Big Sur Magic Flirting Workshop by Will Rogers, featuring Adrienne St. Aubin
Two acquaintances navigate desire and consent while sharing a tent at a music festival in 2015. Produced by Will Rogers. Special thanks to Adrienne Michelle St. Aubin. A Note From Adrienne: “One of the (many) things that is interesting to me about [the piece], personally, is how a decade has passed and the ways we think about consent have evolved during that time. Something that was interesting to me then (and still now) is how it captures some of the tension and challenges around navigating that stuff *even* when everyone is pretty well-educated and conscientious about it—and how it shows that there are many different forms that intimacy and connection can take, when we are willing to be both vulnerable and honest with each other.” A Couple More Notes: The “workshop”: one piece of context is that Adrienne went to a workshop called “How to be a Feminist in the Bedroom”, facilitated by Dr. Alison Ash (aka Dr. Aly). Will knew Aly and had read notes from the workshop, so this became a point of commonality for Will & Adrienne. Some of the exercises were about saying things like “if you would be interested,” then asking for what you want, and developing a comfort around saying “no”. An earlier version of this piece was released as a series of shorter episodes on the Oregano Shirt Podcast (now The Oregano) in 2023. The episodes were later removed because, according to Will, “it felt like too vulnerable of a thing to share”. Emily still remembered the series years later, and encouraged Will to publish it again. And here we are (Will, Adrienne, and Emily) sharing this episode on Candy Ears. Featured Poem: "A Ritual to Read to Each Other” by William Stafford, from The Way It Is: New and Selected Poems.
