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Are We Into This? with Cosmopolitan

Millie Court and Clare Stephenson

You’ve got questions, and we’ve got answers (kinda). Join us every week, as we pose one big, chaotic, culturally-relevant question — from the trivial to the existential — and unpack it with the help of Cosmo cover stars, relationship experts, and you! Is it fair to red flag someone for their height? What’s the worst dating profile crime? Can you ever be friends with an ex? We’re about to find out...

Hosts: Millie Court and Clare Stephenson

Co-host: Amy May Ellis

Executive Producer and Cosmopolitan Editor-in-Chief: Claire Hodgson

Executive Producer: Will Foster

Senior Producer and Cosmopolitan Sex & Relationships Editor: Brit Dawson

Producer: Ruth Holroyd

Art Director: Alex Hambis

Video Editors: Megan Stapleton, Yoana Pavlova, and Will Hewitt

Social Producers: Kiera Egan and Izzy Trood

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Yesterday · 40 min
Zara McDermott asks: Are you expecting too much from your friends?
This week’s question comes from our October digital cover star, Zara McDermott! The presenter and former Love Islander is asking about something she admits she’s been struggling with herself: as we all get older and our lives get busier, what expectations should we have of our friends? Can you realistically expect an immediate text back? Is it fair to be annoyed if they can’t make every single birthday? Or, at a time when we’re all a little too comfortable cancelling plans in the name of ‘self-care’, should we actually be expecting more of — and giving more to — our friends? Millie and Clare get into it all. Read Zara’s cover story on Cosmo here, and let us know about your friendship dynamics and dilemmas in comments, reviews, or on our socials @CosmopolitanUK. Hosts: Millie Court and Clare Stephenson Co-host: Amy May Ellis Executive Producer and Cosmopolitan Editor-in-Chief: Claire Hodgson Executive Producer: Will Foster Senior Producer and Cosmopolitan Sex & Relationships Editor: Brit Dawson Producer: Ruth Holroyd Video Editor: Megan Stapleton
October 8 · 38 min
How much PDA is too much PDA?
Are you all for snogging your date’s face off in public, or does so much as a peck make you cringe with embarrassment? Public displays of affection have always been controversial, but now we live under the constant threat of being filmed and plastered across the world’s FYPs, PDA has become even more of a hot button topic — and, for some, something to be avoided at all costs. And yet, whether you think we should kiss with abandon or keep it behind closed doors, a little PDA never hurt anyone. But, as Millie and Clare are asking this week, how much is too much? Let us know what you think in comments, reviews, and over on socials @CosmopolitanUK! Hosts: Millie Court and Clare Stephenson Co-host: Amy May Ellis Executive Producer and Cosmopolitan Editor-in-Chief: Claire Hodgson Executive Producer: Will Foster Senior Producer and Cosmopolitan Sex & Relationships Editor: Brit Dawson Producer: Ruth Holroyd Video Editor: Yoana Pavlova
October 1 · 30 min
Is watching porn cheating?
What would you consider to be cheating today? The physical betrayals, sure, but what about liking other people’s thirst traps? Subscribing to an OnlyFans creator? Sexting with an AI chatbot? At a time when we can connect with more people in more ways than ever, it’s arguably never been easier to keep secrets, cheat, or even just have a little flirtation. So, if you’re finding it hard to trust in relationships and feeling confused about what even counts as cheating anymore, you’re not alone. This week, Millie and Clare are digging into the modern definition of infidelity, including a hotly discussed topic on social media: Is it cheating to watch porn? What do you think? Let us know in comments, reviews, and over on socials @CosmopolitanUK! Hosts: Millie Court and Clare Stephenson Co-host: Amy May Ellis Executive Producer and Cosmopolitan Editor-in-Chief: Claire Hodgson Executive Producer: Will Foster Senior Producer and Cosmopolitan Sex & Relationships Editor: Brit Dawson Producer: Ruth Holroyd Video Editor: Megan Stapleton Assistant Producer and Cosmopolitan Features Editor: Jennifer Savin
September 24 · 44 min
GK Barry asks: How do you have the ‘what are we’ chat?
The very hilarious GK Barry is our question-asker this week — and she’s asking Millie and Clare about a conversation we all dread: the ‘what are we’ chat. Yep, we’re discussing how you go about defining a relationship, and when is the ‘right’ time to do it. No one wants to get stuck in a perpetual situationship, but how soon is too soon for the talk? How can you broach it? And how can you handle it if you don’t get the answer you want? Millie and Clare get into it all — and stick around to the end to hear GK’s thoughts. Then let us know what you think in the comments and on socials @CosmopolitanUK! GK Barry’s brilliant new book, It’s Giving Life: A Guide to Surviving and Thriving, is out now! Hosts: Millie Court and Clare Stephenson Co-host: Amy May Ellis Executive Producer and Cosmopolitan Editor-in-Chief: Claire Hodgson Executive Producer: Will Foster Senior Producer and Cosmopolitan Sex & Relationships Editor: Brit Dawson Producer: Ruth Holroyd Video Editor: Megan Stapleton
September 17 · 31 min
How much sex is ‘normal’ in a relationship?
Whether we’re adapting to a post-honeymoon stage dip in our sex lives or going through a bit of a dry spell, most of us, at one point or another, have likely been hyperaware of how much sex we’re having with our partners — and even fretted over whether it’s ‘enough’. But how much sex is ‘normal’ in relationships? Is there even such a thing as a ‘normal’ amount of sex? (Spoiler: no!) Millie and Clare are getting into these questions and more, discussing why we should be focusing less on how often we’re having sex, and more on the kind of sex we’re having — and the intimacy we enjoy outside of the bedroom. Let us know what you think in comments, reviews, and over on socials @CosmopolitanUK! Hosts: Millie Court and Clare Stephenson Co-host: Amy May Ellis Executive Producer and Cosmopolitan Editor-in-Chief: Claire Hodgson Executive Producer: Will Foster Senior Producer and Cosmopolitan Sex & Relationships Editor: Brit Dawson Producer: Ruth Holroyd Video Editor: Megan Stapleton
September 10 · 40 min
Is it ever okay to check your partner’s phone?
Be honest… have you ever sneakily gone through your partner’s phone? What did you find? How did you feel after? Did you regret it, or were you vindicated? Whatever the reason for it, loads of us have been guilty of having a cheeky little look at our partner’s phone. But, as one reader is asking Millie and Clare this week, is this kind of snooping ever really justified? It’s a juicy topic — and Millie, Clare, and Amy have v different opinions on it. Let us know what you think in comments, reviews, and over on socials @CosmopolitanUK. Safe space, we promise! Hosts: Millie Court and Clare Stephenson Co-host: Amy May Ellis Executive Producer and Cosmopolitan Editor-in-Chief: Claire Hodgson Executive Producer: Will Foster Senior Producer and Cosmopolitan Sex & Relationships Editor: Brit Dawson Producer: Ruth Holroyd Video Editor: Yoana Pavlova
September 3 · 41 min
The Girls Bathroom ask: Can you ever trust a cheater?
Sophia and Cinzia from The Girls Bathroom podcast are this week’s question-askers! And they want to know: can you ever really trust someone who’s cheated before? Or is it true that once a cheater, always a cheater? Millie and Clare unpack it all and from every angle — from dating someone who’s cheated in past relationships to being the person they cheat with to recovering from infidelity in your own relationship. Stay tuned to the end to hear what Sophia and Cinzia think… And let us know what you think in comments, reviews, and over on socials @CosmopolitanUK! Hosts: Millie Court and Clare Stephenson Co-host: Amy May Ellis Executive Producer and Cosmopolitan Editor-in-Chief: Claire Hodgson Executive Producer: Will Foster Senior Producer and Cosmopolitan Sex & Relationships Editor: Brit Dawson Producer: Ruth Holroyd Video Editor: Will Hewitt
August 27 · 34 min
Are you parenting your partner?
Do all the house chores fall to you? Are you the one who books flights, buys birthday cards, or remembers to renew the car insurance? In short: do you feel like you’re parenting your partner? Well, you’re not alone — this week, one reader is asking Millie and Clare what to do when you’re sick and tired of raising your significant other. If this sounds familiar, we want to hear from you! Are you stuck in this dynamic, feeling resentment? Have you managed to shake it — and, if so, how? Or maybe you like parenting your partner... or do they parent you? Let us know in comments, reviews, and over on socials @CosmopolitanUK. Hosts: Millie Court and Clare Stephenson Co-host: Amy May Ellis Executive Producer and Cosmopolitan Editor-in-Chief: Claire Hodgson Executive Producer: Will Foster Senior Producer and Cosmopolitan Sex & Relationships Editor: Brit Dawson Producer: Ruth Holroyd Video Editor: Yoana Pavlova
August 20 · 40 min
Love Island’s Jasmine: Does ‘treat them mean, keep them keen’ actually work?
Love Island season 13 runner-up Jasmine G Müller is our question-asker of the week! In the villa this summer, Jasmine became a fan fave for speaking her mind and putting the boys in their place. When strong women assert themselves like this, they can often be dubbed ‘intimidating’, ‘mean’, or ‘off-putting’ (@ Aidan) – but, as the age-old trope goes, ‘treat them mean, keep them keen’, right? So, this week Jasmine is asking: Is that good or bad dating advice? And listen up for a guest appearance from a certain Kavan, too (too cute). Then head over to Instagram @CosmopolitanUK to see Jasmine take the Cosmo Quiz! And let us know what you think in comments and reviews. Hosts: Millie Court and Clare Stephenson Co-host: Amy May Ellis Executive Producer and Cosmopolitan Editor-in-Chief: Claire Hodgson Executive Producer: Will Foster Senior Producer and Cosmopolitan Sex & Relationships Editor: Brit Dawson Producer: Ruth Holroyd Video Editor: Helen Edgeworth
August 13 · 35 min
Your friends hate your partner. Should you listen?
Your friend is criticising your partner or just flat out dislikes them… should you listen? Should they listen if you don’t like theirs? Millie and Clare get into all this and more, with a little surprise appearance from one of Millie’s closest friends, KISS Breakfast host Chloe Burrows. Let us know what you think in comments, reviews, and over on socials @CosmopolitanUK: is honesty always the best policy? We want your take! Hosts: Millie Court and Clare Stephenson Co-host: Amy May Ellis Executive Producer and Cosmopolitan Editor-in-Chief: Claire Hodgson Executive Producer: Will Foster Senior Producer and Cosmopolitan Sex & Relationships Editor: Brit Dawson Producer: Ruth Holroyd Video Editor: Will Hewitt
August 6 · 33 min
Olivia Attwood asks: is ‘don’t settle’ just a toxic ideal?
Olivia Attwood is our August digital cover star — and this week’s question-asker! Off the back of a big break-up, the presenter, podcast host, and Love Island alum is asking Millie and Clare whether ‘don’t settle’ is realistic or toxic relationship advice, and if the ‘perfect’ partner can ever even exist. Read Olivia’s cover story on Cosmo here, and let us know what you think about the idea of settling in comments, reviews, or on our socials @CosmopolitanUK. And don’t forget to tell us what you want Millie and Clare to discuss next! P.S. The girls chat about Relationship OCD in this episode — for more info, read our feature about it in our Aug/Sept print magazine, or online here. Hosts: Millie Court and Clare Stephenson Co-host: Amy May Ellis Executive Producer and Cosmopolitan Editor-in-Chief: Claire Hodgson Executive Producer: Will Foster Senior Producer and Cosmopolitan Sex & Relationships Editor: Brit Dawson Producer: Ruth Holroyd Video Editor: Megan Stapleton Assistant Producer and Cosmopolitan Features Editor: Jennifer Savin
July 30 · 36 min
Are you dating a narcissist?
At some point throughout your dating history, you’ve probably labelled an ex a ‘narcissist’, right...? Maybe they loved the sound of their voice a bit too much or had a habit of putting people down to big themselves up? Yep. Well, you’re not alone. These days, the term is everywhere on our socials, to the point it kinda feels like all of us are becoming narcissists. And, in some ways, we probably are: our current dating culture basically encourages self-obsession and selfishness — whether it’s how we curate and obsess over our dating app profiles, our tendency to ghost each other, or our sometimes misguided prioritisation of ‘self-care’ above all else. But what does it actually mean to be a narcissist? What’s it really like to date one? And what impact is our culture of egotism having on our ability to connect with each other? Millie and Clare dive into all this and more on this week’s episode, as we hear from a reader who thinks she might be dating a narcissist right now, and one who already has… Have you ever dated one? Or are you a little self-obsessed in dating (no shade here!)? Let us know in comments, reviews, or over on our socials @CosmopolitanUK. And hit us up to tell us what you want Millie and Clare to chat about next. If you’re worried you’re experiencing narcissistic abuse, you can find more information via Cosmopolitan here, and can contact The National Domestic Abuse helpline, run by Refuge, for free 24 hours a day on 0808 2000 247.
July 23 · 24 min
Lili Reinhart asks: can friends survive unrequited love?
ICYMI, the one and only Lili Reinhart is the cover star of the August/September issue of our print magazine, and our question-asker for this week’s episode! The actor — and star of upcoming movie The Love Hypothesis, adapted from Ali Hazelwood’s bestselling novel — wants to know: can a friendship survive if one person develops unrequited feelings for the other? We all love a friends to lovers story — from classics like When Harry Met Sally to new faves like Bridgerton, falling in love with a friend has long been sold to us as the ultimate romantic fantasy. And, let’s be real, against our digital dating backdrop, falling for a mate has never sounded more appealing. But what happens if the friend you’re crushing on doesn’t feel the same way? Cue toe-curling awkwardness and, in some cases, the end of a cherished friendship. This week, Millie and Clare delve into this dilemma, asking: can you stay friends with someone if you secretly want more? And what’s worse: keeping the secret or confessing how you really feel? Let us know what you think in the comments here and on our socials @CosmopolitanUK. Have you ever been in this situation? Do you agree with Millie and Clare? And let us know what you want Millie and Clare to tackle next!
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July 16 · 34 min
Why aren’t men making effort in dating RN?
We all know that dating is in the pits RN — we’re burned out from the apps, frustrated by convos that go nowhere, and tired of bad first dates. Too often, it feels like we’re giving a lot and getting, well, not much back. Lately, this feels especially true for those of us who date men. You’ve only got to look at this season of Love Island to see the serious lack of effort the boys are putting into — in villa terms — grafting the girls, and we’re seeing this IRL too. From lazy dates and slow replies to a serious dearth of question-asking, we’re enduring an epidemic of low-effort men. Ringing true for you? This week, Millie and Clare are asking why men seem to be making such little effort in dating right now. Is it really gendered, or just a general modern dating thing? And, either way, what the hell can we do about it? Comment on the episode or on our socials @CosmopolitanUK with your opinions. Plus, got another topic you’d like Millie and Clare to dive into? Let us know… we’re providing a public service here, people!
July 16 · 2 min
Introducing: Are We Into This? with Cosmopolitan
Welcome to our brand new sex and relationships podcast, Are We Into This? with Cosmopolitan, hosted by Love Island legend Millie Court and Cosmo’s very own Clare Stephenson. It’s your weekly dose of girl talk on the weird, wonderful, and, frankly, sometimes bleak things happening in the world of romance today. Every Thursday, we’ll be posing one big, chaotic, culturally-relevant question — from the trivial to the existential — and unpacking it with the help of our cover stars, celebrity friends of the pod, the Cosmo team, relationship experts, and you! That’s right, we want to hear about your dating highs and lows and find out what burning questions you want us to tackle each week. So, keep an eye on our socials @CosmopolitanUK for polls, questions, and chances to join in with the action.

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