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Beyond Mommy Dearest

Beyond Mommy Dearest is a podcast for adult daughters navigating the complicated, often painful reality of difficult, emotionally immature, or narcissistic mothers.


Hosted by a trauma-informed leadership coach, this show explores the long-term impact of mother-daughter wounds, boundary setting, grief, identity, and healing beyond blame.


Through honest conversations, education, and lived experience, Beyond Mommy Dearest helps listeners reconnect with themselves, trust their instincts, and move forward with clarity, compassion, and strength.

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  • S1 · E36
    October 9 · 1 hr 25 min

    When Narcissistic Families Attack Your Marriage: Boundaries, Faith & No Contact

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! What happens when protecting your marriage means standing up to your own family? And what if everything you were taught about love, forgiveness, and honoring your parents was actually keeping you trapped in unhealthy relationships? In this powerful episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, Noelani welcomes Jon and Ashley LaFrent, the husband-and-wife team behind Leave Then Cleave, for an honest conversation about family dysfunction, religious guilt, emotional manipulation, marriage, and breaking generational cycles. After nearly four years of estrangement from Ashley's family, Jon and Ashley share how setting boundaries with one family member resulted in rejection from a much larger family system. What began as an effort to protect their peace became a journey of questioning everything they had been taught about family loyalty, faith, and unconditional love. Together, we explore what happens when families use religion to demand compliance, when parents attempt to divide marriages, and when choosing healthier relationships comes at an enormous emotional cost. We also tackle one of the most difficult questions survivors face: Can you still love and honor your parents while choosing no contact? From redefining love as something other than obedience to recognizing the difference between protective boundaries and punishment, this conversation challenges the idea that family relationships must be preserved at any cost. In this episode, we discuss: How dysfunctional families attempt to divide marriages The difference between love, compliance, and control Religious guilt and the weaponization of "honor thy father and mother" Why setting one boundary can trigger rejection from an entire family system Family scapegoating, enabling, and protecting harmful behavior The difference between no contact for protection and no contact as punishment Rebuilding trust in yourself after years of emotional manipulation Marriage, emotional safety, and choosing a healthier family dynamic Breaking generational cycles without abandoning your personal values Why loving someone does not require giving them access to your life The takeaway: You can love your family without accepting harmful behavior. You can honor your upbringing without repeating its dysfunction. And sometimes, the most meaningful way to honor previous generations is to make healthier choices for the next one. 💛 You are allowed to choose peace, even when other people don't understand your decision. Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ https://www.youtube.com/@BeyondMommyDearest https://substack.com/@beyondmommydearest https://www.threads.com/@beyondmommydearest Reach Jon and Ashley at Leave the Cleave https://www.instagram.com/p/DeC3JC7CRhd/?img_index=1 https://link.amazon/B0fWWJryM - Christlike Boundries https://cleavepodcast.substack.com/ ••https://www.instagram.com/the.collected.house/ Support the show

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  • S1 · E35
    October 2 · 1 hr 3 min

    Beyond Mommy Dearest - The Family Scapegoat: Narcissistic Parents, Childhood Trauma & Breaking the Cycle with God’s Favorite Problem

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! Buy me coffee :) - https://buymeacoffee.com/beyondmommydearest What happens when the child blamed for everything grows up and realizes they were never actually the problem? In this episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, I sit down with therapist Amy, better known online as God’s Favorite Problem, for a raw, funny, and deeply honest conversation about family scapegoating, narcissistic parents, generational trauma, divorce, boundaries, and learning to trust yourself again. Amy explains why dysfunctional family systems often need a scapegoat and why the role frequently falls on the sensitive, deeply feeling child who notices what everyone else has learned to ignore. We talk about what happens when that child grows up. People-pleasing. Overexplaining. Constantly second-guessing yourself. Feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions. Becoming a high achiever while secretly believing you're never doing enough. Replaying conversations in your head. Struggling to say no. And outsourcing your self-worth to parents, partners, bosses, and anyone else who might finally tell you that you're good enough. We also get personal about divorce and co-parenting, how unresolved trauma can repeat itself across generations, and why breaking the cycle sometimes requires looking honestly at our own behavior. Amy shares one of my favorite lines from the entire conversation: “Children explain. Adults inform.” If you grew up believing you had to justify every decision, prove your feelings, keep everyone happy, or explain yourself until someone finally understood you, this conversation is for you. We also discuss why setting a boundary can feel terrifying when you were raised without permission to have one, why estrangement should be an individual decision rather than something automatically prescribed, and how healing ultimately comes back to rebuilding self-trust. Because being the family scapegoat may have been the role they assigned you. It doesn't have to be the role you keep. In this episode: • What a family scapegoat really is • Scapegoat vs. “black sheep” • Narcissistic family systems • Generational trauma and cycle breaking • People-pleasing and self-abandonment • Why survivors overexplain and justify themselves • Rumination and replaying conversations • High achievement and outsourced self-worth • Narcissistic relationships and repeating childhood patterns • Divorce, co-parenting, and protecting children from adult conflict • Boundaries and the discomfort of saying no • Estrangement, distance, and self-protection • Rebuilding self-trust after emotional abuse • Amy's Scapegoat Reset work • Why you absolutely can get out of the scapegoat role And perhaps the most important reminder from Amy: You can go through hell, come out the other side, and discover that life can be better than you ever thought it could be. Reasources in the podcast https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v3YdldNXZnQ - Dr. Jennifer Jill Harman https://www.joshiattorneys.com - Ashish Joshi, Parental Alienation / Family Law / International Child Kidnapping / Child Abuse https://link.amazon/B03VJbpwW - Boundary boss Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ https://www.youtube.com/@BeyondMommyDearest https://substack.com/@beyondmommydearest https://www.threads.com/@beyondmommydearest Connect with God’s Favorite Probelm, Amy Watkins Performing Normal: Find Your Voice, Discover Yourself, Reclaim Your Life - https://link.amazon/B0hWA6xau Instagram - Amy Watkins (@gods.favorite.problem)Instagram · gods.favorite.problem102.2K+ followers Facebook - Gods.favorite.problemFacebook · Gods.favorite.problem26K+ followers amywatkinsstudio.com Support the show

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  • S1 · E34
    September 25 · 1 hr 14 min

    Breaking the Control: Nomz Bistline on FLDS, The False Prophet & Reclaiming Her Life

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! ⚠️ TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses religious trauma, coercive control, sexual and physical abuse, child exploitation, threats of violence and murder, incarceration, suicide attempts, suicidal thoughts, and death. What does it take to survive when fear, religion, manipulation, and coercive control have shaped nearly everything you believe? In this episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, I sit down with Nomz Bistline, featured in The False Prophet, for a raw conversation about growing up in the FLDS, becoming entangled in Samuel Bateman’s group, surviving extreme coercive control, spending 21 months in prison, and ultimately beginning to find herself again. Nomz takes us behind what viewers saw in the documentary and explains how years of religious conditioning made threats of punishment and damnation terrifyingly real. She shares how manipulation, fear, intermittent kindness, threats against people she loved, and relentless pressure eventually caused her to become numb and disconnect from her own intuition. We also talk about something far more complicated: how someone can be both accountable for their actions and a victim of profound coercive control. Nomz opens up about incarceration, surviving a suicide attempt, months of suicidal depression, and finally receiving therapy. Surprisingly, prison also gave her something she had rarely experienced before: the freedom to think and feel without being punished for it. During her darkest days, she began writing down ten things she was grateful for. Sometimes the glimmer was simply a bar of soap, clean clothes, a mattress, or a meal. Eventually, she became grateful for something much bigger: awareness. We talk about rebuilding self-trust, grieving family members who remain in the FLDS, learning what healthy love feels like, and why people on the outside often misunderstand survivors who stay, comply with, defend, or return to their abusers. Nomz describes survivors as clay models. Abuse, fear, manipulation, and conditioning can mold someone into what an abuser needs them to become. But underneath those layers is a foundation that was there all along. The real person is still there. And sometimes healing is the process of breaking away that clay, piece by piece, until you finally recognize yourself again. Because Nomz found those tiny glimmers and kept going, she is here. And now we all get to experience her glimmers, too. ❤️ If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts or a mental health crisis in the United States, call or text 988 for immediate support. Support the show

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  • September 19 · 1 hr 25 min

    Narcissistic Also happens Against Men: False Allegations, Custody Battles, and Fatherhood

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! In this raw, honest, and occasionally hilarious conversation, Noelani sits down with Mac and Phil from the Dimming the Gaslight podcast. They share how their friendship began with one unanswered email, a five-hour phone call, and a shared determination to give survivors a place to tell their stories. Mac describes the moment he began recognizing patterns of gaslighting, trauma bonding, love bombing, manipulation, and coercive control within his marriage. He also discusses being separated from his children, navigating restraining orders and Child Protective Services investigations, and fighting to remain an active, loving father. Phil shares why he originally created Surviving the Covert Narcissist and how his unfiltered storytelling helped Mac feel understood during one of the most isolating periods of his life. Their connection eventually became Dimming the Gaslight, a podcast built around the truth that domestic abuse has no gender. Together, Noelani, Mac, and Phil explore: Why male survivors often struggle to find support that reflects their experiences How gaslighting can cause survivors to question their perceptions and identities The emotional impact of being separated from your children False or unsubstantiated allegations in high-conflict custody cases Why documentation and knowledge of local laws can be important How children can become caught between parents after separation The stigma surrounding fathers who openly discuss abuse Why being called a “Disney dad” may overlook the realities of limited parenting time The difference between an occasional fun parent and an intentional, present parent How survivors can resist isolation by finding people who understand their experiences Why healing is not about revenge, but about reclaiming your identity and living fully The importance of loving your children more than you hate your former partner At its heart, this conversation is about survival, friendship, fatherhood, and refusing to let another person’s behavior determine who you become. Healing may begin with one person saying, “I believe you. You are not alone.” Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ https://www.youtube.com/@BeyondMommyDearest https://substack.com/@beyondmommydearest https://www.threads.com/@beyondmommydearest Connect with Dimming the Gaslight https://www.instagram.com/dimming_the_gaslight/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61552019714452 https://dimmingthegaslight.com/ Support the show

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  • S1 · E33
    September 18 · 1 hr 10 min

    Toxic Parents, Religious Trauma & No Contact: Breaking Narcissistic Family Cycles with Therapist Sandra Fraser Maurer

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! What happens when healing allows you to recognize that the relationships you once considered normal were actually harmful? In this candid and wide-ranging conversation, Noelani sits down with licensed professional clinical counselor Sandra Fraser Maurer to explore childhood trauma, narcissistic family systems, parent-child estrangement, religious trauma, perimenopause, intergenerational trauma, and the grief of going no contact with a parent who is still alive. Sandra shares how her earlier work as a birth doula and prenatal yoga teacher led her to become a therapist specializing in women’s health, reproductive and perinatal mental health, trauma, and mental health throughout the lifespan. She and Noelani discuss why pregnancy, parenthood, perimenopause, and other major developmental transitions can cause unresolved trauma to return to the surface. They also examine the connection between authoritarian parenting, high-demand religion, narcissistic family structures, and adult children’s decisions to establish boundaries or end contact. Sandra explains why a healthy relationship with a partner or therapist does not “cause” estrangement. Instead, experiencing safety, emotional regulation, and respectful boundaries can help someone finally recognize how painful or abusive another relationship has been. Together, Sandra and Noelani discuss: Why perimenopause can bring unresolved trauma back to the surface How becoming a parent can change the way someone views their childhood Religious trauma and the lasting effects of authoritarian parenting Why accountability and genuine apologies matter Physical punishment and the normalization of violence against children How trauma is passed from one generation to another Transactional love, entitlement, and power within family relationships The grief of losing a relationship with someone who is still alive Why adult children rarely choose no contact casually Enmeshment, individuation, and resistance to adult children’s independence How safe relationships can reveal previously normalized abuse The similarities between controlling family systems and broader authoritarian systems Racism, misogyny, xenophobia, and the ethical responsibilities of therapists How healing can help individuals and communities choose a different path This conversation is honest, fiery, compassionate, and ultimately hopeful. Healing does not require pretending the harm never happened. It requires telling the truth, developing healthier relationships, interrupting generational patterns, and deciding that trauma will no longer be passed through another person’s body. Books Mentioned My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem - https://link.amazon/B09b3MBgC How to Lose Your Mother: A Daughter’s Memoir by Molly Jong-Fast - https://link.amazon/B02OtjdqE Well Trained Wife by Tia Levings- https://link.amazon/B04xWkpoX Of Woman Born by Adrienne Rich - https://link.amazon/B00UsRWx6 Do the Work! An Antiracist Activity Book by W. Kamau Bell and Kate Schatz - https://link.amazon/B06Uqc8L9 Connect With Sandra Sandra Fraser Maurer, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor https://sandrafrasermaurer.com Sandra Fraser MaurerFacebook · Sandra Fraser Maurer6.6K+ followers Sandra Fraser Maurer (@mn_therapist)Instagram · mn_therapist30.7K+ followers Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest •https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ •https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest •https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ •https://www.youtube.com/@BeyondMommyDearest https://substack.com/@beyondmommydearest https://www.threads.com/@beyondmommydearest Support the show

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  • S1 · E32
    September 11 · 59 min

    It’s Them, Not You: Toxic Parents, Childhood Trauma, No Contact & Breaking the Cycle

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! Content Warning: This episode includes discussion of childhood abuse, domestic violence, addiction, suicide, family trauma, and estrangement. Please take care of yourself while listening. If you are in the U.S. and experiencing a mental health crisis or need immediate emotional support, call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. If you are outside the U.S., please contact your country’s local crisis line or emergency services for immediate support. What happens when you stop numbing the pain and finally have to face what was underneath it? In this powerful and candid conversation, Noelani sits down with Mr. Josh Connolly, author of It’s Them, Not You, to talk about childhood trauma, toxic family systems, addiction and recovery, parenting, emotional neglect, boundaries, masculinity, and what it really means to heal. He opens up about getting sober at 24 and discovering that alcohol wasn’t the problem he thought it was. Once the alcohol was gone, he was left face-to-face with the emotional pain he had spent years trying to escape. Together, they explore why families and society so often protect the person causing harm instead of the person experiencing it, and why speaking the truth can make you the scapegoat in a dysfunctional family system. They also dive into adult children going no contact, the difference between imperfect parenting and abuse, and why a parent’s willingness to listen, take accountability, and repair can completely change a relationship. Josh shares how childhood emotional neglect can show up later as hypervigilance, chronic people-pleasing, difficulty knowing what you actually want, and building your identity around what other people need from you. The conversation also challenges traditional ideas about masculinity. He explains why healing wasn’t about becoming a different kind of man. It was about becoming comfortable enough to finally be himself. They discuss: • Addiction, sobriety, and discovering the pain underneath the coping mechanism • Childhood trauma and emotional neglect • Toxic parents and dysfunctional family systems • Why families protect abusers and scapegoat truth-tellers • Narcissistic mothers and mother-daughter dynamics • Adult children, estrangement, and going no contact • Parenting, accountability, and the power of repair • Hypervigilance and chronic people-pleasing • Developing a healthy sense of self • Boundaries and why toxic systems fight back when you change • Men, vulnerability, emotional expression, and masculinity • Raising children who are allowed to become themselves • Why being yourself creates healthier relationships • Taking responsibility for your healing without taking responsibility for what happened to you He leaves us with an important distinction: you can take responsibility for what you do moving forward without taking responsibility for what was done to you. His Book - https://amzn.to/3ULzMXa Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ https://www.youtube.com/@BeyondMommyDearest https://substack.com/@beyondmommydearest https://www.threads.com/@beyondmommydearest Connect with Josh Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/josh_ffw/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@josh_ffw Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/joshffw YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/JoshConnolly_FFW LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshconnolly/ X/Twitter: https://twitter.com/josh_ffw Website: https://www.joshconnolly.co.uk/ Support the show

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  • S1 · E31
    September 4 · 1 hr 3 min

    Childhood Trauma & the Nervous System: Why Anxiety May Be a Trauma Response | Traumality

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! What if anxiety, hypervigilance, shutdown, and other mental health struggles aren't simply about what is “wrong” with us, but about what happened to us? In this episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, Noelani speaks with filmmaker Ton Mazzone, creator of the documentary Traumality, about the connection between childhood trauma, the nervous system, mental health, relationships, and healing. Ton shares how his own struggles with anxiety and fight-or-flight responses led him on a four-year journey to create Traumality, interviewing 22 experts while exploring his own story along the way. Together, they discuss why trauma doesn't have to be one catastrophic event, how repeated childhood experiences can become stored in our nervous system, and why rupture and repair are so important in parenting. They also explore narcissistic and emotionally immature parents, boundaries, no contact, and what happens when the apology or accountability we need never comes. Ton also shares his powerful concept of “agency over exposure,” why survivors never owe anyone their entire trauma story, and his TRAUMALITY method for sharing difficult experiences without sacrificing emotional safety. Most importantly, this conversation challenges us to stop asking “What's wrong with you?” and start asking “What happened to you?” 🎬 The Traumality trailer plays immediately after the introduction. 🎥 Stay through the end for Ton's viral A Day in the Life of Anxiety, the video that helped begin the journey that eventually led to Traumality. Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ https://www.youtube.com/@BeyondMommyDearest https://substack.com/@beyondmommydearest https://www.threads.com/@beyondmommydearest Traumality https://traumality.com/ https://www.instagram.com/traumality/ https://www.instagram.com/tonmazzone/ - Ton, The filmmaker https://youtu.be/6PgrQgum9R8?si=CB0hW9XiK7kzFHyO - The Film that inspired it all Support the show

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  • S1 · E30
    August 28 · 1 hr 5 min

    Healing After Narcissistic Abuse: EMDR, Complex Trauma and Reclaiming Your Life

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! Why do so many narcissistic abuse survivors remain trapped in self-doubt, shame and hypervigilance, even when they appear highly successful? In this episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, Noelani speaks with Barbara, a New Jersey therapist specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery and complex trauma. Barbara shares how her own experience with therapists who did not understand narcissistic abuse inspired her to pursue specialized training, including Dr. Ramani’s narcissistic abuse certification. Together, they explore why traditional talk therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy may not be enough for survivors whose trauma is stored in the nervous system. They also explain how treatments such as EMDR and clinical hypnosis can help survivors process painful experiences, challenge deeply rooted beliefs and begin rebuilding a sense of safety. This conversation also examines why telling a survivor to “let it go” can feel like another form of gaslighting. Healing does not require forgiving an abuser, receiving an apology or waiting for justice that may never come. It means redirecting your energy toward your own peace, identity and future. In this episode, we discuss: • Why high-functioning survivors still struggle with shame and self-doubt • How narcissistic abuse affects the nervous system • Why traditional talk therapy may not address complex trauma • How EMDR helps the brain process traumatic memories • What clinical hypnosis looks like in a therapeutic setting • Why survivors do not have to forgive their abusers to heal • The difference between guilt, shame and accountability • How cognitive dissonance keeps survivors attached to toxic relationships • Why peace may initially feel boring after living in constant chaos • Reparenting yourself with compassion and gentleness • Reclaiming your identity after narcissistic abuse • How to stop waiting for an apology, approval or justice If you are at the beginning of your healing journey, please remember: You are not broken. You are resilient, you are not alone and you deserve a life built around safety, peace and authenticity. Barbara currently practices in New Jersey. Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy, diagnosis or professional mental health treatment. Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ https://www.youtube.com/@BeyondMommyDearest https://substack.com/@beyondmommydearest https://www.threads.com/@beyondmommydearest Connect with Barbara https://newleafpsychotherapyllc.com https://www.instagram.com/newleafpsychotherapyllc4/ Support the show

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  • August 24 · 1 hr 5 min

    Narcissism Is Everywhere: Childhood Trauma, Toxic Leadership, Power & AI

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! Narcissism Is Everywhere: Childhood Trauma, Toxic Leadership, Power & AI Trigger warning: This episode includes discussion of childhood trauma, narcissistic and emotional abuse, substance use, overdose, politics, and other potentially difficult subjects. What happens when a conversation about narcissistic parents becomes a conversation about narcissism everywhere? In this special live episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, Noelani sits down again with Chris Van Linda (@hype.r.vigilance) for an unscripted conversation about growing up with narcissistic and emotionally unhealthy parents, the long-term effects of childhood trauma, and how those same dynamics can show up in workplaces, leadership, technology, culture, and systems of power. Noelani and Chris explore something many survivors struggle to put into words: why success doesn't always feel like success. When you've spent childhood learning that your accomplishments belong to someone else, that your role is to please, perform, fix, or remain dependent, adulthood can bring a complicated relationship with achievement. Even objectively successful people may struggle to feel pride, ownership, or satisfaction in what they've accomplished. They discuss self-sabotage, enmeshment, learned helplessness, family roles, identity, and the process of asking: “Is this actually what I want, or is this who I learned I needed to be?” The conversation then moves beyond the family system. What happens when narcissistic behaviors are rewarded in workplaces, corporations, politics, technology, and other positions of power? Noelani and Chris discuss narcissism in executive leadership, trauma-informed organizations, AI and technology, surveillance, cultural norms, fear, social change, and the importance of recognizing how interpersonal dynamics can become systemic ones. They also explore the uncertainty many people are feeling right now and why naming fear, anger, sadness, hope, joy, and everything in between matters. This is a wide-ranging, candid conversation about narcissism, trauma, identity, power, technology, culture, and ultimately, reclaiming ownership of your life. In this episode: Growing up with narcissistic and emotionally unhealthy parents Why male survivors need to be part of the conversation Stage-parent dynamics and children being treated as extensions of their parents Why survivors sometimes struggle to feel successful Self-sabotage and learned helplessness Enmeshment and reclaiming your identity Family roles beyond the scapegoat and golden child Narcissism in leadership and workplace culture Trauma-informed executive leadership Why narcissistic behavior can sometimes be rewarded professionally Narcissism, power, politics, and cultural systems AI, technology, surveillance, and the people creating these systems Fear and uncertainty in periods of rapid social change Finding your voice after growing up afraid Choosing what matters to you and taking action Reclaiming your life as your own Connect with Chris: https://www.instagram.com/hype.r.vigilance Chris on Instagram https://tinyurl.com/bddemu7bm - Chris on Cameo https://bit.ly/4ahfgCz Chris’ Lint.ree Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ Beyond Mommy Dearest explores the impact of narcissistic and emotionally immature parenting and what it takes to heal, break generational cycles, rebuild self-trust, and come home to yourself. Support the show

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  • S1 · E29
    August 21 · 1 hr 28 min

    You Left Your Narcissistic Mother. Now What? Healing, No Contact & Breaking the Cycle

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! What does it actually take to break the cycle after growing up with a narcissistic mother? In this episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, I sit down with Leighna, The Cycle Breaking Coach, for an unfiltered conversation about growing up as the black sheep, recognizing abuse, going no contact, and discovering that leaving the relationship is sometimes only the beginning of healing. Leighna shares how becoming a mother changed the way she understood her own childhood and forced her to confront behaviors she could no longer explain away. We talk about the survival patterns daughters of narcissistic mothers can carry into adulthood, including hypervigilance, self-sabotage, enmeshment, shame, black-and-white thinking, and constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop. We also get into an important distinction: survival behaviors are not necessarily character flaws. Sometimes the behaviors we hate about ourselves were once the very things that helped us survive. Leighna and I discuss: Being the black sheep in a narcissistic family system Going no contact with a narcissistic mother Why no contact doesn't immediately make everything better Trauma bonds and why leaving can feel impossible Self-sabotage as a survival mechanism Shame versus guilt after narcissistic abuse Hypervigilance and nervous system dysregulation Enmeshment and learning to stop looking for someone else to save you BPD, attachment, and the stigma surrounding mental health Therapy versus coaching and the role each can play Reconnecting with yourself after years of being conditioned to ignore your own needs Breaking generational cycles as a parent Why healing doesn't have to be a lifelong sentence What emotionally healthy relationships actually look and feel like One of my favorite moments in this conversation comes when Leighna describes a healthy relationship as “a landing place with no requirement to land.” Healthy love allows two people to remain individuals. It makes room for different emotions, interests, needs, and identities without demanding that one person disappear to keep the other comfortable. And perhaps the most important message of this entire conversation: You have the power. They do not. Breaking the cycle isn't about pretending the abuse didn't affect you. It's about recognizing what you learned in order to survive, deciding what no longer serves you, and slowly choosing something different. Books Mentioned I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy — https://amzn.to/4gjazdB Half His age by Jennette McCurdy — https://amzn.to/4xeKL9W I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me — https://amzn.to/4qqzAbw Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ https://www.youtube.com/@BeyondMommyDearest http://www.beyondmommydearest.com Connect with Leighna | The Cycle Breaking Coach https://www.instagram.com/thecyclebreakingcoach/ The Cycle-Breaking Coach (@eighteightyeightcoaching)TikTok · The Cycle-Breaking Coach1.3K+ followers Support the show

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  • S1 · E28
    August 14 · 1 hr 4 min

    Surviving a Narcissistic Mother: Childhood Trauma, Sexual Abuse & Breaking the Cycle

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! Trigger warning: Today’s episode includes conversations about childhood sexual abuse, physical and emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, and family trauma. What happens when the person who was supposed to protect you becomes the source of your trauma? In this deeply personal episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, Noelani sits down with Alex, founder of Fuck the Abuser, to talk about surviving childhood abuse, narcissistic family dynamics, abusive romantic relationships, and finding the strength to build a life beyond what happened to you. Alex shares how she first began publicly speaking about her relationship with her mother, including the childhood sexual abuse she experienced and the moment in fourth grade when she realized that what was happening in her home wasn't normal. She opens up about being sent to live with her aunt, entering the foster care system, protecting her younger brother, eventually choosing no contact with her mother, and reconnecting with family years later. Alex also discusses a later narcissistic relationship and the chaos, dishonesty, control, boundary violations, and loss of self-trust she experienced. She explains how trying to understand that relationship ultimately led her to research narcissistic abuse and create Fuck the Abuser. Noelani and Alex also explore the similarities in their experiences, the cultural and family messages that can shape self-worth, the importance of safe adults, and what happens when survivors finally begin trusting themselves again. Most importantly, Alex's story is about what abuse didn't take from her: her ability to love authentically, build meaningful friendships, connect with others, and choose a different life. In this episode: Childhood sexual abuse and recognizing abuse as a child Narcissistic mothers and family dysfunction Foster care, emancipation, and sibling experiences The importance of having a safe adult Shame, body image, colorism, and cultural messages Narcissistic romantic relationships Gaslighting, coercive control, and manipulation Why narcissists struggle with boundaries Going no contact with a parent Losing and rebuilding self-trust Choosing not to have children after childhood trauma Breaking generational patterns Healing without becoming the person your abuser told you that you were Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ https://www.youtube.com/@BeyondMommyDearest http://www.beyondmommydearest.com Connect with Alex https://www.instagram.com/alex.goes.global/ https://www.instagram.com/ilovebowljobs/ https://www.instagram.com/fucktheabuser/ https://www.schimiggy.com/tag/narcissist/ Support the show

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  • S1 · E27
    August 7 · 1 hr 7 min

    The Hidden Damage of Narcissistic Mothers | How to Heal and Reclaim Yourself

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! The Hidden Damage of Narcissistic Mothers | How to Heal and Reclaim Yourself What happens when the person who was supposed to love and protect you instead competes with you, manipulates you, and leaves you questioning your worth? In this deeply moving conversation, I sit down with Lydia, artist, TEDx speaker, founder of Girls on Country, and coach for daughters of narcissistic mothers. Together we explore the unique wounds left by narcissistic mothers, emotional neglect, enmeshment, hypersexualized parenting, and the long journey of reclaiming your authentic self. Lydia shares her powerful story of growing up in the UK, leaving everything behind, healing through art, and ultimately creating programs that help young women and survivors reconnect with themselves. We also discuss: Growing up with a narcissistic and emotionally neglectful mother When mothers view their daughters as competition Enmeshment, shame, and boundary violations The lasting effects of childhood trauma on adult relationships Why survivors struggle with vulnerability and self-trust Reclaiming your authentic identity after abuse Healing through creativity and art Inner child work and nervous system healing Breaking generational trauma Learning what healthy love actually feels like Why no contact can become the beginning of true freedom If you've ever felt like you were never allowed to be yourself, this episode is a reminder that healing isn't about becoming someone new. It's about uncovering the person you were always meant to be. Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ https://www.youtube.com/@BeyondMommyDearest http://www.beyondmommydearest.com Connect with Lydia https://www.instagram.com/iamlydiacohen/ https://tr.ee/STUj1r84ei https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hwz0I5usCsM&themeRefresh=1 Support the show

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  • S1 · E27
    July 31 · 59 min

    The False Prophet: How Cult Leaders and Narcissists Use the Same Psychological Abuse Tactics

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! What happens when a narcissist gains absolute power? In this powerful episode, I sit down with Dr. Christine Marie, featured in Netflix's Trust Me: The False Prophet, to discuss her undercover work helping expose Samuel Bateman and rescue women and children from coercive control. While this story centers on a cult, the psychological tactics will sound incredibly familiar to anyone raised by a narcissistic parent or trapped in an emotionally abusive relationship. We discuss: • Why cult leaders and narcissists use the same manipulation tactics • The psychology behind coercive control and brainwashing • Why intelligent people can become victims • The role of obedience, fear, shame, and isolation • How confirmation bias and groupthink keep people trapped • Why survivors often blame themselves • What it really takes to "wake up" from psychological abuse • How trust in yourself is rebuilt after manipulation • The importance of community during healing • Why leaving isn't about becoming stronger, it's about finally trusting yourself If you've ever questioned your own reality because of narcissistic abuse, this episode will remind you that manipulation follows psychological principles, and your healing can too. If this episode helped you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear that they are not alone. Trust Me | False Prophet - https://www.netflix.com/title/81758532 Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ https://www.youtube.com/@BeyondMommyDearest http://www.beyondmommydearest.com Connect with Dr Christine https://www.instagram.com/dr.christinemarie/ https://christinemarie.com https://www.youtube.com/@drchristinemarie Support the show

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  • S1 · E26
    July 24 · 1 hr 1 min

    Caring for aging Narcissistic Parents: How to Protect your peace after No Contact Part 2 ⭐

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! Caring for aging Narcissistic Parents: How to Protect your peace after No Contact Part 2 ⭐ When children grow up in abusive, chaotic, or violent homes, siblings often become each other's lifeline. The bond formed through surviving trauma together can create an unspoken promise: I'll protect you, no matter what. In this powerful conversation, we explore how those childhood survival strategies continue into adulthood, especially when aging or abusive parents require care. For some survivors, the decision isn't about the parent at all. It's about protecting a brother or sister from carrying the burden alone. We also discuss the guilt, obligation, family expectations, and deeply rooted beliefs that can make these decisions feel impossible. Whether you've chosen to care for an abusive parent or decided to maintain your boundaries, this episode offers compassion instead of judgment. Healing doesn't erase the love we have for our siblings. It helps us recognize that we no longer have to sacrifice ourselves to survive. In this episode, we discuss: How trauma creates lifelong sibling bonds. The survival roles children take on in abusive families. Caring for aging parents after childhood abuse. Guilt, obligation, and choosing boundaries. Finding healing without abandoning yourself. Conclusion There is no universal right answer when it comes to caring for an abusive parent. Every survivor's circumstances are different. What matters most is making a choice that honors your healing, protects your well-being, and allows you to move forward with compassion for yourself. If this conversation resonated with you, subscribe to Beyond Mommy Dearest, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs to know they are not alone. Reasources mentions Kong, J., Kunze, A., Goldberg, J., & Schroepfer, T. (2021). "Caregiving for Parents Who Harmed You: A Conceptual Review." Clinical Gerontologist, 44(5), 507–519. DOI: 10.1080/07317115.2021.1920531 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/07317115.2021.1920531 https://mainecabinmasters.com https://shop.madeinsantacruz.com/page7.html Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ Connect with Katherine ••https://www.instagram.com/katherinestclaire_writes/?hl=en Support the show

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  • S1 · E25
    July 17 · 1 hr

    The Hidden Cost of Narcissistic Mothers on Sons: Family Court, Parental Alienation & Healing ⭐

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! What happens when the person who should have protected you becomes the source of your deepest wounds? In this episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, John shares his journey of growing up with a narcissistic mother, the lasting impact of childhood emotional abuse, and how those experiences followed him into fatherhood, family court, and parental alienation. Most importantly, he shares how choosing love, boundaries, and healing helped him break the cycle for the next generation. In this episode, we discuss: Growing up with a narcissistic mother as a son Parentification, manipulation, and childhood trauma Family court and the impact of parental alienation Finding healthy love and breaking generational cycles Why it's never too late to choose healing Whether you're healing from a narcissistic parent, navigating family estrangement, or working to become the cycle breaker in your own family, this conversation is a powerful reminder that your past may shape you, but it does not have to define your future. Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ Connect with Jon | American Fathers https://www.instagram.com/american.fathers/ https://www.youtube.com/@AmericanFathers https://www.facebook.com/groups/1707523604029289/ Support the show

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  • S1 · E25
    July 10 · 1 hr 17 min

    Caring for Aging Narcissistic Parents: How to Protect Your Peace After No Contact | Part 1 ⭐

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! What happens when an abusive parent grows old? For many survivors of narcissistic abuse, this is one of the most complicated questions they'll ever face. Society tells us to honor our parents, but very few people talk about what happens when those parents were the source of lifelong trauma. In Part 1 of this conversation, Katherine shares the story that led to one of the hardest decisions of her life. She opens up about growing up with a malignant narcissistic father and a covert narcissistic mother, becoming a cycle breaker for her own children, and the unexpected phone call that changed everything. After years of estrangement, Katherine and her siblings suddenly found themselves responsible for navigating the legal system, healthcare, finances, and elder care after her father attempted to kill her mother. What followed challenged everything she thought she knew about boundaries, responsibility, and protecting her own peace. This episode begins an honest conversation about something few people are talking about: caring for aging abusive parents. In this episode, we discuss: Growing up with narcissistic and abusive parents Becoming a cycle breaker for the next generation Why childhood trauma can remain hidden for decades The role of healthy relationships in healing Going no contact with abusive parents The phone call that changed everything Being thrust into managing aging parents' legal, medical, and financial affairs Survivor guilt, family expectations, and protecting your peace Why there isn't just one "right" way to navigate caring for abusive parents If you've ever wondered what happens after going no contact, or you've worried about what you'll do when an abusive parent can no longer care for themselves, this conversation is for you. Be sure to subscribe because in Part 2, Katherine shares practical options survivors have, why you don't have to choose between abandoning your parent and sacrificing yourself, and the resources she's creating to help others facing these impossible decisions. Reasources mentions Kong, J., Kunze, A., Goldberg, J., & Schroepfer, T. (2021). "Caregiving for Parents Who Harmed You: A Conceptual Review." Clinical Gerontologist, 44(5), 507–519. DOI: 10.1080/07317115.2021.1920531 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/07317115.2021.1920531 https://mainecabinmasters.com https://shop.madeinsantacruz.com/page7.html Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ Connect with Katherine ••https://www.instagram.com/katherinestclaire_writes/?hl=en Support the show

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  • S1 · E24
    July 3 · 1 hr 6 min

    Burning It All Down: Escaping a Narcissistic Mother, Healing CPTSD, and Finding Safety

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! Burning It All Down: Escaping a Narcissistic Mother, Healing CPTSD, and Finding Safety What happens when the person who was supposed to protect you is the person who taught you that love, safety, and survival all come with conditions? In this powerful episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, Noelani Pearl Hernandez sits down with actor, filmmaker, writer, and survivor advocate JinJara Mitchell to explore the lifelong impact of growing up with a narcissistic and emotionally unsafe mother, the reality of complex trauma, and what it means to rebuild a life after losing everything you thought defined you. JinJara shares her deeply personal journey of surviving childhood emotional abuse, neglect, family dysfunction, and the pressure to maintain the illusion of the "perfect family." Together, we unpack how children adapt to survive, how trauma shapes identity, and how healing often begins when we stop asking, "What was wrong with me?" and start asking, "What happened to me?" JinJara also discusses how her own experiences inspired her award-winning short film The Ornament and the work she now does helping others transform pain into purpose through storytelling and community. In This Episode We Discuss: Growing up with a narcissistic and emotionally unsafe mother The hidden reality behind the "perfect family" image Childhood trauma, CPTSD, and survival adaptations Trauma bonding and identifying with the abuser Loss of identity, family, stability, and belonging Leaving home and rebuilding life from the ground up The long-term effects of emotional abuse and neglect Therapy, healing, and nervous system recovery Family estrangement and complicated grief Learning what healthy love and safety actually feel like Breaking generational cycles of trauma The role of storytelling, art, and advocacy in healing Creating The Ornament and turning trauma into purpose Building community after surviving family abuse About JinJara Mitchell JinJara Mitchell is an actor, filmmaker, writer, and advocate whose work centers on healing, storytelling, and human resilience. Born in Palm Springs and raised between the United States and Canada, JinJara experienced profound childhood loss and family trauma that ultimately shaped both her personal healing journey and creative work. She has appeared in productions including Arrow, Zoey's Extraordinary Playlist, Life Sentence, and My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic. In 2023, she wrote and directed the award-winning short film The Ornament, a deeply personal exploration of children who are forced to protect the very people who harm them. JinJara is also the co-founder of The New Players, a creative community dedicated to connection, healing, and authentic storytelling. If This Episode Resonated With You If you grew up learning to become exactly who someone else needed you to be in order to survive, you're not alone. Children adapt. They perform. They protect. They wear masks. Healing begins when we realize that the version of ourselves that survived is not the only version of ourselves that gets to exist. Thank you for listening to Beyond Mommy Dearest. If this conversation touched you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs to know they are not alone. Connect with JinJara The New Players The Ornament JinJara Instagram Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ Support the show

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  • S1 · E22
    June 26 · 50 min

    Healing After Narcissistic Abuse: Rebuild Self-Trust, Heal Your Nervous System & Reclaim Yourself | Coach Denalee

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! Healing After Narcissistic Abuse: Rebuild Self-Trust, Heal Your Nervous System & Reclaim Yourself | Coach Denalee Healing from narcissistic abuse is about more than surviving—it's about rebuilding trust in yourself, calming your nervous system, and reclaiming the life that was always yours. In this episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, Coach Denalee shares practical insights on healing holistically, setting healthy boundaries, rediscovering your identity, and finding safety after emotional abuse. What You'll Learn How to rebuild self-trust after gaslighting Why nervous system healing matters The role of boundaries in recovery Why healing isn't linear The difference between healthy conflict and emotional abuse How to reconnect with your authentic self Why safe, healthy relationships support healing If you enjoyed this episode, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who may need this conversation. Healing is possible. You are not alone, and your story doesn't end with survival—it begins with reclaiming yourself. Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ Connect with Coach Denalee https://www.youtube.com/@EatMoreChocolateProductions https://www.holisticnarcrecovery.com https://www.instagram.com/holistic.trauma.coach/ https://www.skool.com/holistic-recovery-from-abuse-5475/about?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio Support the show

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  • S1 · E22
    June 19 · 1 hr 6 min

    High-Conflict Divorce, Narcissism & Family Court: Fighting for Your Children

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! High-Conflict Divorce, Narcissism & Family Court: Fighting for Your Children Disclaimer This episode reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives shared during the conversation. It is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as legal advice, psychological diagnosis, medical advice, or professional guidance. Every family court case and family situation is unique. Listeners should consult qualified legal, mental health, medical, or other appropriate professionals regarding their individual circumstances and needs. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host or podcast What happens when a parent finds themselves trapped in a high-conflict custody battle and fighting to maintain a relationship with their children? In this episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, educator, father, and family court advocate Nick Garcia shares his experience navigating family court, false allegations, high-conflict personalities, parental alienation, self-representation, and the emotional toll prolonged litigation can take on parents and children. Drawing from years of firsthand experience, this conversation explores the realities of navigating a system that many families never expect to enter and the challenges that arise when conflict becomes the focus instead of the well-being of the children involved. Topics discussed include: • High-conflict divorce and custody disputes • Narcissistic traits and other Cluster B personality patterns that can appear in family conflict • The impact of false allegations on parents and children • Why documentation and the permanent record matter • Self-representation (pro per) and what parents should know before navigating court alone • How family court language, procedures, and systems can overwhelm families • The emotional and financial costs of prolonged litigation • The importance of remaining child-focused during conflict • How children experience loyalty conflicts between parents • Why one emotionally safe parent can make a significant difference in a child's life • The role of supportive relationships during times of crisis • Turning pain into purpose and advocacy • Learning to become a lighthouse instead of a lifeboat for your children At its core, this episode explores the impact that high-conflict relationships and prolonged family court disputes can have on both parents and children. It examines the challenges families face when communication breaks down, conflict escalates, and the legal system becomes part of the family dynamic. A central theme throughout the conversation is the importance of being a safe, emotionally available parent. Children do not need perfection. They need consistency, stability, and at least one adult who can provide love, support, and a sense of security during difficult times. The discussion also explores resilience, healing, and the ways adversity can inspire advocacy and growth. Through personal experiences and lessons learned, this episode aims to help families feel less alone while encouraging conversations about protecting children, navigating conflict, and maintaining hope during difficult seasons of life. Whether you're navigating divorce, recovering from family trauma, supporting someone through a custody dispute, or seeking to better understand high-conflict family dynamics, this conversation offers insight, perspective, and encouragement. Key Takeaway "Love your children more than you hate your ex." Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ Connect with Nick https://www.instagram.com/nativeandprose/ Support the show

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  • S1 · E21
    June 12 · 59 min

    How Narcissistic Abuse Rewires Your Nervous System: Self-Trust, Boundaries & Healing

    Reach out! You don't have to explain how crazy she was. We believe you!!! In this powerful episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, Noelani sits down with narcissistic abuse recovery coach Sami for an honest conversation about healing, self-trust, nervous system regulation, and breaking free from toxic relationship patterns. Sami shares her personal journey through multiple narcissistic relationships and explains how those experiences led her to become an advocate and coach for survivors. Together, Noelani and Sami explore the connection between childhood wounds, people-pleasing, emotional neglect, and the unconscious patterns that can keep survivors stuck in cycles of narcissistic abuse. The conversation dives deep into the physical signs of narcissistic abuse, including anxiety, insomnia, chronic headaches, hypervigilance, digestive issues, and the feeling that "something is off" even when everything appears fine on the surface. Noelani and Sami discuss: • Why survivors often struggle to trust themselves • How childhood experiences shape adult relationships • The difference between healthy boundaries and controlling behavior • Why people-pleasing develops as a survival strategy • How narcissists teach survivors to gaslight themselves • What self-trust actually feels like in the body • Common nervous system responses to emotional abuse • Why healthy relationships can initially feel "boring" • The importance of reconnecting with emotions and body awareness • The role of coaching versus therapy in recovery • How to recognize red flags before getting trapped in another toxic relationship • Why healing is not linear • Learning to choose yourself without guilt • The connection between abandonment wounds and toxic relationships • Why survivors deserve love exactly as they are right now One of the most powerful moments of the episode comes when Sami reminds listeners that they do not need to earn love through healing, perfection, or performance. They are worthy of love simply because they exist. If you've ever questioned your instincts, struggled with boundaries, or wondered why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people, this episode offers practical insights and hope for recovery. Connect with Sami Linktree iconFree resources & morelinktr.ee/samanthabachotacoaching https://www.facebook.com/samibachota?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio https://www.instagram.com/informed_healing/ Connect with Noelani | Beyond Mommy Dearest https://www.facebook.com/BeyondMommyDearest/ https://www.tiktok.com/@beyond.mommy.dearest https://www.instagram.com/beyondmommydearest/ Resources Mentioned • Feelings Wheel - https://canva.link/9volf8vn68ucp1g Support the show

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