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A Man Isn't A Plan

Hannah Haller & Janne Robinson

A man can be a part of your plan, just don’t make him all of it. Velveteen rabbit style real and raw conversations about being a woman on dharma and on purpose.

Hannah Haller lives on her four-acre off-grid homestead in Hawai'i she bought in cash and built from raw land. Between teaching live-streaming yoga classes, leading retreats, writing a bestselling Substack, and actively building a regenerative farm, she shares with her pup, Pete. Over the past 15 years, Hannah has turned an unconventional life into a multi six-figure business and cult-like following – without ever chasing one.


Janne Robinson wrote her viral poem This Is for the Women Who Don’t Give a Fuck in 2014 a piece that reached millions and became an anthem for women putting themselves on the menu. She is the author of two poetry books This Is for the Women Who Don’t Give a Fuck and There’s Cobwebs on Her Vagina and, as a coach, has helped thousands of people create a life of authentic belonging. Janne has led over 200 purpose sessions and has helped more than 120 women start companies from their gifts. Her work is rooted in one core belief — belonging from anything other than who you are isn’t worth it.


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Hannah Haller
Janne Robinson

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  • #6
    September 18 · 38 min

    6. Is He “Shopping” While Sitting Beside the Woman He Chose?

    We dive into the nuances of attraction, attention, and commitment, looking at how the things we notice, engage with, and normalize can shape the experience of being in a relationship. Through personal stories and honest conversation, we explore trust, boundaries, conditioning, and what it means to consciously choose the kind of relationship we want to create. Attraction and the role of attention in relationships The impact of repeated glances and where we draw the line How trust and emotional safety shape our reactions Attachment wounds and patterns carried into relationships Boundaries around social media, porn, and sexualized content Cultural conditioning and the normalization of objectification Communicating needs without turning them into control Creating a relationship where both people feel chosen and prioritized Reclaiming personal autonomy and building a life beyond partnership Choosing consciously rather than operating from conditioning or old patterns Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

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  • #5
    August 28 · 44 min

    5. Sex, Intimacy & The Slow Burn: Why Sex Isn’t Love

    We unpack the difference between sex and emotional intimacy, and how moving quickly into physical connection can sometimes create the illusion of love, security, or emotional closeness. We share our own experiences with dating, intimacy, and learning to slow down, set boundaries, and become more intentional about who we allow into our lives and bodies. We explore what it means to build connection through friendship, discernment, and a “slow burn” instead of rushing toward physical intimacy. * Why we once believed sex could lead to love, emotional connection, or relationship security * Dating apps and the “fast food culture” of modern dating and instant gratification * The value of slow-burn dating and taking time to genuinely know someone * Setting boundaries early and how they can reveal whether someone is truly aligned with you * The idea of energetic exchange and the lasting imprint physical intimacy can leave * Becoming more selective about who we share our bodies and energy with * What past relationships can teach us, even when they ended painfully * Sharing stories between women as a way to offer support, awareness, and protection—and knowing when it becomes unproductive gossip * Taking responsibility for our lives without using accountability to dismiss or minimize trauma * Breaking cycles of pain and abuse instead of allowing them to continue through generations * Asking what we truly want from intimacy, relationships, and the people we choose to let close Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

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  • S1 · E4
    August 21 · 46 min

    4. The Cost of Being Public

    We name the hidden cost of living out loud online and how being public can reshape your nervous system, relationships, and sense of safety. We share the stories that taught us where privacy begins, what authenticity really means, and how to keep a balance between what we share with the world and what we keep to ourselves. How early social sharing felt safe and what changed when it grew Polarized topics and why projection turns comments into conflict Our experiences with death threats, stalkers and the real-world risk of visibility The push and pull between privacy and feeling authentic Treating social media like email with clear log-in boundaries The pendulum swing from secrecy to oversharing online Janne’s experience with backlash on Today Show after sharing a post about Botox and the negative effects of the Beauty Industry and wanting women to belong to themselves as they are Asking where our choices come from and what we model for girls watching Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

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  • #3
    August 7 · 1 hr 4 min

    3. If You Wanted Me To Speak Warmly About You, You Should Have Treated Me Better

    In this episode, we talk about how easy it is to internalize someone else’s behavior in dating and walk away believing we weren’t enough. We also lay down a clear line: relationships should feel emotionally safe, aligned with our values, and supportive of the life we’re building. In this episode, we discuss about: Internalizing a partner’s actions as a verdict on our worth How criticism and “too much accountability” erode confidence The difference between helpful feedback and superficial nitpicking Beauty industry conditioning and porn-driven expectations shaping attraction Objectification, entitlement, and why a woman’s body is not public property Racism, sexism, and hardline values that determine when we walk away Emotional labor, disconnection from self, and why divorce can be healthy Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

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  • #2
    July 24 · 1 hr 5 min

    2. Shame Can’t Live in the Light – Abortion & Miscarriage

    We share our experiences inside of abortion, pregnancy loss, and how sharing the “bottom of the ocean” moments can reduce shame and help other women feel less alone. We also talk about boundaries, performative vulnerability, and what feminism and patriarchy is and isn’t. *Trigger Warning: mentions about abortion and pregnancy loss In this episode, we discuss about: Janne getting pregnant during a major life restart and her choice to have an abortion. Writing and sharing the article on her emotional process that led to her choice to have an abortion and the backlash (being called a murderer by her first boyfriend and man she slept with who was Christian) as well as the 400+ comments and messages from women confiding in her for the first time about their abortions. Hannah’s pregnancy loss and the shock of a life path changing overnight. Our capacity to feel joy as a deeper emotional spectrum after experiencing deep loss. Why it can feel safer to be vulnerable with strangers than close friends. Telling your truth without exposing someone else’s truth. Discussing what patriarchy means and doesn’t mean. Being against a system built by men, not anti-men and the importance of feminism past and present tense for women to have equality and choice. Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

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  • #1
    July 10 · 1 hr 7 min

    1. This Is What Changing To Keep Love Looks Like

    In the first episode, we tell the real origin story behind starting A Man Isn’t A Plan and why the fastest way back to self-trust is saying the truth out loud. We unpack shame, dating fatigue, and what “boy sober” actually means when you still want love but refuse to lose yourself to get it. The moment a relationship pulls you away from your identity and values The difference between attachment wounds and a dynamic that creates insecurity Why telling another woman the full truth dissolves shame Making room for nontraditional lives as independent women without shaming traditional choices Redefining happiness so partnership is not your whole plate What boy sober means and what it doesn’t mean for us The importance of kindness, play, and being not just supported but celebrated by men as new relationship standards Where Janne and Hannah are at right now with dating, celibacy, dating apps. What “Clean heart sheets” means and taking the time you actually need after a relationship ends to tend your heart. Visit the website: https://www.amanisntaplan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanisntaplan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Amanisntaplan/61587882744032/ Music by Kontraa Music from Pixabay

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