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Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

Adam Alvarez; Pris Alvarez

Welcome to the wild, honest, and hilarious world of Beyond Monogamy—a podcast where longtime lifestyle couple Adam & Pris spill the tea (and sometimes the lube) on all things ethical non-monogamy.

From hotwife adventures and swinger fails to polyamorous growing pains and everything in between, no topic is too taboo and no story is off-limits. Whether you're a seasoned swinger, lifestyle-curious, or just here for the juicy stories—you're in the right bed… we mean, place.

Expect real talk, lots of laughs, and candid conversations about sex, relationships, parenting, judgment, and finding connection beyond traditional monogamy.

🛏️ New episodes drop every Sunday and Wednesday.
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S3 · E32
Wednesday · 34 min
Mismatched Sex Drives: When Stress, Meds & Menopause Hit
Is there such a thing as a "normal" sex drive? Nope. On this Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE, Adam and Pris get real about mismatched sex drives: the high, the low, and everything in between. Adam, the self-proclaimed every-single-day guy, opens up about a recent slowdown in his libido, while Pris, a lifelong take-it-or-leave-it, explains why talking about sex doesn't flip her switch and why cuddles sometimes beat the main event. Whether you're in the swinger lifestyle, practicing ethical non-monogamy (ENM), or totally monogamous, libido mismatch isn't a lifestyle problem. It's a human one. And this swinger podcast proves the fix starts with one honest conversation. In this episode: Why there's no "normal" number when it comes to sex drive How new medications, menopause, and hormones can shift desire Stress, sleep, weight, and body image as libido killers Why cuddling can feel safer than sex when life gets heavy Masturbation for dopamine vs. sex with a partner: the "whole dance" The fear of a low-libido season becoming the new normal "If one is down, pick up the other": who initiates when desire dips Adam's on-air accountability pledge (comment and ask if he got up and walked!) When to talk to your partner, your doctor, or a therapist Thanks to our sponsors and affiliates: ProDX Health — At-home STI tests plus hormone tests for men and women, with results straight to your phone. Use code BEYOMONO for 15% off at prodxhealth.com. FirmTech Tech Ring — A comfortable overnight ring that tracks your natural erections while you sleep and sends the data to your phone to share with your doctor. Use code BEYOMONO at myfirmtech.com/adamalvarez. Sliquid — When you two are on the same page, Sliquid has you covered. Get 15% off at sliquid.com. Come hang out with us: Swinger 101 Workshop — Austin, TX — Sunday, November 15, 2026, 6–8 PM at Forbidden Fruit Austin. Light refreshments, a small fee, and two hours to ask us anything. Details on the Sponsors tab at beyond-monogamy.com. Krazy Winter Nights — Kansas City — February 19–21, 2027. Use code BEYOMONO for a discount at krazykasbh.com. Full Swap Radio — Catch us every Thursday at 2 PM and 7 PM Central on fullswapradio.com. Beyond-Monogamy.com — Merch, every episode, our blog, sponsor discounts, and our 100% anonymous confessional. Tell us where your drive lands! beyond-monogamy.com
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S3 · E31
October 25 · 57 min
What If Non-Monogamy Was Normal? Catholic Guilt & Our Other Lives
What would your life look like if non-monogamy had always been normal? A listener voicemail stopped us in our tracks with that question, so Adam & Pris imagine the versions of themselves that never got the chance to exist. We both grew up Catholic in Mexican-American households with a strict script for what a good man and a good woman were supposed to be. This is one of our most personal episodes yet about ethical non-monogamy, the swinger lifestyle, and how culture and religion shape who we love. In this episode: A listener voicemail asks: who would we be if non-monogamy were normal? Pris's childhood crushes, growing up bi in a "don't date outside your race or gender" household Adam's "girl-crazy" shame and why he thought something was wrong with him Would there be less cheating if monogamy and non-monogamy were treated equally? Wanting "the one," having a primary, and why poly didn't work for us Could either of us ever go back to monogamy? Catholic guilt, Adam's time in the seminary, and why he walked away Machismo, toxic masculinity, and finding Latinx couples in the lifestyle Our alternate-timeline lightning round: who are we dating at 18, and do we still find each other? Thanks to our sponsor: SDC: The largest online community for open-minded adults, with your people all in one place. Make a profile and go explore. Sign up with code 38236: sdc.com/?ref=38236 Come hang out with us IRL: Krazy Winter Nights, Kansas City: February 19–21, 2027. Use code BEYOMONO for a discount at krazykasbh.com Full Swap Radio: Catch us streaming every Thursday at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central at fullswapradio.com Tell us your other timeline: Grew up with rules that didn't fit? Share your story in our 100% anonymous confessional at beyond-monogamy.com. While you're there, check out the merch, past episodes, and our blog.
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S3 · E30
October 21 · 35 min
Where Do You Find Swingers? Apps, Clubs & Meet-and-Greets That Work
Where do you actually find other swingers? It's the number one question in our inbox, our DMs, and our confessional, so on this QUICKIE, Adam & Pris break down where the swinger lifestyle really lives: online, in person, and in places you might not expect. We draw on 15 years of ethical non-monogamy experience, wins and misfires included. In this episode: How we got started: Adult FriendFinder, Swing Lifestyle, Kik chats, and the pre-app days Free vs. paid accounts on SDC, 3Fun, and FetLife, and which ones fit what you want Community vs. casual: why chasing friendships beat chasing sex for us The Facebook group method: going from public state groups to private local ones AI photos, catfishing, fake profiles, and why Pris verifies everybody Red flags: pushiness, one-word openers, and couples' profiles that only show one partner Swinger clubs, host couples, newbie nights, and low-pressure vanilla meet-and-greets Takeovers, lifestyle travel, cruises, workshops, Reddit, and Discord Thanks to our sponsors and partners: FirmTech: The Tech Ring tracks firmness and blood flow with real data in an app, and the Ring Mate attachment is all about your partner's pleasure. Use code BEYOMONO for 15% off: myfirmtech.com/adamalvarez SDC: The lifestyle's biggest community, with profiles, verification, parties, and travel. Join with code 38236: sdc.com/?ref=38236 3Fun: Quick, on-the-go swiping for couples and singles. Use code TK11932: go3fun.co/ad/TK11932 SwingTap: Tap a ring, wallet, or QR code to share your whole lifestyle profile instantly: swingtap.fun/share/beyomono Come hang out with us IRL: Swinger 101 Workshop: November 15 at Forbidden Fruit in Austin, TX. $20 per person, with light refreshments. Krazy Winter Nights, Kansas City: February 19–21, 2027. Use code BEYOMONO for a discount at krazykasbh.com Full Swap Radio: Catch us streaming every Thursday at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central. Join our community: Visit beyond-monogamy.com for merch, every episode, our blog, our 100% anonymous confessional, and the "Join Our Community" link to our Facebook group.
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S3 · E29
October 18 · 1 hr 18 min
Quickie Mashup: Prostate Play, the P-Spot & Slut-Shaming
New here? Start with this Quickie Mashup! We took two of our favorite past QUICKIE episodes and put them back to back, so new listeners can catch up on the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) talk you might have missed. Quickie #1: The P-Spot Confessional. A listener writes in about prostate play and what it does for him, and it starts a very real conversation. Adam gets candid about an early experience that happened without consent, why toxic masculinity keeps men from talking about male pleasure, and whether he's ready to explore it with Pris. Then we share a practical starter guide: talk first, start slow, and use plenty of lube. Quickie #2: Sluttiness. What actually makes someone a "slut"? We dig into where the word came from in the 1400s, the double standard between men and women, slut-shaming inside and outside the lifestyle, Adam's hotwife kink, Pris learning to date solo, and why sexual freedom is such a turn-on in an open relationship. Prostate play, the P-spot and male pleasure Consent, vulnerability and "finding your no" Toxic masculinity and the "I ain't gay" myth The history of the word slut and the double standard Alcohol, THC and lowered inhibitions Hotwife fantasies, solo dates and insecurity after 15 years in the lifestyle Slut-shaming in the swinger community CONNECT WITH US 🌐 Website: beyond-monogamy.com. Full episodes, quickies, blog, merch and our guest lineup. 🤫 Anonymous Confessional: Got something on your mind about the lifestyle, ENM, kink or the show? Drop it 100% anonymously at beyond-monogamy.com. It might end up on a quickie! 📻 FullSwapRadio: Catch us on fullswapradio.com Thursdays at 2 PM and 7 PM Central. UPCOMING EVENT ❄️ Krazy Winter Nights, Kansas City, Feb 19–21, 2027. Use code BEYOMONO for your discount at krazykasbh.com. OUR SPONSORS (use our links, they support the show!) 💍 FirmTech: The Tech Ring and Ring Mate for firmness, blood flow and real data. Use code BEYOMONO for 15% off at firmtech.co 📲 SwingTap: One lifestyle profile, shared with a tap from a ring, bracelet or card. One-time fee, no subscription. swingtap.fun/share/beyomono 💋 SDC: The largest online community for open-minded adults. Sign up at sdc.com with code 38236 🧪 ProDX Health: We test, and they've got the hookup. Code BEYOMONO gets you 15% off at prodxhealth.com
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S3 · E28
October 14 · 36 min
Sweat, Queefs & Cramps: The Messy Truth About Swinger Sex
The swinger lifestyle sells candlelight, lingerie, and flawless bodies. Then somebody's calf locks up mid-threesome. On this Quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, the swinger podcast for ethical non-monogamy and open relationships, we tell on ourselves about the part of sex nobody puts in the highlight reel: the noises, the sweat, the cramps, and every moment your body decides to do its own thing in a room full of people. Bodies are gross, add more bodies and you get more gross, and laughing it off might be the sexiest skill in the lifestyle. In this episode: Why real full swaps and threesomes aren't Cinemax (sadly, no saxophone guy) Sweating in hot hotel rooms, and why towels and mini fans are lifestyle essentials Queefing: why it happens, the core and Kegel trick, and how a wedge pillow helps Guy stuff: gas anxiety, needing to pee mid-swap, and protecting the gems Growling stomachs, squeaky beds, slurping vs. gagging, and other sounds Bad breath, heavy breathing, squirting, and getting over the "ick" Leg cramps mid-play: hydrate, stretch, and work through it When it stops being funny: dizziness, chest pain, and knowing when to stop 📱 3Fun: the app for couples and singles who want to connect with like-minded people. Easy, low-pressure, and way less awkward. Use code TK11932: Download 3Fun here 💧 Sliquid: 15% OFF our go-to body-safe lube that actually feels good. Shop Sliquid here 📅 Swinger 101 Workshop: Sunday, Nov 15, Forbidden Fruit, Austin, TX. $20/person, light refreshments, real talk, and full access to us for all the questions you've been too nervous to ask. 📅 Krazy Winter Nights: Feb 19–21, 2027, Kansas City. Use code BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com 📻 FullSwapRadio: catch us every Thursday at 2 PM and 7 PM Central at fullswapradio.com 📺 Beyond Monogamy LIVE: our FREE livestream, every Thursday at 7 PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com 🤫 Got a mortifying story? Drop your messiest bodily-embarrassment moments in our 100% anonymous confessional at beyond-monogamy.com. We read every single one, and yours might end up on a future show. Full episodes, quickies, blogs, and merch live there too. Follow, subscribe, and leave us a five-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, then send this episode to the friend who would absolutely die if this happened to them.
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S3 · E27
October 11 · 47 min
Shibari & Rope Bondage for Couples with Travis of Shibari Sessions
Ever wondered what makes Shibari different from tying your partner to the bedpost? This week on Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, the swinger podcast for the ethically non-monogamous and kink-curious, we get happily tangled up with Travis of Shibari Sessions, a Houston rigger, teacher, and community builder who ties more than 100 people a year. Travis walks us through the 500-year history of Japanese rope bondage (Shibari vs. kinbaku), why rope can be "pretty or sexy but not both," and how consent and safety actually work when someone is suspended off the ground. Whether you're an experienced swinger or new to ENM and kink, this is your friendly rope 101. In this episode: How Travis found rope, and why a 101 class alone won't make you fall in love with it Shibari vs. kinbaku vs. Western rope bondage Rope safety: circulation, numbness vs. tingling, and the finger-squeeze test First suspensions, rated up lines, and why safety shears are non-negotiable Bringing rope into the bedroom (or dungeon) for couples and swingers Rope etiquette at swing clubs and kink events ShibARTi, Houston's Shibari art exhibition Find Travis: shibarisessions.com, with private lessons, the Rope Library, and the free Tied Together directory of 857+ Shibari groups, classes, and shops worldwide. Learn rope in Houston: Bound HTX runs affordable 101 and themed classes every month. 📅 ShibARTi: Saturday, Nov 14, Montrose Center, Houston. 40 rope artists, gallery style. Sessions 4–6 PM and 7–9 PM (separately ticketed; judging and awards in the evening session). Beginner-friendly, and we'll be there! Tickets: shibarisessions.com (click ShibARTi) 📅 Swinger 101 Workshop: Sunday, Nov 15, Forbidden Fruit, Austin. $20/person, light refreshments, and a judgment-free space to ask us anything. Rope Saturday, swinging Sunday! 📅 Krazy Winter Nights: Feb 19–21, 2027, Kansas City. We're doing a LIVE show! Use code BEYOMONO at krazykasbah.com 💧 Sliquid: 15% OFF our go-to lube: made in the USA, clean ingredients, toy-safe water-based formulas. Shop Sliquid here 💪 FirmTech: fellas, bring your A-game. Use code BEYOMONO at myfirmtech.com 📻 FullSwapRadio: catch us every Thursday at 2 PM and 7 PM Central at fullswapradio.com 📺 Beyond Monogamy LIVE: our FREE livestream is every Thursday at 7 PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com. You'll also find every episode, our blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional. Love the show? Follow, subscribe, and leave us a five-star rating wherever you listen. It's how curious couples find us!
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S3 · E26
October 7 · 29 min
Swinger Safety 101: Emergency Contacts, Vetting & What Ifs
What happens if? It's the question nobody in the ENM lifestyle wants to sit with—but Adam & Pris say it's one of the most important conversations you can have. This week's quickie digs into the paperwork, vetting, and emergency plans that swingers, poly folks, and kitchen-table throuples all need but rarely discuss. In this episode: The "what if" scenarios that keep Adam up at night when Pris plays solo Why the early Craigslist days of swinging were scarier than they look back now Vetting a new play partner: video verification, verified profiles on 3Fun and SDC, and why a driver's license request might be a red flag Real talk on medical emergencies during play, and what happened the one time a partner had to be rushed to the hospital Emergency contacts and medical decision-making for poly & kitchen-table relationships (HIPAA workarounds included) Why disclosing ailments, allergies, and meds like Viagra before you play isn't a vibe-killer—it's a life-saver This episode's sponsor: Pleasure Chest — sex-positive since the '70s, with locations in NYC, Chicago, and LA plus a full online shop. Toys, lingerie, kink gear, and body-safe everything, backed by an education-first approach. Head to thepleasurechest.com and go build your own chest of pleasures. Catch us live: Join Adam & Pris for our FREE livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com, where you'll also find every episode, our blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional. Also on FullSwapRadio: Catch us on FullSwapRadio every Thursday at 2:00 and 7:00 PM Central. Upcoming events: Austin, TX — November 15th at Forbidden Fruit for our Swinger 101 workshop Kansas City, MO — Krazy Winter Nights, February 19–21, 2027. Visit krazykasbh.com and use discount code BEYOMONO for a nice little discount Whether you're deep in the swinger lifestyle, exploring ethical non-monogamy, or building a poly family, this one's your reminder: communication isn't optional—it's the whole game.
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S3 · E81
October 4 · 57 min
Lifestyle Brain: When Swinger Instincts Follow You Home
Ever catch your swinger brain flirting at the grocery store? Adam and Pris dig into "lifestyle brain" — what happens when your ethical non-monogamy instincts sneak into regular vanilla life, and why it's so easy to misread the signals. This episode covers: "Code switching" between swinger mode and vanilla mode Why Adam freezes up flirting with vanilla women but not lifestyle women How to flirt without being creepy (and the compliments that actually land) The hot wife dynamic: fantasy vs. being a real partner Is masturbating to someone else cheating? Adam & Pris do NOT agree Reading the room when a vanilla person gets curious about ENM Catch us live: Free livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — episodes, blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional are all there too. FullSwapRadio: Catch us every Thursday at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central on fullswapradio.com. Event — Swinger 101 Workshop: November 15th at Forbidden Fruit in Austin. $20/person, light refreshments included. Perfect if you're curious or just getting started. Event — Krazy Winter Nights: February 19–21, 2027 in Kansas City, Missouri. Adam & Pris will be doing a live show! Grab tickets at krazykasbh.com and use discount code BEYOMONO for a discount. Sponsor — SwingTap: Build a lifestyle profile once, get a custom link + QR code, and share it instantly via wearables (rings, bracelets, NFC cards) — no more spelling out your SDC username across a loud bar. One-time fee, no subscription. Check it out at swingtap.fun or use our link swingtap.fun/share/beyomono to support the show. Sponsor — SDC: If your lifestyle brain needs somewhere to go, SDC is where we tell everyone to start. Use code 38236 when you sign up. All sponsor links and codes are always in the show notes — show them some love, it keeps the show going!
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S3 · E24
September 30 · 30 min
The Hot Seat: Adam Answers Swinger Lifestyle & ENM Questions
Adam finally gets put in the hot seat. On this quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy, Pris flips the script and grills Adam with rapid-fire, no-dodging questions about dating app reviews, his least sexy skill, jealousy, insecurity, and what really happened when they tried polyamory. It's raw, funny, and surprisingly honest ENM talk. What's in this episode: Adam's brutally honest "dating app review" of himself His most useful (and least sexy) skill as a lifestyle husband The insecurities every guy feels early in the swinger lifestyle Why they tried poly, what they learned, and why they stopped How running The Bald Truth content keeps Adam "on the straight and narrow" Boundaries, jealousy, and how they navigate different connections in an open relationship Join us live: Catch the FREE Beyond Monogamy livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — episodes, blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional. FullSwapRadio: You can also catch us on Full Swap Radio every Thursday at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central. Upcoming event — Austin, TX: Swinger 101 Workshop at Forbidden Fruit on November 15th. Upcoming event — Kansas City, MO: Krazy Winter Nights, February 19–21, 2027. Get tickets at krazykasbh.com and use discount code BEYOMONO for a nice little discount. Sponsor: This episode is brought to you by Spunk Lube — smooth, long-lasting, toy-safe, body-safe lube with no sticky residue. Get 10% off using the link in our show notes. Swinger lifestyle, ethical non-monogamy, and open relationship talk — this is Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris.
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S3 · E23
September 27 · 58 min
Who Gets Left Out in the Swinger & ENM Lifestyle Community
Ever feel like the swinger lifestyle has its own high school cafeteria? Adam & Pris are diving into the pecking order nobody likes to admit exists in the ethical non-monogamy community — and who keeps getting left off the invite list. The lifestyle sells itself as open, sex-positive, and welcoming to everyone. But walk into any swinger club or house party on a Saturday night and there's a hierarchy in plain sight. Adam and Pris get real about the groups that get gate-kept, ostracized, or quietly ignored — and what you can actually do about it. In this episode: The "unattainable couple" myth and why hot doesn't mean happy Why single men are the most gate-kept group in non-monogamy Ageism in the lifestyle — and why "old" is just a state of mind Body image, bigger bodies, and the pressure of "getting work done" Race, segregated parties, and building a truly mixed community How self-confidence (or the lack of it) creates your own exclusion If this episode got you thinking, head to beyond-monogamy.com for every episode, our blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional line. Catch us LIVE every Thursday at 7PM Central, and you can also find us on FullSwapRadio every Thursday at 2:00 and 7:00 PM Central. Upcoming events: Join us in Austin, TX on November 15th at Forbidden Fruit for our Swinger 101 workshop. Then head to Kansas City, MO for Krazy Winter Nights, February 19–21, 2027 — use our discount code BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com for a discount. This episode is brought to you by SwingTap — build a lifestyle profile once, then share it instantly with a custom link, QR code, or NFC wearable (rings, bracelets, even cards). One-time fee, no subscription. Check it out at swingtap.fun and use our link swingtap.fun/share/beyomono to support the show.
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S3 · E22
September 23 · 26 min
Swinger Seat Swap: Adam & Pris Answer ENM Questions
Adam and Pris swap seats — and swap personalities. On this quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy, our favorite swinger lifestyle podcast hosts answer your ethical non-monogamy (ENM) questions as each other — same voice, same attitude, same opinions (or their best impression of them). No coaching, no interrupting, and absolutely no getting mad at the impression. It's a fast, funny, surprisingly honest look at how two people fifteen years into an open marriage actually think — filtered through a hilarious role-reversal game. What we cover: What first-timers need to know before their first lifestyle party Is jealousy something to avoid in non-monogamy, or something to work through? The biggest misconceptions about swinging and polyamory How to bring up a kink with your partner for the first time Rules vs. boundaries — and which one actually matters more Best advice for a married couple thinking about opening up Handling rejection at a party without making it weird Check-ins, aftercare, and the lifestyle myth we want retired forever Plus: what Adam and Pris genuinely admire about how the other navigates the swinger lifestyle. Catch us live: Head to beyond-monogamy.com for every episode, our blog, and our FREE livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central. You can also catch us on FullSwapRadio every Thursday at 2:00PM and 7:00PM Central. Upcoming events: Krazy Winter Nights — Kansas City, MO, February 19–21, 2027. Use discount code BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com for a discount on tickets. Naughty Nawlins — coming up in July! Link in the show notes and on our website. Swinger 101 Workshop — November 15th at Forbidden Fruit in Austin, TX. Local listeners, come say hi! Details on our events tab at beyond-monogamy.com. This episode is brought to you by: SDC.com — the largest online community for open-minded adults. Make a profile and go explore. Use code 38236 at sign-up. Link in the show notes. 3Fun — the app for couples and singles who want to connect with like-minded people. Link in the show notes. Spunk Lube — grab 10% off with the link in our show notes, also listed on our sponsors page at beyond-monogamy.com. Ethical non-monogamy, swinger lifestyle, open relationships — this is your weekly dose of real talk, straight from a couple actually living it.
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S3 · E21
September 20 · 55 min
Seattle Makes Polyamory a Protected Class: ENM Under the Law
Seattle just made history — and Adam & Pris are unpacking it. This past week, the Seattle City Council voted unanimously to extend anti-discrimination protections to people in polyamorous relationships, adding polyamory, pansexuality, and asexuality to the city's legal definition of sexual orientation. So on this episode of Beyond Monogamy, Adam and Pris dig into what this means for the whole ethical non-monogamy (ENM) umbrella — polyamory, swinging, kink, and everything in between. In this episode: The Seattle City Council's new law protecting polyamorous people from discrimination Is swinging covered under "consensual non-monogamy" too? Adam and Pris debate it Orientation vs. choice: are you born non-monogamous, or is it a decision? Real data — a 2025 survey found 61% of non-monogamous people report facing prejudice or discrimination Why so many in the swinger lifestyle and polyamorous communities stay closeted at work A candid, no-filter conversation between Adam and Pris about their own relationship dynamic Whether you're poly, swinging, or somewhere in the beautiful gray area of ethical non-monogamy, this one's for you. Catch us live every Thursday at 7PM Central for our FREE livestream, plus new episodes, blogs, and events at beyond-monogamy.com. You can also catch us on FullSwapRadio every Thursday at 2PM and 7PM Central. Upcoming events: Swinger 101 Workshop — Austin, TX at Forbidden Fruit, November 15th Krazy Winter Nights — Kansas City, February 19th–21st. Use code BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com This episode is brought to you by: The Pleasure Chest — sex toys, lingerie, and kink gear with an education-first approach. Locations in NY, Chicago, and LA, or shop online at thepleasurechest.com. 3Fun — meet like-minded people in the lifestyle. Use code TK11932. SDC — Austin-area swingers and ENM couples, use discount code 38236. Got a question or confession? Send it through our 100% anonymous confessional at beyond-monogamy.com. Like, subscribe, and leave us a review — it helps more than you know!
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S3 · E20
September 16 · 30 min
QUICKIE: Swingers Stuck in a Vanilla Setting
Ever had to "behave" in a room full of vanilla people? In this QUICKIE episode of Beyond Monogamy, Adam & Pris get real about the very specific chaos of being deep in the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy... and then suddenly finding yourselves surrounded by vanilla friends who have no idea what you get up to. They break down the wandering-hand incidents, the flirting instincts they had to swallow, the "swingers in the wild" story that started a real friendship, and why judgment from vanilla folks is usually a mirror, not a mic drop. Plus: objectification in the ENM community, who's really "calling the shots" in a swinger relationship, and why porn's objectification argument doesn't hold up the way people think. Behaving (or not) in vanilla settings as an experienced swinger couple The wandering-hand story that got Adam benched to "hands in lap" Spotting real-life swingers in a vanilla bar Objectification of women in the non-monogamy community — and the 50/50 problem Who calls the shots more: men or women in open relationships? Catch us live: Head to beyond-monogamy.com for every episode, our blog, and our FREE livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central. You can also catch us on FullSwapRadio. Don't forget to check the Events tab at beyond-monogamy.com for every upcoming chance to meet Adam & Pris in person. This episode is brought to you by Sliquid — made in the US with clean ingredients, in water-based, silicone, and organic formulas. The water-based line is toy-safe and built to last through however long the night goes. Get 15% off here: https://sliquid.com/beyondmonogamy?ref=145 Enjoyed the show? Like, subscribe, share it with someone in your community, and leave us a 5-star review — it genuinely helps more people find us.
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S3 · E19
September 13 · 49 min
ENM Mailbag: Lifestyle Burnout, Jealousy & Pool Party Game
It's a mailbag episode! Adam & Pris skip the guest and dig straight into the inbox for two listener questions that could not be more different — one heavy, one fun, and both real talk about ethical non-monogamy (ENM) and the swinger lifestyle. A 20+ year married couple, 3-5 years into the lifestyle, hits a wall: he's thriving in non-monogamy, she's over it. Adam & Pris break down jealousy, trust, communication, and how to figure out what's actually fair for both partners. A newbie couple at their third lifestyle pool party watches his wife get swarmed while he freezes up. The question: what are the signals men miss, and how should a guy actually approach a woman (or couple) at a swinger party without being "that guy"? Real talk on setting boundaries, reading the room, non-monogamy jealousy, and open relationship communication tools you can use tonight. Got your own question or confession? Drop it anonymously in the confessional at beyond-monogamy.com — no names, no pressure. While you're there, catch the free livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central, check the blog, and browse past guests. You can also catch us on FullSwapRadio every Thursday at 2PM and 7PM Central. Upcoming events: Catch us at Club Eden on September 19th with our friend Pineapple Jen. And mark your calendars for Krazy Winter Nights in Kansas City, Missouri, February 19-21 — register at krazykasbh.com and use code BEYOMONO for a discount. This episode's sponsor: SwingTap — a one-time-fee lifestyle profile platform (no subscription). Build your profile with photos and preferences, then share it instantly via a custom link, QR code, or a wearable (rings, bracelets, even NFC cards) that looks like everyday jewelry until you want it to be more. Check it out at SwingTap.fun, or use our link SwingTap.fun/share/BeyoMono to support the show.
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S3 · E18
September 9 · 26 min
To Wax or Not to Wax: Bush, Bald & Body Talk in ENM
Do you like it bald, or with a little fuzz? On this Wednesday quickie, Adam and Pris dive into one of the most-avoided topics in the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy world: pubic hair. From sugar waxing versus hard waxing, to Adam's confession about an old insecurity sparked by a "hairy or bare" poll in a lifestyle group, this episode is a funny, honest look at grooming, body image, and self-acceptance in ENM. Sugar wax vs. hard wax, and why Pris is ready to quit cold turkey The trimmer that's actually worth the Amazon order Adam's "hairy or bare" story and why body-hair shaming needs to grow up Manscaping for hairy guys: the "penis-shaped underwear" problem FUPA talk: body insecurities, self-love, and loving your partner's curves This one's a feel-good pubic ode of love: preferences are fine, but body-shaming isn't. Love your body, love yourself, and be comfortable with who you are. Catch us live: Head to beyond-monogamy.com for every past episode, companion blogs, merch, and our anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional line. Join us for our FREE livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central, and catch us on FullSwapRadio too. This episode is brought to you by 3Fun — the app for couples and singles who want to connect with like-minded people. It's easy, low-pressure, and way less awkward than figuring it out on your own. Download 3Fun here. Keywords: swinger lifestyle, ethical non-monogamy, ENM podcast, open relationship, pubic hair grooming, body positivity in non-monogamy, swinger podcast.
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S3 · E17
September 2 · 42 min
Kink Night at Club Eden: Our First BDSM Club Experience
Kink Night at Club Eden just broke our brains — in the best way. On this Wednesday quickie, Adam & Pris recap their first-ever Kink Night at their home swinger club, where a dominatrix friend and her sub gave them a front-row education in flogging, electric wands, sounding rods, and the real meaning of consent and power exchange in the BDSM world. This episode is a must-listen for anyone curious about where kink and the ethical non-monogamy / swinger lifestyle overlap — and where they don't. In this episode: Why Kink Night at Club Eden in San Antonio is nothing like the Saturday swinger crowd Meeting "Mistress Vampirella" and her sub, dressed head-to-toe in gear Adam & Pris had never seen up close Adam's Indiana-Jones-style flogging lesson (and why he couldn't bring himself to do it) The electric wand, nipple clamps, cock cages, and an intro to sounding rods (yes, really) Why humiliation play is about consent and power exchange, not cruelty Headspace, aftercare, and the biggest myths about the kink community Adam considering a future as a dom (maybe even a "dom porn star") A shout-out to their upcoming Shibari adventure: ShibART-i in Houston on November 14th Ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, and kink all live in the same neighborhood of judgment-free exploration — this episode is proof. Catch us live: Every Thursday at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central on FullSwapRadio, plus our FREE weekly livestream at beyond-monogamy.com. Upcoming event: Join us at ShibART-i in the Houston area on November 14th — a Shibari art event we can't wait to experience (and yes, we're having the organizer on the show soon — stay tuned). This episode is brought to you by ProDX Health. At-home STI and hormone testing — no waiting rooms, no awkward conversations, just answers. Use code BEYOMONO at prodxhealth.com for 15% off year-round (even more during special events). Subscribe, share, and leave us a five-star review — and don't forget to catch us on YouTube too. Got a story, question, or confession? Drop it in our 100% anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional at beyond-monogamy.com — we just might read it on the show.
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S3 · E16
August 30 · 56 min
The Kinky Bros: Two Brothers Bond Over Rubber, Leather & Kink
Two brothers. Two very different kinks. One podcast that almost didn't happen. This week Adam & Pris sit down with Gryff and Jason, the real-life siblings behind the Kinky Bros Podcast — one gay, one straight, both deep in the kink world for years without ever telling each other, until a shared Netflix binge of "How to Build a Sex Room" blew the whole thing open. In this episode, we get into: How two brothers accidentally discovered they were both kinky — and how it changed their relationship Rubber and latex fetish life: stealth wear, breathability (or lack of it), and Texas summers Jason's jockstrap-and-thong origin story (thanks to a mystery pack he almost didn't order) Raising sex-positive kids in a non-monogamous, blended household Houston's surprisingly thriving queer kink community, vac cubes, and CBT 101 Compersion, jealousy, and hot wife dynamics — and why swingers aren't always as open-minded as they think Pegging, prostate pleasure, and why the swinging world still side-eyes it This is a raw, funny, genuinely educational conversation about ethical non-monogamy, kink, and the family bonds that can come from finally being honest about what turns you on. Find the Kinky Bros: search "Kinky Bros Podcast" on Apple, Spotify, iHeart, and Amazon Music, follow @kinkybrospodcast on Instagram & BlueSky, @kinkybrospod on X, or visit thekinkybros.com. Upcoming event: Shibari E, a live rope art show & demo night from Bound HTX, hits Houston on Saturday, November 14th. Details to come at beyond-monogamy.com. This episode is brought to you by SDC.com — the largest online community for open-minded adults. Make a free profile and start exploring. Use code 38236 at sdc.com. Catch us every Thursday at 7PM Central for our FREE livestream at beyond-monogamy.com, and streaming live on FullSwapRadio every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM Central on fullswapradio.com.
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S3 · E15
August 26 · 33 min
Do Swingers Get Nervous? Confidence & Anxiety in the Lifestyle
Do swingers still get nervous? After 15 years in the swinger lifestyle, Adam & Pris get real about nervousness, anxiety, and confidence in ethical non-monogamy. Spoiler: one of them still gets butterflies before every playdate, and the other struts through the club in lingerie like she owns the place. Guess who's who. In this quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy, your favorite ENM podcast couple digs into why nerves hit so differently for men and women in open relationships — and how to actually get past them. Why Pris stopped getting nervous (and the exact moment her confidence switch flipped) Why Adam STILL gets nervous after 15 years — even with planned playdates The mind-body connection nobody warns guys about, and why "just get hard" never works People-pleasing, rejection, and learning not to care who likes you Confident vs. egotistical — where's the line? Adam's field-tested advice for nervous guys in the lifestyle: say it once, then be a friend Spicy pic etiquette in the swinger community: who gets one, who gets blocked, and why you should always ask first Body confidence, exhibitionism, and the world's least suave way to put your underwear back on Whether you're new to swinging, curious about open relationships, or a lifestyle veteran who still feels the jitters, this episode is proof that nervousness is normal — and confidence can be built. Watch us LIVE: Free livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — plus every episode and the blog. On the radio: Catch us on FullSwapRadio every Thursday at 2PM and 7PM. Upcoming events: Lots coming — check the Events tab at beyond-monogamy.com and watch the socials. This episode is sponsored by SDC — the largest online community for open-minded adults. Make a profile, explore, and find your people. Sign up at SDC.com with code 38236.
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S3 · E14
August 23 · 1 hr 7 min
Random Talks: Bedroom Dealbreakers & Swinger Club Etiquette
No script. No plan. Just Adam & Pris, a list of questions on a smartphone, and zero filter. This week on Beyond Monogamy, the swinger lifestyle podcast that says what everyone else is thinking, we free-flow through the questions couples in ethical non-monogamy actually ask each other — and the answers get real, fast. In this episode of your favorite ENM and open relationship podcast: Bedroom dealbreakers — what we absolutely do NOT want partners doing during play (porn-style pounding, neck sucking, and teeth all make the list) Instant turn-offs — including the "no glove, no love" conversation too many new swingers skip Oral honesty hour — why "low and slow" wins and why you should ALWAYS speak up Swinger club etiquette — couch swaps, when it's okay to touch, and why just asking never kills the mood Playing separately — the two-hour gap, the "deer in headlights" look, and what's too intimate with someone else Could a girlfriend ever happen? — WLW relationships, sexual roommates (hard no), and keeping connections organic How to actually link up with Adam & Pris — plus who should proposition who in couple-on-couple play Whether you're new to the swinger lifestyle or a full-swap veteran, this candid Q&A between real-life partners covers the consent, communication, and comedy that make non-monogamy work. Watch us LIVE: Free livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — plus all episodes, the blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional. On the radio: Catch us on FullSwapRadio.com every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM Central. Come hang out with us: Krazy Winter Nights in Kansas City, MO — February 2027! We're doing a LIVE show at the weekend takeover. Tickets at krazykasbh.com — use discount code BEYOMONO for a discount. This episode is sponsored by SDC — the largest online community for open-minded adults. Your people, all in one place. Sign up at SDC.com with code 38236. Like the show? Love us? Hit follow, drop a five-star review, and share it with a lifestyle friend.
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S3 · E13
August 19 · 35 min
Why Are People So Shitty? Swinger Drama, Bullies & Trolls
Why are people so shitty? It's the question nobody can answer, but this week Adam & Pris sure try. In this candid episode of Beyond Monogamy, your favorite swinger podcast couple airs a little dirty laundry (no names, promise) about drama, bullies, and trolls in the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy community — and how to protect yourself without losing your fun. In this episode: The 80–90% of the lifestyle community that's wonderful — and the tiny percentage that isn't A group owner gone rogue: platform bullying, minions, and a two-year obsession with fake profiles Why outing people in the swinger community is the one unforgivable sin Discretion vs. connection: why you can't be 100% anonymous and still succeed in the lifestyle How to vet new people (yes, including the video-with-your-name-and-date trick) Trolls, anonymous comments, and why Adam officially does not give a f*** One bad apple doesn't spoil this bunch — it's a whole fruit salad Watch us LIVE: Every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — chat with us free, drop a question in the 100% anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional, and check the events tab. Also on FullSwapRadio: Catch us at fullswapradio.com every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM Central, alongside a whole cavalcade of adult podcasters. Come party with us: Krazy Winter Nights — February 2027 in Kansas City, Missouri! Register at krazykasbh.com with discount code BEYOMONO for a discount. Exact dates on the events tab at beyond-monogamy.com. This episode is sponsored by FirmTech: makers of the Tech Ring — a wearable ring for firmness and blood flow that connects to an app with real, clinically researched data. And don't miss the Ring Mate attachment for your partner's pleasure (everybody wins). Get 15% off at firmtech.co with code BEYOMONO. If you like the show, say so — like, subscribe, leave a five-star review, and share this episode with someone who needs it. It costs nothing and helps the swinger lifestyle and ENM community find us.
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