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Wednesday · 1 min
Beyond the Visible Markers
Can you allow time to pass without measurable progress? Can you see that the markers you have established are incomplete? Can you have more faith that you are building something and having to do it without the instructions? Can you give yourself grace in the process? One of my challenges with finding peace is that I am constantly measuring myself against something, against what I was, against what I aspire to be, or, most destructively, against those around me. There’s always a marker. There’s always a measurement. But what if there really isn’t? Let me use this Substack as an example. Substack gives me lots of data and by much of that data, I’m not really making progress. It’s not as if there are thousands of subscribers or even hundreds, or millions of views. It would be easy for me to say, there’s no progress here. And some days it feels that way. But there’s a different way to look at it. I can see that each day, each post, may land with someone in a way that matters. And when that happens, there is progress. As you read this I wonder: * What are the markers or milestones you have set for yourself? * How confident are you that the ones that spring to mind are the ones that best serve you? * What would happen if you looked at whether you mattered today rather than how it compared to someone else or some plan you have? Admittedly, there are days where the lack of achievement gets me down. Where I feel like I’m not doing enough to get to where I want or need to be. But progress is a movie, not a picture and the path that we think leads to the goal may not. I hope that you find a way today to see the movement you are making rather than focus on the places you may be stuck. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
Monday · 1 min
The Shape of Progress
What does progress look like to you today? Can it be taking a small step versus a large one? Can it be holding your ground against the current? Can it be becoming more certain that you will act even if today is not the day? Remember that progress looks different every day and every day you have a chance to see it if you only take the opportunity. Some days I feel like I accomplished nothing or that the plans I had when the day began are largely unrealized. But I wonder whether I know how to measure progress. I don’t think it’s the same as “did I check off the things on my to do list?”. Rather I think it relates to my journey along my path. Some days, all that may mean is that I stayed on the path when there were reasons to get off. Some days, the path may be gentle and downhill and I merely have to walk gently. Some days, there’s a boulder in the way and I have to climb over. And some days, I decide it’s time to take a turn. All of those can be progress. In other words, progress isn’t measured against a constant yardstick but it’s more what we choose to see. As you read this I wonder: * How would you define progress today? Do you even need to do so? * When you feel like you didn’t progress, why is that? * Can you see it differently and find a way to see change as progress or even the lack of change in the face of challenge? It’s too easy for me to make task completion the only measure of progress. If I look at the course of my life, the moments that matter the most to me are rarely the ones when I complete a task. Indeed, they often are ones that I don’t even think will matter in the moment. As we start the week, can we have a broader definition of progress and give ourselves a little more grace? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
September 18 · 2 min
Mourning together
Can it be ok to mourn the loss that is not yet here? Can you use the time not to plan the after but to sit with the now? Can you know that you are not alone and that what you mourn is also a loss to others even if they don't give voice to that fact? I’ve probably said it before. I’m an anticipatory worrier. I worry constantly about things until they happen and once they happen, I quickly move into response mode. And yet, we as a society have sayings like “Don’t borrow problems” that encourage us to ignore the problem until it’s a reality. That is never who I will be and, for a while at least, I thought it was something I needed to change. Today, I see it differently. I think it’s fine to mourn the loss of potential, to fear what might be. That said, I think the right response is not to try to make the fear not materialize but rather to sit with it and understand what it has to say to you. If what I fear comes to pass, I know I will not mourn it alone. And so, whatever may come, the connections I have will sustain me. As you read this I wonder: * What are you mourning that has not yet come to pass? * Who will mourn it with you if it ever happens? * Can you sit with the why of your mourning and see what it has to show you rather than raging against the dying of the light? I’m a future focused person and so I don’t do a lot of mourning about what has happened in the past. But I do mourn what may come and I’m working to use that as a force for internal change more than external action. As we close this week, can you look forward with confidence, not because everything will work out, but rather because you are loved? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
September 16 · 2 min
One More Step
Can you accept the moments of sadness, the moments alone? Can they be part of the tapestry? Can you believe that they are a piece of the journey and not your destiny? Can you take one more step toward connection and know you are cherished? Solitude is one of those things that I genuinely believe is polarizing. Some people long for it and others fear it. I think most of us have both reactions but which one is top of mind is often a response to where we are in the moment. We long for solitude when we feel surrounded by demands and we fear it when those demands disappear. And so, I truly believe we need to accept and maybe cherish the moments we get to be alone, even when we are saddened by them. Solitude is in some sense our purest state, if we allow it to be so. We can be true to nobody but ourselves. And we should be confident, based on our life’s experience, that we are cherished and connected in ways we don’t fully appreciate. As you read this I wonder: * When was the last time you were sad and alone? Did you use that moment to reflect or to attack yourself? * Do you believe you are connected and at least some of those connections are forever? * If so, can you take the moments of solitude you are given and make them a chance to choose for you what comes next to you? I’ve come to a place where I’m quite comfortable being alone in the moment but I also fear being alone forever. But part of my journey is realizing that the fear recedes under the light of the connections I have and those I am building. Can you find a way to make your alone time neither a respite nor something you fear but rather something you embrace as part of your tapestry? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
September 14 · 1 min
Alone in the Crowd
Can you distinguish surrender from giving up? Can you see the space between letting go and not caring? Can you find the peace without the isolation? Can you be alone in the crowd and surrounded in silence? It’s hard for me to let go of something that I want without making my response negative. Whether that’s giving up on it ever happening or pretending that I no longer care, I can see the attachment to the outcome and feel myself creating a wall that keeps the hurt away. But these days, I’m trying something different. I’m trying to tell myself not now, or not that way, or not this time. I’m trying to hold my conviction that the things that truly matter to me, to my development, to my becoming are in fact going to happen, or at least I’m going to have the opportunity to make them happen. And so, even when I am forced to turn away, it doesn’t have to be forever. I can be alone and held, I can be at peace without being alone. I can find hope in the moment as long as I choose to do so. As you read this, I wonder: * Can you treat your misses or your failures with the nuance you reserve for your victories? * Can you accept the times you are alone and find in them the time to renew your commitment and your faith? * Can you find a way to hold your core even when the world is wildly spinning around you? I firmly believe that we do not choose what happens. We don’t have nearly as much control as we would like to. But I also believe that the things that matter are coming and we always have another chance, another choice. As you begin the week, can you see the choice in front of you and have the conviction to try again? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
September 11 · 1 min
Keep Moving Forward
Can you have faith in your ability to take action? Can you have confidence in your intentions? Can you be certain that you are seen by those who matter? Can you just keep moving ahead? For those of you who are Disney fans, the title of today’s post may be familiar. It’s from the movie Meet the Robinsons. While I will not engage in a movie review, it truly is one of my favorite movies and one that is not as well known as many in the Disney catalog. The idea of continuing to move forward is simply that. That no matter how many times we don’t achieve our objectives, there is an opportunity to move forward and keep trying. And trying is not just putting the effort in, it’s being willing to be seen, both in the highs and in the lows. And it’s knowing that the people who truly love you will help, not by telling you that you succeeded when you didn’t or that it’s OK when it’s not; but instead by telling you to get up and keep moving ahead. As you read this I wonder: * What would you describe as a recent failure? * What was the intention behind your action? Was your action a true reflection of the intention? * Can you keep moving forward to the next incarnation of that intention? People will talk about dusting yourself off and trying again. I think the magic is in what you are trying. If you are trying for an outcome, you may never succeed. But if you are trying for a pure expression of your intention, you almost always do, even when the result is not what you imagined. As we close the week, can you feel the energy in intent more than the judgment in outcome? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
September 9 · 1 min
Through the Windshield
Can you see the opportunity in front of you? Can you know it is there even if you don't know the form it will take? Can you hold on to your belief in what is to come? Can you see all sides of it, the good and the bad, the challenging and the exciting, the joy and the struggle? All of it is in front of you and belongs to you. Can you keep moving? There’s always something in front of us. Sometimes we can see it clearly and sometimes we think we can even if we cannot. We, as humans, are obsessive forecasters, always looking for what is ahead and for what comes next. But, the hard work is believing in the opportunity even when you cannot see it and you cannot name it. I truly believe the universe is always bringing us opportunities. And regardless of how we choose, more choices and more opportunities are coming to us. Not all of those choices will be pleasant. Not every opportunity will be comfortable or easy. But they keep coming. The secret I think is to keep our eyes open and recognize what we are being offered even when we choose not to take it. As you read this I wonder: * What is right in front of you now that you are considering? * How will you decide what choice you will make? * Do you believe that regardless of the choice you make today, more chances, more choices are coming to you tomorrow? We don’t have to do anything to be offered choices. However, we do have to be willing to see what is ahead and choose (or choose not to). Can you be willing to both see what is in front of you and to know that what you see is only a small portion of the choices to come? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
September 7 · 1 min
With hope
Can you hope without grasping? Can you know what you want without needing to have it? Can you let your hopes lift you up rather than tie you down? Can you see that hope should be a positive? Whether your hope arrives or not, the lift that comes with it is leading you to a better place. Hope may be the most important thing we have as humans. It allows us to persevere, to dream, to create, to do all manner of things that require us to struggle and survive. But there’s a downside to hope. There’s the comparison of what we hope for with what we have. Hope keeps us going but, if we are not careful, it can be the flip side of disappointment and of comparing everything to the ideal. Hope should make us more content, not less. It should allow us to accept what is while we pursue what could be. It should be a force for moving toward rather than moving away. For me, it should be but sometimes it is not. Sometimes it is pulling me down a rabbit hole and distracting me from this day with dreams of some day. And then the energy of hope is holding me down rather than lifting me up. As you read this I wonder: * What is the one thing you most hope for today? * Can you accept a future in which that hope is never realized? * Can you imagine it might be better than you even hoped? We should not underestimate the power of hope but we also should not give it power over us and our path. As you start the week, can you use hope to move you toward tomorrow and to recognize the wonder of today? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
September 4 · 1 min
Change Comes, Doesn’t It?
What do you do when the end of the story seems to change? How do you adapt to a new ending, a new path? Will you fight your way back to the path you imagined? Will you accept what you see laid out in front of you? Or can you suspend expectation and walk each path as if it is the path and never feel the change? I’ve told you before that one of my challenges is not becoming overly focused on the end of the story, the end of the path, the final destination. We live a life where, as circumstances change, so do the possibilities in front of us. But some of those possibilities are dear to us and when they disappear or become less likely, there is a loss. The question is how we respond to that loss. Earlier in my life, I responded by fighting my way back, by looking for another way to achieve the same end state. This involved a lot of analysis and effort, typically only to have circumstances change again. And while there genuinely are ends worth fighting for, most of those ends for me are more about who is in my life than how it goes. As you read this I wonder: * How has your story changed in the last day, the last week, the last month? * How committed are you to how it ends? * What can you do to commit to less but fight for the smaller pieces that matter? I’m committed to fighting to keep love alive in my soul through those few people who magnify it for me. I’m committed to holding those people close. But that opens up all kinds of paths and all kinds of ends. As we end the week, can you examine your commitments and be sure they are the ones you want? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
September 2 · 1 min
The Depth of Silence
Can you accept the quiet moments? Can you avoid filling the silence with fear, with hope, with plans? Can you be willing to be, without judgment, without rushing? Can what is be enough without needing to know what's next? One of my very good friends lives a life filled with noise and activity. She is constantly moving from place to place and thing to thing with never a moment for quiet. She longs for the quiet moments. At a different time in life where I live now, the quiet moments are more frequent. And confronting them can be uncomfortable. It’s hard to sit with nothing. There are whole schools of thought on the power of doing this but they are consistent in noting it is challenging. As humans, we abhor a vacuum in our minds. We want to fill it with something, with a plan, with a fear, with what’s next. The restless mind moves. But there is a real power in quieting that motion and in finding a way to sit, even if for a second, with what is, without moving to what will be or could be. As you read this I wonder: * When was the last time you truly sat in silence? * What did it feel like when you were there? How long did it take you to move on? * The next time it comes, can you sit there a little bit longer? Humans are I think restless by their nature. We are creatures, at least while awake, of constant motion. Part of the reason sleep matters is we calm, but can we seek the ability to calm in moments of wakefulness and feel the renewal that comes? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
August 31 · 1 min
A Light in the Gloom
What if the universe intends for you to be a lighthouse, shining brightly but where the ships always pass on and leave you behind? Can you embrace that role or will you dim your light because you prefer another task? Shine on in peace and have hope. I remember writing this intention right around the time I wrote the story Hank and the Lighthouse that you can find here in the archives. And I remember distinctly where my head was, that the light wasn’t appreciated, that it was valued but not loved. And today, when I read this, I feel it differently. While the light can be seen as passive, it’s not. It needs a direction, an intensity, a focus. And each time the light shifts, the world it illuminates or does not shifts as well. So, in a way, the light from the lighthouse is constantly dimming and brightening as it sweeps around. Yes, there is always choice to dim your light permanently or to take it to another place entirely. But I’m no longer sure that we get to choose whether we are a lighthouse, but rather we choose where and how intensely we choose to shine. As you read this I wonder: * For whom are you shining most brightly today? * What joy do you take from the illumination that you provide? * How do you assess what difference you make by shining? We don’t really have a choice as to whether we shine. We do have a choice how we greet ourselves as we do it. As you begin the week, can you shine forth knowing you are making a difference even in the moments when it’s hard to see it? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
August 28 · 1 min
Without Aim
Do you need to know where the path is going to take the next step? Do you need to know the why in order to accept? Can you look at what is, know it is there for a reason, and have faith in what is to come? This reflects the other side of waiting. The side where you aren’t waiting for something but simply waiting. I think we live in this state a lot more than we sometimes believe. Sometimes we won’t move until we are sure where we are going. And that results not in anticipation but in stasis. I don’t claim to know anything about the nature of time, but I do think I’ve learned something about the nature of causality. It’s not linear. I cannot count the hours I’ve spent in plotting out the steps. Imagining what will happen and what I will do and what will happen after and so on. But, as I have the chance to look back, so many things have worked out for me, not because I’ve managed the steps but in spite of that. As you read this I wonder: * Are you moving forward today or are you waiting to decide where to go? * Can you be willing to surrender how you are going to get there without giving up on the outcome? * Can you spend more time understanding what today has to give you than you do plotting what’s next? There’s nothing easy about the path of moving through life, and yet, in each day’s decisions, we have so many choices: whether we act, what we do, what we learn, who we affect. As we close out the week, can you be more willing to be here for this now? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
August 26 · 1 min
Take Today First
Can you avoid giving in to anticipation? Can you be sure of your strength? Can you sit in the discomfort of now even when joy and comfort are on the horizon? Can you seek to learn today’s lessons before tomorrow’s? One of the watch outs for me for the things I want most is when it’s nearly time. I’m pretty good when things are far in the future or when there are major barriers that must be overcome. I can look at those things and wait quietly, maybe not peacefully but quietly. But the closer the outcome comes, the more my patience recedes. When it is just on the horizon, the urge to hurry it up becomes almost impossible to resist. And in that, I think is our greatest risk. We can get out of order or, even worse, fail to learn the lessons available to us along the way. When I fixate on one thing in the future, I tend to ignore the things that are here and now. And those things have joy to bring me, lessons to teach me, and opportunities to make the world sing. As you read this I wonder: * Can you not give what is just out of reach more time and attention than it deserves? * Can you see today’s lessons and opportunities clearly even when tomorrow’s are more interesting? * Can you be sure that tomorrow’s joy is there even if you take time to witness today? It is truly interesting to me how anticipation moves in my soul. The closer something becomes, the harder it is to wait. But waiting is everything. Because without it, we lose today in our focus on tomorrow. Can you simply allow today to be and to teach you before you move on? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
August 24 · 1 min
In Good Time
Can you take stock of this moment? Can it be ok? Can it be enough? Can you recognize that the more you want and believe in is coming to you, but in its way and in its time? Can you wait with peace and acceptance? Patience is a virtue, so it is said. But it’s not a virtue that rests easily with me. I’m capable of stillness, of that soft lack of focus where nothing is vital in the moment. However, once I focus on something, I tend to lose patience. I may not want it now but I want to do something to bring it closer. And the more important it is to me, the more I have the urge to act. But sometimes I think the action is simply my way of distracting me from the fact that the thing I want has not yet arrived. Because most of the time, my actions don’t bring the future to me faster. Most of the time, the future is going to come when it comes. As you read this I wonder: * What is one thing you truly want so much that it cannot get here fast enough? * What is your coping strategy for patience? * How do you find peace in the time between the desire and the fulfillment? As I continue to evolve, I am learning to accept my desire to act. I am coming to believe that acting is perhaps my way of showing patience, my way of finding peace while I wait for what is to come. And, as long as I don’t judge my actions by their impact, they truly can help me wait. As you start this week, can you look at something you truly want and find a way to let it come to you when it is ready? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
August 21 · 2 min
Every Day Matters
When you are simply struggling to keep going, can you realize what your smallest effort can make happen? Can you see what your mere presence can inspire? Can you avoid comparing yourself to your best and simply have faith in what today can be? Can you keep moving forward, knowing that today and every day, you can and will make a difference? We all have those days when we want to stay in bed. And we all have those days when we want to be left to wallow in whatever is holding us back. And yet, cutting ourselves off from the world subtracts from it. And, far too often, we reduce our exposure because we don’t think we’re ready to be “at our best.” But where it is written that the world requires our best? Indeed, how sure can we be that what we perceive as our best is what the universe or any creature in it needs this day? Showing up for me is not about knowing how well I’m going to do, it’s about having a little bit of faith that by being there, I matter, even if I don’t matter as much as I might think I could. As you read this I wonder: * What keeps you going when things get hard? * Can you be less certain that you know what is best? * Can you be more grounded in the faith that the opportunity is available than the concern over how you will meet it? It’s easy to say “not now.” It’s far harder to answer,“then when?” As we close out the week, can you make today “some other time,” the time when you decide to be present, to offer yourself and to act? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
August 19 · 1 min
When It Clicks
Can you hang on to the moment when you feel things click, that moment when you know you are learning, growing, building? Can you remember the feeling of certainty, not of accomplishment but of progress? Can you use that to build your confidence in your path and your willingness to take the next step? There are moments for all of us when we feel we really nailed it. Some of those are actions or accomplishments. Others are simply the day to day moments where we say something that someone needed to hear or we provide a perspective that allows someone to see a path forward for themselves. Those moments are magical. There’s a wonder in the unlock, whether it’s all in your mind or with another. But the power of the unlock is not only what you do but how it is received. The power isn’t only in the key but in how it fits the lock. And when you find that magic, it can sustain you, give you more confidence to try again, and bring you forward from moments where you didn’t even know you were stuck. As you read this I wonder: * When was the last time someone made it click for you? Did you call it out? * What can you do today to bring that opportunity for connection? * Can the successes of the past bring you more confidence to try again? The fear of having something you say with intent land with a thud is real. But failing to say it lands with silence. And there’s more power in the sound, whether it’s a thud or a click. So today, can you be willing to say it, to hear it, and to look for the magic. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
August 17 · 1 min
Taking Stock
Will you take stock today of your progress? Can you relive the truths you told, the fears you resisted, the warmth you created, the love you showed? No you weren't perfect but on those days when you made the world better, admit it to yourself and get ready to do it again tomorrow. Sometimes I find myself always looking ahead and trying to see what is next. There’s obviously value in looking where you are going but, if that’s the only thing we do, we’re likely to miss something important. So much of what changes the world are the small things that are done each and every day. They often pass without remark but they matter or so much. One of the things I’m trying to do a better job of is acknowledging the small things in my day to day. Letting myself feel good for bringing a smile to someone’s face, making them laugh, or helping them see the world in a new way. I don’t want to overstate how much those things matter, but the risk of missing it is far higher. As you read this, I wonder: * What is one small thing you did yesterday that mattered to someone else? * What chances do you have today to change the world, albeit marginally? * How do you make sure that you notice, even when nobody else calls it out? We have more impact on the people around us and indeed the whole world than we know. As you start the week, can you be a little more sure that the small changes add up, and that the sum of all those little things is actually more likely to shape the world than the big things we worry about every day. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
August 14 · 1 min
Starting Anew
Can today be a day of renewal? Can you enhance connection, incorporate learning and make a choice? Can you find it in you to love a little more and question a little less? I love the idea of renewal. It inspired me to think that I always have the choice not to start over, not to start again, but to start anew. It’s like resetting the clock so that minute one is now. My history has been closer to starting over or again than starting anew. The difference is that starting over or starting again is about correction…maybe this time I’ll get it right. Starting anew is different. Starting anew is about building on what is to make way for something new, and hopefully something that brings me more joy, more peace and more love. But to start anew, I have to learn from the past while letting it go, live in the present, while not being bound to it, and move toward the future without committing to one version of it. So starting anew is magical but it’s also work. As you read this I wonder: * Does the distinction between starting anew, starting again, and starting over resonate with you? * Which one is closest to where you are today? * Which part of starting anew is the hardest for you? My life these days has been a long series of starting anew. I think for the first time, I’m probably done with starting over because the goals that bound me once no longer do. That’s liberating and also frightening. As we close out the week, can you have the courage to start anew? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
August 12 · 1 min
Past, Present, and Future
Can you be free of the past, knowing it brought you to this place? Can you be sure of the present, knowing that you are enough? Can you have hope for the future, secure in the intentions of the universe and those who love you most? Another common saying that I use probably too often is “Says easy, does hard.” Or, some things, maybe most things, are harder to do than they are to say. This intention lives in that register for me. It’s probably the shortest and most direct encapsulation of what I hope for myself and for each of you but each question challenges me. I'm going to work them in reverse order because I think that’s how I’m making progress. I’m the furthest along on hope for the future because I have people in my life who anchor me and hold up a mirror when I need it. I believe in them enough to have hope. The other two are much harder. I’m not sure most of us will ever be free of the past nor will we ever fully believe we are enough. But perhaps all that matters is we don’t let the past and the present get in the way of the future. And by that standard, I feel much better. As you read this I wonder * Which of these seems the hardest to you and why? * Have you given yourself credit for making progress against them? * How would you prioritize them in terms of how they matter to you? The past, the present, and the future all have their place. We cannot solely live in one. But we can make ourselves more comfortable in each and, as we do, the transitions between them can become less abrupt and more peaceful. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
August 10 · 1 min
Starting from Hope
Can you judge less the specific choices you have than the fact you have choices? Can you worry less about what you achieved than what you learned? Can you find a place to call home and live in it even when it isn’t perfect? In short, can you start from hope not regret? Humans in general, and I in particular, are creatures of judgment. We are constantly evaluating. All animals I suppose do so, and those who do it well, tend to survive better than those who are oblivious. However, sometimes, we evaluate too much. We forget the many choices we have in favor of assessing whether they are good enough. We sometimes make the perfect the enemy of the good. People say you should run to things and not away from them. But, at least for me, you don’t want to run to things because it locks in the end point. Rather, we need to accept change and proceed from the premise that the path is ours to choose. Not every path of course, the world makes some paths available and we decide others are not for us. But if we start from hope, the choice tends to be less about which path leads to the goal and more about which path gives me choices that are appealing. As you read this I wonder: * Do you fully appreciate the choices you have in front of you? * Can you resist the temptation to compare what you have to what you want? * Can you look ahead and see opportunity, not use the future to try to make up for the past? Many of us are our own harshest critics. As we start the week, can we make a choice, even if it’s the choice to stay where we are. There is hope in every path. There is learning in every path. What more do we need? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com

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