recurring Guest #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonshop.store Follow Rob: https://instagram.com/weaver_robert https://instagram.com/thedooddadtribe Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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That's Not Really You | Adjusting for Acceptance | Ep 212 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Dear Son: Why Can’t People Safely Dislike Anymore? | Boundaries, Groupthink & Raising Kids to Think Hosts Jey Blac and D Johns open with D’s birthday and a recap of Eden’s first night cheering at a football doubleheader, then shift into a discussion sparked by social media about why disagreeing or disliking something is increasingly labeled as “hate.” They explore how public platforms amplify conflict, how kids absorb “if you’re not with me you’re against me,” and why parents must teach independent thinking, respectful disagreement, and boundaries. They debate whether you must “defend” a dislike, emphasizing that “no” is a complete sentence while acknowledging times when explaining helps collaboration. They connect this to trends, relationships, modeling healthy communication, avoiding stagnation disguised as preference, and distinguishing dislike from disrespect, support from respect, and personal preference from groupthink. 00:00 Sports Fans and Hate 01:21 Welcome and Birthday Talk 02:04 Cheer Game Schedule Chaos 04:05 Celebrate Life and Loss 04:50 Why Dislike Feels Unsafe 08:00 Teaching Independent Thinking 11:37 Do You Need to Explain 15:12 Boundaries and Relationship Safety 21:24 Parenting Guardrails and Timelines 25:36 Personal Preference in Public 28:16 Trend Parenting Reflection 29:00 Guacamole Bias Check 30:39 False Ceilings and Avoidance 32:18 Why Dont You Like It 34:17 Preference Without Hate 38:11 Respect Versus Support 40:45 Peace Comfort Compliance 45:42 Groupthink and Music Takes 49:44 Final Thoughts and Updates #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonshop.store Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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My Son Chose Money Over the NFL | Fatherhood and Finances | Ep 211 | The Dear Son, Show

From Jordans to $580K: Teaching Kids Ownership with Wall Street With Wallace On the Dear Son Show, host Jey Blac welcomes financial analyst and chief market strategist Wallace Fisher (“Wall Street With Wallace”), a husband, father in a blended family of seven, and Christ follower, to discuss fatherhood through financial literacy. Fisher shares how his investing journey began with Home Depot’s employee stock plan and 401(k), how a spiritual advisor inspired him to give assets instead of big Christmas gifts, and how consistently buying his son stocks in companies he used helped build a portfolio that reached $580,000—leading the son to quit football due to CTE concerns and pursue portfolio management. They discuss starting early with kids, routines for learning the market, the dangers of internet “tips,” the value of mentorship and accountability, and beginner approaches like disciplined saving, ETFs, and researching fundamentals. Follow the channel, subscribe, and leave a review. 00:00 Gifts Into Stocks 01:29 Show Intro And Guest 03:03 Meet Wallace Fisher 05:20 Family And Athletes 07:50 Finance Origin Story 10:00 Home Depot To 200K 12:35 Christmas As Assets 16:00 Quitting Football Shock 19:48 Parenting Evolves Over Time 24:21 Kids Learn By Watching 26:32 Internet Investing Warnings 29:17 Routine First Steps 31:30 Daily Reading Habit 33:59 Mentorship Over Ego 39:07 Class Structure Accountability 43:27 Starting With Small Money 48:50 Portfolio Basics ETFs 51:55 Research Beats Cheap Stocks 55:10 Contact Info Wrap Up #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk #5starathlete #texasfootball #fridaynightlights Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonshop.store Connect with Wallace: https://wswinvestors.com Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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TELL HIM NOW | Tomorrow Isn't Promised | Ep 210 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Dear Son: Tomorrow Isn’t Promised — Condensing the Lessons, Health Wake-Ups & Dating vs. Marriage Energy Hosts D Johns and Jey Blac open the Dear Son Show by reflecting on health wake-up calls, accountability, and support Jey has received while chronicling his fitness and recovery journey. They emphasize that tomorrow isn’t promised and urge parents to “condense” key conversations with their kids rather than delaying important lessons. They discuss how children can misread a parent’s communication, reinforce that love and frustration can coexist, and argue that correction shows belief in a child. The conversation shifts to relationships: distinguishing lust, love, sex, and long-term consequences, warning against applying “marriage energy” in dating, and advising sons to understand value, phases, and self-awareness. They also defend having practical talks about protection without “letting the streets” educate kids, encouraging listeners to stop leaving critical conversations to chance. 00:00 Cold Open Banter 00:51 Welcome to Dear Son 01:31 Health Scare Update 02:58 Fitness Accountability Plan 04:37 Tomorrow Isn’t Promised 07:43 Condense the Lessons 10:58 Love Not Performance 15:54 Correction Means Belief 19:25 Dating vs Marriage Energy 24:19 Commitment Clocks 26:20 Environment Shapes Love 27:38 Fixer Fantasy Trap 29:26 Value Over Hope 33:16 Sex Love Decoupling 35:32 Real Talk Protection 38:33 Talk Before Streets 42:55 Conversations Cost 44:51 Final Thanks Goodbye #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonshop.store Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

From Juvenile Delinquent to Juvenile Justice Leader | Ep 209 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. From Gangs to Purpose: Louie McClain II on Fatherhood, Identity, and Building Pathways On The Dear Son Show, host (D Johns) converses with Louie McClain II from Arlington, Texas, who recounts getting involved in gangs, hiding violence and drug activity from his Liberian immigrant mother, and a pivotal school incident caught on camera that devastated her. Louie explains how seeking protection, acceptance, clout, and a father figure drew him deeper into that life amid a diverse, volatile environment, while his biological father was largely absent after moving to Delaware and later kicked him out. After college in Pensacola studying criminal justice, he found purpose helping at-risk young men and worked in juvenile justice for seven years. Now a father of two, he discusses being unprepared for parenting, challenges of having hard conversations with kids, and building a clear vision through entrepreneurship, including Melanin Origins, The Meditative Coach, and leading the nonprofit Building Pathways to connect disadvantaged people to high-paying construction careers. 00:00 Caught on Camera 00:22 Purpose From Pain 00:57 Welcome to Dear Son 01:53 Optimism and Enthusiasm 02:48 Leaving Home and College 03:48 Arlington and Gang Life 04:47 Why Criminal Justice 06:35 Drawn to the Streets 08:55 Home Life and Hiding It 11:32 School Fight Intervention 13:25 Acceptance and Father Figures 16:32 Identity as African American 17:38 Biological Father Story 23:15 What a Father Absence Costs 25:26 Needing Dad at Any Age 26:54 Custody And Ages 27:29 Unprepared Fatherhood 29:01 Choosing To Be Present 30:24 Learning A New Blueprint 32:13 What To Tell The Kids 34:45 Timing Hard Conversations 38:20 Work Versus Family 41:30 Becoming This Version 44:01 Building Melanin Origins 45:05 Vision And Identity Shift 50:38 Building Pathways Mission 55:20 Where To Find Him 56:00 Closing Thoughts #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk #DearSon #Fatherhood #JuvenileJustice #SecondChances #Mentorship #FatherSon #YouthMentoring #Redemption Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonshop.store Follow Louie: https://instagram.com/meditativecoach https://buildingpathway.org Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Young Man: You Must Train People How to Treat You | Setting Boundaries | Ep 208 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Dear Son: Which Side of the Process Are You On? Boundaries, Criticism & Real Growth On The Dear Son Show, hosts Jey Blac and D Johns discuss how society treats disagreement and criticism, arguing that always “taking the high road” can enable disrespect if boundaries aren’t set and enforced. They explore “which side of the process” you’re on—waiting for outcomes versus doing the work—using an orange vs. fresh-squeezed juice analogy, and connect it to parenting, public perception, and social media clips shaping opinions. They emphasize training people how to treat you, defending your name when boundaries are breached, and teaching children awareness, environment-reading, and how behavior communicates value—especially in risky social settings. The episode closes with announcements of a docuseries and live event, and a personal doc-style segment beginning August 15, 2026, following a 90-day health journey after a dangerous blood-pressure reading and a commitment to lifestyle and nutrition changes. 00:00 Disagreeing Feels Forbidden 00:59 Meet Dear Son Show 01:23 Texas Heat Warmup 01:49 Which Side of Process 02:26 Orange Juice Mindset 03:23 Critics and High Road 04:50 Parenting Under Scrutiny 05:53 Kids Pushback Dialogues 08:32 Dishes Lesson Boundaries 10:41 Clips and Misjudgment 11:08 Stop Taking High Road 15:36 Training Treatment Boundaries 16:56 Defending Your Name 18:22 Knowing Your Worth 19:10 Value Shown Not Said 19:38 Common Denominator Check 20:23 Dump Truck Or Jewel Box 22:21 Teaching Kids Awareness 24:43 Environments Shape You 29:00 Twenties Are Theory 29:38 Consequences Lag Lesson 31:33 Elders Were Right 33:26 Network Updates And Events 34:56 High Road And Gratitude #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonshop.store Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

My Father Gave Me Discipline. That's What I Needed to Be Excellent | Ep 207 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. NéAndré Broussard on Fatherhood, Vulnerability & Building Blac Menswear | Dear Son Show On The Dear Son Show, host D Johns talks with NéAndré Broussard—child of God, husband, father, and visionary entrepreneur—about how his Marine father’s disciplined presence shaped his approach to parenting, structure, and being a dad who’s not a friend. Broussard shares how corporate travel and the loneliness of hotel life pushed him toward full-time entrepreneurship, and how his wife Erica’s support, therapy, and better communication helped him lead through a difficult transition while learning to be vulnerable. He explains Blac Menswear’s mission to change narratives about Black men through content, storytelling, experiences, service, and global brotherhood, including navigating early backlash and defining excellence as aspirational. Broussard credits the vision’s origin to Philando Castile’s killing and describes goals to become a destination platform for Black men. Subscribe and comment with the moment that resonated most. 00:00 Backlash and Criticism 01:00 Show Welcome and Guest Intro 03:00 Roots in Houston and Dallas 03:47 Marine Dad to Softer Side 07:14 Presence Is Production 11:33 Hotel Door Turning Point 15:45 Wife as the Rock 20:04 Rough Transition and Therapy 26:46 Modeling Conflict for Kids 28:57 Nonverbal Damage Lessons 30:36 Raising Boys Presently 34:07 Travel Mindset Lessons 35:51 Father Not Friend 37:52 What Is Blac Menswear 42:05 Excellence As Standard 45:27 Backlash And Staying Ten Toes 51:34 Vision Sparked By Philando 57:31 Essence For Men Dream 01:01:34 Vulnerability Advice To Sons 01:04:34 Where To Find Him #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Where Did That Behavior Come From? | Ep 206 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Dear Son: Where Did That Come From? Why Examples, Culture, and Honesty Matter Hosts D Johns and Jey Blac open The Dear Son Show with light family updates, then center the episode on the question, “Son, where did that come from?”—a prompt for understanding the roots of a child’s emotions, choices, and hesitation to communicate. They discuss why examples matter in learning decency and relationship skills, how cultural norms shape expectations and conflict, and why authenticity—rather than sending a “representative”—is crucial in dating and marriage. The conversation stresses sharing age-appropriate real-life stories and lessons, addressing red flags and abusive behavior early, and not covering for harmful actions to avoid consequences. They emphasize checking children’s reactions in sports and life, being intentional about trade-offs, and using honest dialogue to equip sons beyond what they observe at home. 00:00 Fatherhood Reference Point 00:42 Show Intro and Hosts 01:05 Back to School Pickup Chaos 02:09 Grandbaby Turns Two 03:47 Where Did That Come From 06:19 Comment Sparked the Topic 08:58 Why Examples Matter 11:53 Decency vs Relationship History 14:52 Cultural Norms and Ethnocentrism 18:29 Family Culture Inside the House 19:14 Kids Growing Up and Parenting Shifts 20:59 Authenticity in Relationships 22:23 Safety Nonnegotiables 23:52 Tell The Whole Story 25:50 Drop The Representative 33:43 Dating Without Attachments 35:29 Modeling Is Not Enough 37:43 Checking Aggression Early 41:17 Stop Covering Abuse 46:45 Tradeoffs And Farewell #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: The Dear Son, Shop: https://thedearsonshop.store Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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The Audacity | Ep 205 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Dear Son: Who Do You Think You Are? | Lessons vs. Examples, Ego, and Receiving Wisdom In this episode of The Dear Son Show, hosts Jey Blac and D Johns discuss identity and the question “Who do you think you are?” through fatherhood, focusing on how people—especially younger generations—often discredit advice by “considering the source” rather than the lesson. They debate whether someone with failures (like multiple divorces or an overweight doctor) can still offer valid wisdom, and warn against seeking to invalidate others, getting stuck on word choice (like “universe” vs. God), or creating echo chambers. They explore how God’s answers may come in unexpected “packaging,” how disregarding guidance can become self-sabotage, and how imposter syndrome and feeling undeserving can undermine growth. The hosts share personal reflections on parenting, missed opportunities, and staying open to learning from anywhere, then preview upcoming Dear Son Network projects including a series with Jey Blac’s dad and a health documentary. 00:00 Lessons for My Kids 00:51 Welcome to Dear Son 01:55 Episode Theme Identity 03:27 Parents Get Dismissed 05:00 Consider the Source 06:59 Invalidation Culture 10:48 Doctor Example Marketing 13:36 Universe vs God Wordplay 17:50 Don’t Worship People 20:14 Sports Coach Breakthrough 23:47 Adult Children Advice 24:09 Lessons for My Kids 25:06 Consistency Beats Hype 26:23 Shortcut Wisdom Story 30:03 Dad’s Missed Opportunities 32:07 Beyond Your Bubble 34:46 Stop Asking Why Me 38:14 Imposter Syndrome Trap 40:15 Fatherhood Second Chances 43:10 Network Projects Update 46:00 Closing Thanks #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Trauma Propelled Me Into Purpose | Shot. Broken. Chosen. | Ep 204 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Carlton Young (CY) on PTSD, Fatherhood, and Leading From Clarity | Dear Son Show On the Dear Son Show, host D Johns talks with guest Carlton Young (CY, “Mr. 8020”) about fatherhood, identity, and healing through faith and self-awareness. CY shares his background growing up in Birmingham, being adopted by his stepfather, and learning discipline and work ethic from a stern but present dad. He explains how trauma—including being shot at Fort Hood, multiple surgeries, lasting numbness, and an unrecovered bullet near his spine—contributed to PTSD, anxiety, and damaged relationships, including the collapse of his first marriage and strain in his second. CY describes confronting “survival scripts,” improving communication, forgiving himself, and renewing his mind through daily time with God. He discusses writing The Discipline to Finish, leading Mindset U, and his goal to impact a million men by helping them lead from clarity, not chaos. 00:00 Surviving the Shooting 00:38 Welcome to Dear Son 01:52 How’s Your Heart 02:19 Communication and Leadership 04:41 Roots and Survival Scripts 07:29 Growing Up Overseas 09:18 A Stern but Present Dad 12:29 Learning to Say I Love You 13:37 Parenting and Hard Feedback 15:06 Shot at Fort Hood 16:23 Joining the Army Fast 23:20 Leaving the Military 23:44 Starting Over in Dallas 24:54 Work Hustle and Uncertainty 26:41 Career Pivots 28:00 Sales Inspiration 28:45 Fatherhood After Trauma 29:38 Faith Awakening 33:24 PTSD And Healing 35:36 Repairing Family Bonds 39:21 Self Forgiveness 42:01 Writing The Book 45:04 Stewarding The Calling 47:19 Mission For Men 53:21 Where To Find Him 54:42 Final Reflections #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow CY: https://instagram.com/iam8020nation and www.carlton-young.com Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Dear Son, I’m Disappointed: How Fathers Can Communicate Disappointment Without Damaging Trust | 203

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Dear Son, I’m Disappointed: How Fathers Can Communicate Disappointment Without Damaging Trust In this episode of The Dear Son Show, hosts D Johns and Jey Blac discuss how fathers can communicate disappointment in ways that teach growth without harming a child’s identity. They open with life updates, then frame the topic around being disappointed in one’s parenting approach—especially not exposing children to enough early on and later trying to overcorrect. Using seven research-based prompts, they explore separating identity from behavior, how tone and nonverbal cues can wound, turning disappointment into a conversation instead of a verdict, aiming for growth over guilt, regulating emotions before addressing issues, offering reassurance after accountability, and focusing on what lesson a child will remember long-term. They share personal examples about sarcasm, facial expressions, escalation, consequences, and the importance of revisiting conversations to repair trust. 00:00 Exposure Both Sides 00:57 Show Intro And Hosts 01:18 Conclave Week Talk 02:42 Back To School Reset 04:18 Family Health Updates 05:11 Dear Son Im Disappointed 07:41 Separate Identity Behavior 12:43 Consequences And Accountability 00:12 Tone Speaks Loudest 22:17 Car Wash Teachable Moment 27:20 Conversation Not Verdict 32:31 Breaking Trauma Reactions 33:27 Dad Brain Fence Moment 35:56 Guilt Versus Growth 38:44 Stuck in Guilt Debate 40:47 Calm Teachable Moments 46:56 Reassurance After Accountability 51:17 Lessons Kids Remember 58:35 Closing Intentional Parenting #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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The Generational Curse Ran Into Me | Ep 202 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Leon Brown on Fatherhood, Marriage Storms, and Breaking Generational Cycles | Dear Son Show On the Dear Son Show, host D Johns talks with special guest Leon Brown (itsrevleon) about growing up in East Oakland raised by his praying grandmother and supported by his older brother, while navigating life without an active father. Leon shares how faith in Jesus Christ grounded him, how he now views his father with grace while still acknowledging the lack of effort, and why he’s intentional about giving his own children what he didn’t have—presence, guidance, and affection. The conversation explores learning manhood and marriage without a model, the impact of pornography and lust, marrying at 19 after sensing God’s direction, and practical marriage preparation like self-awareness, communication, and weathering storms. Leon also shares metaphors about God’s timing, and invites men to “Breaking Bread With Brothers” on August 29 in DeSoto, Texas. 00:00 Provider Pressure 01:02 Show Intro Guest 01:49 Faith Foundation 02:16 Raised By Grandma 03:50 Oakland Roots 04:48 Called From Childhood 06:31 Grandma Kept It Real 07:52 Big Brother Mentor 09:47 Absent Father Impact 12:32 Grace And Cycles 16:03 Present Dad Mission 21:12 Marriage Lessons 23:37 Porn Exposure Begins 25:05 Lust Without Guidance 27:01 Why Lust Feels Normal 28:15 Married at Nineteen 29:53 Waiting and Temptation 33:11 Preparing for Marriage 35:23 Friction and Change 37:13 Family Models and Aging Parents 40:03 Ego and Real Feedback 41:41 Provider Pressure Seasons 45:31 Enjoy the Ride 48:38 Gods Protective Delays 51:36 Where to Find Leon 53:44 Closing Blessing #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Parental Obligation vs Entitlement | Ep 201 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Obligation Over Expected Entitlement | Dear Son Show In this episode of the Dear Son Show, hosts Jey Blac and D Johns discuss “obligation over expected entitlement,” exploring the difference between what parents are truly responsible to provide versus what children or spouses may come to expect as normal. Using a hypothetical about an 18-year-old son who leaves his dad’s house for the summer but still expects promised benefits (car, TV, clothes, college support), they examine the message parents send when accountability is rejected but rewards are still demanded. They emphasize setting clear boundaries, communicating expectations and consequences, and confirming understanding to remove excuses. The conversation also covers how projection and optics can blur needs versus wants, how expectations can damage relationships, balancing emotion with logic in parenting and business, valuing humility and input, and being mindful of leading families toward goals that may not be shared. 00:00 Parent Duty Vs Choice 01:06 Welcome And Catch Up 02:51 Life Shifts And Family 05:01 Topic Expected Entitlement 08:01 Defining Real Obligations 12:21 Gratitude And Money Optics 14:52 18 Year Old Pushback Scenario 21:58 Boundaries Accountability Contracts 25:50 When Help Includes Advice 28:37 PAP PAD PAM 30:09 Expectations Ruin Bonds 33:32 Let Kids Be Themselves 37:55 Dreams At What Cost 38:59 Logic Emotion Balance 47:20 Humility And Feedback 52:14 No Dictators At Home 54:15 Show Growth And Future #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Obedience, Isolation & Rediscovering Yourself | Getting Back to Me | Ep 200 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Obedience, Isolation & Rediscovering Yourself | Corey Hughes on Faith, Fatherhood, and Healing Cory Hughes returns to The Dear Son Show to discuss rebuilding happiness and identity after divorce, loss, and seasons of uncertainty. He explains how God’s instruction to move from Dallas to Phoenix in 2023 forced isolation, self-examination, and learning not to outsource happiness, while also creating a pathway that led to his daughter receiving a scholarship to Arizona State. Corey and the host talk about waiting on God, resisting vices during crisis, and how control and distrust can shape faith and relationships. Corey shares lessons from business about accepting help, shifting from chasing money to pursuing peace and presence with family, and becoming authentic instead of performing. He outlines a vision for encouraging men to be emotionally honest and building community through future content, books, and a podcast. 00:00 Disobedience Costs 00:41 Daughter’s Door Opens 01:49 Welcome to Dear Son 02:32 Life in Arizona Heat 04:08 Why Talk About Happy 05:14 Journey to Self 07:12 Hearing God Move 09:06 Obedience Blesses Kids 12:50 Waiting Well Struggles 15:04 Cracks and Kintsugi 19:16 Don’t Waste Crisis 22:13 Ice Tray Theory 24:53 Trust and Control 27:09 Business and Delegation 29:12 Chasing the Bag 29:53 Presence Over Perfection 30:22 Trading Money for Peace 31:45 Enough Without Stuff 32:55 Buying Relationships 34:14 Titles and Identity 36:07 Deleting Instagram Reset 37:46 Authentic Not Performing 39:07 Kind Not Nice 40:13 Family Sees the Change 41:14 Surrendering to Gods Will 43:21 What Glory Looks Like 45:33 Podcast as Personal Growth 48:49 Vulnerability Goes Viral 50:39 Defining Success Impact 53:47 Accountability Podcast Promise 54:49 Where to Find Corey 55:21 Laughter and Closing #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Dear Son, I've Already Made Those Mistakes | Ep 199 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Dear Son: Let Them Learn… But Don’t Miss the Conversation | Episode 199 In Episode 199 of The Dear Son Show, hosts D Johns and Jey Blac reflect on how hard it is for fathers to watch their sons make decisions, especially when they ignore advice, and how parenting often means balancing guidance with letting them learn through experience. They share personal stories of being thrust into adulthood early—college detours, military-to-school transitions, dropping out, early parenthood, and reckless moments that once felt “memorable” but carried real danger—highlighting how bad choices can become normalized in groups. They discuss reading warning signs, avoiding “go along to get along” behavior, choosing friends wisely, and timing hard conversations early rather than waiting until it’s too late, while also previewing plans to celebrate Episode 200 with the audience. 00:00 Negotiating Temptation 01:01 Show Intro and Heat Talk 02:04 Son Nearing Graduation 04:14 Watching Him Choose 08:37 Rewinding to 19 09:03 D Johns College Detour 12:57 Jey Blac Army to College 16:34 Fatherhood Changed Everything 18:05 Let Them Crash or Save Them 22:26 Sharing Stories Without Glorifying 24:48 Timing and Wider Bumpers 26:55 Earn the Secret Sauce 27:49 Stay on the Bus 29:05 When Bad Choices Work 30:42 Normalized Foolery 36:58 Signs and Warnings 00:22 Choose Your Circle 44:13 Talk to Them Now 45:48 Planning Episode 200 51:48 Wrap and Goodbye #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Parents Need to Finish the Lesson | Ep 198 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Dear Son: See It Through — The Other Shoe & The Rest of the Lesson On this episode of The Dear Son Show, hosts Jey Blac and D Johns discuss “See It Through: The Other Shoe/The Rest of the Lesson,” focusing on the adult responsibility to teach complete, contextual life lessons. They reflect on parenting moments with their kids—like supporting a young goalie through getting scored on and repairing a negative start to family walks through accountability and apology. They explore how lessons like selflessness, hard work, and “providing” can become harmful when parents omit the other side: prioritizing health, sustaining success after achievement, planning beyond arrival, and developing character alongside expertise. The conversation also emphasizes guidance and structure in parenting, warning against letting underdeveloped children make major life decisions without qualified adult input, and encourages revisiting the “why” behind goals. They close with updates on reaching 200 episodes, plans to go live, an “Unhinged” episode in July, and merch availability at thedearsonspodcast.com. 00:00 Provider Mentality Trap 00:57 Welcome to Dear Son 01:33 Summer Updates and Kids Sports 04:31 Anniversary and Episode Setup 06:10 See It Through as a Parent 09:25 The Other Shoe Explained 10:54 Learn What You Disagree With 15:50 Selflessness vs Self Care 21:35 Post Achievement Stewardship 25:21 Beyond Me Mentors and Character 28:41 Big Picture Pace and Purpose 32:30 Passion Versus Status 33:25 First In The Family Pressure 35:10 Parenting Needs Guardrails 43:17 Teaching Context And Consequences 47:43 Tools Over Answers 49:21 Right Turns Lesson 51:42 Chasing Episode 200 55:17 Unhinged And Q3 Push 58:04 Merch And Wrap Up #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Why It's So Hard for Men to Win Their Family Back | Ep 197 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Coach Bell on Faith, Shame, and Winning Your Family Back | Dear Son Show In this episode of The Dear Son Show, D Johns welcomes Coach Bear for a candid conversation about fatherhood, faith, and the hidden cost of wearing a “mask” of stoicism that works at work but fails at home. Coach Bell shares how he went from calling himself a marriage recovery coach to a truth teller who helps people confront hard realities, including infidelity and betrayal. He describes running from God after growing up as a pastor’s kid, wrestling with pride and disobedience, and eventually quitting his job to follow what he felt God was calling him to do. They discuss the pressure of reconciliation, the difference between shame and conviction, why you can’t earn grace, and how healing still carries consequences—especially when children ask painful questions. Coach Bell also reflects on his wife’s character, his father’s impact, and why he continues publicly sharing his story as an act of obedience. 00:00 Stoic Mask at Home 01:07 Welcome to Dear Son 02:44 Grateful Yet Heavy 06:00 No Highs No Lows 08:05 Where Im From 08:51 Dads Impact Legacy 12:53 Coaching and Calling 19:06 Running From God 22:46 Work Success as Vice 24:23 Winning Family Back 26:05 Rebuilding Through Faith 27:14 Do It For You 29:19 Reentry Pressure After Betrayal 30:52 Grace Over Shame 33:31 Noticing Real Change 35:18 Her Strength And Character 38:32 Rock Bottom In Separation 40:54 Fears For The Kids 43:38 Parenting With Transparency 45:42 Public Story And Backlash 49:23 Why It Is Worth It 53:32 Presenting A Loving God 54:39 Where To Find Him 55:16 Final Blessing And Sendoff #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow Coach Bear: https://instagram.com/officialcoachbear Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Why Men Are Exhausted From Work and Home | Ep 196 | The Dear Son, Show

Men’s Mental Health, Fatherhood & Capacity: Dr. Jason Phillips on Therapy, Burnout, and Being Present On The Dear Son Show, D Johns talks with Dr. Jason Phillips, a licensed therapist and confidence coach, about men’s mental health, fatherhood, and learning to assess personal capacity. Phillips shares how corporate talks during Mental Health Month lead men to seek support, why therapists also need therapy, and how grief and major losses forced him to slow down and care for himself. They discuss the provider mindset, saying no to “raggedy yeses,” balancing career and family, and how parenting choices may not be understood until children reach their 20s. Phillips reflects on his own parents’ roles, emphasizes prioritizing family in real life and calendars, and encourages men to acknowledge struggles, take accountability, and take action while asking for help when needed. 00:00 Parenting For The Future 01:03 Show Intro And Apology 03:06 Meet Dr Jason Phillips 04:04 Mens Mental Health Month 06:32 Fatherhood And Self Care 08:45 Grief On Holidays 10:26 Why He Became A Therapist 14:37 Capacity And Saying No 22:55 Work Ethic Versus Family 27:07 Discipline And Dad Style 31:45 Therapists Need Therapy 39:03 Success Scripts And Identity 43:45 Raising Kids Without Pressure 45:32 Encouragement And Where To Find Him 46:58 Projects And Closing #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow Jason: https://instagram.com/drjasonphillips Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Love + Kindness: The Two Ingredients That Saved My Marriage | Ep 195 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Love + Kindness: The Two Ingredients That Saved My Marriage | Dear Son Show (Patrick Murphy) On this Father’s Day episode of The Dear Son Show, D Johns welcomes Patrick Murphy from Florida to discuss fatherhood, peace, and relationships. Patrick shares growing up in the Bay Area with nine siblings, learning entrepreneurship from his father, and being shaped by his parents’ divorce and contrasting parenting styles. He describes how his first 27-year marriage ended in divorce, leaving him bitter and searching for answers, which led him to study relationships and help teach a divorce and separation care ministry at One Community Church. In his second marriage, frequent divorce talks shifted after a spiritual warning and a series of “ice cream dates” focused on sharing childhood stories instead of issues, helping them heal. Patrick argues that relationships need both love and kindness, warns against weaponizing vulnerability, and says this approach brought peace at home and years without arguments. 00:00 Guarded Love Mindset 00:26 Kindness Keeps Love Alive 01:27 Welcome to Dear Son 02:55 Building a Peace System 04:36 Corporate vs Family Costs 07:02 Life Escalator and Overwhelm 09:52 Hiding Burdens in Marriage 11:03 Roots in the Bay 13:09 Nine Siblings and Dad Hustle 15:02 Parenting Styles and Lessons 18:35 Parents Divorce Impact 21:52 Breaking the Divorce Cycle 23:33 Divorce Ministry Insights 26:05 Nail in Tire Relationship Radar 28:27 Anti Divorce and Second Marriage 30:38 Ice Cream Date Reset 31:35 Healing The Inner Kids 33:01 Love And Kindness Formula 35:11 Why Counseling Can Backfire 36:54 No Arguments By Design 40:35 Kindness Beats Attitude 44:48 Peace At Home Changes Men 49:46 Hats And Lost Identity 52:48 Helpmeet And Safe Space 56:48 Stop Fixing Start Loving 58:59 Daily Practices To Stay Close 01:01:16 Customer Service Marriage Mindset 01:02:21 Book Plug And Farewell #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk #marriagecounseling Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow Patrick: https://instagram.com/theconflictsoflife Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy